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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Single women, the real ones, are rare on this site. But ones wanting to meet couples are like Gold dust. That or we are too ugly to attract their attention
We are looking for one single woman who we could be friends with. If she is bi-playful, then that would be a real bonus. But even if she is not, it would be great to become friends with her
We haven't found one yet. Can any couple give us some pointers on what we should be doing? We would also welcome advice from any single women. Thanks
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Single women, the real ones, are rare on this site. But ones wanting to meet couples are like Gold dust. That or we are too ugly to attract their attention
We are looking for one single woman who we could be friends with. If she is bi-playful, then that would be a real bonus. But even if she is not, it would be great to become friends with her
We haven't found one yet. Can any couple give us some pointers on what we should be doing? We would also welcome advice from any single women. Thanks
- Mrs. J -"
What do they say when you approach them in clubs? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Single women, the real ones, are rare on this site. But ones wanting to meet couples are like Gold dust. That or we are too ugly to attract their attention
We are looking for one single woman who we could be friends with. If she is bi-playful, then that would be a real bonus. But even if she is not, it would be great to become friends with her
We haven't found one yet. Can any couple give us some pointers on what we should be doing? We would also welcome advice from any single women. Thanks
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What do they say when you approach them in clubs?"
We have met plenty of single women in clubs and have had threesomes with them. But we are looking for one to develop a friendship with. That does not happen as it is generally only a one-off or sometimes, infrequent playtime in clubs
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Whenever people ask for advice like this it's usually a simple question of supply and demand. There are far more couples wanting to meet single women than single women wanting to meet couples. Hence if, as a couple, that is what you are into you are always going to struggle.
As to what you can do to increase your chances, there's no magic formula. Look for profiles you think fit you and send them carefully thought out messages. They won't come looking for you
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"If they are in your local club...then surely some of them are also local? Worth following up?"
This. The couples and singles I've met at my local club I see at least every other week. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Whenever people ask for advice like this it's usually a simple question of supply and demand. There are far more couples wanting to meet single women than single women wanting to meet couples. Hence if, as a couple, that is what you are into you are always going to struggle.
As to what you can do to increase your chances, there's no magic formula. Look for profiles you think fit you and send them carefully thought out messages. They won't come looking for you
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Thanks; we will try that. Any advice of what the message should say. We have never sent an initial message to anyone. He is useless at writing anything and I am not that brilliant either
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"Whenever people ask for advice like this it's usually a simple question of supply and demand. There are far more couples wanting to meet single women than single women wanting to meet couples. Hence if, as a couple, that is what you are into you are always going to struggle.
As to what you can do to increase your chances, there's no magic formula. Look for profiles you think fit you and send them carefully thought out messages. They won't come looking for you
Thanks; we will try that. Any advice of what the message should say. We have never sent an initial message to anyone. He is useless at writing anything and I am not that brilliant either
- Mrs. J -"
I am afraid you will never get anywhere if you want a single woman and don't send messages. We get about forty messages a week from single men and two to three from couples. We have never had a message from a single woman.
As to what you should say, read their profile carefully and set out how you can give them what they are looking for. Single women tend to very suspicious of couples looking for them as very often it is all about fulfilling the blokes/couples fantasy without a thought for what the women wants. You must get over that this is a mutual thing and you not just want them as a breathing sex toy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whenever people ask for advice like this it's usually a simple question of supply and demand. There are far more couples wanting to meet single women than single women wanting to meet couples. Hence if, as a couple, that is what you are into you are always going to struggle.
As to what you can do to increase your chances, there's no magic formula. Look for profiles you think fit you and send them carefully thought out messages. They won't come looking for you
Thanks; we will try that. Any advice of what the message should say. We have never sent an initial message to anyone. He is useless at writing anything and I am not that brilliant either
- Mrs. J -
I am afraid you will never get anywhere if you want a single woman and don't send messages. We get about forty messages a week from single men and two to three from couples. We have never had a message from a single woman.
As to what you should say, read their profile carefully and set out how you can give them what they are looking for. Single women tend to very suspicious of couples looking for them as very often it is all about fulfilling the blokes/couples fantasy without a thought for what the women wants. You must get over that this is a mutual thing and you not just want them as a breathing sex toy. "
I just browsed for verified single bisexual women in our area and found 16. We will write to them and see what happens
We don't treat couples or single men as sex-toys either. In the past, I have, as a single woman, met with couples so I do know how, somtimes, couples use a single woman. We are looking to be friends with her and also have fun together; all three of us. She will certainly not be any kind of a toy. And this is what we both would like; not just him or just me
Thanks for the advice; x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying. "
Yes, we have heard the term. I guess I was a 'unicorn' too before I met my partner. I can understand your reasons for being weary of meeting couples; I was too; but I did meet a few very nice couples then
We will keep on trying, starting with sending out messages. Who knows; we might meet up with a 'unicorn' some day who we can be long-term friends with
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying. "
rare unicorn here and im having trouble to actually play with any couples and make friends I really don't know wat im doing wrong they meet me say how sexy I am then nothing don't know if its because im too ugly or if the lady feels threatened because im sexy a lot of couples complain yet treat us bad |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying. rare unicorn here and im having trouble to actually play with any couples and make friends I really don't know wat im doing wrong they meet me say how sexy I am then nothing don't know if its because im too ugly or if the lady feels threatened because im sexy a lot of couples complain yet treat us bad"
Gosh, we would have loved to meet with you were you not so far away
We have a strong relationship and neither feels threatened by the inclusion of another woman in the mutual fun together. The way I see it is if my partner was inclined to dump me for another woman, then good riddance to bad rubbish
I can see that you are sexy; just a pity about the distance
Not all couples are the same; x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually... No op . The opposite.
I felt inadequate and didn't risk being a novelty shag for a proper gym fit couple.
Men only for me now. Single ones are my bread n butter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying. rare unicorn here and im having trouble to actually play with any couples and make friends I really don't know wat im doing wrong they meet me say how sexy I am then nothing don't know if its because im too ugly or if the lady feels threatened because im sexy a lot of couples complain yet treat us bad
Gosh, we would have loved to meet with you were you not so far away
We have a strong relationship and neither feels threatened by the inclusion of another woman in the mutual fun together. The way I see it is if my partner was inclined to dump me for another woman, then good riddance to bad rubbish
I can see that you are sexy; just a pity about the distance
Not all couples are the same; x
- Mrs. J -"
 thanks don't think some couples realise how they make us feel I know some single ladies bee line for the man I like to make both feel wanted but I also want my pleasure find a lot of bi woman couples only want to play with the lady and no penitration from the guy sorry but thatsva big put off I like cock as well as pussy xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A single bi woman willing to meet a couple is called a Unicorn because they are so rare.
I would never do that myself. The idea of a MF+f is not good for me but there are a few women who will meet couples. Keep trying. rare unicorn here and im having trouble to actually play with any couples and make friends I really don't know wat im doing wrong they meet me say how sexy I am then nothing don't know if its because im too ugly or if the lady feels threatened because im sexy a lot of couples complain yet treat us bad
Gosh, we would have loved to meet with you were you not so far away
We have a strong relationship and neither feels threatened by the inclusion of another woman in the mutual fun together. The way I see it is if my partner was inclined to dump me for another woman, then good riddance to bad rubbish
I can see that you are sexy; just a pity about the distance
Not all couples are the same; x
- Mrs. J - thanks don't think some couples realise how they make us feel I know some single ladies bee line for the man I like to make both feel wanted but I also want my pleasure find a lot of bi woman couples only want to play with the lady and no penitration from the guy sorry but thatsva big put off I like cock as well as pussy xxx"
I guess having been on the 'other side', I completely understand what you are saying
We talked a lot about this and only then decided to start looking for another woman. This has to be fun for all three; not just for him or just for me or even just for the two of us; it has to be fun for her too. And a bisexual woman would definately want the inclusion of the man as well; makes perfect sense to us
Yes, I know what you are talking about; x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Actually... No op . The opposite.
I felt inadequate and didn't risk being a novelty shag for a proper gym fit couple.
Men only for me now. Single ones are my bread n butter."
I really don't think that *anyone* is 'inadequte'. I am sorry that some couple made you feel that way but we are not all the same; x
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By (user no longer on site)
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The problem isn't the lack of single females. It's the lack of couples willing to play separately. I haven't looked at your profile but I'd hazard a guess that you won't play separately either. If more couples played separately there'd be loads of "single" women happy to meet up and form friendships. By refusing to play separately couples play a zero sum game where they undermine their own ability to find what they're looking for |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The problem isn't the lack of single females. It's the lack of couples willing to play separately. I haven't looked at your profile but I'd hazard a guess that you won't play separately either. If more couples played separately there'd be loads of "single" women happy to meet up and form friendships. By refusing to play separately couples play a zero sum game where they undermine their own ability to find what they're looking for "
I am afraid that we fall into the category of only playing together
Part of it is because of the time constraint but part of it is because we have found it to be more erotic playing together with others
Having said that, we are both free to play separately too. Infact, my husband has played with another woman separately from me. We had met her in a club and she contacted me and I was the one who arranged for the two of them to meet away from me. So, it is possible although that is not something we seek as a regular occurrence at this point in time
This has nothing to do with jealously. Like i said before, if I felt that my partner was the type to prefer another woman over me, then so be it. We prefer to think that he would find the both of us equally appealing
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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It can happen when you meet a lady in a club but it's rare. Everything has to align, everyone has to like each other and want more than just a one off. I found one lovely couple in a hottub where that did indeed happen and it developed from there but not met another couple since whee it felt right. Good luck in your search |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem isn't the lack of single females. It's the lack of couples willing to play separately. I haven't looked at your profile but I'd hazard a guess that you won't play separately either. If more couples played separately there'd be loads of "single" women happy to meet up and form friendships. By refusing to play separately couples play a zero sum game where they undermine their own ability to find what they're looking for "
I can see what you're saying, we've played separately, well my wife mainly, and it's added a lot of fun and flexibility to our swinging, and helped add fantasies we never thought we'd do.
But we don't think it's fair to say couples should meet separately to make things 'easier' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It can happen when you meet a lady in a club but it's rare. Everything has to align, everyone has to like each other and want more than just a one off. I found one lovely couple in a hottub where that did indeed happen and it developed from there but not met another couple since whee it felt right. Good luck in your search "
Thanks; we are trying here but now feel that a fair number of single women are weary of meeting with couples. And I really don't blame them. Some couples do make a single woman feel as if she is a spare tyre or a performing seal; I know because I've been there myself
However, the mutual attraction bit should be more straight-forward than when meeting a couple. She has to like him and he has to like her; she has to like me and I have to like her; my husband and I already like one another, so that bit is sorted
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem isn't the lack of single females. It's the lack of couples willing to play separately. I haven't looked at your profile but I'd hazard a guess that you won't play separately either. If more couples played separately there'd be loads of "single" women happy to meet up and form friendships. By refusing to play separately couples play a zero sum game where they undermine their own ability to find what they're looking for "
It's moving away from the single lady dilemma, but I agree so many fun opportunities present as soon as a couple relax on the 'only play together rule'. It's not like a couple can't tell each other about the sexual encounters. We have relived many a raunchy experience in bed together. Also a compromise can always be, play with different people but at the same party. At least that way everybody gets to have sex with the people they want to have sex with.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can happen when you meet a lady in a club but it's rare. Everything has to align, everyone has to like each other and want more than just a one off. I found one lovely couple in a hottub where that did indeed happen and it developed from there but not met another couple since whee it felt right. Good luck in your search
Thanks; we are trying here but now feel that a fair number of single women are weary of meeting with couples. And I really don't blame them. Some couples do make a single woman feel as if she is a spare tyre or a performing seal; I know because I've been there myself
However, the mutual attraction bit should be more straight-forward than when meeting a couple. She has to like him and he has to like her; she has to like me and I have to like her; my husband and I already like one another, so that bit is sorted
- Mrs. J -"
I feel that's quite difficult to achieve. When I think of all the couples we know I might find one attractive but not the other. If I were a single lady the odds that I would find both attractive are extremely slim. And single people only have to please themselves - no partner to keep happy. So I would imagine a single lady would have sex with the people she fancies.
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"It can happen when you meet a lady in a club but it's rare. Everything has to align, everyone has to like each other and want more than just a one off. I found one lovely couple in a hottub where that did indeed happen and it developed from there but not met another couple since whee it felt right. Good luck in your search
Thanks; we are trying here but now feel that a fair number of single women are weary of meeting with couples. And I really don't blame them. Some couples do make a single woman feel as if she is a spare tyre or a performing seal; I know because I've been there myself
However, the mutual attraction bit should be more straight-forward than when meeting a couple. She has to like him and he has to like her; she has to like me and I have to like her; my husband and I already like one another, so that bit is sorted
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I feel that's quite difficult to achieve. When I think of all the couples we know I might find one attractive but not the other. If I were a single lady the odds that I would find both attractive are extremely slim. And single people only have to please themselves - no partner to keep happy. So I would imagine a single lady would have sex with the people she fancies.
Mrs"
Yes, we have had no luck. We have meet a few women in clubs interested in threesomes but none want to continue outside of a club
Neither one of us is, as yet, ready for swinging separately on a frequent basis. And in any case, that would not achieve our desire for threesomes with another woman
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