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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
I've loved swinging as a couple in the past and as a single guy but I'm at an age now where I'm starting to feel I'm ready to settle down
I'm not having much luck finding someone who swings who I also feel is ideal for a relationship
So do I delete fab and concentrate on finding someone vanilla
If I do I think I'd miss this lifestyle too much
Do I just need to be more patient etc |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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can you be vanilla or not? if you could then there's no harm in leaving.
doesn't sound like you could though.
finding a relationship is gonna be hard no matter what, might as well stay here and wait. or do both? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why delete your profile?
try hiding it for a month or so and see if you can find someone in vanilla land..
if you cant, at least you have fab to fall back on and you wont have to ask people to verify you all over again  |
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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
"why delete your profile?
try hiding it for a month or so and see if you can find someone in vanilla land..
if you cant, at least you have fab to fall back on and you wont have to ask people to verify you all over again "
I think I might do this and give myself a break |
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"If you're single no reason why you can't do both 
I've tried I really have I think I'm just worrying too much about being on my own lately
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That's not helping, the key to attracting a good mate is being happy with your life as it is to begin with  |
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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
"If you're single no reason why you can't do both
I've tried I really have I think I'm just worrying too much about being on my own lately
That's not helping, the key to attracting a good mate is being happy with your life as it is to begin with "
Wise words thankyou x |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"I've loved swinging as a couple in the past and as a single guy but I'm at an age now where I'm starting to feel I'm ready to settle down
I'm not having much luck finding someone who swings who I also feel is ideal for a relationship
So do I delete fab and concentrate on finding someone vanilla
If I do I think I'd miss this lifestyle too much
Do I just need to be more patient etc "
I've just come back from a weekend away with someone who I met through swinging. Did the lot, swinging clubs, meals, cinema, chilling on the sofa while playing on our tablets. I even helped her put pictures up around the flat and changed a light bulb. You should see the selfies we took together before I left.
Scary stuff though...  |
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A strategy with a higher probability of success is to date a girl you meet through conventional means and ask her if she would consider an ethically non-monogamous relationship. You'll probably find 1/6 will try it and about 1/3 who try it will like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the same situation vanilla dating is not for me but, obvisouly, fab is very sex focused. Wish there was a decent swingers dating site or fab could have an option for dating!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you'd be surprised what happens when you're not looking..(she says with a self satisfied grin!)..but it can take a while..and, personally, i hate the 'vanilla' term..i dont assume that because someone isnt on here, they have a boring sex life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you'd be surprised what happens when you're not looking..(she says with a self satisfied grin!)..but it can take a while..and, personally, i hate the 'vanilla' term..i dont assume that because someone isnt on here, they have a boring sex life!"
 well said before I found swinging I had a fun sex life with my husband but having more fun since we divorced xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have this profile and profiles on vanilla dating sites and find most guys on both.....always getting comments on vanilla sites saying they had seen me on fabs lol
Guess just need to wait till the right girl comes along regardless of site xx |
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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
"I'm in the same situation vanilla dating is not for me but, obvisouly, fab is very sex focused. Wish there was a decent swingers dating site or fab could have an option for dating!! X"
I think this is an amazing idea and that idea should be available but I think it would need a pay site for it as guys wouldn't take it seriously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have this profile and profiles on vanilla dating sites and find most guys on both.....always getting comments on vanilla sites saying they had seen me on fabs lol
Guess just need to wait till the right girl comes along regardless of site xx"
I no I've seen it haha you come up as people in my area  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in the same situation vanilla dating is not for me but, obvisouly, fab is very sex focused. Wish there was a decent swingers dating site or fab could have an option for dating!! X
I think this is an amazing idea and that idea should be available but I think it would need a pay site for it as guys wouldn't take it seriously "
I've always wished there was an option for dating within the swing scene. Or to be more specific, that dating wasn't considered 'wrong' within this lifestyle. But our interests lie more within Hotwife dating. As a married woman who likes to have lovers, and my husband likes to be included, I can hardly go to a vanilla site. But I still want to be treated as I would be treated if I were a single woman on a dating site, except with the NSA non-exclusive element. But on a sex/swinging site, suggesting going for a glass of wine before sex goes down like a lead balloon for many men who just want sex. It would be nice to have a portion of this site that attracts the men who enjoy merging swinging with dating. Because they are there. Likewise it would be nice to find women who will enjoy dating a married man with my consent.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly the same situation as me. Want a companion, naughty exciting sex and the option to go to parties and play with others if that suits both parties. Not to be into anything too serious i.e living together is not for me but a deep understanding and trust.
I live in hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A strategy with a higher probability of success is to date a girl you meet through conventional means and ask her if she would consider an ethically non-monogamous relationship. You'll probably find 1/6 will try it and about 1/3 who try it will like it. "
Wow where do you get these stats from? lol
I tried dating and I dont think any of my dates would have shared me based on the conversation we had so that really wont work for me which is why I stay on fabs.. more likely to meet someone who is looking for the same. |
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"Ideally I'd date but then I'm conscious of the yeah I'm bi, yeah I like guys who dress, yeah I'd like to see you fuck with other people conversation... Not first date material is it."
We had that conversation/s...you may be surprised |
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"Ideally I'd date but then I'm conscious of the yeah I'm bi, yeah I like guys who dress, yeah I'd like to see you fuck with other people conversation... Not first date material is it.
We had that conversation/s...you may be surprised "
Oh, well it just goes to show how much of a coward I am then lol. You're lucky to have met each other x |
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"A strategy with a higher probability of success is to date a girl you meet through conventional means and ask her if she would consider an ethically non-monogamous relationship. You'll probably find 1/6 will try it and about 1/3 who try it will like it.
Wow where do you get these stats from? lol
I tried dating and I dont think any of my dates would have shared me based on the conversation we had so that really wont work for me which is why I stay on fabs.. more likely to meet someone who is looking for the same."
Just my own personal experience of pursuing that strategy |
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By *pice of life 79 OP Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
"I'm in the same situation vanilla dating is not for me but, obvisouly, fab is very sex focused. Wish there was a decent swingers dating site or fab could have an option for dating!! X
I think this is an amazing idea and that idea should be available but I think it would need a pay site for it as guys wouldn't take it seriously
I've always wished there was an option for dating within the swing scene. Or to be more specific, that dating wasn't considered 'wrong' within this lifestyle. But our interests lie more within Hotwife dating. As a married woman who likes to have lovers, and my husband likes to be included, I can hardly go to a vanilla site. But I still want to be treated as I would be treated if I were a single woman on a dating site, except with the NSA non-exclusive element. But on a sex/swinging site, suggesting going for a glass of wine before sex goes down like a lead balloon for many men who just want sex. It would be nice to have a portion of this site that attracts the men who enjoy merging swinging with dating. Because they are there. Likewise it would be nice to find women who will enjoy dating a married man with my consent.
Totally agree with this
Mrs"
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"Ideally I'd date but then I'm conscious of the yeah I'm bi, yeah I like guys who dress, yeah I'd like to see you fuck with other people conversation... Not first date material is it.
We had that conversation/s...you may be surprised
Oh, well it just goes to show how much of a coward I am then lol. You're lucky to have met each other x"
We so are...keep looking there will be someone out there |
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