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What's wrong with me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most pics on your profile are of your bell end (though you at least have others which are half decent, having that many needless extra shots of your cock will make a lot of women think that you are one) profile text isn't informative or seductive enough and personally to me at least your username suggests a submissive lad who is probably gay. |
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"Most pics on your profile are of your bell end (though you at least have others which are half decent, having that many needless extra shots of your cock will make a lot of women think that you are one) profile text isn't informative or seductive enough and personally to me at least your username suggests a submissive lad who is probably gay."
I thought that, but his profile says he wants to meet just women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most pics on your profile are of your bell end (though you at least have others which are half decent, having that many needless extra shots of your cock will make a lot of women think that you are one) profile text isn't informative or seductive enough and personally to me at least your username suggests a submissive lad who is probably gay.
I thought that, but his profile says he wants to meet just women "
Once the profile is looked at it becomes quickly apparent. I saw this as I looked through as if he was gay then his username might not be such a bad thing.
However, given that women/couples have less time to get each first impression from the message they open, due to the volume they have to check through, they may either dismiss it out of hand without checking or dismiss it because it sparks off in their minds the wrong kind of attributes that they don't find desirable.
YOUR username on the other hand is highly appropriate Madam.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have just changed my username because of this lol nevermind I have also added abit of text to my profile.just because I like to sub dosent mean am gay tho I very much like to be in control Aswell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Getting better mate. Username improvement, ditto profile text. Though over half your pics are still of your tadge.
Personally I'd go for a ratio of weekdays/weekends of the week as the absolute max, so two of the offending shots would get the boot at least. The oldest one and the most recent would be deleted if we're being exact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah as said above I have deleted a few what pictures would you suggest? "
Some nice pics of well dressed. Put a bit of class to it. Cock pics put in freinds only.
Get rid of the (sorry) silly angles ones.
Put a bit more content in about you as well. We dont have public pics but we get and have a few freinds snd chats.
Hope that helps. From our point of view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much better mate.
Stick a few other non cock pics in there to thin them out further. One from the back or side as women are very interested in a chaps backside as well as his torso. Then a few more standard torso pics in a variety of poses. |
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A status with 'anyone' or anything written in a profile/meet request with that eord in is off putting...
Besides that, youve been here two weeks! If youve still a problem in a years' time...then start wondering why!
Patience! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its great to see the Op has taken advice.. for me the Op is a tad to young for me. But is showing he is prepared to work on his profile so Brownie points there.
Op there are lots of big orgsnised socials and events near you on a monthly basis and quest that seems to treat single guys well. Id suggest keeping a look out in the forums for the socials as they really are a fantastic way to meet people.
Good luck. |
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Been on here 2 weeks, sorry if you had great expectations but this isn't Instashag! Some single guys are on here 2 years without a meet, there is a massive single guy ratio on here so you need to be patient. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're saying 'whats wrong with me?'. If you were to walk into a bar with 200 men and about half a dozen women and competed with those 200 men to get one of those women to chat to you, would you feel something was wrong with you if those women chose to chat to one of the other many men? That's what it's like on a Fab, hundreds of men and a handful of women. 
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh I can't seem to get anyone to chat what is wrong with me lol please help
You're a straight male. We don't get a look in unfortunately "
Seems to be the case on here mate. |
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I wonder if I counted up, just how many single guys from Fab I've chatted to over the years, have been invited to play, they've agreed and then cried off or just not turned up.
I'd hazard a guess at close to 50.
There is an incorrect negative perception about single guys. Don't buy into it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I give up.
I'm posting bollocks. 
why should you be any different from anyone else on here  "
Yeah but two attempts and it still made no sense.
I'm off to finish my vodka now.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tbh I can't seem to get anyone to chat what is wrong with me lol please help can't see anything wrong. Maybe,it's just going to take time for ppl to notice. You avnt been here long either "
Thanks and yeah am waiting patiently |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its great to see the Op has taken advice.. for me the Op is a tad to young for me. But is showing he is prepared to work on his profile so Brownie points there.
Op there are lots of big orgsnised socials and events near you on a monthly basis and quest that seems to treat single guys well. Id suggest keeping a look out in the forums for the socials as they really are a fantastic way to meet people.
Good luck. "
Thank you and thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't see it pre update dude, but it's a nice friendly profile, you could lose a dick pic and even make them both friends only, leave a little to the imagination.
I don't know what your opening gambit is, but my advice is just be friendly, open and chatty. From what you've put on your profile you seem decent and nice. The thing with fab is it works best when you check your ego at the door and remember that you're still speaking to people who have their wants and do it their way. Finding like minded people takes time, you can't just stop a stranger on the street and expect to hit it off with them, the same goes here.
Get involved on the forums, like you have here, and chat and laugh with people, we all know why we're here so build rapport with people in a more open environment, you'll soon find some people you'll get on with.
Well, that's my 50p worth, good luck and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I didn't see it pre update dude, but it's a nice friendly profile, you could lose a dick pic and even make them both friends only, leave a little to the imagination.
I don't know what your opening gambit is, but my advice is just be friendly, open and chatty. From what you've put on your profile you seem decent and nice. The thing with fab is it works best when you check your ego at the door and remember that you're still speaking to people who have their wants and do it their way. Finding like minded people takes time, you can't just stop a stranger on the street and expect to hit it off with them, the same goes here.
Get involved on the forums, like you have here, and chat and laugh with people, we all know why we're here so build rapport with people in a more open environment, you'll soon find some people you'll get on with.
Well, that's my 50p worth, good luck and have fun."
Your 50p worth will go along way thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look at other guys profiles, find the ones that have a few veris and look at their text and pictures . If it's working for them........
Also look at the hot pics guys section for the same reason as above, think outside the box, don't just send 'hello' how are you messages, be creative ! I used to send messages to ladies saying 'sorry I'm not meeting for the foreseeable future but when I'm back you can contact me and we can see how it works out' i almost always got a reply and ended chatting with them. You got to be different to all the other guys on here.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Look at other guys profiles, find the ones that have a few veris and look at their text and pictures . If it's working for them........
Also look at the hot pics guys section for the same reason as above, think outside the box, don't just send 'hello' how are you messages, be creative ! I used to send messages to ladies saying 'sorry I'm not meeting for the
foreseeable future but when I'm back you can contact me and we can see how it works out' i almost always got a reply and ended chatting with them. You got to be different to all the other guys on here. "
Thanks man I'll take this on board |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With all due respect, those pictures turn my stomach. And I'm someone who is no stranger to the swing scene. They're the kind of pictures that are more likely to attract a man than a woman.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also don't forget there are between 15/20:1 ratio of men to women. I believe it's higher as there appears to be a massive influx of fake female accounts scamming for pictures.
Therefore even the most unfortunate dropped pie faced lady will develop a sense of greatness.
Fab owners run other similar sites older than this - and it has the same themes, ratios and complainants.
Look at it like this... 20 guys with 20 worms looking to bury them in anything will tell said girl literally anything to bury said worm.
They will alter their personalities, political views literally anything to free the worm.
So don't take it personal this sites a game. Learn to play it you'll be fine.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing about lying is that the majority of men aren't much good at it. Including myself in that number, I'd be shit under an interrogation or in a game of poker.
Bearing that in mind if you're simply honest with your potential meets and tell them what you find appealing about them it will be obvious you are being so, compared to a lot of the bullshitters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh I can't seem to get anyone to chat what is wrong with me lol please help "
Don't worry. We get a message, reply and silence. Or you can chat, then silence.
We've sent messages and heard nothing.
There's a saying, "There's nothing as queer as folk" and these types of site attract them by the thousands. |
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