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Kayleigh's Love Story
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you seen this? I saw it on a social media site and I think it's very relevant to not just teenagers and children but also to us. I think as adults we sometimes forget how vulnerable we can be. In particular single men and women who meet alone. I think men in particular maybe take more risks as they find it harder to get meets and so make more concessions? What do you think?
I've found that meeting for a social in public gives me the chance to go with my instinct and if something feels off then I don't meet them again. However, there have still been some that I have perhaps ignored my instinct (because of superficial reasons) and then it's backfired on me when I've gone ahead with a more intimate meet. Even a meet in a club where I had spent hours talking to the person on a previous visit still went wrong when we got into a private room. How do you protect yourself? |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Have you seen this? I saw it on a social media site and I think it's very relevant to not just teenagers and children but also to us. I think as adults we sometimes forget how vulnerable we can be. In particular single men and women who meet alone. I think men in particular maybe take more risks as they find it harder to get meets and so make more concessions? What do you think?
I've found that meeting for a social in public gives me the chance to go with my instinct and if something feels off then I don't meet them again. However, there have still been some that I have perhaps ignored my instinct (because of superficial reasons) and then it's backfired on me when I've gone ahead with a more intimate meet. Even a meet in a club where I had spent hours talking to the person on a previous visit still went wrong when we got into a private room. How do you protect yourself?"
Just had a look. I know there' a big difference between a 40 odd year old guy and a teenage girl but:
I get random friend requests off Facebook all the time. Block and delete. (same as here) I think self esteem has a part to play here. I'm not really looking for tons of friends in life but I'm happy with thew ones I do have. It's not really enough to say blame the parents, we all have a part to play in looking after each other.
I'm still shocked at the amount of grown women that readily give me their number without much chat!  That's why I offer to go on kik initially then WhatsApp after we get more familiar.
When I was younger, I had a bad experience with meeting someone off the net. It was basically inconvenient at the time but it could have turned out much worse.
Even now most of my veris are people who I met in real life first. I have met people from the site but I pass details of the hotel etc with my flatmate and message him to say I'm ok. Just to repeat, I'm a 43 year old average build male and I STILL check in with a friend to keep safe! It's not just petite young ladies who need to exercise caution.
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I watched this after seeing this post and felt sad, scared, and overwhelmingly angry that this happens.
We, as adults, have choices and knowledge. I must admit, I've not always made the right choices in who I meet, but thank god, I've always been safe.
I've met women (as friends only, not as a potential partner) who've told me they told several friends where they would be and when they'd be back.
My own strategy has been to go by endless messaging first, and if there's ANY sign of pushiness, to back off immediately. No meeting under any circumstances.
My kids have met friends online, and luckily only to good results (their father and/or I met with them to make sure). But the potential consequences make me shudder.
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over a year ago
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I just watched the video. Scary stuff. And looking back to when I was single and met men on my own, usually at their place, it seems really silly.
And when I was 18 or so I was really into chatrooms and wud regularly swap numbers with guys, swap sexy texts, luckily picture phones were not all the rage so I never swapped pics etc.
By the grace of whoever watching over me I never had any problems but in today's world it is harder, especially for the young people of today's world.
Now I have my OH with me, usually anyway. A social can be good, and if they turn out to be not what they said u can walk away and forget them, its harder for a young person I think.
So sad for that young girl and her family. I bet if she had confided in her parents they would have steered her in the right direction. After all they were young once too. I hope this video has made an impact on even one person to think before they leap. Dreamcatcher Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you seen this? I saw it on a social media site and I think it's very relevant to not just teenagers and children but also to us. I think as adults we sometimes forget how vulnerable we can be. In particular single men and women who meet alone. I think men in particular maybe take more risks as they find it harder to get meets and so make more concessions? What do you think?
I've found that meeting for a social in public gives me the chance to go with my instinct and if something feels off then I don't meet them again. However, there have still been some that I have perhaps ignored my instinct (because of superficial reasons) and then it's backfired on me when I've gone ahead with a more intimate meet. Even a meet in a club where I had spent hours talking to the person on a previous visit still went wrong when we got into a private room. How do you protect yourself?
Just had a look. I know there' a big difference between a 40 odd year old guy and a teenage girl but:
I get random friend requests off Facebook all the time. Block and delete. (same as here) I think self esteem has a part to play here. I'm not really looking for tons of friends in life but I'm happy with thew ones I do have. It's not really enough to say blame the parents, we all have a part to play in looking after each other.
I'm still shocked at the amount of grown women that readily give me their number without much chat! That's why I offer to go on kik initially then WhatsApp after we get more familiar.
When I was younger, I had a bad experience with meeting someone off the net. It was basically inconvenient at the time but it could have turned out much worse.
Even now most of my veris are people who I met in real life first. I have met people from the site but I pass details of the hotel etc with my flatmate and message him to say I'm ok. Just to repeat, I'm a 43 year old average build male and I STILL check in with a friend to keep safe! It's not just petite young ladies who need to exercise caution.
I do have more to say but maybe someone else should take the floor..."
I think many men in your position don't take such precautions and I think it's great that you do. x |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Have you seen this? I saw it on a social media site and I think it's very relevant to not just teenagers and children but also to us. I think as adults we sometimes forget how vulnerable we can be. In particular single men and women who meet alone. I think men in particular maybe take more risks as they find it harder to get meets and so make more concessions? What do you think?
I've found that meeting for a social in public gives me the chance to go with my instinct and if something feels off then I don't meet them again. However, there have still been some that I have perhaps ignored my instinct (because of superficial reasons) and then it's backfired on me when I've gone ahead with a more intimate meet. Even a meet in a club where I had spent hours talking to the person on a previous visit still went wrong when we got into a private room. How do you protect yourself?
Just had a look. I know there' a big difference between a 40 odd year old guy and a teenage girl but:
I get random friend requests off Facebook all the time. Block and delete. (same as here) I think self esteem has a part to play here. I'm not really looking for tons of friends in life but I'm happy with thew ones I do have. It's not really enough to say blame the parents, we all have a part to play in looking after each other.
I'm still shocked at the amount of grown women that readily give me their number without much chat! That's why I offer to go on kik initially then WhatsApp after we get more familiar.
When I was younger, I had a bad experience with meeting someone off the net. It was basically inconvenient at the time but it could have turned out much worse.
Even now most of my veris are people who I met in real life first. I have met people from the site but I pass details of the hotel etc with my flatmate and message him to say I'm ok. Just to repeat, I'm a 43 year old average build male and I STILL check in with a friend to keep safe! It's not just petite young ladies who need to exercise caution.
I do have more to say but maybe someone else should take the floor...
I think many men in your position don't take such precautions and I think it's great that you do. x"
Just older and wiser basically. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just watched this. So very sad. Totally heartbreaking. However, if one person watches it and changes the way they or other's around them behave online some good could come from Kayleigh's Love Story.
In reference to how to behave when meeting via a site like FAB. I admit to being a little naive in the past (a lot younger then). These days I tend to only meet in clubs or meet men I have met on a few occasions before outside of a club environment. I do use KIK and recently was so glad I switched to this as a platform for messaging rather than whatsapp, as a guy I was intending to meet got very pushy, making me feel very uncomfortable to swap pics and tfll me different scenarios of what hed like to do to me etc so I could just block and not worry about him again.
You are in a vulnerable position as a single woman or man... I guess you just have to be aware of the risks and look out for yourself. The second anyone makes me feel uncomfortable I block them. And if i ever did meet someone for the first time out of a club then it would be in a social place and I would have told some friends about it. |
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