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How to introduce the mrs
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"No that's what im wanting help on as well how do I mention it to her x"
The general consensus is bringing up the subject during sex as a fantasy is the best way, and seeing what she says. However, the fact you are on here alone doesn't bode well. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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We were talking about fantasies one day OP, so decided to both write down our fantasies with a yes no or maybe against it as to whether we fancy trying them out, then we swopped lists, found we had a lot of fantasies the same and started down that list the very next day.
It worked for us so who knows for you. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No that's what im wanting help on as well how do I mention it to her x
The general consensus is bringing up the subject during sex as a fantasy is the best way, and seeing what she says. However, the fact you are on here alone doesn't bode well."
I know but other fantasies can be reached on here easily and things I wouldn't want to share with her yet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We were talking about fantasies one day OP, so decided to both write down our fantasies with a yes no or maybe against it as to whether we fancy trying them out, then we swopped lists, found we had a lot of fantasies the same and started down that list the very next day.
It worked for us so who knows for you. Good luck"
thanks that seems like a pretty decent way to go about things x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is she bisexual OP? she says not but she's very close to her friend which makes me think otherwise "
I'm bi and I'm close to female friends, that doesn't mean I want to fuck them.
If she isn't actually bi she won't want to have sex with a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is she bisexual OP? she says not but she's very close to her friend which makes me think otherwise
I am very close to my friend but wouldn't want to play with her"
i get that not and I know women are usually a lot more affectionate with each other than men are |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Is she bisexual OP? she says not but she's very close to her friend which makes me think otherwise
I am very close to my friend but wouldn't want to play with her"
Ditto. My mate IS bisexual but we're not going to get it on, because I am not.
OP, you have to respect your wife, which means making sure you communicate without plotting. If you want her to be bi just to fulfil your fantasies you're going to be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know if your partner is bi op? Or curious?
It'd be a good place to start finding that out. If she's straight you're onto a loser with that fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day OP just be honest with your partner , you should be able to talk about anything & everything in a relationship, you'll get so much more out of your relationship & this swinging game  good luck fella |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you know if your partner is bi op? Or curious?
It'd be a good place to start finding that out. If she's straight you're onto a loser with that fantasy. "
He said further up that she says she's not bi but she's close to a friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretend your doing a crossword one evening as your both relaxing watching the tele .
Say hey love 9 down is 8 letters
The clue is two women sexual involved .
When she gives the answer start a mild conversation about it ...
Worked for me im divorced 3 years this June ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you know if your partner is bi op? Or curious?
It'd be a good place to start finding that out. If she's straight you're onto a loser with that fantasy.
He said further up that she says she's not bi but she's close to a friend."
Oh. Ta. I didn't read it all.
Well you're fucked then mate  |
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Before i got together with dax i was very "innocent" and to begin with i even said no to anal.
Lots of talking and discussing things, time and patience.
When he suggested me trying with a woman i was again against it...the more i thought about it the more intrigued i became. It would be a different kiss, a different touch and everything would be a whole new experience. Thankfully we found someone who wasn't pushy or forceful and understood i needed to go at mt own pace... I still want to explore more and i will in time.
As ive said its no pushy, talking through things and going and a pace comfortable for her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Swinging successfully as a couple generally needs a lot of trust, listening to each other, mutual respect and understanding.
With your profile on here a secret from her, I'm not sure it bodes well as a great start? |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance "
First thing you need to do is forget about swinging and learn how to communicate with your wife.
Find out what she likes to do and take an interest in her.
Having done that talk to her and do things together, you know things like washing up or even cooking a meal together, things that you can do at the same time as talking.
After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question, until then nothing you learn here will help.
Sorry.
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance
First thing you need to do is forget about swinging and learn how to communicate with your wife.
Find out what she likes to do and take an interest in her.
Having done that talk to her and do things together, you know things like washing up or even cooking a meal together, things that you can do at the same time as talking.
After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question, until then nothing you learn here will help.
Sorry.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance
First thing you need to do is forget about swinging and learn how to communicate with your wife.
Find out what she likes to do and take an interest in her.
Having done that talk to her and do things together, you know things like washing up or even cooking a meal together, things that you can do at the same time as talking.
After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question, until then nothing you learn here will help.
Sorry.
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So washing the dishes made you know EXACTLY what your wife thought about everything in life? Have you never had to ask your wife what she thought about something and just knew what she thought? |
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance
First thing you need to do is forget about swinging and learn how to communicate with your wife.
Find out what she likes to do and take an interest in her.
Having done that talk to her and do things together, you know things like washing up or even cooking a meal together, things that you can do at the same time as talking.
After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question, until then nothing you learn here will help.
Sorry.
So washing the dishes made you know EXACTLY what your wife thought about everything in life? Have you never had to ask your wife what she thought about something and just knew what she thought?"
I think the general theme is the more time you spend together talking doing everyday and fun things, the more he would know and the easier it becomes to discuss more and more. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance
First thing you need to do is forget about swinging and learn how to communicate with your wife.
Find out what she likes to do and take an interest in her.
Having done that talk to her and do things together, you know things like washing up or even cooking a meal together, things that you can do at the same time as talking.
After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question, until then nothing you learn here will help.
Sorry.
So washing the dishes made you know EXACTLY what your wife thought about everything in life? Have you never had to ask your wife what she thought about something and just knew what she thought?
I think the general theme is the more time you spend together talking doing everyday and fun things, the more he would know and the easier it becomes to discuss more and more."
Assuming that the man doesn't spend time with his wife/ GF of course, which is what the post did after saying "After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question"
We wouldn't have known a lot of things about each other unless we asked,including whether we would want to swing. You don't find out everything that goes on on in someones head just because you live together. |
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Assuming that the man doesn't spend time with his wife/ GF of course, which is what the post did after saying "After a year or so when you begin to know your wife you will then know the answer to your question"
We wouldn't have known a lot of things about each other unless we asked,including whether we would want to swing. You don't find out everything that goes on on in someones head just because you live together."
I agree, but would still say the communication needs to be really good between them to start doing this and for it to work.
Having an active single account and asking for persuade the mrs advice doesn't sit well with me for starting a successful swinging partnership.
It could be that it is great and we've jumped to conclusions, it does happen....
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I agree the relationship has to be good to start with
We all must have broached the subject at some point so this is the best place to ask for advice but I think when people give advice out in these cases they get hung up on the fact the person is already on here and that that persons relationship is not a good one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Invite a masseuse for her. She would relax and enjoy the massage.
After she's gone, tell your wife that you imagined for a moment that she was turned on by the touch and if they had gone for kiss or fingering you wouldn't have minded...
Take it from there.
As I'm a pro I know from experience the power of touch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ask her if she would like to watch you fuck another man. As your straight and have male friends she will probably think you're up for it, like you with meet female friends.
If she says yes then do it, let her watch, and afterwards your can bring up your fantasy of watching her with woman. ...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance "
A Knight , one of valour and courage . So slay the dragon aka your wife and show her you brave profile .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ask her if she would like to watch you fuck another man. As your straight and have male friends she will probably think you're up for it, like you with meet female friends.
If she says yes then do it, let her watch, and afterwards your can bring up your fantasy of watching her with woman. ...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance "
Is she bi? Has she ever expressed any interest in this? |
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"I'm having major fantasys with seeing my mrs with another woman, how would I get her to come around to the idea or bring it up ? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance
Is she bi? Has she ever expressed any interest in this?"
She's told him she isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is she bisexual OP? she says not but she's very close to her friend which makes me think otherwise "
Well that answers my question. If she says she isn't bi then I'd take her at her word. Having a close friend doesn't mean she wants to fuck said friend.
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"Is she bisexual OP? she says not but she's very close to her friend which makes me think otherwise "
I love my best friend to death but doesn't make me bi.
Be careful OP that this isn't just about what you want and think you can make it what she wants  |
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