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This site really worth it?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

It's hard enough getting a message back, let alone a full meet with someone that you actually find attractive (I know my profile isn't perfect, but my last profile almost was and things were still pretty bad).

There is a certain allure to this site (e.g. Everyone is naked and loves sex). Yet, it's becoming clear to me that it's far easier to get laid through Tinder. It's like a quest to Mordor trying to meet someone here.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys?

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Certainly has

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hell yes for us we been on and off this site for years now and have meet loads off great people on here xx

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Although I appreciate I'm not a man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haha well I know it's worth it for single women and couples

As a single male though...

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan over a year ago

Northants

Nah, it's rubbish!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

York isn't the best place for swinging singles, due to the huge proportion of couples compared to single men and women.

However there are two socials and a Fab Pub Crawl in York for you to visit and get to know the York swinging population. Maybe consider being proactive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a huge difference between getting laid and swinging... Hence why tinder exists and Fab amongst plenty of others... The swinging world is bigger than quick meets (though they can be fun)so embrace it and you'll learn a lot..you just need to be patient and get involved, if you get some great sex along the way then it's a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How do you get so much success? Ha

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me "

That does happen but I assure you most of us going to the socials are, well, sociable. And as most of the single blokes flake at the last minute you could be on to a winner.

If you keep an eye out for the Fab Pub Crawl is hosted by Threelegs, who is amazingly friendly and great at getting people chatting. A smaller, more personal social maybe.

On the other hand, if you are having so much success on Tinder, maybe Fab is not for you. This is more of a lifestyle site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think if I went to one of these events I'd prefer to go with someone I've already met through here - although that's not proving easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'll keep an eye out for it though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I think if I went to one of these events I'd prefer to go with someone I've already met through here - although that's not proving easy"

I go to socials alone.

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By *inchyorksMan over a year ago

huddersfield

Its well worth it, had some great fun and made some great friends along the way, thumbs from me for fab!! lol

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me

That does happen but I assure you most of us going to the socials are, well, sociable. And as most of the single blokes flake at the last minute you could be on to a winner.

If you keep an eye out for the Fab Pub Crawl is hosted by Threelegs, who is amazingly friendly and great at getting people chatting. A smaller, more personal social maybe.

On the other hand, if you are having so much success on Tinder, maybe Fab is not for you. This is more of a lifestyle site."

Ive no experience of Tinder but this one has been very rewarding so I would recommend persevering with it for a little longer.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I think if I went to one of these events I'd prefer to go with someone I've already met through here - although that's not proving easy "

with the greatest of respect... why?

if you are adult enough to be here, then surely you are adult enough to chat to people on a social setting.....

just because its a site about sex, doesn't mean you have to talk sex... in fact at socials it makes you a more rounded person if you dont.....

so how do you think other single blokes coped? being proactive and talking to people is one of the ways you can stand out.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attractive couples and attractive single women do ok, everyone else is in for a very long wait, if ever......funny that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've found it's not just about the meeting on here. Some great people on here too

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me

That does happen but I assure you most of us going to the socials are, well, sociable. And as most of the single blokes flake at the last minute you could be on to a winner.

If you keep an eye out for the Fab Pub Crawl is hosted by Threelegs, who is amazingly friendly and great at getting people chatting. A smaller, more personal social maybe.

On the other hand, if you are having so much success on Tinder, maybe Fab is not for you. This is more of a lifestyle site.

Ive no experience of Tinder but this one has been very rewarding so I would recommend persevering with it for a little longer."

Yep. I was a member of three other sites when I joined Fab. I have since left all of them, because Fab has been the most successful.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I think if I went to one of these events I'd prefer to go with someone I've already met through here - although that's not proving easy

with the greatest of respect... why?

if you are adult enough to be here, then surely you are adult enough to chat to people on a social setting.....

just because its a site about sex, doesn't mean you have to talk sex... in fact at socials it makes you a more rounded person if you dont.....

so how do you think other single blokes coped? being proactive and talking to people is one of the ways you can stand out....."

You've been to the York social on your own. Were we scary?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave. "

Sounds absolutely right

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well mainly because I have an anxiety in groups. I tend not to turn up to any social event without a partner (just a preference)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's nothing a bit of alcohol can't fix (if that's your thing).

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

You've been to the York social on your own. Were we scary?"

very.... but i'm an equal oppotunity gobshite and i'll chat to anyone..... at the bar, in the smoking areas, i'll just plonk my arse on a seat and if you are within 10ft you are fair game for a natter!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haha. Alcohol doesn't tend to give me courage. It either just makes me horny, or more often, sleepy

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Well mainly because I have an anxiety in groups. I tend not to turn up to any social event without a partner (just a preference) "

so what is the difference going to an social with someone you don't know... to talk to people you don't know.....

and going to something alone..to talk to people you don't know...

see... if groups are an issue, i get that... and it may mean that socials are not your thing and thats an avenue you close off....

but the "handholder" thing i will never understand.... how would you cope if handholder wandered off? it feels like for most people who say what you say is that you are a single bloke who doesn't want to be seen as a single bloke....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's just a preference. It's fine once I'm there, I just prefer to turn up with someone else and have someone there that I know I'll get on with if all else fails

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i've had lots of meets, not really been worth it though. i like regular sex and nobody offers me that on here hardly, like 1 friggin guy out of thousands.

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

If you were closer I'd definitely have looked at meeting you ya lil fitty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Awh. If I'm ever in 'filthy fuckeryville' I'll let you know

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It's just a preference. It's fine once I'm there, I just prefer to turn up with someone else and have someone there that I know I'll get on with if all else fails "

see... that almost sounds like you want some sort of guarentee

swinging is anything but that.....

for a lot of people its as much as social thing as it is a sex thing (and thats the difference from tinder!)

if you need someone "handholding" to be social... that raises all sorts of issues... and i would say in all honesty socials are probably not for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

As I said, it's just a preference. I don't to be 'handheld', I just feel more comfortable with someone by my side when entering large groups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you was closer you would change your mind - jo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The site has been worth it to us. We have a great time. Although i used to use another site far more and had lots more meets on there. Nowadays we get as many meets as we want when we have free time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"if you was closer you would change your mind - jo"

I'm sure I would

I think York just isn't the best, as someone said before

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

It's been amazing for me, and then men who've met me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you was closer you would change your mind - jo

I'm sure I would

I think York just isn't the best, as someone said before "

get traveling

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"if you was closer you would change your mind - jo

I'm sure I would

I think York just isn't the best, as someone said before

get traveling

80 miles is a bit too far for me atm I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes..... but what do you mean by "worth it"? It's a free site after all!

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet. "

Time spent perfecting the profile would be time well spent, though yours already reads well....maybe a few more photos might help.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a personal point of view,if a guy goes to a social on his own it shows confidence and can be a turn on,most people in a group social will talk to you,maybe not sex,as someone else mentioned there is never garauntee of sex in swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

Time spent perfecting the profile would be time well spent, though yours already reads well....maybe a few more photos might help."

Thanks! I know I need more photos, I just haven't had the will lately to try and take some

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"From a personal point of view,if a guy goes to a social on his own it shows confidence and can be a turn on,most people in a group social will talk to you,maybe not sex,as someone else mentioned there is never garauntee of sex in swinging."

Yeah. I'll maybe attend the next one when it rolls around

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By *egs11ABCWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Nah, it's rubbish!"

Going by ur verifications I take it that's sarcasm!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet. "

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Thing is, with here you can be totally honest. The longer you stick around the better the chances of finding someone who you'll have a really great meet with. No bullshit, no tricking them into thinking you might be up for a relationship if you're not. You can be yourself and that can only be a good thing. Even if you never get sex from here, I'm sure you can make some great friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been on and off this site (in between relationships). I've seen it change over the years. I've had some good times on here and met great people. However have to admit its a lot harder for single men now. I prefer getting out to clubs/socials now if i can

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thing is, with here you can be totally honest. The longer you stick around the better the chances of finding someone who you'll have a really great meet with. No bullshit, no tricking them into thinking you might be up for a relationship if you're not. You can be yourself and that can only be a good thing. Even if you never get sex from here, I'm sure you can make some great friends."

Yeah that's all true

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think the fact that I haven't had sex in 8 months is making me more eager than I should be

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York "

Ah you don't travel

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

They never do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

I don't know but it's just down the A1

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

I don't know but it's just down the A1

If I had a car I would definitely consider it haha. If I am down that way I'll let you know

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

I don't know but it's just down the A1

If I had a car I would definitely consider it haha. If I am down that way I'll let you know

Virgin Trains stop there on the East Coast mainline. You could be there in less than an hour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me "

I went to the york social and found I had to go up to people and chat, they were friendly but I had to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

I don't know but it's just down the A1

If I had a car I would definitely consider it haha. If I am down that way I'll let you know

Virgin Trains stop there on the East Coast mainline. You could be there in less than an hour.

Haha you trying to set us up? I don't actually meet Kinky-Minx's height preference anyway. Another obstactle I'm noticing a lot on this site compared to others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've considered being proactive (e.g. Going to social events, etc), but I'd end up being the awkward one standing in the corner. Perhaps swinging isn't for me

I went to the york social and found I had to go up to people and chat, they were friendly but I had to make the first move "

Perhaps I'll try out the next one then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys? "

yes

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By *ifted guyMan over a year ago

North side of tyne

I've had my moments but sites getting worse for time wasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys?

yes

What's your secret?

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I've been here a long time now and still really enjoy it.

Met new people, had new experiences along the way and made new friends. Couldn't ask for more really.

It's definitely possible to do that. I'm no Fab legend, but it's been good - and I'm a middle-aged Welsh numpty with hair issues

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Virgin Trains stop there on the East Coast mainline. You could be there in less than an hour.

Haha you trying to set us up? I don't actually meet Kinky-Minx's height preference anyway. Another obstactle I'm noticing a lot on this site compared to others

Wyrd is right about the trains

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I guess is it worth spending day-by-day trying to perfect your profile and arrange a meet.

That is correct, I'll help you with it over coffee

Easily arranged if you're ever in York

Ah you don't travel

It would depend. How far is Grantham from York?

I don't know but it's just down the A1

If I had a car I would definitely consider it haha. If I am down that way I'll let you know

Virgin Trains stop there on the East Coast mainline. You could be there in less than an hour.

Haha you trying to set us up? I don't actually meet Kinky-Minx's height preference anyway. Another obstactle I'm noticing a lot on this site compared to others

maybe she'll waive the height preference. You'll never know unless you ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys?

yes

What's your secret?"

enjoy what does happen and don't mourn what doesn’t. it's just a website, chill, be yourself and have some laughs, sometimes other fun stuff comes of it...if it does, cool, if not, you've lost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys? "

It is worth it. Sure they are a lot of people who will say one thing but do another. So prepare to be let down at least once lol.

Still hang on in there though because this site is full of fabulous people.

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By *alfSmileMan over a year ago

Yate

I know it is easy to say. Relax

I know the success rate for a single guy on this site can feel nil to none.

Be happy in your own skin, Been to plenty of clubs, I just find my corner watch everyone, have a nap. And if I'm lucky there is one person who is good at communicating (Sadly a lot of people are lazy communicators) Sometimes that rare gem can make it worth while

If something happens bonus, if not. Not the end of the world

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By *ucy. AlCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

but i'm an equal oppotunity gobshite and i'll chat to anyone..... at the bar, in the smoking areas, i'll just plonk my arse on a seat and if you are within 10ft you are fair game for a natter!!!

Sounds like my wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had a meet through tinder but do alright on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never had a meet through tinder but do alright on here."

Is tinder a socially acceptable version of fab but disguised as a dating site? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never had a meet through tinder but do alright on here.

Is tinder a socially acceptable version of fab but disguised as a dating site? Lol. "

Basically. If you know how to use it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never had a meet through tinder but do alright on here.

Is tinder a socially acceptable version of fab but disguised as a dating site? Lol. "

The women I've chatted to on Tinder seem pretty vanilla in comparison to here.

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By *un bbw loverMan over a year ago

coventry

"Hello,

Just wondering what other men's experiences have been like with this site.

Has it really been worth it for a lot of you guys? "

you i do agree with you 100% actually getting a reply on here is like getting blood out of a stone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends what you expect to get out of it.. if you're here to fill your boots then you're going to be disappointed because it's not really like that for most.

If you actually talk to people rather than chasing meeting up straight away then it's alright.. yeah, you're not going to be bed hopping but quality over quantity any day!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends what you expect to get out of it.. if you're here to fill your boots then you're going to be disappointed because it's not really like that for most.

If you actually talk to people rather than chasing meeting up straight away then it's alright.. yeah, you're not going to be bed hopping but quality over quantity any day!"

Yep you need above average social skills to get anywhere on here where as you only need to be able to move your finger for tinder.

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

I've had great sexual experiences (and non-sexual experiences!) thanks to this site, and made some good friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Negatives are no response to your message, move on, we are all an acquired taste. Positives are this place is good for banter and I've met some amazing people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

Agree. Those types don't seem to realise the wasted time and emotional damage they do by behaving like that.

People do actively seek a relationship. To lie and deceive a person into bed, then walk all over them, is disgusting.

Then they wonder why they can't find a nice woman when they're ready for a relationship.

Thank goodness I choose to stay single. I don't know how I'd get through it when I feel like dating for real again.

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By *un bbw loverMan over a year ago

coventry

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

hate people who lie fullstop guys/girls men/women etc etc etc could go on n do bit of a comedy sketch there but the bottom line is bullshitters and liars i aint got time for.

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple over a year ago

west midlands

Please take this as friendly advice as that is how it is intended

You've been given a lot of great advice and ideas by people in this thread , but I noticed that you find a problem with every approach

Some people when faced with a brick wall will look for a way to climb it

Others will simply turn around and walk away

Which ones get the meets?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends what you expect to get out of it.. if you're here to fill your boots then you're going to be disappointed because it's not really like that for most.

If you actually talk to people rather than chasing meeting up straight away then it's alright.. yeah, you're not going to be bed hopping but quality over quantity any day!

Yep you need above average social skills to get anywhere on here where as you only need to be able to move your finger for tinder."

Not true. Location is the key. That's the first thing I look for. A man out of my distance range is no good for me. I don't accommodate and as a rule don't do hotels. After location I look to see if attraction is there and hope myself and the guy actually get on!

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

Agree. Those types don't seem to realise the wasted time and emotional damage they do by behaving like that.

People do actively seek a relationship. To lie and deceive a person into bed, then walk all over them, is disgusting.

Then they wonder why they can't find a nice woman when they're ready for a relationship.

Thank goodness I choose to stay single. I don't know how I'd get through it when I feel like dating for real again.

i don't mind dating. i don't believe most guys bullshit though and it's pathetic really.

they talk the talk and think if their actions don't match up to what they say then that's fine and we'll carry on listening to that shit.

i got guys saying they want a relationship with me, then do nothing at all to confirm that. all they want is sex and that's not fucking dating, they think we're stupid as fuck.

just changed my profile as a dedication to those type of guys actually, seeing as they won't fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

Agree. Those types don't seem to realise the wasted time and emotional damage they do by behaving like that.

People do actively seek a relationship. To lie and deceive a person into bed, then walk all over them, is disgusting.

Then they wonder why they can't find a nice woman when they're ready for a relationship.

Thank goodness I choose to stay single. I don't know how I'd get through it when I feel like dating for real again.

i don't mind dating. i don't believe most guys bullshit though and it's pathetic really.

they talk the talk and think if their actions don't match up to what they say then that's fine and we'll carry on listening to that shit.

i got guys saying they want a relationship with me, then do nothing at all to confirm that. all they want is sex and that's not fucking dating, they think we're stupid as fuck.

just changed my profile as a dedication to those type of guys actually, seeing as they won't fuck off."

You sound like a pretty cool lady. When I feel like dating again, I could do with a lady like you as my wing woman. Weed out the charmers ....sorry...bullshitters from the genuine sounding ones lol.

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By *un bbw loverMan over a year ago

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"Dating sites are easier for men. Lie to the women- tell them you want to date, then just fuck them and leave.

Hallelujah.

What silly bastards

Agree. Those types don't seem to realise the wasted time and emotional damage they do by behaving like that.

People do actively seek a relationship. To lie and deceive a person into bed, then walk all over them, is disgusting.

Then they wonder why they can't find a nice woman when they're ready for a relationship.

Thank goodness I choose to stay single. I don't know how I'd get through it when I feel like dating for real again.

believe it or not i know what it is like being lied too by a woman so i do know myself what it is like, you feel like your a lousy lay, like a doormat, and you question yourself alot, yourself esteem is drained the trust that was once there in the opposite sex has been destroyed, thats probably why i have been single for way tooo long cause my confidence has been that badly damaged b4, i would never ever do that to a woman ok we would "fight/argue" and be totally honest with them but i will never ever lie or hurt them at all, women are to be respected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends what you expect to get out of it.. if you're here to fill your boots then you're going to be disappointed because it's not really like that for most.

If you actually talk to people rather than chasing meeting up straight away then it's alright.. yeah, you're not going to be bed hopping but quality over quantity any day!

Yep you need above average social skills to get anywhere on here where as you only need to be able to move your finger for tinder.

I was being flippant, but from a guy's point of view it stands that you do have to be willing/capable of making more of an effort on fab.