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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone, thought I’d start off a topic and open up some conversation possibly, lets see. I’m know the subject has been covered from different angles but I’m curious to see where this goes if anywhere.
As A single guy who sort of stumbled across this site (some time ago now), as I’m sure thousands of single guys have before me, i wanted to find out what other single guys made of the experience, and single females or couples actually think regarding single guys as it were?
Seems to be from my experiences to date bit of a tough nut to crack, excuse the pun ..... Yes I understand the trust dynamics of couples and yes I know the ratio of singles is way beyond belief stacked in favour of the ladies but even so, its still hard work getting anywhere to be honest.
Just to cover off some stuff I have read the profile advice and changed mine a few times tried different approaches etc etc etc still the above applies.
Even when it comes to just sending a simple message regardless of being polite witty or straightforward its a rarity to even get a reply, and I do mean a rarity, that in itself seems a bit sad to be blunt, is everyone so desensitised that normal civility need not apply, even a nice or blunt no thanks would be a welcome change lol.
Don’t get the impression that its a big deal in any way, personally I have a busy social life anyway, when time permits, and do enjoy having a nose about seeing what people are up to admiring pics etc as I’m sure do many others. Just curious about others views on this from either side I suppose???
I look forward to seeing where this goes, happy fabbing you lovely dirty buggers
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies, its something that keeps getting said isn’t it, I can and have written eloquently, and don’t think I have a bad sense of humour either however my profile as it is, is due to me getting a bit disillusioned by the whole thing, trust me I have had different profiles up, didn’t make any difference or seem to, and no wasn’t looking specifically for profile advice but all thoughts and opinions are welcomed. More looking towards others actual experiences though.
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I feel a lot single guys can't understand why couples aren't interested in them?
We swing to both enjoy other people which means another couple.
But single guys go on and on about " well you haven't met me yet"
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I think most single guys misunderstand Fab, just because people are putting themselves on display doesnt mean they are free to a good home. As a single guy you can't take Fab too seriously. You are up against serious competition before even considering whether the party actually wants to fuck you or not.
It's like when you go gambling, don't play unless you're happy leaving single handed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Cheers pal and yes just had a few messages back and fore with a couple who gave me some food for thought, its nice just to see things from others perspective sometimes, bit of clarity and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think fab is a fantastic site, yes it's hard work for the single guys but the more effort you put in the more success you have?
I've had 3 couples profiles on here in the past and finding a suitable single man can be hard work as well.
My first single man profile on here I had 58 veri's when I deleted it, and many of them I had repeat meets with when we didn't leave veri's, there were days when I had a choice of who to meet?
Have a positive attitude, put lots of time into it and you can have success on fab
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think fab is a fantastic site, yes it's hard work for the single guys but the more effort you put in the more success you have?
I've had 3 couples profiles on here in the past and finding a suitable single man can be hard work as well.
My first single man profile on here I had 58 veri's when I deleted it, and many of them I had repeat meets with when we didn't leave veri's, there were days when I had a choice of who to meet?
Have a positive attitude, put lots of time into it and you can have success on fab
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Agree.
I have also had numerous profiles.
It's a fact that single guys outnumber the rest if the site by a huge multiple.
However, when you learn to read the signs, you'll find the couples profiles that are a sad single guy and the single girls that are actually... Yes you've guessed.. single guys.
You'll develop a sixth sense when you get a unsolicited message.
But all that aside, if you persevere you will get success. Don't expect too many verifications and don't fret about the., they don't prevent a meet and lots of girls don't bother wwriting them as they want to keep themselves below the radar.
It's a great site once you learn the inside track..just like anything else in life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Picture of a cock with sky remote control in background does work then, despite what people might say."
I'm sure it would put some people off but some people would see that it's an optical illusion and meant as a fun pic? I understand I'm not going to appeal to everybody no matter what I do |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"I think most single guys misunderstand Fab, just because people are putting themselves on display doesnt mean they are free to a good home. As a single guy you can't take Fab too seriously. You are up against serious competition before even considering whether the party actually wants to fuck you or not.
It's like when you go gambling, don't play unless you're happy leaving single handed. "
this analogy sums it up perfectly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find the forums a great help. Not just for getting my fun times. But for meeting like minded people and having giggles. Yes it's a sex related sex site, but things will come with time. Just no point sending hundreds of pms, as time goes by, I guess you fine tune the sort of people who you think you'd match with and develop it from there.
Don't know if thats the same for others, but works for me
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"I think most single guys misunderstand Fab, just because people are putting themselves on display doesnt mean they are free to a good home. As a single guy you can't take Fab too seriously. You are up against serious competition before even considering whether the party actually wants to fuck you or not.
It's like when you go gambling, don't play unless you're happy leaving single handed. "
i agree with this.
have had so many shit messages tonight (this is actually unusual on here for me though) but the majority all presuming i'm up for fucking them. probably is down to my first pic on my profile, might hide that if things don't get any better.
ugh just so much shit i needed to vent about that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs"
it was fascinating reading how you apply your descriminators. What I am surprised to hear about is how after all the filtering you can still can't find someone  . And yet there are Decent single males who struggle to find an fb. Fab is not fair sometimes lol |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs"
I think they're are loads of guys who b understand swing etiquate but we are not what people are after. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its great to know what others think, had a couple of messages as well that put things into a different light from couples viewpoints that single guys wont always think of i'm pretty sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs
it was fascinating reading how you apply your descriminators. What I am surprised to hear about is how after all the filtering you can still can't find someone . And yet there are Decent single males who struggle to find an fb. Fab is not fair sometimes lol"
No we can find men. We've had a number of regular playmates over the years, and we always have at least 2 men on the roladex. But if we wanted to find someone new, it would be an effort to find someone who suitable, and there are often a lot of roadblocks. With regards to your comment that there are decent single males struggling to find an FB, well as a couple those men would not be suitable for us. That's the whole problem, most decent men are looking for an FB not a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs
I think they're are loads of guys who b understand swing etiquate but we are not what people are after. x"
Yes I see from your verifications that you play with couples at clubs, therefore I would assume that you are familiar with threeesome dynamics and understand swing ettiquete. Profile like yours on Fab are in the minority though. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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Too many single guys seem to believe that Fab is an easy ticket to a quick fuck-then complain when they don't get one. We play with loads of single men, but in clubs where they have taken the trouble to make themselves presentable, sociable and available. Sitting at home dashing off a few messages pretty much anonymously is really not the best way to succeed.
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs"
It's hard to get experience without being given a chance. |
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"Too many single guys seem to believe that Fab is an easy ticket to a quick fuck-then complain when they don't get one. We play with loads of single men, but in clubs where they have taken the trouble to make themselves presentable, sociable and available. Sitting at home dashing off a few messages pretty much anonymously is really not the best way to succeed.
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This 
When we get a message we often look at the profile before reading it, profiles that are bare and say "just ask" do not pass go, because as awful as it sounds we just cant be arsed to ask, and someone with a well written profile will be along shortly. |
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over a year ago
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"Too many single guys seem to believe that Fab is an easy ticket to a quick fuck-then complain when they don't get one. We play with loads of single men, but in clubs where they have taken the trouble to make themselves presentable, sociable and available. Sitting at home dashing off a few messages pretty much anonymously is really not the best way to succeed.
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs"
Probably the best description of the process that we've read. Would assume that it applies to single women looking for guys also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But maybe it's best to leave the single guys that make no effort on their profile to fumble on...
I used to offer advice when asked. I won't any more. If they can't string a profile together then they aren't for me full stop |
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"Too many single guys seem to believe that Fab is an easy ticket to a quick fuck-then complain when they don't get one. We play with loads of single men, but in clubs where they have taken the trouble to make themselves presentable, sociable and available. Sitting at home dashing off a few messages pretty much anonymously is really not the best way to succeed.
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"not really supposed to give profile advice unless asked but that might be a starting point "
Not true. You can give profile advice is either someone asks for it, or if it's relative to the thread i.e. someone starts a threat saying they are struggling then it's relative to that thread |
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Like many couples we get messages from single guys every day, in our case between 50 and 150 a day, but we have had over three hundred on a few occassions. But unlike many couples we ONLY meet single guys, so it's not a problem.
To help us cope and to remain sane we use a very simple method to filter through them. If they do not include a face pic with their first message, or if they do send a cock pic, then we will not meet with them. After all our first two lines of our profile do clearly state that, and if they have skipped to the pics without spending a moment reading our profile its not our concern.
We also wont meet with guys outside of our age range and certainly wont arrange meets with guys the other end of the country, no matter how hot they are.
If we start with 100 messages in our inbox and remove all the single word/emoji only messages, then remove all the messages imaginatively saying 'hi how are you?' we are probably left with about 60 messages. Half of which are probably from people outside of our age range, or way too far away. Half of those left will not show a face pic, or send a cock pic.
We don't just chat with people about sex and meets, so once you then discount the messages from people not wanting to meet but passing the time of day talking about footie etc, the messages sent in text speak, and the innevitable message from the guy that rejoins the site every morning, then we might be left with 1 or 2 messages out of 100. These are the messages we are interested in.
Writing a polite reply to 98 people is quite time consuming (time wasting?), especially if we are just one of the hundreds they have pasted 'Hi how are you?' to on that day, but we do try to reply to every message sent from people with more imagination. Hopefully this will help you understand why people may not reply at times, we are all human and sometimes it simply just gets too much.
So from our perspective we would sugest that single guys spend more time looking at profiles and ensuring they match the other persons wants, such as age range, location, sexuality, type of meet etc. And if not, then don't expect anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh Jeff, Jeff, Jeff. The 20/20 stuff isnt to do with 20/20 vision is it? Your opening gambit is eloquent, well considered and even handed, and then I look at your profile and it's a crock of *****
All the women and couples mention the same things for very obvious reasons, no cock avatars, put effort into your profile, be witty/original and socialise I.e. Attend clubs.
Your statement saying you used to make an effort with your profile doesn't really stack up, why on earth would you change it?
I personally think that single males aren't really proper Swingers, but that's a different debate entirely. Fabs is great if you put in the effort. I've had a whale of a time and have now set up a couples profile too.
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"not really supposed to give profile advice unless asked but that might be a starting point
Not true. You can give profile advice is either someone asks for it, or if it's relative to the thread i.e. someone starts a threat saying they are struggling then it's relative to that thread"
if you notice, i did exactly that on the very next post |
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I personally think that single males aren't really proper Swingers, but that's a different debate entirely. Fabs is great if you put in the effort. I've had a whale of a time and have now set up a couples profile too.
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Hear what you are saying, but the men we play with regards themselves as swingers and we consider them to be swingers. That's because they play with couples, attend swing parties, enjoy the social aspect, and basically do all the things that swingers enjoy doing. However I suspect rather a lot of single men are not particularly interested in swinging, in which case we would question what we have to offer these guys other than a shag from me whilst they put up with hubby being there. So as I said in a previous post, our challenge is to find those guys who like swinging. It's actually easier to find those guys in clubs than on Fab |
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs
Probably the best description of the process that we've read. Would assume that it applies to single women looking for guys also. "
I suspect stage 1 and stage 2 apply to single women. The filtering of men with lots of cock pics us personal to us but probably a lot of single wonen and couples share this view. The last filtering stage where we only play with men who are experienced with couple play and like couple play is specific to couples. I think it would be a lot easier to find a single man if I were single because the final filtering process wouldn't be relevant. |
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs"
Excellently put |
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"What we find as a couple is that our starting point is that there are literally hundreds of single male profiles that fall within our age requirements to choose from. So the first thing we have to do is eliminate all the fantasists who are unlikely to meet. Then we have to remove from the equation all those men who are using this site to find free easy sex (those that would be better off using an escort site). At this point we probably have about a quarter left. We will also eliminate all those with a cock avatar or whose profiles are a collection of cock pics if they haven't yet been eliminated. Then with what we've got left we need to work out which men genuinely want to play with a couple - there are a lot of men who just want sex with a lady but are willing to tolerate the husband being there is that's what's required to get sex. So once we've removed the men who aren't really into couple play we will then ask ourselves if a man can give us what we want and if the three of us going to connect and if I'm going to fancy him. We will also usually eliminate men who are relatively inexperienced with couple play too. There are very few men left after these processes of elimination, and we probably know who most of these men within a 20 mile radius are. And the trouble is so do all the other couples! I would say an unmarried attractive eloquent man who enjoys and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple and understands swing etiquette is a relative rarity on Fab. Those guys will usually have a number of couples that they play with.
Mrs
It's hard to get experience without being given a chance."
That's a good point, but everybody is here for their own selfish reasons, so there's not much anybody can do to help someone out who needs experience to get ahead. Amd besides there are simply too many men on Fab for every man to be given a chance. However not all couples will insist on a man having experience with couples, but we have our reasons for doing so. But all the men we do play with started somewhere, so it's not impossible. I think a lot get started by attending clubs. It's easier to make an impression in person. |
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I think this site is ok for chat , but there are so so so many guys pretending to be single or just want to get their kicks from chatting with no intention of meeting , your best bet is to check out clubs or go to socials . As part of a couple who do like inviting single guys to join us for fun , it's so much better chatting face to face to see what personality is like , we may chat to several single guys at club before wife decides if she likes them enough to actually invite them to join in  |
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"I feel a lot single guys can't understand why couples aren't interested in them?
We swing to both enjoy other people which means another couple.
But single guys go on and on about " well you haven't met me yet"
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Your profile clearly states "Not looking for single guys", so if you were local to me, I would block you as we are not compatible |
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"I think this site is ok for chat , but there are so so so many guys pretending to be single or just want to get their kicks from chatting with no intention of meeting , your best bet is to check out clubs or go to socials . As part of a couple who do like inviting single guys to join us for fun , it's so much better chatting face to face to see what personality is like , we may chat to several single guys at club before wife decides if she likes them enough to actually invite them to join in "
Clubs do allow your personality to shine, providing you get the opportunity to do so. Not always easy when people take one look at you, then look at the other eye candy in preference, or chats to 'the regulars' |
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"I feel a lot single guys can't understand why couples aren't interested in them?
We swing to both enjoy other people which means another couple.
But single guys go on and on about " well you haven't met me yet"
Your profile clearly states "Not looking for single guys", so if you were local to me, I would block you as we are not compatible "
Adopting that approach will remove those couples that do meet single men but do the searching, from contacting you. As long as that works for you it's fine but personally I can't see the logic. |
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As a single girl... I only want to meet single guys... personal preference.
I know the etiquette of swinging.. aka.. an avenue for like minded couples to swap and play together or separately or to bring a man or woman to the mix... but I just prefer using this site to meet guys to chat with and maybe meet if the spark is there for great sex hopefully...because at the end of the day, that's all we are here wanting.
I find it safer then say going out and getting shit faced and waking up in a mans bed you can't even recall the name of.. which personally I cannot see the thrill in.
This way, I feel safer.. as I can say yes or no and I can insist on a social meet to ease any worries in the safety issue.
I don't want to date anyone.. but I miss sex so I find this site works perfectly for me.
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"I feel a lot single guys can't understand why couples aren't interested in them?
We swing to both enjoy other people which means another couple.
But single guys go on and on about " well you haven't met me yet"
Your profile clearly states "Not looking for single guys", so if you were local to me, I would block you as we are not compatible
Adopting that approach will remove those couples that do meet single men but do the searching, from contacting you. As long as that works for you it's fine but personally I can't see the logic."
The 'logic' is in reading through their profile (some guys do this), where they say "we are definitely not looking for guys". If they had put "we will find you guys", then that would be different |
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