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First Threesome - advice please
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By *ouple36DD OP Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
We are looking at taking the next step on our swinging journey by inviting a single guy over for a threesome
We would prefer this took place at our flat rather than a club so looking for advice from couples who have done this before.
Particularly interested to hear about tips on how you staged the meet and what you did to create the right environment (e.g. icebreakers).
Feel free to respond here or PM
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What would you be looking for from this guy? Just sex? Or sex and friendship? Are you looking for a social aspect as well? Would you want a regular or exclusive arrangement?
We've been inviting men to join us for three and half years so I can certainly advise how to go about it, depending on what you want from a single gent.
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By *ippcplCouple
over a year ago
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"What would you be looking for from this guy? Just sex? Or sex and friendship? Are you looking for a social aspect as well? Would you want a regular or exclusive arrangement?
We've been inviting men to join us for three and half years so I can certainly advise how to go about it, depending on what you want from a single gent.
Mrs"
We love to hear about it too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We definitely recommend a social first, get a feel for the other person.
No guarantee anyone on here isn't a looney, but a social meet somewhere neutral first will help you suss them out and also see if the mutual attraction is there in the flesh.
Many in here turn up and look nothing like their pics so tread carefully. |
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Most of my meets have had a social first but I've had others were I've been invited back to have sex without a social. I had 2 last week...... but we'd chatted for a few day/weeks first. Yes there are loony toons everywhere, but veris give you an idea as to what you're going to get.
I've had this conversation with my vanilla friends and they've said are you mad just going to someone's house for sex. I say you've got to take a chance in life. I've invited some women/couples back to mine and I'm still here to tell the tale and so are they to leave me a veri. I think dating/swinging sites are safer than meeting someone out in public JMO
Have fun whoever you chose, if you read veris. Cross-reference veris incase they've set up a fake profile and verified themselves. Chatting to a future meet helps to define what EVERYONE wants out of the meet and people's boundaries  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exchange some photos, calls, txts, have a social first...?
When you actually get to having him over, it might be worth having a few drinks (not too much!) to relax.
Don't expect to 'start' immediately - have an hour or two of chat. As the chat turns ruder, the mood will change and you will know if you are ready.
We put some home made porn on TV and our friend soon got into the mood. We also started by myself and Velma playing softly before inviting the friend to join in... we also did pretty much soft play the first time and ramped things up on later meetings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We definitely recommend a social first, get a feel for the other person.
No guarantee anyone on here isn't a looney, but a social meet somewhere neutral first will help you suss them out and also see if the mutual attraction is there in the flesh.
Many in here turn up and look nothing like their pics so tread carefully."
This! We've learned this the hard way!
Ruby |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I was lucky enough to meet a couple a few times (they've split up now).
I think the main thing is to pick someone where you can chat comfortably between all three of you. The guy is stepping into your world and it's quite daunting - making it clear that this is ok and you're happy will put him at ease and make things way better (I've met another couple where the vibe didn't feel quite right).
Make it very clear what you are after and very any boundaries are - I found I was looking for confirmation they were happy for me to do certain things a lot.
The communication and trust between the two guys needs to be particularly open and clear. The husband/partner needs to be on the ball with that!
Above all though relax - and enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my best meets with couples have started in the pub, a couple of drinks not too many. Everyone can relax and things happen much more naturally from there |
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You seem to met quite a few couples. Do you know any of them well enough to recommend a guy they have played with?
Have a social in public place,put your sensible head on, be prepared to walk away, there are plenty to choose from! When we first met a single guy I said to Rosie to get everything she wanted from it...she certainly has! |
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By *ouple36DD OP Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
Thank you for all you're advice - very helpful.
Yes having a social makes perfect sense. There are also a couple of clubs close to us so will attend a night where single guys are allowed as that might serve as a good intro for a follow up meet.
Thank you all again
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are looking at taking the next step on our swinging journey by inviting a single guy over for a threesome
We would prefer this took place at our flat rather than a club so looking for advice from couples who have done this before.
Particularly interested to hear about tips on how you staged the meet and what you did to create the right environment (e.g. icebreakers).
Feel free to respond here or PM
Thank you "
I'm far from an expert, I've met 7 couples. And I'm a single guy so my advice may differ as it's a different perspective.
I'd recommend that you meet socially, somewhere public first. With the understanding that sex probably won't happen that night.
If you all get on still.. You can both go home and fantasise together, so can the male. Flirt online again and then arrange the meeting for the real deal.
If he's worth meeting then he'll understand, he'll also understand if you change your mind in between. Provided you give an honest reason. After all us single men are alone and worry why we've been rejected sometimes. You can be honest and tactful without being brutal. It's a vulnerable position for all of us.
My advice.. Be honest with yourselves and everyone else at every stage. Be yourselves. Be patient and keep your expectations to a minimum. If you follow all that.. At worst, you'll have an interesting night.. At best it can be incredible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to give you a different perspective we don't do socials first (mr works funny hours ) . We invite them in , offer them a d*unk , have a little chat . Mr will then leave us alone for five /ten minutes to get started before joining us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to give you a different perspective we don't do socials first (mr works funny hours ) . We invite them in , offer them a d*unk , have a little chat . Mr will then leave us alone for five /ten minutes to get started before joining us "
I hope the d*unk was aware of the situation |
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