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What are we doing wrong..?
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Hi guys, been on here a while now and have spoken to a few lovely ladies and couples, chatting, flirting etc on here and kik, but nothing seems to have progressed as far as having our fab cherries taken..?
Thoughts..? Suggestions..? Is it our profile or just what we seek seems a little out of our reach..? |
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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago
Bristol Area |
First off - if you don't want messages from single guys, turn your filters on.
2nd, the only thing I can see that you want to do with another woman is for your male be pegged by her. Looks like your female is straight, so wouldn't want contact. What else is in it for the single lady? This isn't just about what you want, but about another person, not just a plaything. Why should she meet you, and not someone else with more experience or more promise of all-round fun?
Finally, I personally find your pictures a bit samey. There's so many of them that could be condensed into just a handful to tell the same story and to make the same "advertising" point. We want to see a bit of personality in pics, but also get an idea of both of your body types etc. How do you think those pics are reacted to by a) single men and b) single women? Think about what you're trying to attract, post accordingly!
Hope this has been helpful. Good luck! |
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Hi guys
You are looking for a lady or ff couple. The only problem with this is almost everyone else on fab is too! Most single ladies who meet couples are bi and want to fuck both of you. This could be an issue as you say you are both straight.
From reading your profile it sounds like you are looking for a domme. There are not that many of them on here so you may do better looking on a fetish website.
I couldn't look at your profile pics. After the first few my eyes went a bit funny trying to figure out which body part you were showing because of the cartoon stars covering most of the images. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally would be put off by the fact Mrs. is you use your word I think 'reluctant' I am yet to play with a couple and turned down meeting one couple I was keen to meet because on cam the female didn't seem that into it. Plus as said above what's in it for the woman that joins you? I'd also agree maybe too many similar photos.
Again I haven't done it but seen quite a few people suggest trying clubs or events as a good starting point too.
Good luck & happy fabbing. |
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It comes across as a tad negative. I know you don't want to meet single men but everyone reads your profile and will read the negativity. Just block men, dead easy.
Too many similar photos. Think about the people you are trying to attract objectively. |
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Find someone you click with and then have a phone call, see if it clicks there and when on the phone arrange to go for a drink. Socials are a good way to see if there is a spark there in the flesh and just because it starts as a social it can progress on from it.
I was nervous as hell before my first meet so go at a pace your both comfortable with and just enjoy it 
Boo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would run for the hills hate single women or couples that seem to think they are something special and better than anyone else.Your profile sounds very rude and very negative. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Saw the rant at the top and didn't read any further 
There is no need for that if your filters are set...
Just makes you look like you haven't a clue how the site works even after all the time you have been here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry if this sounds harsh but your list of "wants" and "no-no" makes it sound like this is profile of a single guy whose wife may, or may not tag along. Pics don't help....confusing array of body parts covered in stickers!
You are seeking what 95% of the site seek....but seem to be offering far less in return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reads as a very selfish profile to be honest, nothing in it for the female you want to join you. It's all about you and him. What you actually want is a free prostitute to do what you ask. |
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What you profile tells me is:
You want 1-2 women to come round and dominate, use toys on/peg the Mr while he pleasures his wife, who's boundaries must be respected ie leave her alone as she is straight.
There is very little to entice a woman to meet you, most would want a bit of sex as well you know.
Sounds like you would be better of looking for a female Dom who has no interest in you having sex with her. There are a few on here, not that many though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As previous posters have said, change your filters so single men cannot contact you.
Too many pictures and lots of the same. I love taking photos but regularly go through and try to delete samey ones. Also, no need for all the stars on the majority of them.
Your profile text does not sound laid back, relaxed or inviting. It has a lot of what we want, rather than what you could offer a single lady. Like it or not, couples and single men are in competition for the attention of single women on here. Also, personally the bit about having a smoke would put me off. Not all women would want to do that.
Hope this is helpful! |
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I'm trying to figure out if you want a female or a robot?
There's nothing to entice anybody apart from a list of demands of what you do and don't want. There's nothing that would entice somebody because there's no mention of any fun she could have.
The pics are repeated and all them cartoon stars are unnecessary.
As for the smoke that just adds to the list of why some wouldn't touch you.
Think about things from a different view ie the single female you want and see if that helps with the profile.
I wish you luck in abundance |
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
Chatham |
Agree with what others have said. Many single women on here are bi and meet couples to play with both partners. One of the biggest obstacles for me when I chat to a couple is ensuring that both partners are equally into it. From your profile it doesn't sound as though Mrs is as engaged with the idea as the male half. Most of your profile seems to be about what 'Mr' wants.
You've included nothing about what you're offering a woman who might meet you. What's in it for her and why should she meet you both rather than just meeting a single guy, if the only interaction she'll get is from the male? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry guys but your profile read is way to long, it's like a short story....
As a single woman there is no appeal for me to meet
When I meet a couple it's for all three of us to play together, you have not mentioned in anyway that your aim is to please the single lady ....
If you look at other couple profiles who like to meet with single ladies, they always make a reference as to how they would love to please the lady
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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago
streatham |
Not abandoning a conversation with a single fem would help *wink wink*..
I do agree though that you are looking for a very specific fantasy to be fulfilled, perhaps a fetish site would serve you better. Otherwise expand a bit more on what could be fun for you as well when inviting a female in.
I have been approached by a few couples who don't want full swap, are ok with the girl-on-girl action but not Mr fucking me. As if girl-on-girl sex is not 'real sex' swap.. I don't like that attitude because it trivialises bi female sex in my opinion, like penetration is the only "proper" action.
If I'm not getting a shag out of it as well, not really worth it for me..
I enjoy couples who are enjoying each other and me, no focus on one party more than the other!
And yes, less photos less stars  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have read and can only figure out what the male wants ??
No or not much mention of what your mrs ? Would like or what you have to offer those who you'd be meeting ?
Might just have been me though ? |
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Thanks for all the comments and feedback.
Firstly the pictures, we'll amend the similar looking ones, but hopefully some of you will realise the need to hide certain distinguishing items to protect our privacy.
As far as our profile, we don't mind chatting with men but the frenzy of 'do you wanna fuck me now' messages is rather annoying and shows that not many actually read the wording. Again, we'll amend.
The desire to meet a single lady is just that, a desire, we appreciate that not every woman would enjoy this but this is by no means the sole thing we're searching for, having never met anyone like this, Mrs has a few uncertainties as she isn't the most confident altho hoping this will bring her out of her shell, hence her being in control and needing or wanting her boundaries respected.
Again, I'd like to thank you all, especially those we've spoken to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi as you've hidden profile I can't comment but believe getting more to the point of what u want and what your offering in return and some arty pics of u both is a good jumping off point lots of couples tend to concentrate on the female when it comes to pics with odd prick pic thrown in and at the end of the day if you play as a couple your profile should reflect that in all aspects |
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