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By *ulu99 OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

So, we've wasted 2 nights this week on men who didn't bother turning up. First night we went to his hotel, as invited, chatting via Fab the entire way in the taxi. Got to the lobby and he stopped responding.

Second night, chatting to a guy locally who promised not to mess us about, said he'd let us know if anything came up that would stop him coming but, yet again, a no show. This time was at our house so at least we didn't waste money on taxis.

So I think we'll stick to clubs for now as clearly it's a waste of time arranging anything on here. Yet all the single men moan about how hard it is to get meets!

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

1 in 7 will show up. We always make a night of it when arranging to meet a guy. We will always only do it when we are having a night out . So if he doesn't show it makes no difference.

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By *ulu99 OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah, we meant to do that too as the local was open, but we were so annoyed we just ordered pizza and went to bed instead!

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

"Yeah, we meant to do that too as the local was open, but we were so annoyed we just ordered pizza and went to bed instead!"

lol I'm out (beards) your way tonight . Me and my mate will probably have a few people say they will join us for drinks but we presume none will show. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just single guys, I have been stood up by two couples!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

all the single men..........

aye ok..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Getting a contact number seems to be ing out all the time wasters for us, as soon as they have to give a 6!number they either put up or shut up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Getting a contact number seems to be ing out all the time wasters for us, as soon as they have to give a 6!number they either put up or shut up"

Why not Video chat as well ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, we've wasted 2 nights this week on men who didn't bother turning up. First night we went to his hotel, as invited, chatting via Fab the entire way in the taxi. Got to the lobby and he stopped responding.

When meeting at a hotel they say they are staying in,we ask for the hotel name,obviously,then their room number,and arrange to phone them in their room before we set off.cuts down on was to g our time,a little.

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

Don't give up OP men women couples all no show. Some just like the fantasy. Others simply change their mind. It happens.

But it doesn't mean all men are like that.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple over a year ago

North West

Fuck em!

(Although I suppose that was the intention)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this has happened to twice recently on both times women arranged to turn up but both no shows i all ways arrange for a met in a public place first normally my hotel bar to make sure the lady in question feels confutable

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By *onnyJohnMan over a year ago

Doncaster

"Don't give up OP men women couples all no show. Some just like the fantasy. Others simply change their mind. It happens.

But it doesn't mean all men are like that. "

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple over a year ago

Ilkeston

Ydea, as a couple of other said, we always find couple are worse for no-shows than anyone else. Just use common sense, the sign are often there.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"1 in 7 will show up. We always make a night of it when arranging to meet a guy. We will always only do it when we are having a night out . So if he doesn't show it makes no difference. "

very much this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only 1 in 7 will show up! OMG is it really that bad? That's truly awful!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Only 1 in 7 will show up! OMG is it really that bad? That's truly awful!"

We've had 1 in 7 cancel and no, no shows. Part luck maybe but part due dilligence as well maybe?

Maybe in part to not meeting many singles as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So I think we'll stick to clubs for now as clearly it's a waste of time arranging anything on here. Yet all the single men moan about how hard it is to get meets! "

We've not had problem with single guys showing up but we have had no shows from couples. If we arrange a meet it's normally at a house now and we exchange numbers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Only 1 in 7 will show up! OMG is it really that bad? That's truly awful!"

I must be that 1 you talk of

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have only had 1 no show in 2 years,a single guy,1 in 7 is a terrible ratio

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By *rx1Couple over a year ago

North Devon-ish

join the club, but it is not just Guys that let couples down, Couples do it as well..We have lost count now how many Genuine people have not shown or stopped messaging and hiding their profiles last minute.

We only meet on neutral ground now, and only if they have verifications by meeting others. It wont stop it, but it improves our chances

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By *ack Genuine BullMan over a year ago

Loughborough

I always turn up for meets, on time, every time.

Punctual, polite, and ready to play.

Smart, fresh, and with a friendly smile.

Happy to travel for the right people!

Sadly though I am outside you age range.

What a shame..........

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By *ulu99 OP Couple over a year ago

Leeds

The hotel guy had a verification from a hotel meet. The other guy gave us his number. He asked to call us to check a female was there, we agreed but he didn't call so the no show wasn't a surprise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had one now show in five years, but I do not have that many meets

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Don't give up OP men women couples all no show. Some just like the fantasy. Others simply change their mind. It happens.

But it doesn't mean all men are like that. "

Oh _ohoho...thankyou....was just going to write similar. .

I always show..and have had ppl /couples too mine....u all seem far away or I.d help out......am a bi male...

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By *anetandNickCouple over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

There are honourable exceptions, but the majority of single guys don't show. You need to invite at least 5 to get one.

Or, well, in my case, you need to invite 100 to get 10!!

Switch to TVs - there's a 99% chance they'll show up, and they're much more fun than most single guys.

Janet xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a year of using Craig's list we had confirmed arrangements to meet 10 men, 2 of which backed out. Then 2 years of using Fab we have had confirmed arrangements to meet 9 men, again of which 2 backed out. We have never had a no show. Our arrangements are all made weeks in advance. Not the reason we make our arrangements like that, but we're a bit anal when it comes to our diaries, which i suspect puts off the fantasists somewhat.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shit happens right. Just move along.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been let down for the first time tonight and it really bloody sucks.

They just stopped responding to our messages, although luckily we didn't get ready as we didn't think they would meet so we are now snuggled up watching a movie. It's not all bad

H x

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

So I think we'll stick to clubs for now as clearly it's a waste of time arranging anything on here. Yet all the single men moan about how hard it is to get meets! "

I have seen so many posts and threads on this site on the subject. This only happened to me once when I agreed to met a guy in a club. He kept on messaging me till the morning and then suddenly he caught a flash flu

I now do not set up meetings with anyone. I put up an event on my profile and those who are free to meet that evening can turn up if they wish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We meet in swingers clubs. Have socials near to club so any no shows don't ruin our plans totally. M x

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By *arren the doggerMan over a year ago

willenhall

Any couples in Cannock / Wolves want a genuine guy that won't mess you around ? Can accommodate . Please read my profile first !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Only 1 in 7 will show up! OMG is it really that bad? That's truly awful!"

My ex-partner quoted me the only 1 in 6 ratio when we arranged our first threesome together. I invited 6 guys I had chatted with ......... and 5 of them turned up!!

Not entirely sure he didn't set me up but who cares, I had a great night!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had 4 couples all saying they wanted to meet us this weekend. One by one they all made excuses and backed out. Too many guys pretending to be couples and too many fantasists

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are honourable exceptions, but the majority of single guys don't show up

In your case maybe but "the majority of guys" is a huge generalisation. In five years of private one to ones I have had two no shows!

It is not fair to tar all single men based on the behaviour of some. Nor any other gender come to that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been let down numerous times, but we never let it spoil our evening.

We always meet for a no strings social evening in a public environment where no play will take place whatsoever. The Wife always dresses provocatively and if the man does not show up, then so be it. We still have a lovely evening in a lovely hotel bar.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

When I had my single profile,I was stood up only once by a bloke who I spoke to by phone.so I don't think a phome call means they won't stand you up.

Miss

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Ofcourse, one can avoid all of this by simply only meeting guys who claim that they are 100% 'genuine'. Unfortunately, there aren't too many of them around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have been let down numerous times, but we never let it spoil our evening.

Yep, this happened to us, but we had a nice time in a new place. We try and get out for a date night once a week. We will hook up with another couple one day!

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

"There are honourable exceptions, but the majority of single guys don't show up

In your case maybe but "the majority of guys" is a huge generalisation. In five years of private one to ones I have had two no shows!

It is not fair to tar all single men based on the behaviour of some. Nor any other gender come to that"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So I think we'll stick to clubs for now as clearly it's a waste of time arranging anything on here. Yet all the single men moan about how hard it is to get meets! "

Fully agree 100%.

We prefer to arrange and meet at a club so if they want to do a no show, it's now irrelevant.

We find everyone; couples, females and guys fall off the radar.

Too many time wasters and fakes, experience has taught us to stick to clubs.

You would think it would be easy to arrange a guy for an MMF or solo with the Mrs but they're not immune from the hopeless bug.

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By *ostafunMan over a year ago

near ipswich

Had it happen to me a couple of weeks ago from a couple i had met before in a hotel.They rang at midnight and invited me to thiers,didnt know thier address but told me to phone when i got to the area.Hour and half drive rang no answer tried for a while and drove home,cant believe they text last night to meet my answer was two words and the second one was off.So not only single guys who fuck people about.

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