We are looking to go to a club for the first time together. He has been to one years ago but ive never been to one. Im worried ill feel ive got to play because im there. Im not sure what to expect.. not sure what you should wear. Any tips and any recommendations for somewhere nice and friendly in south-east area. Thanks |
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look how you want to feel.
you want to look the hottest there??
wear whats comfortable.
we have been to many clubs and hardly play at all.
my wife doesnt like to be in open, so we choose private areas to play or even the dark room.
have a great time and dont go with any pre conceptions, just open mind.
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"We are looking to go to a club for the first time together. He has been to one years ago but ive never been to one. Im worried ill feel ive got to play because im there. Im not sure what to expect.. not sure what you should wear. Any tips and any recommendations for somewhere nice and friendly in south-east area. Thanks "
Hi guys of in any doubt contact the club you fancy, they will give you as much information you need. I am sure people closer to you would recommend the best club that would be good for first time visits also.Do you have to play- NO you dont thats the beauty there is no pressure to play , if nothing happens with someone else enjoy a room with yourselves and have fun.Socialising and meeting new friends is great its the best aspect of clubs we find.We have met many people who are now good fab friends and can always have a good night.Enjoy and relax after 5 minutes you wont feel so nervous trust me  |
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I think it depends on what you want. For example, Kestrels, being naturist, rather takes away the choice! We think it's a great leveller, but not to everyones taste.
We think the vibe changes also between day/evening and weekday/weekend, so think about that too. Some clubs only open certain hours/days.
Finally, there is no pressure to play with others - not everyone does - but you may want to check whether there are private areas. VA for example has no private playrooms but Eurekas has a few and Kestrels has lots ranging from very public to completely private.
There are several threads that discuss the clubs - we know the Kestrels thread is particularly active. This'll particularly help if you're trying to meet someone there as well.
Bon chance! |
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Ive been to Pleasures in Maidstone and different events at DV8 in Medway, both near you. There is never any pressure to play. Staff at both places are really friendly, show you around and explain etiquette. You're not faced with naked people throwing themselves at you as soon as you walk through the door! I usually wear a dress with some naughty undies underneath and high heels. Before hubby and i went for the first time, i was apprehensive but it is good fun
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We've been to a few different ones now. Unless it specifically says a dress code just wear something smart/sexy that you'd feel comfortable for an evening out in town, people wear all sorts to these places and we're always surprised how relaxed some are by what they wear. Might not stay on for long anyway so just give you the confidence to walk through the door and to be relaxed enough to chat.
Only been to Eureka that way, really great night but not typical of the places we go, 1st time might want to try elsewhere. |
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My first trip to a club was mainly talking to everyone and getting used to just wearing a towel (the club is dress down) but now I love the feeling the breeze between my legs (maybe I was Scottish in a previous life?). I now view my local club like most people would view their local pub and you soon get to know the regulars and if at some point you feel like playing with someone new, you will then feel comfortable to do it.
Happy swinging x
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we went for our first time recently was very nervous like you.
we agreed we weren't going there to join in on first occasion unless we both really wanted to, it was just to see what its like.
we got shown around by owners on arrival and had a good convo about what to expect.
nerves were gone before we had got a drink it was so relaxed and friendly we met some really nice couples and only played with each other (exciting on its own when u know others are in room next door) we cant wait to go again and see how it goes.
we are much more confident now still slightly nervous but hey thats part of the fun.
let us know how it goes  |
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"we went for our first time recently was very nervous like you.
we agreed we weren't going there to join in on first occasion unless we both really wanted to, it was just to see what its like.
we got shown around by owners on arrival and had a good convo about what to expect.
nerves were gone before we had got a drink it was so relaxed and friendly we met some really nice couples and only played with each other (exciting on its own when u know others are in room next door) we cant wait to go again and see how it goes.
we are much more confident now still slightly nervous but hey thats part of the fun.
let us know how it goes "
we will do....thank you x |
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