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Hi people, was hoping some of you could please offer us a bit of advice...
One of my biggest fantasies is the wife and i having a threesome with another male (she is well up for this too by the way, not me pushing her into this) but we are a little nervous about it.
We're thinking an ideal scenario, to see if its for us, would be to meet a guy in a club and suggest some soft play (me and the other guy pleasuring her) making it clear to him that on this first occasion he's not going to be getting his end away, and if he wants to come he would have to take matters into his own hands (so to speak!  )
However if it goes well and everyone is comfortable and enjoys it then we could arrange something more involved and longer lasting for a later date, possibly in a hotel.
My question to you single guys is...
would that be something you would go for in a club if you were offered or does it just seem like a waste of time for you? Would you want more than that to make it worth your while?
It just seems to me like it might be a little bit frustrating for some guys but just wondering what people's thoughts were.
Also, do people have any alternative ideas for dipping a toe into a MFM threesome that we may not have considered?
All advice gratefully recieved.
Me
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over a year ago
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We'd definitely recommend having a social first.
We met our first in a pub a week before the first planned meet, just for an hour and it put any nerves to bed.
If that's not feasible get plenty of chat in before and make it clear what you want from the situation.
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over a year ago
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We did exactly as you've described. The guy was more than happy for soft play!
We have since only done soft play at clubs and the guys are always happy xx |
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We talked to a fair few guys on here whilst looking for our first Mfm. There was a good amount of messaging before meeting for the first time. We were lucky that the guy we met was so respectful to our situation as we were nervous. It turned out to be one of the best experiences we have ever had & we went on to meet a few more times. Carmel. |
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"We did exactly as you've described. The guy was more than happy for soft play!
We have since only done soft play at clubs and the guys are always happy xx"
- this works well for us too! m x |
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over a year ago
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Having been that extra male in a number of mmfs with couples I would agree that a social first would be the best approach, rather than a club.
Meet the guy for a no pressure drink in a pub first, to make sure you all get on outside of the bedroom and that everyone feels comfortable with what might take place in the bedroom.
From there you can either agree a naughty meet for another time, or you might feel comfortabld enough in his company to take it further there and then (not in the pub obviously!). |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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If you can accommodate or meet at a hotel it would work out better than a club as soft play in a club would mean he'd be looking around at everyone else and likely get distracted at some point, or worse start playing with them whist supposed to be playing with you. Soft play can can only go on for so long, which is fine when you don't have other women or couples to think of or approach. I'd think so long as you meet a well verified guy and tell him the deal it'd just be a regular meet. So long as there isn't an endless list of rules, you should be fine. |
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"Hi people, was hoping some of you could please offer us a bit of advice...
One of my biggest fantasies is the wife and i having a threesome with another male (she is well up for this too by the way, not me pushing her into this) but we are a little nervous about it.
We're thinking an ideal scenario, to see if its for us, would be to meet a guy in a club and suggest some soft play (me and the other guy pleasuring her) making it clear to him that on this first occasion he's not going to be getting his end away, and if he wants to come he would have to take matters into his own hands (so to speak! )
However if it goes well and everyone is comfortable and enjoys it then we could arrange something more involved and longer lasting for a later date, possibly in a hotel.
My question to you single guys is...
would that be something you would go for in a club if you were offered or does it just seem like a waste of time for you? Would you want more than that to make it worth your while?
It just seems to me like it might be a little bit frustrating for some guys but just wondering what people's thoughts were.
Also, do people have any alternative ideas for dipping a toe into a MFM threesome that we may not have considered?
All advice gratefully recieved.
Me
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We did the club thing, wiggles saw someone she liked chatted a bit and then invited to room.
She loved it, now she does similar or if the guy comes into room we are already in she invitesbthrm to join. |
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By *iger75Couple
over a year ago
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We were really lucky met a guy off here who was experienced in men situations immediately out is both at ease.we met at our place.Lou loves the men.both of us pleasures here and she ended up with two loads in her mouth.we have since met him numourous times.the last time I just watched him fuck lou for a period of time before joining in.and lou again having his him in her mouth.so if say plenty of chat to disscuss the scenrio.then if all comfortable plenty of fun to be had. |
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"Hi people, was hoping some of you could please offer us a bit of advice...
One of my biggest fantasies is the wife and i having a threesome with another male (she is well up for this too by the way, not me pushing her into this) but we are a little nervous about it.
We're thinking an ideal scenario, to see if its for us, would be to meet a guy in a club and suggest some soft play (me and the other guy pleasuring her) making it clear to him that on this first occasion he's not going to be getting his end away, and if he wants to come he would have to take matters into his own hands (so to speak! )
However if it goes well and everyone is comfortable and enjoys it then we could arrange something more involved and longer lasting for a later date, possibly in a hotel.
My question to you single guys is...
would that be something you would go for in a club if you were offered or does it just seem like a waste of time for you? Would you want more than that to make it worth your while?
It just seems to me like it might be a little bit frustrating for some guys but just wondering what people's thoughts were.
Also, do people have any alternative ideas for dipping a toe into a MFM threesome that we may not have considered?
All advice gratefully recieved.
Me
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I would be fine with that.  |
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"If you can accommodate or meet at a hotel it would work out better than a club as soft play in a club would mean he'd be looking around at everyone else and likely get distracted at some point, or worse start playing with them whist supposed to be playing with you. Soft play can can only go on for so long, which is fine when you don't have other women or couples to think of or approach. I'd think so long as you meet a well verified guy and tell him the deal it'd just be a regular meet. So long as there isn't an endless list of rules, you should be fine. "
To be honest if the guy we're talking too can't focus his attention on us then he's not for us really, saying that he will be distracted, looking around and possibly wandering off mid play doesn't exactly paint single males in a positive light!
I think until we find our feet and work out what we're comfortable with clubs would be the best route for us. If we decide its for us we might well go down the social/private meet road in the future.
Thanks for all your input its been very helpful and is much appreciated |
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"Hi people, was hoping some of you could please offer us a bit of advice...
One of my biggest fantasies is the wife and i having a threesome with another male (she is well up for this too by the way, not me pushing her into this) but we are a little nervous about it.
We're thinking an ideal scenario, to see if its for us, would be to meet a guy in a club and suggest some soft play (me and the other guy pleasuring her) making it clear to him that on this first occasion he's not going to be getting his end away, and if he wants to come he would have to take matters into his own hands (so to speak! )
However if it goes well and everyone is comfortable and enjoys it then we could arrange something more involved and longer lasting for a later date, possibly in a hotel.
My question to you single guys is...
would that be something you would go for in a club if you were offered or does it just seem like a waste of time for you? Would you want more than that to make it worth your while?
It just seems to me like it might be a little bit frustrating for some guys but just wondering what people's thoughts were.
Also, do people have any alternative ideas for dipping a toe into a MFM threesome that we may not have considered?
All advice gratefully recieved.
Me
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Definitely would love too be the other guy invited but like others have said, yes that's one way of seeing if you click or have a social first either way I'd not have a problem with it. X x |
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As a single male who has met with mfm a couple of times I would suggest:
1. Meet socially at a location of your choice, not a club. Pub, coffee shop are usually ideal.
I would suggest the female is kissed by the single male, or at least an extended (more than 20s) hug. She needs to feel comfortable to continue.
This also makes sure they are someone you want to get baked with
2. Second meet could be as you suggest, soft play, trust building. A club on a quiet day, ask the club, so its just you three playing.
3. Now you have trust, chemistry, and open play time can start.
I would suggest slowly is the best way to start, then you have a single guy you can include as you like.
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"If you can accommodate or meet at a hotel it would work out better than a club as soft play in a club would mean he'd be looking around at everyone else and likely get distracted at some point, or worse start playing with them whist supposed to be playing with you. Soft play can can only go on for so long, which is fine when you don't have other women or couples to think of or approach. I'd think so long as you meet a well verified guy and tell him the deal it'd just be a regular meet. So long as there isn't an endless list of rules, you should be fine.
To be honest if the guy we're talking too can't focus his attention on us then he's not for us really, saying that he will be distracted, looking around and possibly wandering off mid play doesn't exactly paint single males in a positive light!
I think until we find our feet and work out what we're comfortable with clubs would be the best route for us. If we decide its for us we might well go down the social/private meet road in the future.
Thanks for all your input its been very helpful and is much appreciated "
one of the best things about being on fab is you can use your status for anything.
you could ask local guys, who use clubs, if they're up for soft play in a club and even arrange to meet them there at some point. |
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Having had a number of regular playmates over the years, and being someone who started gently, my advise is to not go to a club the first time. That could be potentially frustrating as clubs can be highly sexed atmospheres and the pressure is often there where least expected. If you want to start slowly I would go for a nice evening in a pub and encourage the flirtation, maybe get a snog out of it. That used to work very well for us in the early days, and it's still a formula we use now to break the ice, although these days we would always bring the guy home with us. Then see how you feel about taking it further next time. A lot of guys won't tolerate that, but those who are worth their salt will be prepared to give you the time that you need. It is a big step having a threesome, and I'm greatful that I had done understand guys who didn't rush when I first started. |
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one of the best things about being on fab is you can use your status for anything.
you could ask local guys, who use clubs, if they're up for soft play in a club and even arrange to meet them there at some point.
"Having had a number of regular playmates over the years, and being someone who started gently, my advise is to not go to a club the first time. That could be potentially frustrating as clubs can be highly sexed atmospheres and the pressure is often there where least expected. If you want to start slowly I would go for a nice evening in a pub and encourage the flirtation, maybe get a snog out of it. That used to work very well for us in the early days, and it's still a formula we use now to break the ice, although these days we would always bring the guy home with us. Then see how you feel about taking it further next time. A lot of guys won't tolerate that, but those who are worth their salt will be prepared to give you the time that you need. It is a big step having a threesome, and I'm greatful that I had done understand guys who didn't rush when I first started. "
You both seem like two of the wiser forumites so thanks very much for your comments, much appreciated
I will say though that on our 1 club visit we've had so far (which we enjoyed very much) we were surprised at how 'uncharged' the atmosphere was, it was very relaxed there. Maybe that wasn't indicative of most clubs but the chilled out atmosphere has made us think that would be the right way to go.
You're advice on socials and meets sounds good so we'll definitely bear it in mind should we eventually go down that route. |
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"As a single male who has met with mfm a couple of times I would suggest:
1. Meet socially at a location of your choice, not a club. Pub, coffee shop are usually ideal.
I would suggest the female is kissed by the single male, or at least an extended (more than 20s) hug. She needs to feel comfortable to continue.
This also makes sure they are someone you want to get baked with
2. Second meet could be as you suggest, soft play, trust building. A club on a quiet day, ask the club, so its just you three playing.
3. Now you have trust, chemistry, and open play time can start.
I would suggest slowly is the best way to start, then you have a single guy you can include as you like.
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Thanks, very sensible sounding advice |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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i've used my status for a lot of things. you'll always get the guys who will reply to your status and mess you about but they seem easy enough to spot (for me anyway).
good luck with the 3sums, i love them and have been lucky enough for find them easily enough on fab. |
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"one of the best things about being on fab is you can use your status for anything.
you could ask local guys, who use clubs, if they're up for soft play in a club and even arrange to meet them there at some point.
Having had a number of regular playmates over the years, and being someone who started gently, my advise is to not go to a club the first time. That could be potentially frustrating as clubs can be highly sexed atmospheres and the pressure is often there where least expected. If you want to start slowly I would go for a nice evening in a pub and encourage the flirtation, maybe get a snog out of it. That used to work very well for us in the early days, and it's still a formula we use now to break the ice, although these days we would always bring the guy home with us. Then see how you feel about taking it further next time. A lot of guys won't tolerate that, but those who are worth their salt will be prepared to give you the time that you need. It is a big step having a threesome, and I'm greatful that I had done understand guys who didn't rush when I first started.
You both seem like two of the wiser forumites so thanks very much for your comments, much appreciated
I will say though that on our 1 club visit we've had so far (which we enjoyed very much) we were surprised at how 'uncharged' the atmosphere was, it was very relaxed there. Maybe that wasn't indicative of most clubs but the chilled out atmosphere has made us think that would be the right way to go.
You're advice on socials and meets sounds good so we'll definitely bear it in mind should we eventually go down that route."
Maybe I meant there may be more pressure if your first meet with the guy is in a club, as opposed to an environment where sex the is less expected. |
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"Hi people, was hoping some of you could please offer us a bit of advice...
One of my biggest fantasies is the wife and i having a threesome with another male (she is well up for this too by the way, not me pushing her into this) but we are a little nervous about it.
We're thinking an ideal scenario, to see if its for us, would be to meet a guy in a club and suggest some soft play (me and the other guy pleasuring her) making it clear to him that on this first occasion he's not going to be getting his end away, and if he wants to come he would have to take matters into his own hands (so to speak! )
However if it goes well and everyone is comfortable and enjoys it then we could arrange something more involved and longer lasting for a later date, possibly in a hotel.
My question to you single guys is...
would that be something you would go for in a club if you were offered or does it just seem like a waste of time for you? Would you want more than that to make it worth your while?
It just seems to me like it might be a little bit frustrating for some guys but just wondering what people's thoughts were.
Also, do people have any alternative ideas for dipping a toe into a MFM threesome that we may not have considered?
All advice gratefully recieved.
Me
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I'd be happy with soft play at a club....really depends on the couple rather than the act someone's! Would concur with other views here and say a social meet at a pub might be a good approach to ease you in! Good luck |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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If you have been comfortable at a club already, then go with the club idea. You can see who is about and chat to any single men who appeal. You will have opportunity to explain what you are after.
You can then choose a suitable room to take things further if you wish.
Not all clubs are sexually charged pressured environments. As part of a couple in the past, I found trying to set up social meets were very hit and miss. At least in a club you won't be let down.
But go with what you are comfortable with. |
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i love meeting couples , im dead straight though ,could always try a hotel ,meet in the bar , flirty teasy drink or two , then to the room for a kiss and cuddle if your in the mood ........ |
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OP, I think you'll find exactly what you are looking for in a club.
Either by pre-arranging a meet with a guy you like, or just going along on a mixed night and chatting to guys there who you like the look of.
I would think most men would be happy to go along with things the way you have described.
I think the comment about straying in an open room isn't really an issue, but you can go to a private room if you were concerned. |
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