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BEING WARNED BY FAB

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have a few times been warned by fab for having the complete right to confront abusive members who have sent me heinous and quite frankly obscene violent mssges. Id like to ask fab to justify theyre policy of 'just block them nxt time or ul be banned' mssge. To confront abusive members is to call out the misogynist violent _iews of predatory men (a small percentage here) or otherwise its a justification to them to continue thier offending behaviours. By blocking them or deleteing theyre profiles they will just make new ones but also i think it should be at the discretion of admin to read threads properly and make the right choice in these matters. We,the aggrieved partys have the right to defend ourselves against abusive members and not be warned for doing so. Calling out abusive members should be encouraged as it is now the norm in society online to be a cunt at will with no percievable punishment or shaming

With regards

Juno

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I quite often send as good as I got back to a profile... never had a warning about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And if I did... I'd be fuming.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman over a year ago

nottingham

Whilst I agree with your right to 'confront' abusive people I don't myself. I refuse to even waste my time or let them think they are even worth a reply if they're people like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you naming and shaming them or sending an abusive message back to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you naming and shaming them or sending an abusive message back to them?"
no naming and shaming. Im merely pointing out to them that mssging online a total stranger abuse is unacceptable and that im truelly glad women are slowly stopping mateing with men like them thus within 50 years they will be extinct from the gene pool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I quite often send as good as I got back to a profile... never had a warning about it? "

I did and I got a warning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now I just block and report

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The forums are supposed to be fun.

Peace and love to you all.

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you naming and shaming them or sending an abusive message back to them?no naming and shaming. Im merely pointing out to them that mssging online a total stranger abuse is unacceptable and that im truelly glad women are slowly stopping mateing with men like them thus within 50 years they will be extinct from the gene pool"
Your quite right. This is not a site for abusers and they should be forced out by reporting or shaming. They spoil it for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I quite often send as good as I got back to a profile... never had a warning about it?

I did and I got a warning. "

Maybe it's cos they report you. The nerve of some people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I fear you could be in for a spell on the naughty step for this thread though OP XXX

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Being a dick deserves being reported

Being a dick back deserves the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Being a dick deserves being reported

Being a dick back deserves the same."
possibly but rising above the grunt language and being able to eloquently point out the road they are on psychologically is a justifiable retort back. We all can understand cycles of offending

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"Being a dick deserves being reported

Being a dick back deserves the same. possibly but rising above the grunt language and being able to eloquently point out the road they are on psychologically is a justifiable retort back. We all can understand cycles of offending"

If you feel the need

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A close friend just left fab citing this as one of her main grievances with Fab.

If some is an abusive idiot in their messages you should be able to shout back at them without fear of a ban. I think the system is sometimes weighted to the idiots as the 'block and move on' approach doesn't get rid of that user.

I think if an abusive message is sent, the recipient should be able to pass out on to admin who instantly ban that user. There will always be a way around it by just signing up again under a new UN, but if you're constantly being a dick and getting banned wouldn't the lure of Fab disappear quite quickly?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got warned yesterday.. but that fact the guy in question has been on my profile and obtained my kik addy.. and I have told him to Fxxx off on there.. I get accused of abusive behaviour .. ITS A JOKE!! The guy was block !! But there is nothing to stop him setting up again !! And abusing others!!

The IP needs to be blocked !!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"I got warned yesterday.. but that fact the guy in question has been on my profile and obtained my kik addy.. and I have told him to Fxxx off on there.. I get accused of abusive behaviour .. ITS A JOKE!! The guy was block !! But there is nothing to stop him setting up again !! And abusing others!!

The IP needs to be blocked !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Admin/mods are volunteers and don't have the time to read every thread or police FAB for you I'm afraid.

You have the tools available to help yourself against like blocking and reporting.

But sadly if someone reports you first then sometimes you also will recieve a timeout or ban even if you think you have done nothing to deserve one?

Its how it is and its upto you to use the tools available to block report etc as the mods can't police every thing that transpires.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i don't think any amount of abuse would bother me..

whatever, let them say as they please, just a randomer, who cares what's happening in their heads? it's of so little importance in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience. "

I disagree. Being silent is a green flag to them and i will continue to point out to them that in 2017 i,as an empowered woman will not tollerate any behaviour demeaning or abusive to myself. Mindfullness takes many forms

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"i don't think any amount of abuse would bother me..

whatever, let them say as they please, just a randomer, who cares what's happening in their heads? it's of so little importance in my life

It has importance when they have never been called out and then (as seen on telly today) a man in a van abuses a woman on a bicycle and touches her because HE Has never been called out on his behaviour. I shall continue to mssge back and if it earns a ban then im sure another sex site will welcome me

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Why give them the satisfaction of letting them know they've got to you report delete and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol"

Thats who i just spoke about. Men and women nd this to happen to them everytime they break the law. Her mother bought her up to respect herself well,although criminal damage is never acceptable i would have done the same

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

So if we don't bollock someone back we have no respect for ourselves?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Sorry didnt get that far down

But youre right love. I feel you have every right to give it back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.

You must be sending pretty abusive messages back if you're getting a warning about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are so angry

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

So if we don't bollock someone back we have no respect for ourselves? "

She didnt bollock him.if u see the film she remained composed and told him to leave her alone. She then follows him and pulled his wing mirror off but hey,this thread is about abusive men on here. However i do feel women to be a little too submissive when it comes to predatory men tho im sure ul disagree with that opinion also

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.

You must be sending pretty abusive messages back if you're getting a warning about it. "

Nope. And this isnt a blame game. Merely asking fab and highlighting the issue

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

So if we don't bollock someone back we have no respect for ourselves?

No better in fact it's worse she's needs to learn to measure some self control if you ask me

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By * O .TV/TS over a year ago

watford

I don't engage with them on the very few occasions I've had unpleasant messages because I think that's what they want, I just block them. Candy x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry didnt get that far down

But youre right love. I feel you have every right to give it back.

Thanks pal,as some1 with experience working with offenders i feel its important to highlight this growing abuse on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

So if we don't bollock someone back we have no respect for ourselves?

No better in fact it's worse she's needs to learn to measure some self control if you ask me

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thats sad u didnt side with the woman,but we all have opinions based on our social conditioning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.

You must be sending pretty abusive messages back if you're getting a warning about it.

Nope. And this isnt a blame game. Merely asking fab and highlighting the issue"

So you're getting a warning for sending just a normal reply pointing out abuse is wrong?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I don't engage with them on the very few occasions I've had unpleasant messages because I think that's what they want, I just block them. Candy x x "

Yea nothing but an attention seeking tactic pisses em off more to ignore them completely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if people have a sensitive nature then internet forums,social media sites probably arnt the best place for them to be as its filled with alot of idiots trolls crazies bullies and fantasists etc.

You have to ignore people like that and not let them get to you.

If you can't do that then I would probably give these sites a wide berth.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Did you see that girl on Facebook that pulled the van wing mirror off?

I feel like this is the Fab version of that. Lol

So if we don't bollock someone back we have no respect for ourselves?

No better in fact it's worse she's needs to learn to measure some self control if you ask me

thats sad u didnt side with the woman,but we all have opinions based on our social conditioning"

It's not remotely sad to justify criminal damage irregardless of reasons by siding with her your justifying her actions

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I think if people have a sensitive nature then internet forums,social media sites probably arnt the best place for them to be as its filled with alot of idiots trolls crazies bullies and fantasists etc.

You have to ignore people like that and not let them get to you.

If you can't do that then I would probably give these sites a wide berth."

I'd agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being a dick deserves being reported

They probably report you because they are too stupid to understand the intelligence and eloquence of your argument... In short, there are some stupid fuckers about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got a warning just because I asked some info on a group meet and they went mad at me because I only asked for info what annoys me if you report anything of report straight to them they ignore you and take the other side they need to brush up on what's right and wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Being a dick deserves being reported

They probably report you because they are too stupid to understand the intelligence and eloquence of your argument... In short, there are some stupid fuckers about

"
lmfao u sir have won the internet today!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You have to ignore people like that and not let them get to you.

If you can't do that then I would probably give these sites a wide berth."

Gosh thats a v odd thing to say. Ur basically saying that because i have been abused its ok because its that sort of site. I have a v thick skin,im not some weakling,im merely pointing out that fab could create a safer site for us all. Censoring myself is not acceptable and i shall live however i want and go online wherever i choose without fear of abuse and stalking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case "

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have to ignore people like that and not let them get to you.

If you can't do that then I would probably give these sites a wide berth.

Its not odd.

Its the nature of the Beast and it is what it is.

I can't see it ever changing as the internet magnifies the negative side of mankind as well the good.

You just have to be thick skinned and ignore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being a dick deserves being reported

They probably report you because they are too stupid to understand the intelligence and eloquence of your argument... In short, there are some stupid fuckers about

lmfao u sir have won the internet today!!!!!"

*doffs cap* You miss, are more than welcome x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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The IP needs to be blocked !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button"

I shouldnt nd to do this and i find ur comments offensive due to ur obvious lack of sense of whats right and whats wrong. I should think ud have suggestions on new policy for fab but it apears u constantly want me to justify my remarks which i have been patient with. I am not here to justify myself to anyone but welcome new policy ideas for fab to seriously think about. Take ur reactionary comments elsewhere. Gd evening

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

So because I don't agree with you you have the right to ban me from a public forum?

I merely was saying to seductive why blocking IP addresses isn't practical

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You have to ignore people like that and not let them get to you.

If you can't do that then I would probably give these sites a wide berth.

Its not odd.

Its the nature of the Beast and it is what it is.

I can't see it ever changing as the internet magnifies the negative side of mankind as well the good.

You just have to be thick skinned and ignore.

The original thread was being warned by fab for doing that v thing,being a strong,thick skinned woman and adressing the issue. I also wanted to know fabs official policy on this issue and if theyd consider blocking ip adresses

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

So because I don't agree with you you have the right to ban me from a public forum?

I merely was saying to seductive why blocking IP addresses isn't practical "

Banning?v odd when no mention of this was made. This is a forum and as such ur free to talk when u want with who u want. Im just choosing this to be the last mssge to you as ur comments are systematic of the issues surrounding victimhood and entitlement issues for the offender. Gd luck

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

So because I don't agree with you you have the right to ban me from a public forum?

I merely was saying to seductive why blocking IP addresses isn't practical

On a public forum you can't order who does or doesn't comment on your threads

And I'm sorry but I'll never say that resorting to the violent act of ripping off a car window screen is the right thing two wrongs don't make a right is the point I've been trying to make

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem with arguing with an idiot is they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.

I don't really think you can really call that Mindfulness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone spoke to me like shit on their shoe in a pub I'd call them on it. No reason to be any different on here.

We teach our kids to stand up to bullies... not ignore and hope it goes away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

So because I don't agree with you you have the right to ban me from a public forum?

I merely was saying to seductive why blocking IP addresses isn't practical

On a public forum you can't order who does or doesn't comment on your threads

And I'm sorry but I'll never say that resorting to the violent act of ripping off a car window screen is the right thing two wrongs don't make a right is the point I've been trying to make "

There are allegations that the video of the woman ripping off the wing mirror was actually staged.

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By *irceWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

I have been to fab jail....

solitary on my free days as well..

Was worth the time and would tell that annoying little fabber over again.

Mods cannot take side's i suppose

...... just sayin....

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do think that there should be an IP block on certain accounts if the person is persistent

I have one person who I've never met or spoken to constantly sends me nasty abusive messages. It is the same guy every time

After he sends an abusive message he then blocks me and so I counted block him and save the message hours later he deletes profile then back again and after a few days he sends another message

I have every filter on but that still don't stop him

Although I try to ignore it sometimes grinds me down that it's the same guy

Everytime he does it I report to fab and I have asked if they can put an IP block on this

But nothing

So I think for persistent abusers this should be the case

Things is though it's as easy as resetting your wifi to get a new IP address so easily got around in the press of a button

So because I don't agree with you you have the right to ban me from a public forum?

I merely was saying to seductive why blocking IP addresses isn't practical

On a public forum you can't order who does or doesn't comment on your threads

And I'm sorry but I'll never say that resorting to the violent act of ripping off a car window screen is the right thing two wrongs don't make a right is the point I've been trying to make

There are allegations that the video of the woman ripping off the wing mirror was actually staged."

Most of those type of videos are it's why I reserve my judgements of them

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple over a year ago

Funville

"I have a few times been warned by fab for having the complete right to confront abusive members who have sent me heinous and quite frankly obscene violent mssges. Id like to ask fab to justify theyre policy of 'just block them nxt time or ul be banned' mssge. To confront abusive members is to call out the misogynist violent _iews of predatory men (a small percentage here) or otherwise its a justification to them to continue thier offending behaviours. By blocking them or deleteing theyre profiles they will just make new ones but also i think it should be at the discretion of admin to read threads properly and make the right choice in these matters. We,the aggrieved partys have the right to defend ourselves against abusive members and not be warned for doing so. Calling out abusive members should be encouraged as it is now the norm in society online to be a cunt at will with no percievable punishment or shaming

With regards

Juno"

I would suggest that it isn't just a few 'predatory men'; women can be just as abusive and vile too unfortunately. Some people 'enjoy' what they clearly perceive to be the safety and relative anonymity of the internet to abuse people and cause them emotional distress.

You mention further down the post that you will take your membership fees elsewhere if the admin / mods don't do as you wish; fab doesn't charge membership. You can quite easily utilise the site for free if you wish.

In my experience, it is easier to just laugh off abusive comments. It's just words written by a sad individual trying to elicit a reaction.

Are you entitled to feel upset, annoyed, distressed? Of course you are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we all deal with such behaviour in our own way - if it goes against how the site is run well you get the ban - or if you dont like the kind of message youre getting choose to stay or leave here - sad you have had so much of the sexual predatory type behaviour you mentioned you have had to inform police twice

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By *aveandSue1Couple over a year ago

Doncaster

If we ever get any abuse then I simply send an OTT sarcastic reply and block. Why waste the time and effort on these morons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Their site. Their rules. There's no further justification needed than that.

Abusive messages aren't acceptable. Provocation is immaterial, you can't say that some abuse is okay but others aren't. But I do wonder what you ate sending to get repeated warnings?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Admin do call out abusive members by the way of a warning like the one you seem to have got. Maybe next time do as advised and not retaliate then report the user instead

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