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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it possible to be a single swinger? I've been looking for a fella who wants to swing and also have a real relationship which includes having a child/children along the way........this is as hard to find as rocking horse shit!
Half the time I think I want a relationship where we swing together and half the time I don't as I'm having lots of fun in my own and relationships usually just brings jealousy and strife.
Very tempted to use other avenues to have a child and just carry on as a single swinger, joining couples and attending clubs. Decisions, decisions  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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cuckold could be another option, if you want a relationship?
and of course there'd be guys on here willing to try for a kid with you, seen other women advertising on their profile that they want the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I spent 30 years and 2 failed relationships finding a woman who would love me, and swing. Found her now. Keep looking and I'm sure you will find what you really want. |
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If you haven't met the right guy who ticks both your vanilla life box as well as accepting your desire for extra men through swinging ( impossible aspiration) , then your best bet is to go to a sperm bank once you hit 30 and the biological clock starts ticking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've come across a few couples who would fit your description of swinging that you described here. Usually they do it together but whenever work gets in the way either one of them gets to "play out" as it'd be described.
Takes a ton of trust and investment in the relationship though, don't get me wrong. There is precious little room to get it right, and way too much room to get it wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you haven't met the right guy who ticks both your vanilla life box as well as accepting your desire for extra men through swinging ( impossible aspiration) , then your best bet is to go to a sperm bank once you hit 30 and the biological clock starts ticking. "
I disagree with this. Getting a sperm donor from a sperm bank to have a child is alright if your other half is infertile. But to just do that because you want to have a child without fatherhood to accompany it and then still be swinging outside with multiple men? I think many swingers would draw a line even there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is better to be a single swinger in my opinion and even if you are in a relationship you can still swing single. "
Single swinger my arse.
I want to be a swinger in a relationship, anything else is simply dirty fuckery  . |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"Is it possible to be a single swinger? I've been looking for a fella who wants to swing and also have a real relationship which includes having a child/children along the way........this is as hard to find as rocking horse shit!
Half the time I think I want a relationship where we swing together and half the time I don't as I'm having lots of fun in my own and relationships usually just brings jealousy and strife.
Very tempted to use other avenues to have a child and just carry on as a single swinger, joining couples and attending clubs. Decisions, decisions "
Soory but having a child/children is totally different than swinging.
You may find a partner her who is happy to form a relationship with you but only then should you seriously consider raising a child/children together.
Most single men run a mile at the suggestion their girlfriend wants a child, let alon a single swinger.
Take one step at a time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm surprised nobody has pointed out that as a single parent, your opportunities to go to clubs, socials or even meet up can become severely limited.. not to mention spending half of your life exhausted and possibly losing self esteem through body changes
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"Is it possible to be a single swinger? I've been looking for a fella who wants to swing and also have a real relationship which includes having a child/children along the way........this is as hard to find as rocking horse shit!
Half the time I think I want a relationship where we swing together and half the time I don't as I'm having lots of fun in my own and relationships usually just brings jealousy and strife.
Very tempted to use other avenues to have a child and just carry on as a single swinger, joining couples and attending clubs. Decisions, decisions "
If you just want a guy to partner up to swing with, here is a pretty good place to start. Anything more serious than that needs to be allowed to evolve in it's own time, just like vanilla relationships do. Have your fun with whoever you want and if it's meant to develop into something, it will do. You have the advantage over dating in the vanilla world, in that you can have several potential "boyfriends" on the go without the jealousy or secrecy and see which one, if any pan out. And if one does, you're still allowed to carry on fucking the others.
As for your question about being a single swinger, or "swingle", I consider myself a swingle, rather than just a guy who shags around a lot, because I'm not just looking for 1 on 1 sex with girls. I want to be a part of the club scene, I want to watch and be watched, I want to be involved in group sex and I want to be part of the social interaction within whatever club I'm at. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience and luck 
Try being a transsexual looking for a female girlfriend. Even harder odds lol
Last 3 couples I met on fab both met from fab. So OP I think it is very possible fir sure just your going to have brush aside the shit first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We know a few couples who met throw swinging and are now swinging together, and are very happy so keep looking and good luck  "
Yup this is us 
Good luck. Xx |
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"Is it possible to be a single swinger? I've been looking for a fella who wants to swing and also have a real relationship which includes having a child/children along the way........this is as hard to find as rocking horse shit!
Half the time I think I want a relationship where we swing together and half the time I don't as I'm having lots of fun in my own and relationships usually just brings jealousy and strife.
Very tempted to use other avenues to have a child and just carry on as a single swinger, joining couples and attending clubs. Decisions, decisions "
It's possible... You can also go the poly route maybe... But I'd say find two favourite clubs and attend regularly... One of them being a naturist type spa sort of thing... Get known... Make loads of friends... You will deffo meet a partner... Aim for two clubs per month minimum. Also one date per week from Fabs, or Cupid.
Also get input on your profile so you're giving the right message to the right audience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's awkward. I have been told I am not 'girlfriend material' because I have been a single swinger and admitted to it. These days so many young people sleep around. I didnt. Married young. First discovered swinging in my 40s. I would love to find a partner who would accept that and also be willing to live out joint fantasies with me. |
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its hard when your a tad unsure what you want,, im not wanting kids but think id like to fond someone too to have a realtionship with who i can swing with too both together and seperately you wont know till you try xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a single swinger and I met my amazing boyfriend on here, and now we swing together, but we have both said at some point we will leave swinging and go back to a vanilla life. But at the moment we like being our lifestyle, We have spoken about kids (too late for us cos of our ages) and marriage so yes it is possible to find the love of your life on fab, it's just funny when people ask how we met lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was a single girl and I simply got my sexual kicks by attending events and at the time I had two guys I saw just for sex. It was very fun for a while but then I needed hugs and someone there. So now I am in a great position where my boyfriend lets me swing without any problems. He came along when I wasn't expecting at a party (not swinger!)
I guess what I am saying OP, it comes along when you are ready. Meanwhile why not have some fun?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i was a single swinger, i knew that i could never settle for a vanilla relationship, and like the OP finding a partners was impossible.
Instead i spent a number of years on the dating scene, but being honest about my past. Eventually i met someone i really liked in the vanilla world, who accepted my past and was curios to try it, 5 years on still very happy!
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"I was a single girl and I simply got my sexual kicks by attending events and at the time I had two guys I saw just for sex. It was very fun for a while but then I needed hugs and someone there. So now I am in a great position where my boyfriend lets me swing without any problems. He came along when I wasn't expecting at a party (not swinger!)
I guess what I am saying OP, it comes along when you are ready. Meanwhile why not have some fun?
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Good advice...thank you From a single 52 year old woman... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some guys on here who'd be up for what you're after. But sadly there are lots who wouldn't get together with a swinger because they don't like the idea of a gf having played with multiple men. Wats God for the goose is good for the gander.
Love is possible on here myself and Lou got married 5 weeks ago and have a child. Just let relationships blossom, don't push it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been actively seeking a partner in some form or another on fab for the past 3 yrs.
It appears to be impossible because it's the same dynamics like any other relationship that pull you together. No one likes me enough and I don't like anyone enough.
Oh well! Having lots of fun on my own  |
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Yeah I believe a lot of guys will like the idea of a girlfriend they can swing with.
If people are already a couple and they start swinging that would work , hopefully the ladies will allow the guys to meet other girls freely, fingers crossed.
I observe situations closely whenever am in the club, I noticed in the majority of couples, I see the ladies playing with several guys but I don't see their husbands playing with other ladies, why is this so and what is really happening, could the ladies please explain?
It really worries me , how could I be in an environment with so many beautiful ladies and I won't even be able to talk to them however the Mrs is playing with so many guys , ladies please help me out and explain why this occurs in most couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I believe a lot of guys will like the idea of a girlfriend they can swing with.
If people are already a couple and they start swinging that would work , hopefully the ladies will allow the guys to meet other girls freely, fingers crossed.
I observe situations closely whenever am in the club, I noticed in the majority of couples, I see the ladies playing with several guys but I don't see their husbands playing with other ladies, why is this so and what is really happening, could the ladies please explain?
It really worries me , how could I be in an environment with so many beautiful ladies and I won't even be able to talk to them however the Mrs is playing with so many guys , ladies please help me out and explain why this occurs in most couples."
Could be a hotwife or cuckold situation.
She could be jealous of him with other women ( yes I know  )
He may just prefer it.
He maybe ugly.
Sure there could be other reasons... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I believe a lot of guys will like the idea of a girlfriend they can swing with.
If people are already a couple and they start swinging that would work , hopefully the ladies will allow the guys to meet other girls freely, fingers crossed.
I observe situations closely whenever am in the club, I noticed in the majority of couples, I see the ladies playing with several guys but I don't see their husbands playing with other ladies, why is this so and what is really happening, could the ladies please explain?
It really worries me , how could I be in an environment with so many beautiful ladies and I won't even be able to talk to them however the Mrs is playing with so many guys , ladies please help me out and explain why this occurs in most couples."
It is the reverse with us
In clubs, we do play with couples but finding that 4-way attraction is difficult so we sometimes end up in a 3-some with a single woman
His sex-drive is definitely higher than mine and he is welcome to play with a single woman or couple by himself. However, that doesn't happen often as then he is viewed as a single man and there are tons of other single men in clubs too, so tough competition for him
Sometimes I play with a single man but we have to make certain that he is really heterosexual as we have had problems before
And I have no desire to play with a single man just on my own although he encourages me as he feels that I am missing out; I am not
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"Yeah I believe a lot of guys will like the idea of a girlfriend they can swing with.
If people are already a couple and they start swinging that would work , hopefully the ladies will allow the guys to meet other girls freely, fingers crossed.
I observe situations closely whenever am in the club, I noticed in the majority of couples, I see the ladies playing with several guys but I don't see their husbands playing with other ladies, why is this so and what is really happening, could the ladies please explain?
It really worries me , how could I be in an environment with so many beautiful ladies and I won't even be able to talk to them however the Mrs is playing with so many guys , ladies please help me out and explain why this occurs in most couples.
Could be a hotwife or cuckold situation.
She could be jealous of him with other women ( yes I know )
He may just prefer it.
He maybe ugly.
Sure there could be other reasons..."
Thanks, I accept the cuckold and Hotwife situation, I don't agree the guys are ugly, I accept some guys might prefer it but how could the ladies be jealous of their man with another woman yet fuck as many guys as they please in his front, is this fair ladies?
This is why I don't want that family setup yet, this dynamic worries me a lot and the ladies I meet are just too sweet to forget.
I would appreciate more explanations from the ladies clarifying what is going on.
I noticed the husbands of these ladies fuck very well because I watch them fuck but he will not even speak to other ladies in the club, I thought swinging brought sexual freedom to all parties involved. Ladies please explain |
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"Yeah I believe a lot of guys will like the idea of a girlfriend they can swing with.
If people are already a couple and they start swinging that would work , hopefully the ladies will allow the guys to meet other girls freely, fingers crossed.
I observe situations closely whenever am in the club, I noticed in the majority of couples, I see the ladies playing with several guys but I don't see their husbands playing with other ladies, why is this so and what is really happening, could the ladies please explain?
It really worries me , how could I be in an environment with so many beautiful ladies and I won't even be able to talk to them however the Mrs is playing with so many guys , ladies please help me out and explain why this occurs in most couples.
It is the reverse with us
In clubs, we do play with couples but finding that 4-way attraction is difficult so we sometimes end up in a 3-some with a single woman
His sex-drive is definitely higher than mine and he is welcome to play with a single woman or couple by himself. However, that doesn't happen often as then he is viewed as a single man and there are tons of other single men in clubs too, so tough competition for him
Sometimes I play with a single man but we have to make certain that he is really heterosexual as we have had problems before
And I have no desire to play with a single man just on my own although he encourages me as he feels that I am missing out; I am not
- Mrs. J -"
Thanks Mrs J for that explanation, you know you are a darling and the most beautiful woman in my world xx wish we could have make up sex but the distance is tough to overcome, lots of love to you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've found it really difficult hence why I have been single for so long. Most men seem to like the idea of it however change their minds or it's the classic "I don't mind doing it with you and another girl but not another man". I'm starting to think if it's possible however there are plenty of lovely couples on here that are doing it and that gives me hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found it really difficult hence why I have been single for so long. Most men seem to like the idea of it however change their minds or it's the classic "I don't mind doing it with you and another girl but not another man". I'm starting to think if it's possible however there are plenty of lovely couples on here that are doing it and that gives me hope "
Meet me I'm just what you need |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Patience and luck
Try being a transsexual looking for a female girlfriend. Even harder odds lol
Last 3 couples I met on fab both met from fab. So OP I think it is very possible fir sure just your going to have brush aside the shit first "
I think you are sexy as hell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to be a single swinger? I've been looking for a fella who wants to swing and also have a real relationship which includes having a child/children along the way........this is as hard to find as rocking horse shit!
Half the time I think I want a relationship where we swing together and half the time I don't as I'm having lots of fun in my own and relationships usually just brings jealousy and strife.
Very tempted to use other avenues to have a child and just carry on as a single swinger, joining couples and attending clubs. Decisions, decisions "
yes why not |
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