FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Uncomfortable situations
Uncomfortable situations
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
Sounds a bit weird that OP. Not putting anything on you but are you straight and were his veris bi? I have been meeting for too many years to remember and haven't had any issues. I did have one slight issue with a straight couple where the guy grabbed my cock. For some reason he spat his dummy and it ended quickly. His wife was as annoyed at him but that is the only instance in years of playing. There is supposed to be a difference between MMF and MFM but I haven't paid much attention to it and I think it is only reserved for people who explicitly want to pick up guys that make any bones about it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
This has happened to other men on here too. Sadly there are guys on here pretending to be women or couples. In future I would suggest steps to make sure who you are talking to before a meet. The signs are there once you learn to spot them. Better luck in future OP. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
I'm so sorry that happened Alex. Are you ok? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
Like everyone has basically said, this IS sexual assault and NOT ok. No matter who does it and who they do it to.
The best advice I can think of is to have a social first. Even if it's a quick coffee. Some hotels have bars so that's usually a natural place to meet and flirt before going upstairs!
Hope you get things sorted OP. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Thanks for the advice everyone. It was a very uncomfortable situation. I'm usually quite good at spotting the fakers but he seemed pretty genuine (recent pics of both of them, a woman clearly lived at the house).
I hope I've never come across as pushy and having met this guy, I can see why it's something to be worried about.
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex"
There is still a report button on a profile that has blocked you, you can't see the pic or wording of a block profile but the block and report buttons on the left in blue (full site, menu on the mobile)still work. Alternatively there is a report button on the messages they/he sent you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex
There is still a report button on a profile that has blocked you, you can't see the pic or wording of a block profile but the block and report buttons on the left in blue (full site, menu on the mobile)still work. Alternatively there is a report button on the messages they/he sent you."
Thanks Queen, that worked a treat, I'll feel better if I know there's a chance he won't get to do that to someone else
Alex x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I had a similar situation a while ago, i was pretty much assaulted then blocked. I reported him but they did absolutely nothing, his profile's still going. I felt too stupid to go to the police... "hi i was meeting this complete stranger for sex, and well it didn't quite go as planned..." - I couldn't face it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Thanks for the advice everyone. It was a very uncomfortable situation. I'm usually quite good at spotting the fakers but he seemed pretty genuine (recent pics of both of them, a woman clearly lived at the house).
I hope I've never come across as pushy and having met this guy, I can see why it's something to be worried about.
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex"
Was the profile well verified? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *obyn67Woman
over a year ago
Wonderland |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex
Like everyone has basically said, this IS sexual assault and NOT ok. No matter who does it and who they do it to.
The best advice I can think of is to have a social first. Even if it's a quick coffee. Some hotels have bars so that's usually a natural place to meet and flirt before going upstairs!
Hope you get things sorted OP. "
Very good advice  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's a bit weird isn't it. I guess there is always a risk of that happening at some point or another. But so far I have been lucky with the meets I've had. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So sorry to hear these bad experiences - did you chat on the phone to her first O.P.? Must admit that we always insist on a chat just to make sure they are genuine. Your assault and comment about the Police was awful I would hope they would be more understanding. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
You can use the message report button to tell admin x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex
Like everyone has basically said, this IS sexual assault and NOT ok. No matter who does it and who they do it to.
The best advice I can think of is to have a social first. Even if it's a quick coffee. Some hotels have bars so that's usually a natural place to meet and flirt before going upstairs!
Hope you get things sorted OP. "
OP this is very good advice. A social is really a must for this kind of situation. I hope you are ok. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I had a similar situation a while ago, i was pretty much assaulted then blocked. I reported him but they did absolutely nothing, his profile's still going. I felt too stupid to go to the police... "hi i was meeting this complete stranger for sex, and well it didn't quite go as planned..." - I couldn't face it. "
I think with the latest Grindr murders that attitude may well change. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Thanks for all your positive messages. I've had some great experiences swinging and I'll try not to let this stand in the way of me meeting more friends and having more fun in future. I'll take on board the comments about chatting or having more socials first though
Alex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
Should of chinned him! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If it helps I met someone from Pof a few years back, he was a policeman and pretty attractive so I arranged meet. He was fine until he locked me in his house and proceeded to grope me even after I told him in no uncertain terms not to touch me and that I wanted to go home. It wasn't until I started screaming that he let me go.I regret not reporting the creep. But it happens on dating sites as well as swingers sites |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Thanks for the advice everyone. It was a very uncomfortable situation. I'm usually quite good at spotting the fakers but he seemed pretty genuine (recent pics of both of them, a woman clearly lived at the house).
I hope I've never come across as pushy and having met this guy, I can see why it's something to be worried about.
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex
Was the profile well verified?"
No response from the OP, so I'm guessing that's a no then.
If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.
No veries is a big red flag for us, but doesn't necessarily mean they are fake, it just means we use other methods to check them out. I guess it works, we've never had a "no show" or other problems in over 9 years of swinging. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Thanks for the advice everyone. It was a very uncomfortable situation. I'm usually quite good at spotting the fakers but he seemed pretty genuine (recent pics of both of them, a woman clearly lived at the house).
I hope I've never come across as pushy and having met this guy, I can see why it's something to be worried about.
As for reporting him, as I can't get on the profile due to being blocked, I can't report it through fab. If someone has a way around this I'd be grateful.
Alex
Was the profile well verified?
No response from the OP, so I'm guessing that's a no then.
If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.
No veries is a big red flag for us, but doesn't necessarily mean they are fake, it just means we use other methods to check them out. I guess it works, we've never had a "no show" or other problems in over 9 years of swinging."
The guy in my case had an established profile with decent veris. It's one of the reasons I trusted him enough to meet him. You can take all the precautions but there are always going to be these kind of people about. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
There have been one or two similar reports over the years. There are also bicouples who complain that straight guys pretend to be bi or curious but have no intention of playing with the guy - so a mm starting point can sort some of the wood from the chaff. You may have been just under scrutiny for telling possible lies op or it was the female running late etc |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site! "
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you."
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!! "
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all. "
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback! "
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
This is why it is much safer to arrange first meets at a club.... I wouldn't ever turn up on someone's doorstep or have a stranger to my house - really unsafe! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!! "
But that's not the site's fault. Unsafe people exist on the internet and in real life. Everywhere. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off. "
I'm replying to the threads regarding the experiences I've had from here. I do not appreciate you monitoring me on the forum.
I am certainly not putting anyone off the site, I'm using my own experiences to give constructive responses in the forums, that is allowed here my dear. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off.
I'm replying to the threads regarding the experiences I've had from here. I do not appreciate you monitoring me on the forum.
I am certainly not putting anyone off the site, I'm using my own experiences to give constructive responses in the forums, that is allowed here my dear."
Hah!
Monitoring you? We are replying to he same threads? Is this you striving for attention trying to be right but actually being wrong - because you are wrong here?
How many bad experiences have you had off the site? If you have had so many - why do you keep coming back? If you keep coming back, then it is as I say, only to put people off it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
•+• Access Denied •+• |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off.
I'm replying to the threads regarding the experiences I've had from here. I do not appreciate you monitoring me on the forum.
I am certainly not putting anyone off the site, I'm using my own experiences to give constructive responses in the forums, that is allowed here my dear."
i think i'm worse than you for whinging, i post more than i've seen you posting and i do it more bluntly. i moan a lot about guys on here and the whole attitude of this site (at times) and get how shallow this place is and i question a fair amount of things here also.
i'm not even doing it coz of the site either, not to change it nor put people off, it's just expressing my dissatisfaction at not finding what i want (it's like this most everywhere now) and coz this place has a forums i can do it here mostly.
i've had 2 very negative experiences on here now, and plenty of bullshit from here, but i can handle it so stay. plus i can whinge here also. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off.
I'm replying to the threads regarding the experiences I've had from here. I do not appreciate you monitoring me on the forum.
I am certainly not putting anyone off the site, I'm using my own experiences to give constructive responses in the forums, that is allowed here my dear.
i think i'm worse than you for whinging, i post more than i've seen you posting and i do it more bluntly. i moan a lot about guys on here and the whole attitude of this site (at times) and get how shallow this place is and i question a fair amount of things here also.
i'm not even doing it coz of the site either, not to change it nor put people off, it's just expressing my dissatisfaction at not finding what i want (it's like this most everywhere now) and coz this place has a forums i can do it here mostly.
i've had 2 very negative experiences on here now, and plenty of bullshit from here, but i can handle it so stay. plus i can whinge here also. "
Someone on my side, finally, I don't think I whinge much. I've had very bad experiences from members here and I have my own opinion about things. Did you notice it was a man having a go at me, trying to put me down! I'll post my opinion in a polite way and if he doesn't like it then it's tough luck!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!! "
You said your experience gave you a 'dim view of this site'. Your bad experiences are the fault of the people that frequent this site, not the site itself. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
•+• Access Denied •+• |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
The amount you seem to dislike men and their attitude toward sex, I wonder why you bother having an account at all.
I sometimes wonder that too Mr Cojones (or whatever you call yourself) but hey thanks for the unwanted feedback!
It is an observation of someone consistently posting negative comments about meets and how unattractive meeting is.
Unwanted feedback would be: it seems you have nothing positive to post and are using the site to put people off.
I'm replying to the threads regarding the experiences I've had from here. I do not appreciate you monitoring me on the forum.
I am certainly not putting anyone off the site, I'm using my own experiences to give constructive responses in the forums, that is allowed here my dear.
i think i'm worse than you for whinging, i post more than i've seen you posting and i do it more bluntly. i moan a lot about guys on here and the whole attitude of this site (at times) and get how shallow this place is and i question a fair amount of things here also.
i'm not even doing it coz of the site either, not to change it nor put people off, it's just expressing my dissatisfaction at not finding what i want (it's like this most everywhere now) and coz this place has a forums i can do it here mostly.
i've had 2 very negative experiences on here now, and plenty of bullshit from here, but i can handle it so stay. plus i can whinge here also.
Someone on my side, finally, I don't think I whinge much. I've had very bad experiences from members here and I have my own opinion about things. Did you notice it was a man having a go at me, trying to put me down! I'll post my opinion in a polite way and if he doesn't like it then it's tough luck!!! "
it's good to whinge anyway, it helps you figure out whether your expectations will be met or not. good to get it out of your system too.
i do think men get a lot of flack on here, so in turn could get defensive about this, but invalidating someones own experiences helps nobody either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
You said your experience gave you a 'dim view of this site'. Your bad experiences are the fault of the people that frequent this site, not the site itself."
Yes I have a dim view of the site because of what has happened to me. The members are indirectly 'the site', their actions help form an opinion of the site as a whole. I have noticed on the forums that others have bad experiences too so it's not just me. I do enjoy the forums and I have learnt a lot from them and made some nice friends but I'm not going to justify why I give my opinions on threads. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"Hi,
Today I had the first really bad experience in all the years I've been swinging.
Arrived at an arranged MMF meet and was met by a very very pushy guy on his own, claiming that his partner would be arriving very soon and we should get started.
When I said I'd rather wait until everyone was there, he got very pushy, almost to the point of forcing himself on me.
I managed to get out of there and found that he had blocked me before I could report him to admin.
I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
Alex"
OP I hope you are okay. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
You said your experience gave you a 'dim view of this site'. Your bad experiences are the fault of the people that frequent this site, not the site itself.
Yes I have a dim view of the site because of what has happened to me. The members are indirectly 'the site', their actions help form an opinion of the site as a whole. I have noticed on the forums that others have bad experiences too so it's not just me. I do enjoy the forums and I have learnt a lot from them and made some nice friends but I'm not going to justify why I give my opinions on threads."
So you are looking to put people off the site - You do have as you say "a dim view of it".
If something went bad, the police should have taken action. You are now man bashing and blaming the site for something is that not their responsibility. There is a difference between being constructive on threads and being disruptive your own ends.
Constantly posting about bad meets, bad experiences, men not listening and sex being totally unfulfilling, misses the thousands on this site that do meet and meet well. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"I also had a situation with two men at Christmas, I don't want to go into details but it's given me a dim view of the safety of this site!
Why is this site responsible for your safety? That's up to you.
I did not say the site is responsible for my safety. What I'm saying is there are members of this site who are not safe to be around. Also people have fake veri's, I know that for a fact, people have told me that members they know have given them fake veri's so they can get meets. I have definitely learnt from my bad experience!!!
You said your experience gave you a 'dim view of this site'. Your bad experiences are the fault of the people that frequent this site, not the site itself.
Yes I have a dim view of the site because of what has happened to me. The members are indirectly 'the site', their actions help form an opinion of the site as a whole. I have noticed on the forums that others have bad experiences too so it's not just me. I do enjoy the forums and I have learnt a lot from them and made some nice friends but I'm not going to justify why I give my opinions on threads.
So you are looking to put people off the site - You do have as you say "a dim view of it".
If something went bad, the police should have taken action. You are now man bashing and blaming the site for something is that not their responsibility. There is a difference between being constructive on threads and being disruptive your own ends.
Constantly posting about bad meets, bad experiences, men not listening and sex being totally unfulfilling, misses the thousands on this site that do meet and meet well."
The actions of a minority should not in any way contribute to the opinion of a wider community on a whole - the site can only do so much to prevent such incidents, we are all responsible for our own safety (verifying for ourselves, meeting in public first etc) and for each others by reporting the minority to admin and the police if necessary. I'm sorry if this sounds blunt but were all adults and not children. We know the score (or should if you read the hints and faq page) and can all make our own minds up understanding how to mitigate potential risks - unfortunately these can only be mitigated and not eradicated but if we pull together and report any negatives then slowly the scum (no other word for people that take advantage) will get the message and FO. My piece said |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx"
If you notice I did make clear to OP earlier if he was ok I have also private messaged him too asking after his welfare. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx"
Yeah, that's a great choice of words...
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx"
Hi V
I'm ok and appreciate the support. Nothing from admin as yet. I'm sorry that this thread has turned into a bit of a slanging match, that was never the aim.
Alex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx
Hi V
I'm ok and appreciate the support. Nothing from admin as yet. I'm sorry that this thread has turned into a bit of a slanging match, that was never the aim.
Alex"
You won't hear anything from admin Alex, they do what they do without informing you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
"While a few of you have your own girly handbag squabble the OP was nearly assaulted by someone and came here for a little reassurance.
Hope you're ok and have reported. I also hope admin respond effectively.
V xxx
Hi V
I'm ok and appreciate the support. Nothing from admin as yet. I'm sorry that this thread has turned into a bit of a slanging match, that was never the aim.
Alex"
We have the ability to turn a fucking frolick through a bluebell wood looking at little fluffy lambs cavorting in the fields whilst being accompanied by unicorns farting glitter and prosecco into a slanging match
Glad you're ok. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"
We have the ability to turn a fucking frolick through a bluebell wood looking at little fluffy lambs cavorting in the fields whilst being accompanied by unicorns farting glitter and prosecco into a slanging match
Glad you're ok. "
Wouldn't mind meeting that unicorn. Prosecco  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
"
We have the ability to turn a fucking frolick through a bluebell wood looking at little fluffy lambs cavorting in the fields whilst being accompanied by unicorns farting glitter and prosecco into a slanging match
Glad you're ok.
Wouldn't mind meeting that unicorn. Prosecco "
Read it back and thought I'd have the right arse if I had glitter in my prosecco  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
