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Timewaster A Grade.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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72 texts, 15 or so phone calls, genuinely felt we were pals, all tastes fit, 5 meets cancelled for seemingly good reasons, last one re-made for today from Monday......and guess what....radio silence.
Profile hidden, but veri total visible, last veri from Monday when she was supposed to be busy on an errand, calls go to voicemail, texts not answered.
Yes things can change but I really thought she would have had the manners to let me know.
Strung along again (much the same thing happened last year). Honestly a bit upset and feel I'm not a very good judge of character. Very close to ditching the whole fucking Fab thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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72 texts, 15 or so phone calls, genuinely felt we were pals, all tastes fit, 5 meets cancelled for seemingly good reasons, last one re-made for today from Monday......and guess what....radio silence.
Profile hidden, but veri total visible, last veri from Monday when she was supposed to be busy on an errand, calls go to voicemail, texts not answered.
Yes things can change but I really thought she would have had the manners to let me know.
Strung along again (much the same thing happened last year). Honestly a bit upset and feel I'm not a very good judge of character. Very close to ditching the whole fucking Fab thing.
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just ditch her instead...block and move on |
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That is just plain and simply RUDE and to have the audacity to display a verification,from someone else on the day in question beggars belief..
Report block and move on..
You deserve much better op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a profile is hidden, how can you see their veris?"
You just can - the veri total not individual ones.
Still totally fuming. She struck me as quite grown-up and confident and quite able to say "Sorry things have changed".
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"5 meets cancelled?
Bit of a gluten for punishment OP .
Forget them chalk it down to experience and move onwards.
Hope things improve for you "
Each cancelled for a seemingly very good reason. Real life gets in the way and I always understand that. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
Oh dear OP. I feel your pain as I have had similar situations. Unfortunately you have no choice but to just move on. Some you win others you lose.
Don't give up though. Honest there are more good than bad out there.
Just a thought though. I had a verification one time from a guy I met a couple of months prior pop up. I hadn't recently met him. He just decided to write me one months after.
Could it possibly be that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you were just back up to me, sweet! "
Agree we think a lot arrange to meet a few then let some down if there is still a possible meet we think this stinks our plan b is always a club which these days may as be plan a |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on me
Fool me three times and you can kiss my arse
That's my motto. Sorry to hear you feel so bad but 72 texts and she ms cancelled 5 times? Was she a super model or something??!!
Use the block button |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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5 times? Blimey you had some faith in her didn't you?
Twice is my limit for cancellations, after that I don't make arrangements. Twice is fair.
Unlucky my man, you picked a bad one. Chin up buddy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you were just back up to me, sweet! "
Eh? No comprende! Do explain...
Thanks guys, it's not even worth using the block button. Chin is up - just extra annoying in that she did press every button....onwards! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you were just back up to me, sweet!
Eh? No comprende! Do explain...
Thanks guys, it's not even worth using the block button. Chin is up - just extra annoying in that she did press every button....onwards!"
I would think that I was just a back up, incase another...possibly more preferable playmate cancelled on me |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i've found loads of guys are ok with being a back up and suggest that themselves.
if she is doing that she should let you know. like not arrange a meet with you and say she's got a meet already, then you could offer to turn up if he didn't. that's what loads of my meets do and guys i've not met even. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"5 meets cancelled?
Bit of a gluten for punishment OP .
Forget them chalk it down to experience and move onwards.
Hope things improve for you
Each cancelled for a seemingly very good reason. Real life gets in the way and I always understand that."
The only thing we would understand be 5 cancellations is, at best, extremely bad organisation. If someone's life is so complex that they can't organise their diary such that they don't mess people about, they're not people that we feel able to deal with.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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5 cancelled meets? Have some dignity mate.
Any arranged meet gets one cancellation allowed, due to life sometimes being a bitch. Second cancellation means they don't want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Each time the excuse seemed pretty good...disease and disaster backed up by a phone call.
I generally try to give the benefit of the doubt. Wrong call this time. Won't make the same mistake again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone cancels twice it means they can't sort their lives out or meeting you is low on their priorities. You don't need that grief. Block and move on as had been said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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72 texts, 15 or so phone calls, genuinely felt we were pals, all tastes fit, 5 meets cancelled for seemingly good reasons, last one re-made for today from Monday......and guess what....radio silence.
Profile hidden, but veri total visible, last veri from Monday when she was supposed to be busy on an errand, calls go to voicemail, texts not answered.
Yes things can change but I really thought she would have had the manners to let me know.
Strung along again (much the same thing happened last year). Honestly a bit upset and feel I'm not a very good judge of character. Very close to ditching the whole fucking Fab thing.
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"That is just plain and simply RUDE and to have the audacity to display a verification,from someone else on the day in question beggars belief..
Report block and move on..
You deserve much better op"
Yes indeed |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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As someone who has an often hectic life, and times when I hide my profile because I can't be arsed.... I can understand 5 cancellations. But I think the lack of contact and verification which would lead you to think it was from that same day... well that probably stacks up to her not wanting to meet.
It's double rubbish if you have already established a connection, even if only by text.
Better luck next time.
Vx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do a three strikes your out policy.
As for the veris I have had people's weeks later writing veris.
Hate time wasters. Pic collectors. Wierdos and perves but unfortunately there are plenty of them on here.
Chin up move on
Plenty more on here that are genuine and would like meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each time the excuse seemed pretty good...disease and disaster backed up by a phone call.
I generally try to give the benefit of the doubt. Wrong call this time. Won't make the same mistake again.
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Even if the excuses were genuine, its very tiresome to get involved with people who's lives are so complicated that they constantly have cause to change arrangements. We find it's best to tell these super busy people that we're not going anywhere, so get back in touch when their life settles down and they are able to commit to an arrangement.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Albert Einstein
And he was a relatively smart guy "
I saw what you did there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Name and Shamevthe bitch!
( I know,I know... that's against the rules) "
NO CHANCE. And remember some disaster may have overtaken her.....probably not, mind you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you were just back up to me, sweet! "
OP ... just had something similar happen on Monday. Radio silence all weekend too. Messaged a few times on kik and here to check all ok... I got a reply on Monday morning saying sorry didn't see your messages, I was on school run. I asked her if she was dropping them off in another country as it's been 3 days. Her reply was..... sorry and then nothing more.
Unfortunately we have a few common acquaintances. ..was told she was meeting someone else by a friend. Fab can be a small world. She's lost 2 other friends as a result and i then got an abusive message saying why did I contact her friend.
Unfortunately these are the worst ones and makes all the recipient's more skeptical.
lots more of multiple options being organised than we're led to believe. Reporting doesn't do much on here either unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Name and Shamevthe bitch!
( I know,I know... that's against the rules)
NO CHANCE. And remember some disaster may have overtaken her.....probably not, mind you."
Maybe you had a lucky escape as was quoted to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do a three strikes your out policy.
As for the veris I have had people's weeks later writing veris.
Hate time wasters. Pic collectors. Wierdos and perves but unfortunately there are plenty of them on here.
Chin up move on
Plenty more on here that are genuine and would like meets. "
Some people do veris as a means of communication...."look, I am writing nice things about you. I have been having a dry spell, fancy a 'Down memory lane' shag?? |
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