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Best places for initial introductions
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What has worked for you guys? are meetings over coffee too uncomfortable, should drinks be involved to at least some extent to lessen the inhibitions? Would group activities such as wall climbing or jail break work to bring everyone closer or is this a total no go. First timers here and really would like to learn on the mistakes of others))) please share if something worked really well for you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet/drink/play stop faffing about, if you don't jump in, you never will, you'll just be more nervous if you meet in a unsexy environment like a pub, so dim the lights, put out some candles, nice music, sexy dress with nice underwear, a little bit to drink and you'll be in the mood, nerves are part of the fun |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Meet/drink/play stop faffing about, if you don't jump in, you never will, you'll just be more nervous if you meet in a unsexy environment like a pub, so dim the lights, put out some candles, nice music, sexy dress with nice underwear, a little bit to drink and you'll be in the mood, nerves are part of the fun"
What, for an initial introduction? Fuck that. I want to meet somewhere mutual over coffee or a cold drink if I get the feeling I might not want hang around!  |
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"Meet/drink/play stop faffing about, if you don't jump in, you never will, you'll just be more nervous if you meet in a unsexy environment like a pub, so dim the lights, put out some candles, nice music, sexy dress with nice underwear, a little bit to drink and you'll be in the mood, nerves are part of the fun
What, for an initial introduction? Fuck that. I want to meet somewhere mutual over coffee or a cold drink if I get the feeling I might not want hang around! "
Nah don't do social only meets feels so cold & calculating to us, best a social with a view to play, as if you all want to ravish each other you can  10 mins and you know if you click interpersonally but doesn't mean you click sexually so if we click interpersonally and fancy them we get on and play if that goes well build from there, if not, not much time wasted...
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As this thread already shows, vanilla socials for singles and non-vanilla for couples. What makes socials so horrible and awkward revolves entirely around that question "do they or don't they like me?". Singles can convey that quite easily over a coffee. But you need to be more obvious with couples. To dissipate the tension it's best to figure out, asap, if you and your partner would like to play with them and, if so, make a move and really start flirting. As nerve-wracking as that sounds, you'll find it clears the air immediately and everything gets all bubbly and fun. You needn't rush off to play. The flirting and anticipation may be all part of the fun for you, as it is for us. The only thing you can do with bad socials is cut your losses and run, again asap.
For these purposes we're happy to meet singles wherever they feel most comfortable but no longer do vanilla socials with couples, insisting instead that we approach it as an evening date out at a bar as the results is like night and day. Hope this helps xx |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Some people meet at swinging clubs as well. Not sure what it's like for places like that round your way.
We do meet in clubs but there is none round our way so have to travel"
There's quite a lot round here so i'm lucky if i wanted to meet that way. I don't yet coz i'm unsure whether the guy would take it as a social or guaranteed sex. |
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