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Do you care about spelling and grammar when someone contacts you?
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By *ivinefox OP Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad spelling and grammar is off-putting for us, in this day and age especially with predictive text, there's not really an excuse.  xx |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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no it doesn't. although if i struggle to read what's said it will put me off bothering to decipher what they're saying.
met some very intelligent guys who don't have great grammar. intelligence is rare anyway. loads of people think they're smarter than what they actually are. so no, i won't use grammar as a sign of intelligence at all. just they're good at copying others and fitting into conventional standards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
We don't care about grammar or spelling at all .
If the person is clean , respectful and fun that's all we are concerned about .
What is pp by the way ?
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i'm far from right wing also. hope nobody actually thinks i'm a neo-nazi from my grammar.  |
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
We care about it too. We particularly dislike long sentences. It makes the message harder to read. We also prefer people to use the whole word, rather than abbreviations.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually it doesn't bother me, however the missuse of your and you're does irk me a little |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We care about it too. We particularly dislike long sentences. It makes the message harder to read. We also prefer people to use the whole word, rather than abbreviations. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We care about it too. We particularly dislike long sentences. It makes the message harder to read. We also prefer people to use the whole word, rather than abbreviations. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. Excellent grammar, good use of punctuation and lack of text talk is definitely a plus point for me.....ing with words.
My brain is my biggest sex organ (although my JJ boobs do come close  ), engage that and a modicum of mutual attraction and we are away!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We don't care about grammar or spelling at all .
If the person is clean , respectful and fun that's all we are concerned about .
What is pp by the way ?
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The irony is beautiful |
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The irony of this post is great.
People clearly checking and checking again before they post to it
Spelling mistakes and grammar mistakes occur. Just like we all make everyday mistakes. But if it angers you so much. Then so be it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother us at all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We don't care about grammar or spelling at all .
If the person is clean , respectful and fun that's all we are concerned about .
What is pp by the way ?
The irony is beautiful "
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"i'm far from right wing also. hope nobody actually thinks i'm a neo-nazi from my grammar. "
I thought my grammar made me a neo-Nazi, but it turns out I inherited it from my grampa  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who clearly struggles to string a sentence together isn't someone I'm likely to connect with. ...unless they have a massive cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spelling and grammar can be off putting as much as text speak.
Though I've no idea how the OP connects intellect to political views, seems like the post has a hidden meaning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
I think spelling and grammar are as indicative as to ones intelligence and education, in the same manner that my left bollock accurately Predicts the weather.
PS, fair warning, a heat wave is hitting the UK this weekend |
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
OP. You open your profile telling everybody you are intelligent and pretty.
Firstly in life how do we judge pretty and intelligence. If it's your own scale that's fine by myself.
From my experiences in life I find people who are generally intelligent academically are not always the sharpest tools when it comes to other forms of intelligence.
Just because somebody cannot string great sentences and spelling together doesn't mean they are not intelligent.
I have worked with engineers in the past who struggle to read and write but they have designed built and created wonderful pieces of work.
Are they intelligent or not ?? |
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Sorry, but I'm a bit of a stickler for spelling and punctuation.
I believe good spelling and punctuation shows education, and to some degree, says something about the person.
I admit it's a prejudice, but in relationships, we're entitled to have our choices.
If we receive a reply poorly expressed in written form, it does put us off immediately, even if the writer would be compatible.
Think of a job application. If the recipient found poor spelling and punctuation on the form, the candidate would be likely to be put at the back of the rest.
It's prejudicial, but so are all relationship choices.
It's really no different on here to be honest. |
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Sometimes it's more an indication of laziness I find.
When your trying to hook up there should be a certain level of effort that goes into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we don't mind to much about spelling and grammer as long as its readable, its the text speak that gets us if we cant read it it gets deleted |
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Bad grammar and spelling does annoy me but spelling my name wrong drives me insane!!! |
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Grammar is number one on our list!
Bad spelling and text type messages  are deleted without reply.
Gripe over Have a good evening |
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"Sometimes it's more an indication of laziness I find.
When your trying to hook up there should be a certain level of effort that goes into it."
You're lol! |
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"we don't mind to much about spelling and grammer as long as its readable, its the text speak that gets us if we cant read it it gets deleted"
Grammar, lol! |
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Good grammar and spelling is always a bonus. My pet hate is when someone uses should of or could of instead of should have or could have |
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Wee fink iit donet materr as long is welll fitt.?!.@:;
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
Loughborough |
We don't find it a turn off. We do find a well written email a turn on however.
We've met some wonderful people over the years, had a laugh with them, and then had a look at their profile to find it full of awful grammar and spelling mistakes. Some people are bad at English, doesn't make them bad people, or unsexy, or devoid of a good personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if it's an odd mistake, no problem or its clearly autocorrect. if it's text speak or the grammar is so bad it's indecipherable, we're really not going to be bothered enough to try to translate it...life's too fecking short... |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
Personally I don't mind if a message is grammatically correct or has spelling mistakes.
I am not keen on 'text speak' because it take me too long to work out what is trying to be said.
People who have dyslexia are of high intelligence. I'm guessing some people are not aware that Albert Einstein was dyslexic. |
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One thing, just because somebody doesn't spell or punctuate well, doesn't mean they aren't intelligent. Lack of formal education doesn't mean the person is necessarily stupid.
There are many intelligent people with low levels of education. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
Personally I don't mind if a message is grammatically correct or has spelling mistakes.
I am not keen on 'text speak' because it take me too long to work out what is trying to be said.
People who have dyslexia are of high intelligence. I'm guessing some people are not aware that Albert Einstein was dyslexic. "
Not correct
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We is wonting fuks, not eeenglis exam pas. |
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
Yes it does matter to me, I understand dyslexia but if you know you have a problem then make sure you have a spell checker on the phone or laptop. Bad spelling really does make a difference.
I am sure on occasion I make mistakes but it isnt constant.  Especially as the phone types what it likes sometimes. LOL |
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"if it's an odd mistake, no problem or its clearly autocorrect. if it's text speak or the grammar is so bad it's indecipherable, we're really not going to be bothered enough to try to translate it...life's too fecking short..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but I'm a bit of a stickler for spelling and punctuation.
I believe good spelling and punctuation shows education, and to some degree, says something about the person.
I admit it's a prejudice, but in relationships, we're entitled to have our choices.
If we receive a reply poorly expressed in written form, it does put us off immediately, even if the writer would be compatible.
Think of a job application. If the recipient found poor spelling and punctuation on the form, the candidate would be likely to be put at the back of the rest.
It's prejudicial, but so are all relationship choices.
It's really no different on here to be honest."
If I were applying for a job, or writing a formal letter or report then I'd be inclined to agree with you.
However I'm not, I'm attempting to engage in social conversation, and if I feel the recipient is going to be critically marking the conversation like a GCSE or A level examiner, then I'm likely to feel uncomfortable, not be myself or simply not bother.
Coincidentally, in my opinion, unless one is professionally qualified or trained in the manner of an English teacher, professor or examiner, then I'm not sure one should appoint oneself as such to be examining another's spelling or grammar, as it's quite possible such scrutiny wouldn't be at a conventionally agreed standard. |
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I don't think it's a case of somebody marking someone like a teacher.
It's about putting out your response and receiving a reply.
If it's badly constructed and indicates a poor attitude to conventional norms, at the very least, it shows a slapdash response.
As mentioned earlier, we have spell checkers, Google and many sources of information which could be used to construct a coherent message.
Surely, at the very least, they could run a spell check.
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Having said all of that, if, for example, I was to spell incorrectly in a chat room for instance, that's acceptable because of the live nature of the event. I've done that many, many times!!!
A message should be more considered and more carefully thought out.
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"The irony of this post is great.
People clearly checking and checking again before they post to it
Spelling mistakes and grammar mistakes occur. Just like we all make everyday mistakes. But if it angers you so much. Then so be it "
The irony of your reply to the post is also spectacular! |
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"Sometimes it's more an indication of laziness I find.
When your trying to hook up there should be a certain level of effort that goes into it."
Such as using your instead of you're? |
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One that drives me mad is discrete
It's FUCKING DISCREET FFS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's a case of somebody marking someone like a teacher.
It's about putting out your response and receiving a reply.
If it's badly constructed and indicates a poor attitude to conventional norms, at the very least, it shows a slapdash response.
As mentioned earlier, we have spell checkers, Google and many sources of information which could be used to construct a coherent message.
Surely, at the very least, they could run a spell check.
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Of course, your preferences are your own and shouldn't be knocked or judged.
Personally speaking, we are more concerned about the conversation being polite, respectful, interesting, and mutually inclusive rather than how it's presented. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
My ex bro in law was university educated & ended up financial controller for a large London borough council, he was also more right wing than Adolf Hitler & couldn't wire a sodding plug..
But he could string a sentence together so he must have been a good fuck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I care. I care that pp is not a recognised abbreviation for people |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
Yes. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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What are pp? That's an awful abbreviation I have been lucky enough to not have come across before.
That aside, I care to some extent. I can't be fucked deciphering a message and I like well written prose - I find it a turn on. I don't mind the odd mistake as I know I'm guilty of making them often when I am 'dickstracted' but I like a bit of care and attention paid to a message. |
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"What are pp? That's an awful abbreviation I have been lucky enough to not have come across before.
That aside, I care to some extent. I can't be fucked deciphering a message and I like well written prose - I find it a turn on. I don't mind the odd mistake as I know I'm guilty of making them often when I am 'dickstracted' but I like a bit of care and attention paid to a message."
Is being 'dickstracted' the art of messaging whilst giving a blowjob? |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Text speak is a let hate of mine as is messaging as if you're talking.
I do like intellectual messages and conversations and yes it can give an indication of education. Maybe if people took more time over their messages they'd be more successful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are pp? That's an awful abbreviation I have been lucky enough to not have come across before.
That aside, I care to some extent. I can't be fucked deciphering a message and I like well written prose - I find it a turn on. I don't mind the odd mistake as I know I'm guilty of making them often when I am 'dickstracted' but I like a bit of care and attention paid to a message."
Pp usually means when you're signing a document on behalf of someone else. I've never seen it used in this context before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i really hate it. I also hate text speak |
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We are rather looking forward to the original poster's response when she returns to this thread!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who write 'loose' when they mean 'lose'
Does my swede in.
Have a good evening. |
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"We're the grammar Nazis lol!"
Just goose stepping your way across the dictionary? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pp ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who write 'loose' when they mean 'lose'
Does my swede in.
Have a good evening. "
And exactly how does it affect your Scandinavian friend? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who write 'loose' when they mean 'lose'
Does my swede in.
Have a good evening.
And exactly how does it affect your Scandinavian friend? "
PS my previous deleted post was because I wrote effect rather than affect.
PPS this isn't an addition, I just wanted to write PPS so I could say this now stands for "people's" rather than post post scriptum, according to the OP. (I guess....) |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"What are pp? That's an awful abbreviation I have been lucky enough to not have come across before.
That aside, I care to some extent. I can't be fucked deciphering a message and I like well written prose - I find it a turn on. I don't mind the odd mistake as I know I'm guilty of making them often when I am 'dickstracted' but I like a bit of care and attention paid to a message.
Pp usually means when you're signing a document on behalf of someone else. I've never seen it used in this context before."
Yes, I know it in that context just not referring to a group of pp. Oh well, it's all bants. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"What are pp? That's an awful abbreviation I have been lucky enough to not have come across before.
That aside, I care to some extent. I can't be fucked deciphering a message and I like well written prose - I find it a turn on. I don't mind the odd mistake as I know I'm guilty of making them often when I am 'dickstracted' but I like a bit of care and attention paid to a message.
Is being 'dickstracted' the art of messaging whilst giving a blowjob? "
It's thinking about dicks belonging to certain people whilst attempting to write coherent posts and messages. Not that I do that often. |
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We care about it too. We particularly dislike long sentences. It makes the message harder to read. We also prefer people to use the whole word, rather than abbreviations. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
We actively block people that make to much of a point of spelling.
Saying someone is lacking in education because there spelling/grammar is not up to "your" standard shows to me a lack of education on your part.
My spelling isn't great but I can code in 14 different languages, I teach programming on line, I am self employed (since 18) and a wiz at maths and science.
My wife is terrible at spelling but never posts on this forum now because of the amount of people that think they have more intelligence than her and feel they have to pull her up when she makes mistakes.
Have fun, a person bad at spelling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We actively block people that make to much of a point of spelling.
Saying someone is lacking in education because there spelling/grammar is not up to "your" standard shows to me a lack of education on your part.
My spelling isn't great but I can code in 14 different languages, I teach programming on line, I am self employed (since 18) and a wiz at maths and science.
My wife is terrible at spelling but never posts on this forum now because of the amount of people that think they have more intelligence than her and feel they have to pull her up when she makes mistakes.
Have fun, a person bad at spelling "
Yes, I work closely and communicate regularly with lawyers and solicitors, judges, teachers, police at all levels from bottom all the way up to inspector, MP's, Ofsted inspectors, CQC inspectors, social workers, directors of multi million pound companies etc etc etc, I could go on and on.
By people's measure of "education" in this thread, all these folks communications with me that I have mentioned, are not educated beyond preschool.
I'm just off to fire a few emails out to let them know.
I can assure you those emails won't be grammatically correct or spelled particularly well either.
I'll expect a sad face from the teacher in my workbook tomorrow |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"I care. I care that pp is not a recognised abbreviation for people "
I thought it was an abbreviation for person present.
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Intelligence comes in many different forms, Being able to spell or using the correct grammar doesn't necessary mean you are intelligent, I keep up to date with the current news, TV programs, Documentaries and such and can hold my own when chatting to people but spelling and my basic English are at a low standard,
A whole message or repeat messages in text speak would put me off a person, Mainly because I cant understand what they are saying
I use Google a lot when chatting on here to help with my spelling but sill make mistakes |
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"Yes, I work closely and communicate regularly with lawyers and solicitors, judges, teachers, police at all levels from bottom all the way up to inspector, MP's, Ofsted inspectors, CQC inspectors, social workers, directors of multi million pound companies etc etc etc, I could go on and on.
By people's measure of "education" in this thread, all these folks communications with me that I have mentioned, are not educated beyond preschool.
I'm just off to fire a few emails out to let them know.
I can assure you those emails won't be grammatically correct or spelled particularly well either.
I'll expect a sad face from the teacher in my workbook tomorrow "
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Depends how bad it is... The fact that people are poor at spelling and grammar doesn't necessarily mean they are lacking intelligence.
Lots of text speak and strange abbreviations is another matter entirely. Apart from the fact I'll probably need it translating, It screams lazy to me... I don't want lazy when it comes to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, I work closely and communicate regularly with lawyers and solicitors, judges, teachers, police at all levels from bottom all the way up to inspector, MP's, Ofsted inspectors, CQC inspectors, social workers, directors of multi million pound companies etc etc etc, I could go on and on.
By people's measure of "education" in this thread, all these folks communications with me that I have mentioned, are not educated beyond preschool.
I'm just off to fire a few emails out to let them know.
I can assure you those emails won't be grammatically correct or spelled particularly well either.
I'll expect a sad face from the teacher in my workbook tomorrow
haha, you might get a spanked bum!"
I reyly reyly hope that mite not be true......, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand text speak is somewhat not the best, however I firmly believe that some people become so far up their own arses when it comes to spelling and grammar that they might just lose out on meeting fun people from all walks of life.If you cannot get by barriers to some peoples communication , then you are not that great at communication yourself.
I could probably talk the arse off to people about macro photography,quantum physics etc, but at the end of it..I can show I'm a funny,witty,intelligent type without having to show levels of intelligence that are simply not needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reyly reyly hope that mite not be true......, "
Awww, you know you want it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reyly reyly hope that mite not be true......,
Awww, you know you want it "
I don't now wat u cud posibly meen? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it bugs me when I get messages from men in their 50's using text speak as it just comes across as farcical, and like they are trying too hard... |
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over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
We actively block people that make to much of a point of spelling.
Saying someone is lacking in education because there spelling/grammar is not up to "your" standard shows to me a lack of education on your part.
My spelling isn't great but I can code in 14 different languages, I teach programming on line, I am self employed (since 18) and a wiz at maths and science.
My wife is terrible at spelling but never posts on this forum now because of the amount of people that think they have more intelligence than her and feel they have to pull her up when she makes mistakes.
Have fun, a person bad at spelling "
Oh yeah...and I bet she's rubbish in bed...far too lazy eh!?
a cocks a cock and a fannys a fanny...they cannot read nor write.
Can see it now...gangbang line up..."lets check your spelling and grammar"...the guy at the end starts to quiver...knowing he's gonna be a shite fuck because he's rubbish at writing. |
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over a year ago
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Mr doggy suffers from word blindness ,so uses and on the ,sometimes twice together in a sentence. If that omits us from someone's search so be it . It's about connection not correction |
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Yeah, the quality of the message I receive has a big bearing on the response I give and likelyhood I will meet them.
Lazy people are easy to spot... |
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over a year ago
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Most people probably don't get moody about a bit of poor punctuation or grammar, it's when you cannot decipher what someone is saying from a mixture of text speak and poor grammar which kind of irks |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Most people probably don't get moody about a bit of poor punctuation or grammar, it's when you cannot decipher what someone is saying from a mixture of text speak and poor grammar which kind of irks "
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"Most people probably don't get moody about a bit of poor punctuation or grammar, it's when you cannot decipher what someone is saying from a mixture of text speak and poor grammar which kind of irks
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Also shows that someone has taken some care and diligence in writing you a message. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Most people probably don't get moody about a bit of poor punctuation or grammar, it's when you cannot decipher what someone is saying from a mixture of text speak and poor grammar which kind of irks
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so true for me it doesn't matter so much so long as I can read what they have written. if I have to re-learn my great grand mothers national lanquige then conversation is difficult if the message is full of text Slang then I am instantly turned off. |
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over a year ago
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
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Yes, definitely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends. Someone with dyslexia might not spell everything spot on but you get the gist so it's not an issue.
Text speak is more not my thing. |
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over a year ago
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I just don't give a fuck! I have met unintelligent educated people and intelligent uneducated people of which I would consider myself to be, sometimes. Plus I think creativity can spark in even the lowest of IQ's. So why would it affect who I meet, if I meet someone educated but then they are dull and not my cuppa tea I won't meet them again, I won't have lost anything and vice versa |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
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Grammar shouldn't be an indicator as to whether a potential meet has potential, but, I can't help but say that, it does for me.
If their grammar is poor and they're not able to avoid using slang, abbreviations or text speak , then neither they are for me, nor probably am I for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Grammar pool ?
Sink or swim ,
Not important
Typos not withstanding g ! In the Shallow end x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite right |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Grammar pool ?
Sink or swim ,
Not important
Typos not withstanding g ! In the Shallow end x"
the swallow end would have been more apropriat. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've noticed a growing trend recently where people make what are clearly statements, but follow them up with multiple question marks.
For example, I've seen:
"Hi, I'm Nicole, and I love dogs ??"
OK.
Right.
Are you asking me if you love dogs?
Are you confused as to the reason(s) why you love dogs?
That really grinds my gears for some reason!
I'll admit to ignoring more than one message on another site from what I'm sure were otherwise perfectly lovely people because of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've noticed a growing trend recently where people make what are clearly statements, but follow them up with multiple question marks.
For example, I've seen:
"Hi, I'm Nicole, and I love dogs ??"
OK.
Right.
Are you asking me if you love dogs?
Are you confused as to the reason(s) why you love dogs?
That really grinds my gears for some reason!
I'll admit to ignoring more than one message on another site from what I'm sure were otherwise perfectly lovely people because of that. "
It happens with emoticons that aren't supported...like when someone tries to use the ones on their phone...smiley faces turn into question marks |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Written communication is a minefield of projected semantics at the best of times; why complicate it more by bad grammar.
I aways like the example of...
Let's eat Grandma.
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Let's eat, Grandma.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, we're not really a put off at all. People are brought up in all sorts of life, some dragged up lol but you can't tell from the personality when you get chatting to them, the vibe they give off. Can't really blame them for the way their parents choose to bring them up. Places in the world where people can't even afford to learn to read and write so no, we're not really put off in the slightest.
Our personal opinion to people that do get really offended by the lack of somebody's punctuation can't really be as laid back and down to earth as their profile states. That's just our opinion though. What do we know, right? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It shouldn't matter a bit - this a sex site not a philosophy class, after all.
But I must admit txt spk and "avin a laff" profiles do put me off a bit.
Having said that I've had wonderful fun with girls who did txt-spk and dreary meets with super-bright intellectuals, so..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Edit!
Insert "is" between this and a in the first sentence.
I may be literate but I'm clearly a rubbish sub |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me, it's all about first impressions and while I might not consider it necessarily a deal breaker, poor spelling does, it a lot of case, indicate carelessness, lack of attention / effort and can perhaps give the impression that if someone has this attitude to spelling, then it may reflect on their attitude towards how they present themselves, and more importantly, how much effort or attention they might devote to a meet. |
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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It matters to me, the odd spelling mistake is fine but some people just aren't capable of stringing a sentence together. Shortening words such as ppl for people and how r u instead of writing the full words is laziness.
There's no need for it on here. Then some people wonder why they can't get any meets.
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I test peoples intelligence & education by simply asking them if the voted for Brexit lol, all these people who had no real idea why they wanted to leave (like the government) who couldn't voice one sensible true reason for such an action.
We all have our own ways of filtering yhe less intelligent.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it matters too much how good their grammar is but it is a turn on if a guy, or girl, is intelligent and can string a sentence together xx |
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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago
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As a dyslexic I am only too aware of how tricky it can be to get spelling correct, even with spell checkers (very often I cannot see what is wrong with something I have written even when that pesky red line is screaming about it). So as long as I can read the message I am not too concerned about the spelling.
Whilst grammar can sometimes be indicative of a person's education, I would prefer to Base that estimation on the contents of the message rather than the medium used to convey it. Afterall someone with perfect spelling and grammar drilled into them can still be intelectually challenged.
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"Usually it doesn't bother me, however the missuse of your and you're does irk me a little "
Also there and their! A bug bear for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its their 1st contact id expect them to atleast put a small amount of effort in to correct spelling,dont mind the odd spelling mistake,it takes but a moment to open another window and spell check the harder words...but as a rule people shouldn't use words they cant spell
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree. Excellent grammar, good use of punctuation and lack of text talk is definitely a plus point for me.....ing with words.
My brain is my biggest sex organ (although my JJ boobs do come close ), engage that and a modicum of mutual attraction and we are away! "
Breasts are glands, not organs. |
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you think having poor English makes them right wing ?
my filter is when they've obviously not read my profile and lots of bad spelling makes them appear thick and uneducated. i agree with that . |
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Oh I'm pedantic about it I've deleted many messages due to poor spelling and grammar! My choice |
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It is part of the decision making process. |
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I go for the package - or not. Single things may deter me, though usually it's lack of effort or respect. |
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
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Text speak and no punctuation is the main annoyance for us. We can accept spelling mistakes. After all, a good openning message is not easy to compose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes |
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I know several people with right wing views and impeccable grammar.
Though if you assess a message on grammar and spelling, and reject those that have not been polished and refined, I don't blame you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely! Drives us nuts. Does anyone on this site know the difference between ladies and lady's? And he's and his. Also had a message last week saying "know problem. I've got know car at the moment though" and somethink and anythink.
It puts us off straight away. Educate yourself folks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ha k then m8 u jus gotta gis us fickos a try u neva now u mike light is moore dan ur over m8s |
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Annoys the hell out of me. I like an intelligent man to connect with, that can hold a decent conversation as well. Literacy is important |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems everyone wants to meet the intelligent people.
We'll take the ones with common sense then
A messages with the odd spelling mistake and a missing full stop here and there wouldn't bother us in the slightest. Total text speak that resembles the texts you used to send on a 3210 so you didn't take up too many character and get charged for two texts. Then yeah it wouldn't spark much interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Annoys the hell out of me. I like an intelligent man to connect with, that can hold a decent conversation as well. Literacy is important "
is literally dat impotent? mayby u can tich me?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lnk cr b82rez 2g4
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone makes mistakes. But taking the time to write out the words, brings out the manners and respect. That's my two cents on this matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm interested in someone I always have a little check of their forum posts to see if they've ever said anything political. Although there have been studies linking right wing voting trends to low education (I'm specifically not saying intelligence here), I think that it's difficult to make that kind of analysis on a one to one basis. Forum posts are much more reliable.
I don't tend to meet people who can't write coherently. Odd mistakes aren't a problem, but incoherency and an inability to find the shift key are a huge barrier to communication on the Internet which makes things more difficult to get to know someone. |
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I'm not overly fussy as long as I can read what it says but if there is no punctuation at all I find it very difficult and hard work to interpret what the writer is try to put across when people write like this I will alway just delete it I don't want to have to spend precious time figuring out where the sentences end and giving myself a headache in the process I don't enjoy giving myself a headache |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't ask for perfection but poorly phrased sentences and a lazy approach is unlikely to get our interest! |
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If I'm texting or chatting in the forums I don't always check what I write because it's going too fast, therefore typos happen. Though I do sometimes remove my post if there are errors, then rewrite and repost. But we do put a lot care into our profile text and into first messages, in order to make a good impression. We wouldn't dream of pressing send without proof reading. Some would call that anally retentive. We call it taking pride in how we present ourselves, an approach that we like to think we use in all aspects of life. I guess we like people who are like us. Someone who doesn't care about how they present themselves we are unlikely to get on with. Doesn't bother me if people can't spell - I actually find that irrelevant as everybody has access to a spell check in this day an age. It's the not bothering to correct excessive amounts of typos that comes across to us as sloppy. And everybody knows that a sentence begins with a capital letter and ends with a full-stop, so I can't fathom why anybody would care so little as to do otherwise.
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over a year ago
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Grammer doesn't bother me that much as some pple English not their 1st language. But if its written like a 8year old with street slang then yeah bit of a turn off for me |
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"The irony of this post is great.
People clearly checking and checking again before they post to it
Spelling mistakes and grammar mistakes occur. Just like we all make everyday mistakes. But if it angers you so much. Then so be it "
That's the difference for us. A few mistakes are fine, but there comes a point where it's evident people are being lazy, more so with spelling than grammar and punctuation. Lack of punctuation just makes it hard to read correctly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. I like to think someone has taken the time and effort. If a message starts yo sexy- instant delete!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest my argument with the wife is people with half a brain can read straight through grammer and spelling mistakes anyway so why does it matter ? . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wifes pet hate is poor grammar , no capital letters on names , no commas , no full stops etc . Even I get a bollocking if I send a message and the grammar is poor or there is a spelling mistake . Personally it doesn't bother me the younger generation are brought up on tex talk so most can't spell anyway . I can see you all now checking this message for spelling mistakes
I've got to admit - one of the things that really, really, really drives me up the wall is people who put spaces before commas and full stops. Sorry. "
Ooh yes. It's just so unnecessary. |
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"To be honest my argument with the wife is people with half a brain can read straight through grammer and spelling mistakes anyway so why does it matter ? ."
Fwiw - many people with dyslexia can struggle to read poorly written text.
They are often extremely intelligent and have far more than "half a brain".
My partner who I live with for example is heavily dyslexic. He writes very badly and struggles to read poorly composed messages from people (who write like he does). But he is a computer scientist at the top of the ladder and writes code like... Well... Better than I can write English (and I'm a writer).
So it's not always about having half a brain. It's about giving yourself the best possible chance of success with the people who you would like to meet. |
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I've sent messages with a smiley face but it translated as ?? for some reason. Maybe they are doing the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest my argument with the wife is people with half a brain can read straight through grammer and spelling mistakes anyway so why does it matter ? .
Fwiw - many people with dyslexia can struggle to read poorly written text.
They are often extremely intelligent and have far more than "half a brain".
My partner who I live with for example is heavily dyslexic. He writes very badly and struggles to read poorly composed messages from people (who write like he does). But he is a computer scientist at the top of the ladder and writes code like... Well... Better than I can write English (and I'm a writer).
So it's not always about having half a brain. It's about giving yourself the best possible chance of success with the people who you would like to meet."
This is what I said but if you didn't take elocution lessons some people won't meet you, apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like to think the person I am messaging has a level of intelligence but sense of humour and an attraction more important |
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Bot really,
I know not everyone has perfect grammar and it is very easy to mess up your phone's dictionary by not correcting incorrect spellings, eventually they are added and used.
Just because someone grammar isn't great, it doesn't change them as a person..
People with excellent grammar can be total twats too!! |
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Bollox..
First word and I spell it wrong.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some pp |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I don't think spelling or grammar is very important . Not everyone on here has English as a first language . However 'text speak' or abbreviation can take too long to decipher ( and let's face it , who can be bothered ). Of course that could be an age issue haha. |
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"I don't think spelling or grammar is very important . Not everyone on here has English as a first language . However 'text speak' or abbreviation can take too long to decipher ( and let's face it , who can be bothered ). Of course that could be an age issue haha. "
At last !!! An adult |
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Everybody makes the odd typo from time to time, but a message full of bad grammar or spelling would put me off a bit. Not that I can afford to filter out messages on here for that reason!
One pet hate I've noticed a lot of recently is people mixing up "been" and "being", "seen" and "seeing" and "non" and "none" which does make me wonder if people really don't understand the difference between these completely different words? |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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Of course there could be another possible cause for mistakes .
The speed some people type and send. Auto correct can put some interesting words in if you don't check before sending . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi.
I do care about spelling and grammar but do make an exception if, having viewed the profile of the sender, I find that English isn't their first language. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everybody makes the odd typo from time to time, but a message full of bad grammar or spelling would put me off a bit. Not that I can afford to filter out messages on here for that reason!
One pet hate I've noticed a lot of recently is people mixing up "been" and "being", "seen" and "seeing" and "non" and "none" which does make me wonder if people really don't understand the difference between these completely different words?"
And when people use "are" when they should use "our". The people who read the letters sent to The Jeremy Kyle Show must see this one a lot!
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I stopped reading as soon as I read the opening post. Why oh why do people do it to themselves? If your going to bitch about grammar at least get it right yourself.
Grammar doesn't both me in the slightest and I couldn't careless if mine has the odd error. What I do enjoy is picking faults with people who obviously think they are above others.
With modern technologies like autocorrect a lot can be forgiven. Autocorrect regularly gets things wrong. |
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter...
OP. You open your profile telling everybody you are intelligent and pretty.
Firstly in life how do we judge pretty and intelligence. If it's your own scale that's fine by myself.
From my experiences in life I find people who are generally intelligent academically are not always the sharpest tools when it comes to other forms of intelligence.
Just because somebody cannot string great sentences and spelling together doesn't mean they are not intelligent.
I have worked with engineers in the past who struggle to read and write but they have designed built and created wonderful pieces of work.
Are they intelligent or not ??"
I know an Engineer who was awarded a National Engineering Award despite being Dyslexic. The actual irony lies in the OP having grammatical errors in their opening post and some later contributors alao uaing my favourite lazy tool..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I care. It's a massive annoyance for me.
My daughter is 7 and can honestly spell better than alot on here |
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
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"Wifes pet hate is poor grammar , no capital letters on names , no commas , no full stops etc . Even I get a bollocking if I send a message and the grammar is poor or there is a spelling mistake . Personally it doesn't bother me the younger generation are brought up on tex talk so most can't spell anyway . I can see you all now checking this message for spelling mistakes
I've got to admit - one of the things that really, really, really drives me up the wall is people who put spaces before commas and full stops. Sorry.
Ooh yes. It's just so unnecessary. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do as to me it indicates someone's education and intellectual ability. As well as it being careless. I know a lot of pp on here don't care about it but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection and since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views, I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with...
Happy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that pp can be dyslexic etc but I guess it's just a filter..."
If someone is dyslexic I hope they would use spell check or explain their lack of spelling/grammar to me in the message. I don't arrange to meet if the spelling/grammar is bad. I think it either indicates lack of maturity or lack of effort. M x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmm
How do I start a Discussion?
Off kilter here |
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Some of the messages I get sent just don't make sense.. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Some of the messages I get sent just don't make sense.."
That is what I tend to get - poor spelling and no punctuation = a message I have no idea how to reply to!
A lot of these messages are sent by guys with really poor profiles, so if they can't be bothered why should I bother to try to translate their equally poor messages? It just makes for a really hard conversation to have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of the messages I get sent just don't make sense..
That is what I tend to get - poor spelling and no punctuation = a message I have no idea how to reply to!
A lot of these messages are sent by guys with really poor profiles, so if they can't be bothered why should I bother to try to translate their equally poor messages? It just makes for a really hard conversation to have "
I just delete them, then I get abuse.. so have to block!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bad spelling and grammar is off-putting for us, in this day and age especially with predictive text, there's not really an excuse. xx"
Predictive text doesn't improve your grammar, it just means you are more likely to send a message containing a totally inappropriate or unrelated word (I use you in the general sense not as in you personally) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes me laugh how many people on here are moaning about spelling and grammar mistakes then have them in the own posts and profiles
And no, mine isn't great also :P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Makes me laugh how many people on here are moaning about spelling and grammar mistakes then have them in the own posts and profiles
And no, mine isn't great also :P"
I could not understand a word of that.Please use proper pronunciation, so that I can fathom whatever it is that you are saying.Thank you, now off to perv your pictures...to determine if the grammar will put me off shagging the Mrs. |
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"I do, as to me, it indicates someone's lack of education and intellectual ability as well as being careless. I know a lot of people on here don't seem to care about it, but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection. Since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views! I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with.
I'm hppy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that people are dyslexic etc, but I guess it's just another way to filter."
Seeing as it means so much to you. I've corrected yours.
You're very welcome. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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At times, mine is embarrassingly poor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my God yes!!! I thought it was just me that thought it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it depends, if it's an obvious spelling mistake then fine we all make them. If it is a message which requires a translator then I'm not going to sit and try work out what it says because someone is too lazy to type the word 'you' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do, as to me, it indicates someone's lack of education and intellectual ability as well as being careless. I know a lot of people on here don't seem to care about it, but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection. Since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views! I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with.
I'm hppy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that people are dyslexic etc, but I guess it's just another way to filter.
Seeing as it means so much to you. I've corrected yours.
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You're very welcome. "
This absolutely made my day! Lolz |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my God yes!!! I thought it was just me that thought it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it depends, if it's an obvious spelling mistake then fine we all make them. If it is a message which requires a translator then I'm not going to sit and try work out what it says because someone is too lazy to type the word 'you'"
Pretty much the same as this.
I can accept people's errors. I make lots myself, and the speed I tap away at my phone to post on s thread means, i very rarely look back and read through before I press post.
And bad grammar to me just means you got a C in English and not an A star, or you talk the way geography has tought you. (I'm near Bolton, some of the phrases I have to google myself)
But, I see posts with absolute disregard to making it illegible and I cringe. If this is what is sent in messages I fear it's not the best impression.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I do, as to me, it indicates someone's lack of education and intellectual ability as well as being careless. I know a lot of people on here don't seem to care about it, but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection. Since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views! I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with.
I'm hppy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that people are dyslexic etc, but I guess it's just another way to filter.
Seeing as it means so much to you. I've corrected yours.
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You're very welcome.
This absolutely made my day! Lolz "
I can see a few mistakes that remain but good effort. |
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Whether good/bad spelling/grammar I am inclined to read between the lines; that is should a message extend that far  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not interviewing for a secretary so spelling and grammar is not important in this case.
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"At times, mine is embarrassingly poor. "
Embarrassment, so often a byproduct of inadvertent stigmatisation. I sympathise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't bother me that much...but then maybe I do allow people to make mistakes and also some have specific difficulties that differ from our own.
Intelligence has got little to do with education which seems to be a common mistake. Some of the world's most intelligent people had little education.
Education especially in the western idea is limiting and narrow. ...teaching not to be open and stretching the mind to think and explore except in a way society expects. It is ultimately the way to control people to conform. It's threatening if too many people choose not to conform, many don't know how to handle being different...but then if accepted it widens and broadens our collective capacities.
I'm a Sapiophile and I'm stimulated by communication and challenging my brain.... If someone can spell or not doesn't mean they can't challenge my mind.
Maybe we need to ask ourselves why we find something off putting or offensive...It might reveal more about ourselves than the other party.
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It's fairly important to us, especially if it's the first contact you have with us. If someone's put a lot of thought into what they want to say and their text has a few typos or missing punctuation then that's one thing. Getting a one line message that has no capitals, no punctuation and every other word is misspelled is another and will likely get binned.
We tend to form a mental picture of the person based on their writing style. If it's brief and sloppy then we assume the sender's lazy with no imagination. If it's detailed with a few errors then we assume the sender is enthusiastic to talk to us so is tripping over themselves as they type. If it's just a wall of text with no punctuation then we pass out before we get to the end.
I'm dyslexic myself and certainly no literary genius but I do try and make sure that what I write holds up reasonably well from a SPAG standpoint. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have noted too that spelling policing is actually frowned upon by fab and i believe can be seen as passive bullying so care should be taken when commenting about someone's spelling unless like their profile they ask for advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do, as to me, it indicates someone's lack of education and intellectual ability as well as being careless. I know a lot of people on here don't seem to care about it, but when you are thinking about being intimate with someone, for me, there has to be an intellectual connection. Since lack of education seems to be correlated with a lack of critical thinking and right wing views! I'm sorry but I do use lack of grammar to filter out those people that I don't want to spend my time with.
I'm hppy to hear other points of view and I'm aware that people are dyslexic etc, but I guess it's just another way to filter.
Seeing as it means so much to you. I've corrected yours.
You're very welcome. "
pp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can spell and do sentencing and paragraphs etc
However when laying in bed on my phone .my thumbs are to big for the keys so I can hit the wrong key. |
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