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Making a young man's profile more appealing to older women
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi All, grateful for helpful advice and feedback.
I am struggling to gain interest from older women (please don't get offended) it sounds better than milf, mature or cougar. Around 30-50's
I don't use this site day in day out but regularly come on to scroll hot lists winks and top pictures (most are stunning).
I am aware there are a lot of people on here with children my age etc. But I would like to find people who aren't bothered by that or don't have that trouble.
Had some interest from bi couples but haven't explored my bi side properly and I am not comfortable with the partner being so heavily involved hence why I only really want to meet singles.
All advice welcome.
Thanks in advance.
H
Please let me know how I could make my profile more attractive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?"
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am attracted to people around my age too, however the whole point of me joining fab is that I struggle to find women who are interested in younger guys when out in town etc.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them. "
Ah yes....well spotted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am attracted to people around my age too, however the whole point of me joining fab is that I struggle to find women who are interested in younger guys when out in town etc. "
I don't particular want to see a potential meet balls deep in some past meet. That's me though. Don't ask how to make it appealing to older women if you don't appreciate the answer.
Also, if you can't get your age correct across your profile, then that wouldn't wash with me either. Just saying! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them. "
So was yours till you hid it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.
So was yours till you hid it! "
lol DON't start on me WW. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.
So was yours till you hid it! "
Oh really! It's all coming out now.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not too sure, you look amazing in your pics though! Can't be them putting anyone off"
Cheers. I would say the same but sure greystone will have an immature comment for that one  too much of an alpha to complement fellow fabbers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In your wording you say 19, guessing you have turned 20 since you wrote it but would updating it. Couple of typos as well. I think the photo of you fucking a younger woman might be off putting, maybe make that a friends only or private pic? Happy fabbing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment 
He's ignored all advice from older women!"
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private "
Meatball? Where? Damn now I'm hungry! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In your wording you say 19, guessing you have turned 20 since you wrote it but would updating it. Couple of typos as well. I think the photo of you fucking a younger woman might be off putting, maybe make that a friends only or private pic? Happy fabbing. "
Great thanks, will change that now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private "
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone. "
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal."
Learn from the master kid. |
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"Hi All, grateful for helpful advice and feedback.
I am struggling to gain interest from older women (please don't get offended) it sounds better than milf, mature or cougar. Around 30-50's
I don't use this site day in day out but regularly come on to scroll hot lists winks and top pictures (most are stunning).
I am aware there are a lot of people on here with children my age etc. But I would like to find people who aren't bothered by that or don't have that trouble.
Had some interest from bi couples but haven't explored my bi side properly and I am not comfortable with the partner being so heavily involved hence why I only really want to meet singles.
All advice welcome.
Thanks in advance.
H
Please let me know how I could make my profile more attractive.
"
I found the following helped me a lot:
* going to a club,
* stopped waxing my chest,
* no more protein shakes,
* photos of only me, no past partners,
* being honest about what you want.
All helped switch things around and did the trick for me.
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid. "
Us old women love that hijacking shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi All, grateful for helpful advice and feedback.
I am struggling to gain interest from older women (please don't get offended) it sounds better than milf, mature or cougar. Around 30-50's
I don't use this site day in day out but regularly come on to scroll hot lists winks and top pictures (most are stunning).
I am aware there are a lot of people on here with children my age etc. But I would like to find people who aren't bothered by that or don't have that trouble.
Had some interest from bi couples but haven't explored my bi side properly and I am not comfortable with the partner being so heavily involved hence why I only really want to meet singles.
All advice welcome.
Thanks in advance.
H
Please let me know how I could make my profile more attractive.
I found the following helped me a lot:
* going to a club,
* stopped waxing my chest,
* no more protein shakes,
* photos of only me, no past partners,
* being honest about what you want.
All helped switch things around and did the trick for me.
"
Listen to this guy!!!
Especially about the being honest part!!
(Personally I love a hairy chest so just enjoyed perving at your photos (sorry, not sorry!)  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal."
Do not take advice from him, he's a whole lot of crazy and a whole lot of handsome all in one package. I can't even handle him and I'm one flew over the cuckoos nest insane! |
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit "
This quote is right out of Misery  |
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit
This quote is right out of Misery "
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Do not take advice from him, he's a whole lot of crazy and a whole lot of handsome all in one package. I can't even handle him and I'm one flew over the cuckoos nest insane! "
Love that film, the ending makes me cry  |
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Do not take advice from him, he's a whole lot of crazy and a whole lot of handsome all in one package. I can't even handle him and I'm one flew over the cuckoos nest insane! "
Speaking about Misery, up pops Annie Wilkes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit
This quote is right out of Misery "
Have you seen my username? She's my idol |
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"Hi All, grateful for helpful advice and feedback.
I am struggling to gain interest from older women (please don't get offended) it sounds better than milf, mature or cougar. Around 30-50's
I don't use this site day in day out but regularly come on to scroll hot lists winks and top pictures (most are stunning).
I am aware there are a lot of people on here with children my age etc. But I would like to find people who aren't bothered by that or don't have that trouble.
Had some interest from bi couples but haven't explored my bi side properly and I am not comfortable with the partner being so heavily involved hence why I only really want to meet singles.
All advice welcome.
Thanks in advance.
H
Please let me know how I could make my profile more attractive.
I found the following helped me a lot:
* going to a club,
* stopped waxing my chest,
* no more protein shakes,
* photos of only me, no past partners,
* being honest about what you want.
All helped switch things around and did the trick for me.
Listen to this guy!!!
Especially about the being honest part!!
(Personally I love a hairy chest so just enjoyed perving at your photos (sorry, not sorry!) )"
Oh I don't mind that at all, nice to see people enjoying me digitally |
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit
This quote is right out of Misery
Have you seen my username? She's my idol "
I did, got my comment in right before you . Spooky huh x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit
This quote is right out of Misery
Have you seen my username? She's my idol "
I call you other things in private and you like them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know you're using it in a relative way but I'm in my 30s and being described as an older woman still stings. Are you really bothered by age or are you actually looking for experience?
Your profile is contradictory, you're either a teenager or 20, and the thing about your well paid job and washing a lot comes across more as a sneer at other young guys on the site. I don't equate any of the things you list with maturity and as you acknowledge yourself often people won't meet guys your age because of their kids' ages. Therefore none of that will change their mind. Maybe less of what you want and more of what you have to offer a woman or couple? |
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment
He's ignored all advice from older women!
Nope I agree with the meatball comment I will make that private
LOL to late now kid we all know and you're not fooling anyone.
I like the tactic of hijacking a forum post to make connections pal.
Learn from the master kid.
Us old women love that hijacking shit
This quote is right out of Misery
Have you seen my username? She's my idol
I call you other things in private and you like them. "
No one likes a show off, even if might be true in your mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know you're using it in a relative way but I'm in my 30s and being described as an older woman still stings. Are you really bothered by age or are you actually looking for experience?
Your profile is contradictory, you're either a teenager or 20, and the thing about your well paid job and washing a lot comes across more as a sneer at other young guys on the site. I don't equate any of the things you list with maturity and as you acknowledge yourself often people won't meet guys your age because of their kids' ages. Therefore none of that will change their mind. Maybe less of what you want and more of what you have to offer a woman or couple?"
Or just save time and come out nobody cares about that it's 2017. |
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"Don't refer to women who are 30 as older women... "
Well I suppose that all depends if the person actually wants to meet ladies older than him. If he doesn't then the older woman reference will remain.
Personally, I play with 'women' or 'couples' who want to play with me. #Simples as some Meerkats would say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking for a women who is ... than myself please fill the gap with something other than older?  "
I already asked, are you genuinely only interested in women 30-50 or are you really looking for women with more experience, particularly within the scene? If it's the latter no need to mention age at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looking for a women who is ... than myself please fill the gap with something other than older?
I already asked, are you genuinely only interested in women 30-50 or are you really looking for women with more experience, particularly within the scene? If it's the latter no need to mention age at all. "
Sorry, yes it's more the age that does it for me. Having experiences with people in my age bracket is fun but I need to explore that area more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know you're using it in a relative way but I'm in my 30s and being described as an older woman still stings. Are you really bothered by age or are you actually looking for experience?
Your profile is contradictory, you're either a teenager or 20, and the thing about your well paid job and washing a lot comes across more as a sneer at other young guys on the site. I don't equate any of the things you list with maturity and as you acknowledge yourself often people won't meet guys your age because of their kids' ages. Therefore none of that will change their mind. Maybe less of what you want and more of what you have to offer a woman or couple?"
Haha yes the stuff about jobs and washing is pretty condescending and to be honest pretty basic. Rewrite the facts without the sarcasm, it is not called for or useful in this setting.
The final line of the profile is very unfortunate also! "feel free to message me and I can provide more pictures and more about what I want" - interested at all on what they want?
Take out the sentence about wanting to hear from couples if you won't consider couples.
FWIW I am OK being called older or even old. I do age differences both ways so I get called younger/young by people older than me, sorts out a perspective |
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"We would suggest you drop the second paragraph of your profile for a start.
However possibly your biggest obstacle is the fact you cannot accommodate and that is one you possibly cannot change
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Great suggestion.
We actually thought that the second paragraph gave the appearance of a young guy who wants to be seen as mature, rather than a mature guy.
Just our opinion, but suggestions are what have been asked for. |
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"This is epic car crash now.
* slowing down to gawp as i pass by"
I haven't read all the replies,but I wish you well in finding someone.
My one tip,never mock someone else it makes you come across a bit of a dick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going back to your original post OP, I get the impression that you are totally reliant on your profile attracting attention rather than you taking the more pro-active approach of actually doing searches and initiating contact with the sorts of people you're looking for, which would explain why you have had the sort of interest you have had thus far.
No doubt, if you've read any of the many forum threads on 'why can't I get a meet' etc, you will have picked up on the fact that single males massively outnumber single ladies and couples on fab.
Many couples and single ladies are inundated with messages as it is and many don't really have the time, or let's face it, the need, to go searching for potential meets themselves.
Look at it this way. If you logged in to find 100 messages in your inbox all from people wanting to meet you, would you be thinking 'you know what, i'll ignore all those who've made the effort to contact me and instead i'll go looking for someone who can't be bothered'
As you may have picked up on, your age is also going to be a factor for some.
Whilst I appreciate what you're looking for, you have to consider that for something to happen, you have to fall into the criteria that someone else is also looking for.
It's no good you trying to appeal to people who feel really uncomfortable about playing with people younger than their children. It's never going to happen.
Your best bet is to do your own searching. The search facility, by default (though you can de-select it), will also filter out any members whose age requirements you do not meet.
Personally, I think that how your initial post is worded leads to the conclusion that, like a lot of single males, your expectations of fab were, and perhaps still are, not quite realistic and that perhaps you were of the impression that all you would have to do would be to create a profile and wait for the offers to come rolling in. |
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I am kinda in your situation mate. Even though I have had a meet, it is difficult to get one in the first place. Best thing to do is to keep on doing what your doing and dont be rude. The only thing I would say is that dont think you will find someone. They will find you |
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"To make things clear when I say 'older' I mean of an older age than me. Doesn't mean to say that the person is 'old' physically"
I accept being an older 'sex kitten'* on here and don't take offence being called 'older'
Age doesn't make a person more experienced though.
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"I'm probably the oldest woman on the thread so far and he's ignored my comment "
Let me try...
The difference between 30 and 50 is vast.
Try just seeing all women as women not categories depending on their age. Personally, being found attractive just because of how many years I've been on the planet is awful.
Some women will be attracted to you despite your age. |
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over a year ago
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"To make things clear when I say 'older' I mean of an older age than me. Doesn't mean to say that the person is 'old' physically
I accept being an older 'sex kitten'* on here and don't take offence being called 'older'
Age doesn't make a person more experienced though.
* said jokingly"
Haha .. sexy feline ... That chooses her moments to pounce maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not entirely sure why age is more important to you, as PP said it doesn't necessarily equate to experience, but if that's what you want why not just say you like women in their 30s and 40s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.
Ah yes....well spotted.
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how do u see someone's friends list do u need to be a gold member |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.
Ah yes....well spotted.
how do u see someone's friends list do u need to be a gold member "
you can only see it if they haven't hidden it |
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"Looking for a women who is ... than myself please fill the gap with something other than older? "
Looking to meet a lady in their 30s, 40s or 50s
But if your after experience don't be disillusioned to think all women of those age brackets have a lot because there is always exceptions |
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"Why do you have a young girl on your profile if you're after older women?
It might not be a woman though could be a man dressed as one .
His friends list is full of them.
Ah yes....well spotted.
how do u see someone's friends list do u need to be a gold member "
You need to use the desktop version of the site, not mobile, and the. You can only see it if it's not been set to be hidden |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for the useful feedback. Those who have made genuine suggestions I have listened and agree with trying to act mature and should change this. Also thanks for views on age. As I say not after experience it's a fantasy of an 'woman of older age'
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"Thanks all for the useful feedback. Those who have made genuine suggestions I have listened and agree with trying to act mature and should change this. Also thanks for views on age. As I say not after experience it's a fantasy of an 'woman of older age'
H"
Saying it's that fantasy of it probably won't help your case either most women don't like to fell fetishised or just a tick mark on a bucket list |
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