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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can imagine how disheartening it is, I deleted 450 unread messages yesterday. I'd recieved them over the space of a few days. I just couldn't reply to them all, and I felt very guilty.
Some of the messages pullled me in to open them- profile pic is a big one, and how you tire your message?
Might be something to think about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome "
Yes it is hard to send no thanks. Sometimes the abuse you get back is just not worth it. No reply is a response. It means they aren't interested. It's clearly stated in the Site FAQ. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree but I think like already has been said, most woman get a ton load of mail every day whereas guys don't, due to the fact most of the site is men I bet.
It does get to the point where you think I'll not bother messaging people anymore sometimes especially when a message is read and deleted, like I say a "sorry not my type" would be nice. But thats how somw folf are unfortunately.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
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Been mentioned hundreds of time.
Do you contact every single junk mail company to say no thanks that comes through your door ?
I bet you don't do you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem with replying "sorry not my type" is that you then often met with a "why not?" and it spirals from there. Some people seem to look to be offended.
As others have said a lack of reply is a clear indication of lack of interest |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners"
Would it make feel better if they read your message before deleting it?
I actually delete messages without reading them too. That's actually inaccurate, it only appears that way if the whole message fits in the summary box...  |
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners"
Many women read a profile before opening a message. Maybe therein lies your problem. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners
Many women read a profile before opening a message. Maybe therein lies your problem. "
In your opinion what would you change or add to my profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome
Yes it is hard to send no thanks. Sometimes the abuse you get back is just not worth it. No reply is a response. It means they aren't interested. It's clearly stated in the Site FAQ."
I thought you like my abuse   |
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners
Many women read a profile before opening a message. Maybe therein lies your problem.
In your opinion what would you change or add to my profile? "
You have a lot going against you, age, inability to accommodate. So you need to concentrate on the good things. Let your personality show through. At the moment it's a series of cliches and screams of 'don't care what you are like, I just want to get my dick wet'. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The problem with replying "sorry not my type" is that you then often met with a "why not?" and it spirals from there. Some people seem to look to be offended.
As others have said a lack of reply is a clear indication of lack of interest "
Or worse, trolled and abuse! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome
Yes it is hard to send no thanks. Sometimes the abuse you get back is just not worth it. No reply is a response. It means they aren't interested. It's clearly stated in the Site FAQ.
I thought you like my abuse "
I don't think I"ve ever said no thanks to you tho.....more like 'fuck...bring it on!' |
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"Totally agree but I think like already has been said, most woman get a ton load of mail every day whereas guys don't, due to the fact most of the site is men I bet.
It does get to the point where you think I'll not bother messaging people anymore sometimes especially when a message is read and deleted, like I say a "sorry not my type" would be nice. But thats how somw folf are unfortunately.
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I think most don't because people use that to try to start a conversation just because you replied, with either abuse or the but why am I not your type. This is why it gets to the point you just don't reply unfair but the reality. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Totally agree but I think like already has been said, most woman get a ton load of mail every day whereas guys don't, due to the fact most of the site is men I bet.
It does get to the point where you think I'll not bother messaging people anymore sometimes especially when a message is read and deleted, like I say a "sorry not my type" would be nice. But thats how somw folf are unfortunately.
I think most don't because people use that to try to start a conversation just because you replied, with either abuse or the but why am I not your type. This is why it gets to the point you just don't reply unfair but the reality."
Also, once you reply, all future filters lose their effect. |
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"Totally agree but I think like already has been said, most woman get a ton load of mail every day whereas guys don't, due to the fact most of the site is men I bet.
It does get to the point where you think I'll not bother messaging people anymore sometimes especially when a message is read and deleted, like I say a "sorry not my type" would be nice. But thats how somw folf are unfortunately.
I think most don't because people use that to try to start a conversation just because you replied, with either abuse or the but why am I not your type. This is why it gets to the point you just don't reply unfair but the reality.
Also, once you reply, all future filters lose their effect."
Yeah that I usually add to my comments thanks |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Totally agree but I think like already has been said, most woman get a ton load of mail every day whereas guys don't, due to the fact most of the site is men I bet.
It does get to the point where you think I'll not bother messaging people anymore sometimes especially when a message is read and deleted, like I say a "sorry not my type" would be nice. But thats how somw folf are unfortunately.
I think most don't because people use that to try to start a conversation just because you replied, with either abuse or the but why am I not your type. This is why it gets to the point you just don't reply unfair but the reality.
Also, once you reply, all future filters lose their effect.
Yeah that I usually add to my comments thanks "
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome "
Doesn't matter what you do mate..Women get soo much mail that even the good guys slip through the net  . But ultimately it's about finding your type of lady and not just messaging who you think looks hot,fit,sexy etc and more who you believe you'd connect with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome
Doesn't matter what you do mate..Women get soo much mail that even the good guys slip through the net . But ultimately it's about finding your type of lady and not just messaging who you think looks hot,fit,sexy etc and more who you believe you'd connect with. "
Thanks, that's pretty sound advice |
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"Having a problem in getting no reply' sit messages from women or couples, yes I understand when sending messages they might be busy, but a simple no thanks is that hard to send is it?
Also if you have and feed back from my profile it's more than welcome
Doesn't matter what you do mate..Women get soo much mail that even the good guys slip through the net . But ultimately it's about finding your type of lady and not just messaging who you think looks hot,fit,sexy etc and more who you believe you'd connect with.
Thanks, that's pretty sound advice "
No worries mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x |
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"The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x "
Who me?  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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Your profile is pretty similar to thousands of others. Try to find a more individual approach.
It's all a bit "I want, I like" too. Doesn't really say what you can do for others.
Your completely right that sending a "no thanks" message is easy. Sending 30 a day every day would be tedious as hell though.
You need to take time and get known as a contributor to the site. Join in, talk b****cks about all sorts of subjects in the forums etc.
Finally, I hate to say it but I'm sure loads of woman see the name "badboy" and run a mile, especially given you're so young. It conjures up images of boy racers, anti-social behaviour etc. Ironically, your replies are decent and suggest someone who is a long way from that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x "
Haha yeah I guess my bio could use a little work, just read your advice on pretty much everything, I'll take it into consideration when rewording my profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x
Who me? "
What ? No silly sausage
Was talking to the OP xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners"
The heading may help? As they show in an inbox you can only see the first line or so.....can't tell if it ends there or goes on for pages. The quality of the message is onlybof use if it is opened. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for the feed back, what would lure you all to read or reply to a message, obviously profile pic is a dead give away but anything else? I'm always polite in messaging and never give one liners
The heading may help? As they show in an inbox you can only see the first line or so.....can't tell if it ends there or goes on for pages. The quality of the message is onlybof use if it is opened."
Any ideas for headings? Even if it's just for a social meet? |
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"The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x
Who me?
What ? No silly sausage
Was talking to the OP xx"
Oh..my bad. As you were. *waves |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bit that stood out to me ...."Im not fussy ..... as I like a little meat in the bone"
You have turned what could be a compliment into a derogatory term !
Right at the bottom of my profile is my own optional profile / site using advice x
Who me?
What ? No silly sausage
Was talking to the OP xx
Oh..my bad. As you were. *waves "
Forgiven - smack  |
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