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Hatred for an Ex

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bit personal of a topic here.

It's almost seven or eight months on now. And I still cannot stand seeing my ex in public on the occasions we do run into each other, especially when she blatantly flashes her "new guys" on her arm each time (her peers told me she has a reputation as a slapper now).

The final breakup and end of the torrid summer relationship was a bitter and brutal one for all sides involved. Neither of us came out better for it. Now I'm going to my uni's end of year ball this weekend for what is possibly my last event of this sort before I enter the working adult world, and there's every chance I'll see her there.

I can't drop the hatred for my ex. It is even worse when I am fully justified to be mad and I have the full backing of people who knew what happened between me and her. I'll go for this final university event where I might have a remote chance of running into her, but I really do not want to resort to cutting my night short if I do run into her again. It's just that extra shame I feel (justified or otherwise) about running into her in public when I'm alone and she's with some new guy on her arm. And given how she and I know me well enough to know I don't just "shallow socialise" and go to events in big friendship groups for the sake of it, I can't even resort to the frankly cowardly move of using others as a crutch to shield myself from her.

Advice please? Besides telling me to "man up" and just outright ignore her if we do cross paths.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go. "

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

You come across as very bitter and judgmental

Move on and no its not easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By going it'll show her you've moved on and so you should. It sounds s though she's making a fool of herself so why not do what makes you happy and do as you please. I split with my ex wife over two years ago and she couldn't stand the fact I had quickly picked myself up and moved on with my life...so much so that she tried to get in touch with those close to me. Once she found out how happy I was she hated it.

Pit your feeling first pal and do your thing. She'll soon realise she's done wrong and you'll have moved on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My goodness, a woman with a varied social and sex life. How very dare she!

Man up and ignore her. Chat to other friends, make new friends, have a few drinks and, if your paths do cross, nod, smile, and move on. In a few years you'll wonder what you made such a fuss about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

You come across as very bitter and judgmental

Move on and no its not easy

Bitter and judgemental against a girl who would cheat on me with her abusive ex simply because "I'm not British; I won't be here forever but my abusive ex is local and he can be here forever with me"? I say it's well earned.

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By *obka3Couple over a year ago

bournemouth

let it go. the only person hate hurts is the hater, the ex will love you being upset, show her your made of better stuff

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there is not really any other advice other than 'man up' is there?. If you're that bothered, don't go...but you seem determined to make a meal of it so go, behave decently,which means being polite if your paths cross, not ignoring her ,which is just childish.

I'm sure you think im being harsh, as well as rude, but you seem happy 'her peers' call her a 'slapper', so just have some dignity and get on with it....

you're 23..there's a lot worse to come!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "
how can you be so judgemental

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

You come across as very bitter and judgmental

Move on and no its not easy

And who is it damaging? You !

Move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have."

I don't judge women by how many sex partners they have (god knows I'm not much better myself on here anyway). It's just the absolute lack of propriety in terms of timing back then (her going on the rebound) as well as some really messed up shit that she pulled on me right after the breakup. Besides, her "friends" called her that, not me. If her reputation is that bad now in terms of mockery it's hers to own not my fault for repeating it to others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

14 guys in 12 days??? Slacker!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly so. You're the one suffering, darling. Don't let her do you any more damage, and move on.

Be strong. Heartbreak is the worst thing there is.

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are the pics on your profile of her....? Or have you moved on to other sexual partners too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

14 guys in 12 days??? Slacker!!

Only if you were totally sober and not d*unk doing that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

..but it does make you sound immature, judgemental and jealous. You will likley never see her again, so either go and behave like an adult, or don't and get on with your life.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

To be fair, I only have your version of events, and you have shown yourself as incredibly bitter. Read the other replies and move on. As I said, in a few years you won't even care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are the pics on your profile of her....? Or have you moved on to other sexual partners too?"

Nope thank goodness. I quit swinging for a while because of her. She was never a swinger don't worry. I'm not the level of revenge porn.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

You come across as very bitter and judgmental

Move on and no its not easy

You sound very angry. She is not your property

- Mrs. J -

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

From your attitude I think your ex is better off without you.

You call her a slapper but I guess it is different for you to sleep around. You have regular verifications over the last 2 years, which do cover the period you say you were in the relationship. She is a slapper for seeing several men after finishing with you but it's ok for you to be on a swinging site actively meeting while you are in a relationship.

Double standards alive and well

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

Had to check the age....was extremely disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just to clarify, "slapper" was a term her friends used to describe her to me. Not invented by me or started by me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to clarify, "slapper" was a term her friends used to describe her to me. Not invented by me or started by me. "

But perpetuated by you

- Mrs. J -

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Just to clarify, "slapper" was a term her friends used to describe her to me. Not invented by me or started by me. "

Not really friends then, are they?

Sheesh, the best thing about getting older is leaving all that tween nonsense behind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the comments. I'm still going for my event this weekend. I'll keep my time there as short as decently possible. And then I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to clarify, "slapper" was a term her friends used to describe her to me. Not invented by me or started by me. "

but you repeated it, along with comments about her sex life,which is absolutely none of your business if you had parted. You are really not helping yourself, i dont know what kind of 'advice' you wanted as you are clearly going to stick with bitterness and jealousy. Grow up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It takes more time and energy to hate someome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seem to think the term suits her, since you are not calling her a 'slapper' as per friends but directly. Great friends anyway, looks like Uni teaches a lot bar for maturity and common sense. And looking at your verifications I can only say pot and kettle since you haven't exactly been attending Sunday school

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

You come across as very bitter and judgmental

Move on and no its not easy

Well it seems to me that is quite sad if she felt that was her only option for happiness, going back to an abusive ex. Instead of feeling hatred, try feeling compassion. And be glad you are out of it. Oh amd those friends that like to fill you in on her every move? Try telling them you don't want to know. It all sounds very dramatic...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to clarify, "slapper" was a term her friends used to describe her to me. Not invented by me or started by me.

Not really friends then, are they?

Sheesh, the best thing about getting older is leaving all that tween nonsense behind."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

..but it does make you sound immature, judgemental and jealous. You will likley never see her again, so either go and behave like an adult, or don't and get on with your life."

Excellent advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once you aren't in a relationship she is free to do as she pleases. Why not just do as you please and get on with your life. A year from now you'll be laughing at this experience. You're young and are let to experience real life troubles.

Your still hung up on her and need to move on.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

If this is the worst thing that ever happens to you in your life, then you will have been extremely lucky.

Also "the backing of my friends" thing is kind of odd. Your relationships are your own business, you should make your own decisions in/about them. I'm sure if any of my mates had ever proffered an opinion on any of mine, I'd have given them a lesson on minding their own business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have two choices

1. Waste your energy hating her and being bitter and twisted

2. Move on with your own life what she does now is no longer your concern and nothing to do with you.

Live and enjoy your life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have two choices

1. Waste your energy hating her and being bitter and twisted

2. Move on with your own life what she does now is no longer your concern and nothing to do with you.

Live and enjoy your life

What he said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

You know what happens at gang bangs yes?

So, she's a slapper, why are you bothered about her. You're not meant for each other, stop being judgemental and move on.

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By *iforfun999Man over a year ago

Haverfordwest

If you feel you have anger issues, then you need to find a method of venting them in a different way. It may be easy to say forget someone, but the anger still builds up and looks for a release, especially when you see her again. Some people find it helps to go to the gym, go for a run, decries, take up a physical sport, things like that. I'm no expert, but channeling anger is better than bottling it up, only to be released at an unexpected moment.

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By *iforfun999Man over a year ago

Haverfordwest

"If you feel you have anger issues, then you need to find a method of venting them in a different way. It may be easy to say forget someone, but the anger still builds up and looks for a release, especially when you see her again. Some people find it helps to go to the gym, go for a run, decries, take up a physical sport, things like that. I'm no expert, but channeling anger is better than bottling it up, only to be released at an unexpected moment."

*decries = exercise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

LOL!!! He's hidden his profile! I'm thinking he's not as innocent as he makes out to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

Sounds like the kind of women you've signed up to meet?

Come on, get a grip. If you're holding this much anger for her then avoid her at all costs and go on a trip alone somewhere, find your own happiness.

Slating her - and what's wrong with shagging that many guys - is making you look very bitter indeed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"LOL!!! He's hidden his profile! I'm thinking he's not as innocent as he makes out to be

i don't that for a minute...sounds like the whinings of a very bruised ego more than a broken heart!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Sorry that you're hurting.

If you can go to the function without increasing the hurt do, if not stay away.

Ask your friends to stop telling you about her and if you're asking...stop.

Good luck.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Let it go...

Let it go....

Can't hold it back anymore....

La la la la la (Frozen)....

Man up.....and breathe

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'? "
you honestly cant tell what that was supposed to say

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'? "

Did you not notice that the letters d and s are next to each other on a keyboard? Typos do happen

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'?

Did you not notice that the letters d and s are next to each other on a keyboard? Typos do happen

Of course I did I'm not stupid - was trying to be light hearted! This thread I think should be pulled!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'?

Did you not notice that the letters d and s are next to each other on a keyboard? Typos do happen

Of course I did I'm not stupid - was trying to be light hearted! This thread I think should be pulled! "

why do you think it should be pulled?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

My advice,life is far too short to waste such time and energy hating someone that much.

It will eat away at you op,go and have a fantastic time and if you do see her ,just be polite .That would make you the bigger person in mho

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op, heres a little proverb for you....

"An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you."

As has been said, its best to move on and dont let her see you getting bothered, thats the best way to get back at someone. If you let hatred build up and build up it will engulf you till you can't think straight (like now) so that you end up doing something stupid. It isn't easy, but move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get over it as life is way too short. I spent way too long pining over someone who broke my heart when I was at uni. It was wasted time.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'?

Did you not notice that the letters d and s are next to each other on a keyboard? Typos do happen

Of course I did I'm not stupid - was trying to be light hearted! This thread I think should be pulled!

why do you think it should be pulled? "

Because it's a bit heavy and personal, not really for the Forums but we live and learn in Fab world. You did ask....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure Fabswingers is the place for you if you judge women by how many sexual partners they have.

'Dwinging'?

Did you not notice that the letters d and s are next to each other on a keyboard? Typos do happen

Of course I did I'm not stupid - was trying to be light hearted! This thread I think should be pulled!

why do you think it should be pulled?

Because it's a bit heavy and personal, not really for the Forums but we live and learn in Fab world. You did ask...."

Yeah I did ask, I was curious. Thanks for answering

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By *easing_twoCouple over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

"let it go. the only person hate hurts is the hater, the ex will love you being upset, show her your made of better stuff"

AKA "man up"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

I've had more than that in one night.

You're on a swinging site. You're the slapper.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh god thank fuck,,ive always parted on good terms,,but hey maybe ive been lucky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

Sounds like the kind of women you've signed up to meet?

Come on, get a grip. If you're holding this much anger for her then avoid her at all costs and go on a trip alone somewhere, find your own happiness.

Slating her - and what's wrong with shagging that many guys - is making you look very bitter indeed."

Wot she says above mate... grow a pair n move on fella

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

Best way to get over a person is to get under them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you need to get a grip, as someone else has said earlyer in the thread this all comes across like a bruised eho rather than a broken heart

It's over. Move on. And stop wasting you life by filling it with anger and hatred towards someone you once loved. It's futile and will eat you up like a cancer and although you probably don't realise it, it is almost certainly damaging your friendships (people bore of the drama of other people's break ups very quickly) and future relationships.

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By *aralewisCouple over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Sara here..how ironic you call her slapper but your on a dating /swinging site..I'm sure if 20 women wanted to sleep with you in 10 days ud not moan and guys wud call you a stud..what she does in her personal life none of anyone business once it's two consenting adults...get over it your finished..go to your do and enjoy yourself

If you didn't care you wouldn't care less who was their..also you said you seen her with different guys so what and it looks like your more interested in what she doing...and all other people on here calling her remember one thing she an adult and not being forced into anything and I'm sure if she was on here loads of guys wouldn't turn her down if she told em what she'd done that's if it's actually true..she might date but not had sex and if you know so much about her stop stalking her..she not got the problem you have ..sorry if I'm frank but she owes you nothing she an ex move on simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bit personal of a topic here.

Advice please? Besides telling me to "man up" and just outright ignore her if we do cross paths. "

And you think this will improve your chances of a meet? Get anger management!

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

Going by the time period you mentioned and looking at your verifications, you were having regular meets in clubs as a single guy all through that 'relationship' with a woman who wasn't a swinger.

Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Whatever happened and whatever you're feeling, you need to forgive her and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

Sorry to butt in, erm, I like the sound of her. What's the chances of grabbing her digits off you

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

If you had slept with 14 women in 12 days you wouldn't give a shit about your ex.

As others have said, a swingers site isn't the best place for you if you don't support female sexual agency and empowerment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

Sorry to butt in, erm, I like the sound of her. What's the chances of grabbing her digits off you

Legend

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

This is why people have a lower age limit.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

OK you are hurting and that's natural if you thought she had the same feelings for you.

However no matter how bad the break up was bad mouthing the other party even if it's repeating what others said does not reflect well especially to strangers on an Internet forum.

If you need to vent do it in private with friends.

We all vent or bitch but keep it civil in public. She has not changed over night so this is a woman you chose to love with all her faults and positives.

She will always be a part of your life and you will move on eventually, you just need to give it time.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

Going by the op's status update there are some other issues. If you don't want to be judged op don't start a thread, it's that simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hatred is a strong and powerful emotion which is why sometimes it blurs the lines with love. It is also a destructive emotion which does more harm to the person experiencing the hate.

I know it is a cliche but if at any point you have loved someone; even if you now aren't together. You should hope for their best and not be making judgements about their sexual behaviour as it no longer impacts you.

I split from my kids mother 5 years ago and she still seems to have hangups and kicks off when I start seeing someone but you need to let that shit just wash over you.

Oh and in case you missed it, stop judging people for their sexual behaviour!

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Two things

Her body her life. Perhaps the fact that she found solace in other guys in such a frequent fashion makes you feel insecure about not pleasing her?

Man up (I know you don't want to hear that). The best way to show how unaffected you are is to wish her the best and get on with life. And there is nothing wrong with using your friends as a crutch I would happily support my friends in such a circumstance.

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By *hips n FursMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

Either go to the event and enjoy yourself with your friends

Try and invite a woman to go with you

Dig deep into your pockets and hire a escort or escorts if your flushed,to accompany you to the event

Go buy a bag of crisps and have a wank and think of the good times.

Life is too short...live the bloody thing.

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By *hips n FursMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

Ps....wouldn't recommend cheese n onion or prawn

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

Posting this was a mistake on my part, only because there's so much personal detail regarding all this that i can't divulge on a site like this. I don't know how to make my words or thoughts clearer and clearly my last post about how I'll just bite the bullet and bear it through the event on Sat and hope I don't run into my ex didn't mean jack to some commentators on here.

If you guys think I'm in any way bothered about how this hits my chances on here, I can tell you I really don't care. I only have got a few months left here in the country and on this site. And I've come to accept that my entire swinging life thus far has been an exercise in self hatred and emotional self punishment. Seven years I've managed to live a lie and act like someone I'm not inside. I suppose even that time comes to an end.

Thanks for all the profile stalking on me. My status should be succinct enough. I'll play my twilight months out here on the site. Come September or October, I'll be nothing but history and this chapter of my life a bad memory.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Your young .... you will probably have your heart broken a few times more during your life ...

Get yourself a new lady friend.

But most of all have fun .... dont look in the past .... but to the future ..... good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well you don't own her..

She's only having a bit of fun ...maybe her way of moving on or she dies doing what she enjoys ....

If you were lucky enough to have 12 dates are you telling us you'd turn them all down incase your ex thought bad of you !

She's having fun and it's not really your business right ...she's your ex ..

Not like you were married with kids and she's let you cos she's fallen in love with another bloke !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

Come on mate, keep your head up. As harsh as it may sound, you may get your heart broken again one day. It doesn't mean you should give up. I've no idea how it feels to be cheated on so I can't comment on that but life can be cruel at times, you can't just let it eat away at you pal.

Get yourself a new play mate, or make time to spend with your mates. Life's too short. Your ex is enjoying herself so that should be a sign to you o get out an enjoy yourself. Come on matey, smile and enjoy your last few month in the UK

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

You call her a slapper etc but looking at your Veris it seems your the asshole as you have cheated on her numerous times as you say you only split 8 months ago and she wasent a swinger so.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You call her a slapper etc but looking at your Veris it seems your the asshole as you have cheated on her numerous times as you say you only split 8 months ago and she wasent a swinger so.....

Those verifications were mostly socials, and during that time we weren't seeing each other aka "taking a break" according to herself. The fact about me being cheated on by her was found out only last September when I spoke to her previous ex and realised she had been cheating on me and him ever since we first got to know each other last June. She lied to me about being newly single when her ex was actually down in London at the time.

Like I said. It's massively convoluted and messy. And frankly I can't really divulge much more than this. But I hope this clears it up. I've not cheated on her. Ever. She knew I was seeing others during the time she wanted to "take a break" Because of her own mental and emotional health issues. Back then I saw Fab more as my social circle than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Bit personal of a topic here.

Advice please? Besides telling me to "man up" and just outright ignore her if we do cross paths. "

Sorry - did you say university ball or third year school disco?

This is why there should be age restrictions on Fab .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You call her a slapper etc but looking at your Veris it seems your the asshole as you have cheated on her numerous times as you say you only split 8 months ago and she wasent a swinger so.....

Hang on you got together in june, we're finished in September and we're on a break during the 3 or 4 months you were together?

Or did I misread that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well. What can I say. I go to bed and wake up to all this.

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No you didn't misread it. It was as crazy as that during the three to four month period. We keep in touch sporadically and when it was happening it was never clear cut as to what was actually going on. In September when we finally knocked heads together and she decided she actually did want to date me and stop messing about with all her previous drama then things settled down somewhat. Her idea to backdate everything to June including that massive hiatus time in the middle as being inclusive in our "relationship time".

That's as much as I'm going to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly so. You're the one suffering, darling. Don't let her do you any more damage, and move on.

Be strong. Heartbreak is the worst thing there is.

xxxx"

I wouldn't let it bother you. Life is short my friend. If it's not ment to be then move and find someone who wants you. Make sure your outlook on life is the glass half full.... listen to the females advice they are giving you. Man up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry - did you say university ball or third year school disco?

This is why there should be age restrictions on Fab .....

I'm sorry, am I detecting a strong hint of ageism here? Didn't know it was up to you to decide that swinging should only be for older people like you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you didn't misread it. It was as crazy as that during the three to four month period. We keep in touch sporadically and when it was happening it was never clear cut as to what was actually going on. In September when we finally knocked heads together and she decided she actually did want to date me and stop messing about with all her previous drama then things settled down somewhat. Her idea to backdate everything to June including that massive hiatus time in the middle as being inclusive in our "relationship time".

That's as much as I'm going to say. "

Pick yourself up, look forward, smile, enjoy life, meet someone and pit your ex behind you. Simples. I've made a decision to split with my previous ex so I've been there so I know. Life goes on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jesus man get a journal

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Easy thing to say if you're already permanently settled somewhere. The fact that I'm not going to be here for much longer doesn't do me any favours with the serious women who actually want to date and not just have a fling with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus man get a journal"

Me??

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

That's as much as I'm going to say. "

lolwut?

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say there's a cultural element to all this. My suggestion would be to wait till you go back to your own country before you form a relationship with another woman. I think it would be easier for you to find a woman who holds similar societal values to you and you will both have a clearer idea of what is expected from both parties.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

I'm no fan of cheats but I'm also no fan of holding onto the past.

Hatred this long after a very short relationship ended seems to raise deeper issues that are about self rather than her.

I'm not being funny but I know people who have had several children, been married for over a decade and have had violent break ups, but they don't hold onto hate like this.

You need to keep it in perspective and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's as much as I'm going to say. "

So from June to September you weren't a couple and you were both shagging other people which you now view as infidelity on her part.

Then in September you got together and btoke up.

Did I miss the bit where you actually had a relationship for her to be your ex?

Amd now you hate her?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm no fan of cheats but I'm also no fan of holding onto the past.

Hatred this long after a very short relationship ended seems to raise deeper issues that are about self rather than her.

I'm not being funny but I know people who have had several children, been married for over a decade and have had violent break ups, but they don't hold onto hate like this.

You need to keep it in perspective and move on."

Totally agree

. Just asking but was she your first love?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Totally agree

. Just asking but was she your first love?"

No. Second. First was back home a few months before I came over three years ago. That didn't end well. Classic dumping, except she lied to me about being pregnant with my child and getting an abortion (thus breaking with me because she felt too guilty to face me).

So yeah. Maybe I've never been the same ever since and maybe that is why my inner life feels like a mess. And times like this it spills out into the public and into my swinging life. Only so long I can keep a lid on everything inside.

That's a different story for another time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bitter, angry, jealous, possessive

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree

. Just asking but was she your first love?

That's a different story for another time. "

Best thing then mate is concentrate on you. It really sounds like you need to find your inner self. A relationship may not be the answer right now mate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus man get a journal

Me??"

No buddy, I'm all for being open but this whole thing reads like a Jeremy Kyle episode.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Bitter, angry, jealous, possessive

- Mrs. J -"

Try promising the world to someone just to earn his trust after you knew he had such a bad previous experience, and see how it doesn't blow back in your face when you not only can't keep your promises but you actively undermine everything you said you held dear and important to you both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus man get a journal

Me??

No buddy, I'm all for being open but this whole thing reads like a Jeremy Kyle episode."

Haha true that. Doesn't seem like the place for a discussion like this but we can all try help a brother out I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jesus man get a journal

Me??

No buddy, I'm all for being open but this whole thing reads like a Jeremy Kyle episode."

Lols. Maybe I suppose. Anyway. I'm done harping on it on here. I've already said a bit too much for my liking just to get my point across.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate I had a similar break up, but I thought about everything she'd done to me and realised she isn't worth it. Don't hold on to the anger or bitterness it'll drag you down. Surround yourself with friends, find something you enjoy doing and start living again.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

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By *aughtyinguMan over a year ago

swindon

Just try to avoid her at the event and try to let the negative emotions go, it is hard tho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for."

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha"

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree

. Just asking but was she your first love?

That's a different story for another time. "

As dismissive as I've been in some of my posts, go and see a bereavement counsellor otherwise this will fuck you up for a long long time. The hatred you refer to throughout this post is nothing at all to do with your ex and everything to do with the loss you experienced.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

The difference between her and people here who swing like me and all of you commenting here (male or female) is that we don't need alcohol to loosen ourselves up to be so wild in bed in terms of number of partners we have played with. We swing and we do what we do out of a sober decision to do it. Something which I can't say for my ex considering the stuff I heard about her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less. "

Oh man. That's not long at all to be so hung up on someone. Come on dude. I was married for over 3 years and had been with her in total of 5 years. She was an insecure, immature mummy's girl and I quickly realised that as was over her within a few weeks of splitting. One month can't hurt that much.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less. "
a month? As in 28 days or 4 weeks?

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Mate I had a similar break up, but I thought about everything she'd done to me and realised she isn't worth it. Don't hold on to the anger or bitterness it'll drag you down. Surround yourself with friends, find something you enjoy doing and start living again. "

This is good advice OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Compounded on my previous baggage which I've mentioned above? One month can be enough to break you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less. a month? As in 28 days or 4 weeks?"

Four weeks and a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just forget her, there's plenty fish in the sea.

Living good is the best revenge

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

Sorry - did you say university ball or third year school disco?

This is why there should be age restrictions on Fab .....

I'm sorry, am I detecting a strong hint of ageism here? Didn't know it was up to you to decide that swinging should only be for older people like you. "

I don't need to - emotionally immature drama queens such as yourself articulate the need for filters far more eloquently than I ever could....

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

Well I think this proves there is no better revenge than just moving on and being happy.

OP you are coming across as a male bunny boiler. Just let it go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

D*unk sex is awesome! It makes the bird think I'm more like Scott Nails than Benny Hill

So it's a hard no on the phone number is it like?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

I'd seriously consider counselling.

You need to resolve some internal shit. Swinging is not an answer, neither is moving back home to a life you moved on from.

Spend a few quid talk to someone otherwise this kind of anger can make you a danger to yourself and others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just forget her, there's plenty fish in the sea.

Living good is the best revenge

He is not after seafood; he wants a woman

- Mrs. J -

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

D*unk sex is awesome! It makes the bird think I'm more like Scott Nails than Benny Hill

So it's a hard no on the phone number is it like?

Then she becomes sober and sees Benny Hill in front of her - poor lass LOL

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

D*unk sex is awesome! It makes the bird think I'm more like Scott Nails than Benny Hill

So it's a hard no on the phone number is it like?

"
your creasing me up

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Is she really worth you giving so much emotion to if it's over?

Try to find a way to let it go as it's just going to hurt you more and more.

You can't start a new chapter when you keep on rereading the last one.

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By *edzyWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/

14 guys in 12 days??? Slacker!!

I have my popcorn out for this...

OP fabswingers is very much about being non-judgemental about people's sex lives. If you had split up then she can do what she pleases.

It's sad she would return to an abusive partner, but it is often difficult for people to break that abuse cycle. Perhaps you should feel sorry for her not angry

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

My advice? Let it go. Move on.

There is no need to hate an ex anyway. I'm best friends with one of mine. It can be done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel like I should break out the violins or something else overly dramatic...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just forget her, there's plenty fish in the sea.

Living good is the best revenge

He is not after seafood; he wants a woman

- Mrs. J -"

Seafood can be a good option sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I feel like I should break out the violins or something else overly dramatic... "

Play "Duck Shoot" from the Netflix Series "The Crown".

Soundtrack of my life it would seem.

Anyway thanks to all here, I'm feeling slightly better today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just forget her, there's plenty fish in the sea.

Living good is the best revenge

He is not after seafood; he wants a woman

- Mrs. J -

Seafood can be a good option sometimes

I like a good lobster roll, if that counts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just forget her, there's plenty fish in the sea.

Living good is the best revenge

He is not after seafood; he wants a woman

- Mrs. J -

Seafood can be a good option sometimes

I like a good lobster roll, if that counts. "

Ahahaha as long as you're happy, we won't judge you ! But btw, a lobster, sir got some luxury tastes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

D*unk sex is awesome! It makes the bird think I'm more like Scott Nails than Benny Hill

So it's a hard no on the phone number is it like?

Then she becomes sober and sees Benny Hill in front of her - poor lass LOL

Ohhhh I like you! You're giving me credit for being able to last long enough for her to sober up

Gis a snog you charmer you

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"From your attitude I think your ex is better off without you.

Double standards alive and well

And then he hides his profile lol...busted!

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By *all and ChainWoman over a year ago

Truro

"Bit personal of a topic here.

Advice please? Besides telling me to "man up" and just outright ignore her if we do cross paths. "

1/ let it hurt

2/ let it heal

3/ let it go

life is too short, anger is just pain that you refuse to accept and deal with.

if, after anger has gone, you still feel the need to settle scores, then do it in cold blood, at least that way you'll be ready for the consequences, and you won't have more anger and hurt to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less. "

A month?? All this for a bird you are with a month? Jesus christ you're having a laugh! Not worth getting your panties in a bunch...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less.

A month?? All this for a bird you are with a month? Jesus christ you're having a laugh! Not worth getting your panties in a bunch...

Exactly!!! Oh young love hey?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So how long was you actually in a relationship with her for.

Taking out all the drama time and the on/off time? Probably a month, maybe a bit less.

A month?? All this for a bird you are with a month? Jesus christ you're having a laugh! Not worth getting your panties in a bunch...

Exactly!!! Oh young love hey?!"

Yeah it's like being 14 all over again.

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By *ellhung198113Man over a year ago

mansfield

An ex after a month youve not even heard her fart yet pal do as frozen said let it go let it goooooo

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I take it that's a no to giving me her number then?

Stop it

got me in stitches

What? I'm serious

At least offer to share her haha

By the sounds of her, I won't need to offer to share

If you're a fan of d*unk sex that is.

I'm actually a lot more fun when I've had a few. It's not unheard of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a thin line between love an hate....

I suggest you cut yourself off from her so called friends they could be getting off on your pain.

Your still hurting from this that is clear to see. I recommend the old to get over one get under another;)

She's moved on, maybe you should too.

look after yourself xx

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By *rovocPairCouple over a year ago

Yorkshire

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

It's her choice. I doubt you'd have had as much judgement if you'd have done the same. It's her coping mechanism. That or she just likes fucking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "
But if a man did this they are a stud we wemon are slappers

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By *untimes6969Man over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Some good advice - it's never an easy situation to deal with or advise on as there as some many different issues specific to yourself only!

Why not search 'surviving infidelity' - some great websites more akin to advice specific to your requirements and / or get some counselling to help you through - it does get easier but sometimes people get stuck and need direction again to get going!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ But if a man did this they are a stud we wemon are slappers

"
its time women came up with some disparaging names for men that are the equivalent to slapper slut whore etc , yes men don't have to take all the crap name calling like women do so ladies get ur thinking caps on and sling some shit back em !

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"...its time women came up with some disparaging names for men that are the equivalent to slapper slut whore etc..."

No it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...its time women came up with some disparaging names for men that are the equivalent to slapper slut whore etc...

No it isn't."
typical remark from a guy lol

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ "

Let it go Stalker !

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"A slapper? Like women who use swinging sites to have sex with men they barely know?

My advice is, let it go.

Well, kind of like women who recklessly hook up with guys only when they are d*unk. 14 guys in 12 days after our breakup... yeah. :/ But if a man did this they are a stud we wemon are slappers

What's a wemon ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bitter.

Move on. She can do as she pleases and appears to be doing so.

I suggest you do the same.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Clearly the OPas never heard the expression, "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else", good for her for not dwelling in the past and moving on I suggest you try the same OP

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By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

I was like this for about 18 months after we split hated seeing her as we used have a similar social circle etc...

One day we just got talking again and ended up kissing (you may guess the rest) tho since we have remained friends, we get on better than we did when we was together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your verifications show you've had many meets across the past few years, which is when you say you were in a relationship, so did you meet with her or behind her back?

You say she didn't swing so presumably you just cheated on her then, so why are you bitter that she doesn't want to be with you?

You also say in your profile you're going back to Singapore in a couple of months having finished here so she's protecting herself from the inevitable of you dumping her? Seems you're bitter she beat you to it?

Move on, be polite to her, respect that presumably at one stage you had feelings for her and treat her with dignity especially if her so called friends are being rude about her behind her back. You won't see her after this event so go to it, enjoy it for you and don't worry about what she's doing. She's no longer your concern but respect her choices for the sake of your own decency, if not for hers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have hatred for anyone . It serves no purpose . It doesn't affect their lives in any way and makes you bitter .

The statement regarding I'm right to be mad and lots of people agree with me (or whatever you said ) sounds quite immature if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your verifications show you've had many meets across the past few years, which is when you say you were in a relationship, so did you meet with her or behind her back?

You say she didn't swing so presumably you just cheated on her then, so why are you bitter that she doesn't want to be with you?

I was dating her only from the time period between June and end of September last year, with most of the "actual" time dating without drama or her telling me she wanted to "have a break" and us not see each other occupying up a large part of the middle chunk of time. So no, I was not cheating on her, I've never met with her at any Fab function, and I know it sounds utterly utterly messed up here.

As to you saying she dumped me to preempt my returning home, firstly, why a year in advance? And secondly, I have been upfront to her all the time that I wouldn't be here forever and she knew what she was getting herself into. So why promise the world and why look me up on an online dating site on her own accord when I'm in Hull and she's down south in Kettering for no good reason?

I didn't pursue her. I didn't find her. She was the one doing that. So yes I have every right to be bitter and lay the blame squarely on her for messing about with me to the extent that it happened.

I hope this clarifies things. I'm still going to my event tommorrow. I've just heard on good authority from someone in the same social group as her that she's not going tomorrow. And even if she was, I'm sure I can lose myself in a crowd of more than 3000 people and never run into her. So that's quite settled.

Posting my thread up in the forum has really opened my eyes to how quick people jump to conclusions here, how much you lot love to ham up drama here. Yes, I posted here on my own accord. No, if you have got something nasty to say about me and insinuate that I somehow disrespect women by merely repeating the multiple claims by others of her being a "slapper" then just block me and move on. I also explained that I'm judgemental about her going on the rebound so soon after the final breakup and her stories of being with multiple guys one after another because she has never met any of them sober as far as I knew about it. The numbers don't count. But getting loose and being reckless with one's enjoyment or body only when one's d*unk out of their minds is something I will judge. Even in swingers on here. I never ever swing when anywhere near tipsy or d*unk. I don't need alcohol as an excuse to swing or have sex.

This is my final post here. If you lot want to stalk my profile and make your own conclusions, hey, free country free will. *waves* I'm done explaining myself to people on here that I've never met and probably never will.

So there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am wondering if she has had a lucky escape tbh OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You together for four months with a break in the middle and it ended last year . Jeez Louise I think you might be a bit of a drama queen

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You together for four months with a break in the middle and it ended last year . Jeez Louise I think you might be a bit of a drama queen "

With her dragging an ex in, plus a deliberate overdose attempt after being exposed for cheating on me and her other ex at the same time, amongst some other personal details I have not given here?

Sure, I'm the drama queen alright.

Next!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

According to your veris between June to September last year when you were dating, you had a threesome, outdoor fun, went down on a lady at an house party and attended and fucked at a gangbang

How exactly were you not cheating on her

That is off course your business but don't pretend your whiter than white in all this

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Seriously mate, if you post on an open forum then you're going to get people disagreeing with you, and even judging you. Especially when you are being hypocritical and judgmental yourself.

You've spent more time defending yourself on here than you probably spent in the actual relationship from the sound on it, and you still think you are so much better than her because she went out and had fun without you. You should learn at least one thing from this site - it's not about you.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

So much for the final post. I guess there will be another final post, then another, then really really, this is really my final post, ever, oh hang on, just need to be snarky at one more person...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"According to your veris between June to September last year when you were dating, you had a threesome, outdoor fun, went down on a lady at an house party and attended and fucked at a gangbang

How exactly were you not cheating on her

That is off course your business but don't pretend your whiter than white in all this "

Because during the duration of those meet verifications you described, she explicitly told me she "wanted out for now, we take a break and go do our own stuff".

So no, I've not cheated on her. She was busy seeing other guys as well at this time which I knew a little about but had no problems with. What I had a massive problem with was her lying to me right at the very start when we first met that she was newly single, when her boyfriend was actually down in London at the time. And then how she lied to him saying that she's broken up with me just so he would help her move up north for uni, when barely days beforehand she called me up with all the "missed you" talk and "let's get back together and start over".

All this was established with a lot of cross referencing with her ex. We both got played by her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You started swinging at 16? Interesting...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You started swinging at 16? Interesting..."

You're a year off. 17. Lost my virginity that way too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You started swinging at 16? Interesting..."

Some of the OPs previous posts have described how he started. I suspect that might have something to do with his attitudes towards western women.

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By *lassactmilf1Woman over a year ago

manchester

Sorry but you sound like a 5 year old

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You started swinging at 16? Interesting...

Some of the OPs previous posts have described how he started. I suspect that might have something to do with his attitudes towards western women."

I'm sorry, you accusing me of something?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You started swinging at 16? Interesting...

Some of the OPs previous posts have described how he started. I suspect that might have something to do with his attitudes towards western women.

I'm sorry, you accusing me of something? "

Is this your final post, or your final final post?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"According to your veris between June to September last year when you were dating, you had a threesome, outdoor fun, went down on a lady at an house party and attended and fucked at a gangbang

How exactly were you not cheating on her

That is off course your business but don't pretend your whiter than white in all this

Because during the duration of those meet verifications you described, she explicitly told me she "wanted out for now, we take a break and go do our own stuff".

All this was established with a lot of cross referencing with her ex. We both got played by her. "

Sorry but I call bullshit out of those few months you most have dated for about a week in total between the way you were meeting I'd you were doing it while on a break

If you were ok with her fucking who she wanted while you were on a break during that time and your were as you've just said ok with it, why is she now suddenly a slapper for doing same after you split indefinitely?

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM) over a year ago

Loughborough

Holding on to anger is like holding onto a hot coal.......

It burns you, makes your life a misery, and spoils the opportunities which you have every day for happiness.

Send your ex your forgiveness, your love, and your gratitude for all the valuable life lessons which she has helped you to learn.

And move forwards with your new, exciting, wonderful life!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry but I call bullshit out of those few months you most have dated for about a week in total between the way you were meeting I'd you were doing it while on a break

That can be answered with some other details that I am not in a position to divulge here in public and frankly I wouldn't want to. But it has something to do with her being a hypocrite in her words and aspirations.

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"...its time women came up with some disparaging names for men that are the equivalent to slapper slut whore etc...

No it isn't.typical remark from a guy lol

Not really. I don't think there is anything to gain from instigating a "war of the sexes". I thought that this would be the last place that sexual promiscuity would even be a subject to talk about.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry but I call bullshit out of those few months you most have dated for about a week in total between the way you were meeting I'd you were doing it while on a break

Tone perfectly honest if she's the devil incarnate that you make her out to be its a shame you didn't work out as you seem perfect for each other

This thread and your bitterness hasn't shown you up to be the nicest of people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...its time women came up with some disparaging names for men that are the equivalent to slapper slut whore etc...

No it isn't.typical remark from a guy lol

Not really. I don't think there is anything to gain from instigating a "war of the sexes". I thought that this would be the last place that sexual promiscuity would even be a subject to talk about."

The mode of sexual promiscuity certainly is a subject to talk about. I'm sure none of us here would be quite so understanding or welcoming of those who would be promiscuous only under conspicuous alcohol consumption, or those who are acting out after some repressed background/upbringing in a manner that has never befitted them in the first place, instead of actually swinging because they know what they're getting into and because they like it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Bet the OP was hoping for the last word for his final, final, final post.

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