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As a couple we've been together for over 10 years and continue to be happy together. We've always watched porn together (occasionally) and been turned on by group scenarios. We like our toys and taking pics of each other too. We both love the thought of taking part in group sex and talk about it often. Our worry is that 'in real life' (which porn plainly isn't) it wouldn't live up to expectations. We'd both like to take the first step but think it might turn out a disappointment. Is it sometimes better left a fantasy. What is your experience and advice please. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
bristol |
Talk it through, set your boundaires and work there.
Its a lot easier to start small and build up to more than to have to much happening and ruin things
Option 1) go with a meet from here....plus sides you can relax more in your own home
Option 2) go to a club and go with no expectations and if you feel comfortable have fun...
Always talk things through, what you liked, disliked and how you would do things to improve...and lastly have fun |
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We've had some fantastuc experiences and some shite ones too. A few experiences have exceeded the fantasy.
They make up for the not so good ones. But have to agree with everyone else, how will YOU know until you give it a go ? |
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over a year ago
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All I'd add is that it may be absolutely wonderful... But in what other field would you expect to do well at something the first time you try it and then give it up if that first time wasn't as good as you thought? As with all things... practice makes perfect and in this case the practice is bloomin great fun   |
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Go to a club, maybe arrange to meet people there with the caveat that you might not swing as its your first time.
Anyone worth playing with will understand, and be happy to chat and answer any questions.
Wander around, see how you feel about watching others.
Maybe you will play, maybe you wont, but at least you will have taken that first step, and next time you might go further... or not.
As with everything, its up to you, dont get drawn into anything you arent sure of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i love clubs and parties - mostly been good but people can have good and bad experiences at the same thing - so it really depends on who the people are you are with |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
We would suggest a club rather than a meet at your house. You would be more comfortable at your house but may feel obliged to play before you are ready.
At a club you can take things at your own pace, you can socialise, watch other people enjoying sex, in many clubs there is a sauna and/or spa where you can get naked and close with others without getting too intimate.
You also have the chance to talk to each other and perhaps one might play with someone else while the other watches and sees if they can cope with the feelings of their partner playing with another man or woman.
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As others have said, you have little to lose by paying a club a visit  look for one that allows you to remain dressed in the play areas if you'd like that and go for an explore.
I'd be surprised if your club experience lived up to your fantasy (it's real life and thus imperfect) but you will probably find that it gives you a whole other perspective to look at
We've been visiting clubs for the past two years and it's only this weekend that we've done something more than just play with each other in open playroom. So if you want to stick to just that, there's certainly nothing to stop you. |
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We went to a club just to be nosey. Turned out we got off on watching and being watched.
Then we started chatting to other people. Turned out they did too.
Turns out when you chat to other people about things that make you horny, you get horny...
Take it from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you've been here over a year and not made that first step, maybe time to think if this is for you or not. As a fantasy in your minds, all well & good, but the reality is very different, so maybe just keep it as a fantasy? X |
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"Talk it through, set your boundaires and work there.
Its a lot easier to start small and build up to more than to have to much happening and ruin things
Option 1) go with a meet from here....plus sides you can relax more in your own home
Option 2) go to a club and go with no expectations and if you feel comfortable have fun...
Always talk things through, what you liked, disliked and how you would do things to improve...and lastly have fun "
This is what I would've suggested 
It's supposed to be a fun journey but like any adventure, planning up front will always massively enhance the experience
Good luck and hope you enjoy it |
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"OP you've been here over a year and not made that first step, maybe time to think if this is for you or not. As a fantasy in your minds, all well & good, but the reality is very different, so maybe just keep it as a fantasy? X"
Or alternatively continue to take it at your own pace.
We were on here for years before acting on it. Technically as a couple we were offered a 3 some at aged 18 and turned it down. Fantasised and watched porn for the next 7 years then decided to give it a go.
There is no rush, it's not going to be like the fantasy but it can be better.
I'd suggest going to a club with a rule of no playing just socialising. You may be tempted but there is always the next week. Or day if it can't wait. Experience it then leave and talk about it. Then decide if you are going to play.
Pick an easy start with lots of couples about to chat to and get some ideas and opinions.
In the end it's only sex. You are not committed to seeing or playing with anyone ever again. |
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"As a couple we've been together for over 10 years and continue to be happy together. We've always watched porn together (occasionally) and been turned on by group scenarios. We like our toys and taking pics of each other too. We both love the thought of taking part in group sex and talk about it often. Our worry is that 'in real life' (which porn plainly isn't) it wouldn't live up to expectations. We'd both like to take the first step but think it might turn out a disappointment. Is it sometimes better left a fantasy. What is your experience and advice please. "
The best advice is not to rush into anything you both need to be sure if its what you want and you are right porn isn't reality. I have met people who its been a lot of fun to take the next step and met others who have soured their relationship so talk a lot and make a joint decision on what you want to do. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
Don't know if you are thinking about stepping into porn or swinging OP. If it's porn - wear loads of make up and dye you hair to an unrecognisable state (if you don't want to neighbours to know). If it's swinging, have a look around, as there's some sweet couples around and some guys that'd turn 6hrs of your evening, into a week long smile. |
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