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over a year ago
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Hi we're new to swinging, we go to a club on a weekly basis makeing friends but it's not going anywhere, me the wife gets lots of interest but seems the couple doesn't want to play with the hubby, just me on my own with them, as we're new and still finding my feet this makes me not want to play, we end up playing on our own in the couples area or in the fet room,
Any advice would be appropriated
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's difficult to get the dynamics of all four people in the mix right. To get all the relevant parties fancying each other is tough if you want to avoid the scenario of one person 'taking one for the team' |
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It is hard guys. We've stopped swinging as a couple because even though the ladies liked me, my partner wasn't too keen on the other couple's guys, with rare exception.
It's just easier for us to go our separate ways on fab.
There are a LOT of bi-females in couples who only want to get close to the lady and aren't prepared to do the bloke as a pay-off. Hardly swinging but there you go. |
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Getting a situation where all four like each other isn't always easy. But if you are a similar attractiveness couple, it shouldn't be that hard.
I find it strange that people have even mentioned you playing with them as a single, that seems rude. If we didn't like one half of a couple, we would just say we weren't for them. Saying they'll play with one but not he other seems very odd. |
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We only play together and while we do our best to make sure that we are both happy with the other couple, and they are happy with both of us it doesn't always go that way once you start playing and we have ended up where one or the other sits back and doesn't want to play. When we first started swinging this was a problem as we were unsure how to get out of it. Now we will just say and if necessary stop the play . |
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There are some couples who are after bi fem fun only.
But your situation does not seem to be that experience as they are both wanting to play with you.
It sounds a little bit like they are taking advantage of you because you are new.
We've met couples who are great but had to walk away as we were not compatible. Every couple has a different dynamic, we have done full swap, soft swap, just the ladies having fun and even the Mrs going off by herself. But it was always on the understanding that we both wanted to be in that situation.
If couples are asking to play with just the female and the male is not happy for that dynamic, then out of love and respect you just have to walk away as incompatible with that couple. |
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