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would you chat/meet a profile that has no verifications
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Would love to know people's thoughts on this as I try my best to understand it from somebody's point of when they first join, however in my very short period of time here no verifications usually means fake or something isn't quiet right ! But we all start somewhere right ? |
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Verifications do not prove if someone on here is genuine or not .I had an awful blackmailer on here and he had 5 verifications .I've had several no shows with verifications .I've met lovely people who had none .its all about using your own judgement |
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"That was my outlook and thought about myself when I first joined !! But i find it much harder work !!yes its not easy .you will learn how to get a feel for things on here .it takes time "
you've only been on here 6 weeks .I've been on and off 8 years .its still not easy .you just have to persevere
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im a fast learner and I think you learn more about this place every day ! Going with your gut instinct is all you can do in my opinion but it's let me down on here quiet a few times in my short spell here |
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"im a fast learner and I think you learn more about this place every day ! Going with your gut instinct is all you can do in my opinion but it's let me down on here quiet a few times in my short spell here "
.I still get some things wrong don't worry about it just try and enjoy .good luck xx
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Yes .
Verications means sod all only that they exist.
You can check yourself on cam if someones actually real and the sex and age and size they say they are.
The rest is worthless in my opinion. |
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I do get both points especially going on cam to verify each other and you can see if the conversation flows, I know a lot dont entertain anyone without verifications usually couples or single fems from my short experience |
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"Yes .
Verications means sod all only that they exist.
You can check yourself on cam if someones actually real and the sex and age and size they say they are.
The rest is worthless in my opinion."
Well, they don't mean sod all. They show that the other person has actually met other verified people e.g turned up to a meet or gone to a club. Not just on online talker.
They aren't foolproof, but they are very useful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes I would
we were all new once and we all have to start somewhere..
I never look at verifications anyway, I like to make my own mind up about someone rather than be told by a complete stranger 
as for no pics on the profile, I would hope that they did have pics in private..as its not blind date is it  |
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See that's my thoughts I do like to give people a chance as I remember when I was new ( not long ago at all ) but I think the longer your on here and the amount of new people I've seen come and go that aren't verified I do get why people just avoid them but I also think I wonder if we let some real gems pass us by |
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"See that's my thoughts I do like to give people a chance as I remember when I was new ( not long ago at all ) but I think the longer your on here and the amount of new people I've seen come and go that aren't verified I do get why people just avoid them but I also think I wonder if we let some real gems pass us by "
go in the chat rooms xx |
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"See that's my thoughts I do like to give people a chance as I remember when I was new ( not long ago at all ) but I think the longer your on here and the amount of new people I've seen come and go that aren't verified I do get why people just avoid them but I also think I wonder if we let some real gems pass us by "
go in the chat rooms xx |
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"See that's my thoughts I do like to give people a chance as I remember when I was new ( not long ago at all ) but I think the longer your on here and the amount of new people I've seen come and go that aren't verified I do get why people just avoid them but I also think I wonder if we let some real gems pass us by go in the chat rooms xx"
I had more views in one night than the whole time been here, due to using webcam and chat. Ive had mishaps especially when first exploring this site, but im literally getting into the swing of things. |
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over a year ago
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We would gladly chat to anyone even if they dont have a face pic and verifications.
When the "have you got any pics?" Question comes we explain we only send to people that are verified and ask them to at least get photo verified first.
9 out of 10 times they stop messaging us then a few days later the profile shows as unlos.
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Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better.  |
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"Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better. "
stick at it , get verified then look out for our social  |
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"Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better. stick at it , get verified then look out for our social "
I'm verified  but I was difficult to start with but I just stuck at being myself and gave it time. It's why I've been a bit more thoughtful when speaking to unverified profiles however I understand why it was hard because more experienced profiles have obviously encountered a lot of fakes and time wasters and I'm slowly turning that way !
But hearing from you guys I'm not sure that's the right outlook to have |
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"Oh no lol I hate having my time wasted there's nothing worse.
Sounds like the guy I met was a lucky guy 
I wouldn't meet someone with no verifications btw
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I think it's very different as a single guy !
Even though I'm verified I still find it hard to chat and meet as I'm not into quick one off fucks and people seem to expect that from me |
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"Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better. stick at it , get verified then look out for our social
I'm verified but I was difficult to start with but I just stuck at being myself and gave it time. It's why I've been a bit more thoughtful when speaking to unverified profiles however I understand why it was hard because more experienced profiles have obviously encountered a lot of fakes and time wasters and I'm slowly turning that way !
But hearing from you guys I'm not sure that's the right outlook to have "
Socials usally like to see your verifications as single men are limited and we don't want to give a place to someone who doesn't turn up xx |
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"Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better. stick at it , get verified then look out for our social
I'm verified but I was difficult to start with but I just stuck at being myself and gave it time. It's why I've been a bit more thoughtful when speaking to unverified profiles however I understand why it was hard because more experienced profiles have obviously encountered a lot of fakes and time wasters and I'm slowly turning that way !
But hearing from you guys I'm not sure that's the right outlook to have Socials usally like to see your verifications as single men are limited and we don't want to give a place to someone who doesn't turn up xx"
Socials and clubs are a little bit further down my list I would attend but with a couple I had met (still not played with one) or with a single fem I was regular with. Just my preference |
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"Well I learnt the hard way, chatted swapped pics on here then spoke on Skype the decided to cam and guess what happened ? Some guy sat with his plums out !! Absolute waste of my time ! But I will just use my judgement better. stick at it , get verified then look out for our social
I'm verified but I was difficult to start with but I just stuck at being myself and gave it time. It's why I've been a bit more thoughtful when speaking to unverified profiles however I understand why it was hard because more experienced profiles have obviously encountered a lot of fakes and time wasters and I'm slowly turning that way !
But hearing from you guys I'm not sure that's the right outlook to have Socials usally like to see your verifications as single men are limited and we don't want to give a place to someone who doesn't turn up xx
Socials and clubs are a little bit further down my list I would attend but with a couple I had met (still not played with one) or with a single fem I was regular with. Just my preference "
Sounds like a good plan x |
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We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question. |
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"We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question. "
See it's a fine line isn't it ? I also don't like a profile with loads of meets as I find this a turn off  Again just my preference |
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over a year ago
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"Would love to know people's thoughts on this as I try my best to understand it from somebody's point of when they first join, however in my very short period of time here no verifications usually means fake or something isn't quiet right ! But we all start somewhere right ?"
I would meet someone who wasn't verified |
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"We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question.
See it's a fine line isn't it ? I also don't like a profile with loads of meets as I find this a turn off Again just my preference "
Lots of meets can just be socials as ours are xx |
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over a year ago
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We've only just got ours after starting life as a swinging couple.
Not all unverified people are fakes or time wasters.
We're just new to this! (And enjoying it so far!)
Sweet X  |
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"We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question.
See it's a fine line isn't it ? I also don't like a profile with loads of meets as I find this a turn off Again just my preference Lots of meets can just be socials as ours are xx"
Yes but if your not verfied you are not allowed to go to york socials ?
I would have thought the best way to get verified is to go to a social?
But thats impossible to do at some socials as you cant go unless you are verified? |
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"We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question.
See it's a fine line isn't it ? I also don't like a profile with loads of meets as I find this a turn off Again just my preference Lots of meets can just be socials as ours are xx
Yes but if your not verfied you are not allowed to go to york socials ?
I would have thought the best way to get verified is to go to a social?
But thats impossible to do at some socials as you cant go unless you are verified?"
Well go on cam or in chat then and get yourself verified or ask people who have met you to verify you x |
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over a year ago
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We have had a few meets with unverified people hence why we are not verified ourselves. Can usually out the idiots but often go with our gut instinct and haven't been let down yet. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you Verified by a other member only photo verified its twice as hard to make friend and meet on here because they only seem to go for those who are verified by other member that they meet  |
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"If you Verified by a other member only photo verified its twice as hard to make friend and meet on here because they only seem to go for those who are verified by other member that they meet "
We have met people without verifications and haven't been let down x |
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over a year ago
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I dont give veries and I dont want veries.
But don't agree that not having any should be a barrier from people meeting or being allowed to go to social get togethers.
But like anything else everyone has their own views on it?
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"I dont give veries and I dont want veries.
But don't agree that not having any should be a barrier from people meeting or being allowed to go to social get togethers.
But like anything else everyone has their own views on it?
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everybody is allowed an opion , point taken x |
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Is it indeed.
"We generally don't seek or want verifies due to need for discretion. We block unverified profile as communication was a real challenge although understand we were there once ourselves. But an interesting question.
See it's a fine line isn't it ? I also don't like a profile with loads of meets as I find this a turn off Again just my preference "
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over a year ago
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I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first. |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first. "
I agree theres no excuse for not sharing photos especially if a meet is on te cards.
I personally think its good manners to see who you are having a conversation with.
I dont mean people you are not interested in?
I mean people you are having conversations with.
Thought id better add the last bit before someone chimes in with the obvious.
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first.
I agree theres no excuse for not sharing photos especially if a meet is on te cards.
I personally think its good manners to see who you are having a conversation with.
I dont mean people you are not interested in?
I mean people you are having conversations with.
Thought id better add the last bit before someone chimes in with the obvious.
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How do people know if they are interested if your profile is hidden xx |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first.
I agree theres no excuse for not sharing photos especially if a meet is on te cards.
I personally think its good manners to see who you are having a conversation with.
I dont mean people you are not interested in?
I mean people you are having conversations with.
Thought id better add the last bit before someone chimes in with the obvious.
How do people know if they are interested if your profile is hidden xx"
I show it if im interested in meeting |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first.
I agree theres no excuse for not sharing photos especially if a meet is on te cards.
I personally think its good manners to see who you are having a conversation with.
I dont mean people you are not interested in?
I mean people you are having conversations with.
Thought id better add the last bit before someone chimes in with the obvious.
How do people know if they are interested if your profile is hidden xx
I show it if im interested in meeting "
Iy you would like to attend the York socials surely you are interested in meeting people x |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first.
I agree theres no excuse for not sharing photos especially if a meet is on te cards.
I personally think its good manners to see who you are having a conversation with.
I dont mean people you are not interested in?
I mean people you are having conversations with.
Thought id better add the last bit before someone chimes in with the obvious.
How do people know if they are interested if your profile is hidden xx
I show it if im interested in meeting Iy you would like to attend the York socials surely you are interested in meeting people x"
sorry for the spelling lol x |
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"I would. I appreciate how hard men probably find it on here x"
Well done that is refreshing to hear I'm really on the fence with this but I'm going to be a lot more reflective when speaking to unverified profiles.
And anyone unverified reading these comments will definitely have a more possible outlook on people's opinions. I honestly surprised myself  |
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over a year ago
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"Would love to know people's thoughts on this as I try my best to understand it from somebody's point of when they first join, however in my very short period of time here no verifications usually means fake or something isn't quiet right ! But we all start somewhere right ?"
I was let down by a "well verified" guy! For me verification does not mean nothing!
I meet unverified people because once I was in the same boat! I sometimes laugh my head off,when people say must to be verified,like they are credentials! |
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I've met, and bern first to verify, several lovely ladies and couples over the years....but never fell foul of a fake in arranging such a meet. I do have an excellent fakedar though! |
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"Would love to know people's thoughts on this as I try my best to understand it from somebody's point of when they first join, however in my very short period of time here no verifications usually means fake or something isn't quiet right ! But we all start somewhere right ?
I was let down by a "well verified" guy! For me verification does not mean nothing!
I meet unverified people because once I was in the same boat! I sometimes laugh my head off,when people say must to be verified,like they are credentials!"
See after I was verified I genuinely gave my best efforts when speaking to new people who weren't however my point is I feel over time on here we do forget what's it's like when you first join, I'm no expert on this I would still class myself as new but I'm glad I brought this point up as it's even given me a lot to think about. You just have to give people a chance I believe ! But I'm like that in my outlook on everyday life !! |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first. "
Well that's the issue for us single guys as it is generally guys who make these profiles and get off on it for some reason !! Like why pretend to be a woman or couple when your clearly not going to meet or even be able to prove you are the person/couple you claim to be ? Or simply don't get it !! |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first. "
But that is personal preference! I never been photo verified but because I don't want to!
But that never was an issue for me or my meets. |
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"I would be wary of a female or couple profile that is not photo verified because lets face it it takes 2 minutes to do and if youre genuine you dont mind. But a lack of meet verifies wouldnt bother me, id be happy to be their first.
Well that's the issue for us single guys as it is generally guys who make these profiles and get off on it for some reason !! Like why pretend to be a woman or couple when your clearly not going to meet or even be able to prove you are the person/couple you claim to be ? Or simply don't get it !!"
Because they are fools my friend.
A rational person sees no logic in their behaviour.
They are just wankers. Literally |
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"I don't know if I'm photo verified
OMG I'm not realllllllll. Lol"
You've only been verified by twelve other people. Therefore you are just a figment of my imagination. |
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"We feel that no veri of any sort after 6 months or so gets alarm bells ringing.
To us it means they are either a monster or a time waster( or both)"
See I would totally agree with this, like everything I'm sure they'll be exceptions to the rule but if you've not put the effort in to at least meet with a few months of being here what on earth are you here for ? I get for some people it might be they are just easing themselves into it or maybe couples speak about it and like the idea but the reality is very different. I'm not photo verified but if I didn't get verified by my first meet and time was ticking with my length of time here and I was struggling due to not being verified I would of done it !! Again just my opinion  |
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"Every single person on here started with no verifications. We all have to start somewhere.
Would your opinion change if they've been on here for sometime but still not verified?"
We don't search for unverified but if an unverified person approached us we wouldn't simply ignore them but we would ask for information and some proof they are who they claim to be.
We were on here 6 weeks before photo verification and 3 months before our first meeting verification. I think if you're serious about meeting people then you'd make the effort to show people you are real. It's not difficult to go to a club. And practically everyone who goes to clubs are on fab and will be happy to verify your. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We haven't got any verifications yet but we're genuine. Would we meet someone that wasn't? Only if they were newbies, photo verified, supporting members and provide a mobile number - all of which we have and are happy to provide prior to meeting.
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"im a fast learner and I think you learn more about this place every day ! Going with your gut instinct is all you can do in my opinion but it's let me down on here quiet a few times in my short spell here "
Always trust your gut
Verifications mean nothing really. Someone with 200 veri's still might not turn up or be an inconsiderate arseh*le. |
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"im a fast learner and I think you learn more about this place every day ! Going with your gut instinct is all you can do in my opinion but it's let me down on here quiet a few times in my short spell here
Always trust your gut
Verifications mean nothing really. Someone with 200 veri's still might not turn up or be an inconsiderate arseh*le. "
I went with my gut and wasted 2 days chatting only to find a guy wanking at the other end of a cam and then the profile disappeared
But joking aside I think we all have to go with that !
And we know when we get that connection or we are intrigued by a profile |
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"We feel that no veri of any sort after 6 months or so gets alarm bells ringing.
To us it means they are either a monster or a time waster( or both)
See I would totally agree with this, like everything I'm sure they'll be exceptions to the rule but if you've not put the effort in to at least meet with a few months of being here what on earth are you here for ? I get for some people it might be they are just easing themselves into it or maybe couples speak about it and like the idea but the reality is very different. I'm not photo verified but if I didn't get verified by my first meet and time was ticking with my length of time here and I was struggling due to not being verified I would of done it !! Again just my opinion "
lots of guys post on here that they been on 6 months or more and no meets nd would like to know why does that make them all not genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why doesnt someone organise socials in local areas where everyone is invited ?
Even those without veries are invited too ?
Then you can see who's real and who isnt?
And afterwards you can veri those who want veris.
Job done
I wont do it as I'm not interested lol
But just thought id put it out there as a possible solution |
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"We feel that no veri of any sort after 6 months or so gets alarm bells ringing.
To us it means they are either a monster or a time waster( or both)
See I would totally agree with this, like everything I'm sure they'll be exceptions to the rule but if you've not put the effort in to at least meet with a few months of being here what on earth are you here for ? I get for some people it might be they are just easing themselves into it or maybe couples speak about it and like the idea but the reality is very different. I'm not photo verified but if I didn't get verified by my first meet and time was ticking with my length of time here and I was struggling due to not being verified I would of done it !! Again just my opinion lots of guys post on here that they been on 6 months or more and no meets nd would like to know why does that make them all not genuine"
Nobody said 'all are not genuine ' as we couldn't possibly know that, however it flags up to us possible time wasters when there are hundreds of other people with some sort of veri. |
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If someone is new then of course you can't expect them to be meet verified. But we always look for at least pic verified, as that really isn't hard to do.
And we would always like to use whatsapp to chat offline.
The best answer for us has been go to clubs and then if the meet isn't real and fails to show then we have other options also a great way to get verified by others.
In summary, verifications are important to us. |
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"We feel that no veri of any sort after 6 months or so gets alarm bells ringing.
To us it means they are either a monster or a time waster( or both)
See I would totally agree with this, like everything I'm sure they'll be exceptions to the rule but if you've not put the effort in to at least meet with a few months of being here what on earth are you here for ? I get for some people it might be they are just easing themselves into it or maybe couples speak about it and like the idea but the reality is very different. I'm not photo verified but if I didn't get verified by my first meet and time was ticking with my length of time here and I was struggling due to not being verified I would of done it !! Again just my opinion lots of guys post on here that they been on 6 months or more and no meets nd would like to know why does that make them all not genuine
Nobody said 'all are not genuine ' as we couldn't possibly know that, however it flags up to us possible time wasters when there are hundreds of other people with some sort of veri."
it took me 7 months to get a veri and even then it was from a guy I had chatted to in chat room first time around and second veri was from fab itself as no one was willing to take a risk on meeting me I then went to a social and finally a yr on someone said yes to a meet so it can take longer than six months to get a genuine verified meet but going the other way lots on here may not have veris as people haven't been arsed to verify them or have left site so veri disappeared with them and I've had this happen lots of times |
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"Would love to know people's thoughts on this as I try my best to understand it from somebody's point of when they first join, however in my very short period of time here no verifications usually means fake or something isn't quiet right ! But we all start somewhere right ?"
Most certainly. Had 2 no shows and last minute pull out and replaced by well seasoned fabbers...which has just led me to rethink and have found no truth in the newbie/no veri profiles being time wasters. Quite the opposite so far. I'm sure there will be soon enough but it'll happen to any group I believe. |
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Question for you about the right number of verifications.
You are put off by too few and too many. (Personally I would say more the better, pretty much guaranteed to get someone genuine, who is going to be comfortable.)
How many should they have?
Nita |
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Question for you about the right number of verifications.
You are put off by too few and too many. (Personally I would say more the better, pretty much guaranteed to get someone genuine, who is going to be comfortable.)
How many should they have?
Nita"
nita I'd say 10/100 is reasonable as not all will be sexual veris some will be social and odd cam one  |
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My last meet was not photo verified or had any veris. I like to think i have a good judge of character so i spent a little more time chatting first as normal and the meet turned out great. I think his lack of photo verification was down to not being on fab that often. X |
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It's sad that people won't give newbies with no veris the time of day or even consider meeting them as scared they're not genuine but someone took a chance to get to know all of us and it turned into a meet and a veri |
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We've taken the odd risk in meeting unverified people but it generally doesn't work out, even if they've been a real couple and not a single guy, something's not been right and we haven't played or we've started to play and something goes very wrong, Saturday just gone springs to mind where they told us when we got there that they'd had 2 meets off fab but hadn't gone well (so bad they didn't get verifications!) but we give it a go and all going okay and thenthe guy tried to bareback me! We promptly stop play, get dressed and walk out...
The conclusion if unverified after more than a few weeks all the reasons for them being unverified are negative |
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Question for you about the right number of verifications.
You are put off by too few and too many. (Personally I would say more the better, pretty much guaranteed to get someone genuine, who is going to be comfortable.)
How many should they have?
Nitanita I'd say 10/100 is reasonable as not all will be sexual veris some will be social and odd cam one "
We're ok then |
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The verifications don't really prove much...they can choose not to show some and whilst it shows meets that dud happen it can hide am awful lot of messing about in between. |
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Yes we would,
If it was not for a couple taking a chance on us when we asked to attend one of their party's don't think we would have got started down the swinging lifestyle.
So again yes we would. |
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and we meet her regularly now. Each situation is different, B pays more attention to verifications than C.