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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Who says 1 partner is normal..? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Define
1. Happy
2. Normal"
Yes, yes I know....
I mean as Society dictates.
I know which way this is going.
I'm just after individuals opinions, not my question been pulled apart. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
Who says 1 partner is normal..? "
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Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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I'm entirely my normal.
Emotionally I am monogamous. I can only be in love with one person, connected and intimate with one person. But I love the thrill of sex with others and the person I love would have to too.
It's part of what makes me happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you can have a relationship and see other people. It's what you agree. Finding someone who fits you is the key.
I have little availability but I'd like a partner of sorts. I wouldn't care what he did when he wasn't with me. I just wouldn't wanna hear about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a partner significantly younger than me. We met on here 3 years ago. Not swingers. Our relationship is moving apart, 1. for inherent reasons in the relationship ( age difference / want different things ) and 2. Because the feelings of freedom I can have on here, clubs, pubs etc and enjoy my life without a relationship are getting stronger and stronger,
So OP - I know what you are saying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible."
actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Because not all of us fit in the standard 'married with 2.4 kids' mould that society expects. If you have a lifestyle you enjoy & makes you happy, then good for you. I'd rather be different & happy than conform & be miserable
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible.actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense. "
Yeah ive read that too as they would want to concieve with as many men as possible to spread genes to a wider area and increase chances of more successful births we all wouldnt exist if it wasnt for those women doing what they did to ensure our species survived and its still part of us all today. Just nowadays we use birth control and use it mainly for pleasure and call it swinging. |
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible.actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense.
Yeah ive read that too as they would want to concieve with as many men as possible to spread genes to a wider area and increase chances of more successful births we all wouldnt exist if it wasnt for those women doing what they did to ensure our species survived and its still part of us all today. Just nowadays we use birth control and use it mainly for pleasure and call it swinging. "
There's your answer basically. Most people are not monogamous in their predisposition. Some are, most aren't. But our present social norms won't acknowledge this fact because it requires change and most people hate change. |
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"I'm entirely my normal.
Emotionally I am monogamous. I can only be in love with one person, connected and intimate with one person. But I love the thrill of sex with others and the person I love would have to too.
It's part of what makes me happy.
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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because its boring and veriety is the spice of life after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a committed and enriching relationship and one on one we engage sexually and emotionally. But we both also see sex as a physical activity that we can enjoy with others. To me it's just choice, some people like golf, fishing, running etc as a hobby, we like sex |
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible.actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense.
Yeah ive read that too as they would want to concieve with as many men as possible to spread genes to a wider area and increase chances of more successful births we all wouldnt exist if it wasnt for those women doing what they did to ensure our species survived and its still part of us all today. Just nowadays we use birth control and use it mainly for pleasure and call it swinging.
There's your answer basically. Most people are not monogamous in their predisposition. Some are, most aren't. But our present social norms won't acknowledge this fact because it requires change and most people hate change."
Indeed most just cant handle change maybe it will change in another 100 years or so! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Because you're forgetting who judges "normal". There's a lot of evidence to suggest that were not naturally monogamous. There's a great article by The Huffington Post which explains this far better than I could. Google "Is Monogamy Natural for Humans?".
You'll get a much better answer than most in here can give. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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I don't have a relationship to be happy in XXX |
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
I don't have a relationship to be happy in XXX"
Same here xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a committed and enriching relationship and one on one we engage sexually and emotionally. But we both also see sex as a physical activity that we can enjoy with others. To me it's just choice, some people like golf, fishing, running etc as a hobby, we like sex "
I like this answer  |
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I have a committed and enriching relationship and one on one we engage sexually and emotionally. But we both also see sex as a physical activity that we can enjoy with others. To me it's just choice, some people like golf, fishing, running etc as a hobby, we like sex
I like this answer
Perfect answer |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i'm not in a relationship either, i just wanted to enjoy a lot of good sex with people who can give me that.
i've been happy in monogamous relationships, despite always wanting a relationship with 2 guys at once. i guess i find contentment easily? i'm a pretty simple person when it comes to my own wants.
i know, after my experiences throughout my life, that having lots of partners can work for me. but this was before the internet and now it's just that lack of knowing where i stand, and the neglect of those 'partners', means i cannot function in the way they want. and for this reason i just can't seek out lots of partners nor enjoy that. my sex drive is way too high for this stuff.
i'd be happy with someone who has just a high sex drive as me. i don't want breadcrumbs of sex, i want a fulfilling sex life. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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We are a happily married couple who enjoy seeing each other enjoying themselves. Part of that enjoyment comes from having sex with other partners, when one of us has sex with someone else we both enjoy the moment therefore we both get fulfilment from the moment.
The lifestyle suits us so we swing |
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Ive never cheated in a relationship. Never had the urge to sleep with anyone or have any interest in anyone if I'm in a relationship so can't answer the question for you pal. Horses for courses I guess. For me a relationship means two but I appreciate that's not the norm for fabswingers and that's why it's called swinging I guess lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible."
This in a nutshell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a committed and enriching relationship and one on one we engage sexually and emotionally. But we both also see sex as a physical activity that we can enjoy with others. To me it's just choice, some people like golf, fishing, running etc as a hobby, we like sex "
The perfect answer . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible.actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense.
Yeah ive read that too as they would want to concieve with as many men as possible to spread genes to a wider area and increase chances of more successful births we all wouldnt exist if it wasnt for those women doing what they did to ensure our species survived and its still part of us all today. Just nowadays we use birth control and use it mainly for pleasure and call it swinging.
There's your answer basically. Most people are not monogamous in their predisposition. Some are, most aren't. But our present social norms won't acknowledge this fact because it requires change and most people hate change."
And also there is something about fear of unleashing female sexuality, i.e. if we aren't all good little wives waiting at home, society will somehow collapse |
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"I have a committed and enriching relationship and one on one we engage sexually and emotionally. But we both also see sex as a physical activity that we can enjoy with others. To me it's just choice, some people like golf, fishing, running etc as a hobby, we like sex "
I'll this |
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"Id say its true how many women did our stoneage ancestors have? Makes you think? Its only modern society that defines that two people should marry and thats it. But these animal tendancies will always be part of us and some people have less control than others hence why so many cheat or divorce or cant do monogamous relationships full stop.
As some feel need to procreate with others to carry there genes forward in as many places as possible.actually there is a lot of evidence to suggest stone age women had more than one partner too. As made sense.
Yeah ive read that too as they would want to concieve with as many men as possible to spread genes to a wider area and increase chances of more successful births we all wouldnt exist if it wasnt for those women doing what they did to ensure our species survived and its still part of us all today. Just nowadays we use birth control and use it mainly for pleasure and call it swinging.
There's your answer basically. Most people are not monogamous in their predisposition. Some are, most aren't. But our present social norms won't acknowledge this fact because it requires change and most people hate change.
And also there is something about fear of unleashing female sexuality, i.e. if we aren't all good little wives waiting at home, society will somehow collapse"
Be fair, that was a reasonable assumption prior to the availability of birth control. Culture doesn't update that quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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It's predominantly single men. |
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Obvisoly everyone is different in their outlook to life. Just look at the spectrum of different requirements on here. Ranging from those who seek a human sex toy (no kissing, intimacy etc) to those who seek a number of deep connections and everything in between.
But I think their is a cool honesty on here. People being in touch with them self and not societies brain washing. I don't think we are that unique in the human race. Just that we are more accepting of our selfs. It's a great freedom. |
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Speak for yourself, don't lump us all in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say mist people, if they're honest would not lead a monogamous way of life. I find it difficult being a mature male to get partners on this site and I get that, but the one thing I love about this site is I have a platform to ask a strange lady to allow me to have sex with her and indulge my fantasies. Without getting my face slapped as I would if I asked her in Tescos |
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"I'd say mist people, if they're honest would not lead a monogamous way of life. I find it difficult being a mature male to get partners on this site and I get that, but the one thing I love about this site is I have a platform to ask a strange lady to allow me to have sex with her and indulge my fantasies. Without getting my face slapped as I would if I asked her in Tescos "
Asda shoppers are more game |
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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Good question!..as I often ask myself the same thing.
Maybe it's commitment & falling deeply in love that scares us? Or maybe we just want our cake & to eat it!..life is for living after all.
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"I mean why do we have the urge to sleep with others?
I struggle to hold a relationship because I feel I need to sleep with other women all the time.
I know this is a swinging site so predominantly its couples on here, but why are we not happy in normal relationships?
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Well, it seems everyone claims it is because of their nature. But playing Devil's Advocate, some of the time it is going to be because people are damaged - fucked up emotionally, unable, unwilling or simply too terrified to form a deep and fulfilling, no holds barred relationship with just one person.....just sayin'..... |
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