i haven't wanted to yet. think i'd just say i've got to go, don't need an excuse to end something i'm not enjoying. if they ask why that's there problem, i'd probably be honest and say i'm not enjoying myself.

coz i have turned one guy down after a social and he never questioned it, i just didn't find him physically attracted but would've told him that if he'd asked.

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By *oodprincess69 OP Woman over a year ago

over the rainbow

"all night are the best ones, as in a night out.

But what if you want to cut it short?

coz i have turned one guy down after a social and he never questioned it, i just didn't find him physically attracted but would've told him that if he'd asked."

Thanks

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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you're welcome.

additionally, if you assess him to be the type of guy who won't take rejection well then maybe don't be honest with him. you still don't have to explain yourself but if he asks for one then don't be honest. keeping yourself safe is a priority.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess it all depends on the meet itself and the individual.

I've had great socials which have lead to more on the day and ones which have lead to arranging something for a later date.

I've had unsuccessful socials where I've been able to be honest and say it's not worth taking further, which was a mutual feeling.

Honesty should be first port of call, but some times a little white lie is the safest option.

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By *oodprincess69 OP Woman over a year ago

over the rainbow

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman over a year ago

Richmond

"Question, how long on average are your social meets? and if you have wanted to get away faster what have you done or said?

Thanks in advance "

I usually go into a social meet saying I only have x amount of time (half hour, an hour, whatever). Easy enough to say I have to leave after that time if it's not going well, but can always extend if all's good.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have a coffee, if it's all good either he or I would ask if they'd like another one. If I'm not feeling it I'd just say 'thanks but I have to go now'. I have been known to burn my tongue before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings "

why are you going for a social with someone you clearly already have such doubts about you're looking for advice on how to cut it short?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"all night are the best ones, as in a night out.

But what if you want to cut it short?"

We have met people who left their car in a car park that only allowed a two hour stay and was a ten minute walk.

That seems like a good idea, if you want to stay longer you can move your car and if you want to get away you just say you need to get back to your car.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I answer this if I ever get to that stage lol at min asking where results in block but I always thought it helps to know that bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It varies for us on when and where we meet.

If neither g or i were interested then we would just say we have to go now. However i have usually been messging them before the social so normally if its got that far then we usually only meet for a social with a guy we like.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Can I answer this if I ever get to that stage lol at min asking where results in block but I always thought it helps to know that bit "

Not sure what you're saying, can you clarify

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I answer this if I ever get to that stage lol at min asking where results in block but I always thought it helps to know that bit

Not sure what you're saying, can you clarify

So far the closet I got in my area to social or other meet after finding someone willing to meet because of age,smoker,height and status ends up being blocked when I ask where we meet for social and cannot ask why as blocked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go with your instinct and make sure you are in a public, save place. If some one gets funny after rejection surely you where right to do so. Who needs pushy bullies?

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By *r_BBW_LoverMan over a year ago

Swindon

"Go with your instinct and make sure you are in a public, save place. If some one gets funny after rejection surely you where right to do so. Who needs pushy bullies? "

Yep, this.

I like a coffee shop if it's during the day, or a pub if it's at night. Either way, somewhere public.

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By *oodprincess69 OP Woman over a year ago

over the rainbow

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings

why are you going for a social with someone you clearly already have such doubts about you're looking for advice on how to cut it short?"

Because I had agreed to the social meet before and I don't mess people around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings

why are you going for a social with someone you clearly already have such doubts about you're looking for advice on how to cut it short?

Because I had agreed to the social meet before and I don't mess people around "

With those amount of doubts surely you are messing him around to a greater extent by meeting socially with no intention of playing? Best to stop the meet and let him move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings

why are you going for a social with someone you clearly already have such doubts about you're looking for advice on how to cut it short?

Because I had agreed to the social meet before and I don't mess people around "

if you have misgivings to this extent, surely stopping arrangements now would be the better option for you both?

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By *oodprincess69 OP Woman over a year ago

over the rainbow

"you're welcome.

I may have to tell a little white lie for that reason, but also I don't want to hurt his feelings

why are you going for a social with someone you clearly already have such doubts about you're looking for advice on how to cut it short?

Because I had agreed to the social meet before and I don't mess people around

if you have misgivings to this extent, surely stopping arrangements now would be the better option for you both? "

I do not believe I messed him around, I made it clear it was a social meet only and that the main reason I agreed to the meet was so he could be verified.

The question was a hindsight question in the first place, I could of gone into great detail but didn't think that was fair on him to air it in here before speaking to him after the meet

Thank you very much for your views

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to some brilliant organized socials, which have lasted all weekend (Friday to Sunday).

On a 1-to-1 basis?... maybe an hour or less, if there's no spark. Potentially several hours, if there's a tantalising connection.

Social 'with options' are a different kettle of fish, though.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Not interested in social meets - much prefer to go to a club and just play.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I once read a dating blog that said a social should last no longer than 1 1/2 hours. Enough to leave each person wanting more. I end up chatting then when I look at my watch it's normally at least 2 1/2 hours. Must mean we are getting on well I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think our shortest social was under 30 mins, met for a coffee and sat outside in a park. The longest can be 2-3 hours if we go out for a drink.

Our excuses would vary according to what type of social, car parking almost expired, got to get back to work, got to be up for some reason in the morning and have a couple of things to do before hitting the sack. Unless we've been able to chat during the social and established we're both happy to meet again we usually leave it along the lines of It's been lovely to meet you, we'll be in touch soon. Then you don't have to deal with explanations and awkwardness if it isn't going well.

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