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Dealing with annoying messages
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol 
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "
I have got one thankyou xx
However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers
I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "
Set filters, delete messages and move on. Maybe find yourself a hobby or something better to do than feed the few trolls that message!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Set filters, delete messages and move on. Maybe find yourself a hobby or something better to do than feed the few trolls that message!
That would have been a better way of putting it xx
Trolling the Trolls
To be honest it was just a bit of fun xx
To see if anyone else had fun ways of turning something that fustates people into something that can become a laugh x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For the most part I delete and block but if I'm feeling naughty  I will take the piss and send sarcastic messages back "
Phewwe thought I might be on my own for a moment there lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on here since last April, on and off, and have found that a polite message of no thanks and then blocking works.
No drama. No fuss. I find taking the piss a bit mean spirited, and there really isn't need for that with filters etc.
Most men are just thankful to get a response at all i've found. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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aren't you then wasting your own time?
I don't understand why you would spend time entering into dialogue with people you're clearly not interested in? if you've got the time to do it then crack on, I suppose...I'd rather interact with people we want to meet and then meet them...while we're out swinging, you'll be behind your keyboard baiting idiots... |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I've been on here since last April, on and off, and have found that a polite message of no thanks and then blocking works.
No drama. No fuss. I find taking the piss a bit mean spirited, and there really isn't need for that with filters etc.
Most men are just thankful to get a response at all i've found."
Yes, it is a bit mean spirited, totally agree.
But what's mean spirited to some will be fun for others, and so it goes. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse.
I have got one thankyou xx
However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers
I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx
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Lashing out in return...classy.
You asked for opinions, and specifically said "don't condemn us too harshly", so you were clearly expecting opinions that weren't aligned with yours.
"It's a bit immature" doesn't seem that controversial a view to hold, personally. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse.
I have got one thankyou xx
However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers
I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx
Lashing out in return...classy.
You asked for opinions, and specifically said "don't condemn us too harshly", so you were clearly expecting opinions that weren't aligned with yours.
"It's a bit immature" doesn't seem that controversial a view to hold, personally. "
If it had been put in such a manner as you have put it I would not have gotten so defensive however " grow up and get a life " is a little rude x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bear in mind that you run the risk of getting an admin warning or message ban if your 'fun' messages upset someone. This is why I report abuse without response then delete."
Oh I didn't know that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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At the beginning I was always nice and answering all the mails. I am still nice but I also use the block button. Someone who can't accept no keeps mailing is just not on. Sorry not interested Thanks is enough me thinks. I have gotten rejected and I accepted and moved on. Be a grown up. Not a teenager.  |
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"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "
I have better things to do with my spare time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can tell from the profile & opening line whether it's a message worth reading or one for the delete button.
Don't waste your time or theirs by messing about, it's not worth the hassle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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I normally just give banter back. It wastes my time I know. I never throw insults it's not worth it, but if they're winding me up, it goes right back. If I think they deserve it.
Sometimes i ignore it and delete, it all depends on my moods. I have many shades of moods. |
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An annoying message is best dealt with by ignoring and blocking the sender.
An abusive message is best dealt with by reporting to admin who can issue a warning to hopefully prevent others receiving similar from that person.
Personally I consider goading someone to get a response to be bullying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I find both Fab and its forums to be one big bad mean spirited play ground full of bullies and cliques. Not how you would have expected a sex site to be. But there you go. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Bear in mind that you run the risk of getting an admin warning or message ban if your 'fun' messages upset someone. This is why I report abuse without response then delete.
Oh I didn't know that "
As long as you are not abusive you can more or less say what you like in mails.
In answer to your OP...it depends on my mood, sometimes I "play" a little ( not in a sexual way ) and play them at their own game. Mind you, one time I did that we ended up having a good laugh and we met the men three weeks later |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
I usually ignore and block. If it's nasty and abusive I report.
Occasionally I have responded with a carefully worded sarcastic message in return. In these cases I don't block. It would be a cowardly thing to reply then run. Sometimes I get an apology and people genuinely had not realised how their message sounded.
If I get crap back, they had their chance and it's time to block.
Besides as you can tell, I like waffling |
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Hi, Some interesting replies on this thread if we receive a message we reply, can't remember receiving any abusive messages in all the years we have been on fab.
Most messages we receive are copy and paste from single men and a reply would we think brighten their day.
As to blocking people our list is empty as there's no point, a new profile can soon get around any block.
Best to use the filter tools if you feel bullied or just report any abusive messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes say 'is my profile really that difficult to read' or 'maybe an idea to read a profile before messaging. Save your time being wasted.Have a nice day' then it goes quiet. No abuse. Lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they catch me on a "no chocolate day" I'll often respond with something just as ridiculous as the message they sent me in the first place. Abusive mail just gets reported and blocked however, life is too short for that sh1t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx
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So throwing insults back is acceptable is it?
Wow, what maturity 
To be fair, OP, the response to your initial post was perfectly acceptable, and I completely agree.
You are asking how others deal with annoying messages and go on to indicate that, if anything, you are adding to the problem.
In response to your final question, no, I don't believe there are any site rules against this, however, perhaps there should be, but I would suggest, given how snappy you were to a perfectly valid response to your initial post, that you may be straying into the boundaries of what is and what isn't acceptable in a message and run the risk of being reported by others if they feel you are being abusive or are breaching any other rules.
The best way to deal with such messages is to delete, block and move on. |
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I don't insult just point a few things out to married guys and, it usually is as they go on and on trying to get me to meet. I do the same to men pretending they are bi in the hope of getting to me. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx
So throwing insults back is acceptable is it?
Wow, what maturity
To be fair, OP, the response to your initial post was perfectly acceptable, and I completely agree.
You are asking how others deal with annoying messages and go on to indicate that, if anything, you are adding to the problem.
In response to your final question, no, I don't believe there are any site rules against this, however, perhaps there should be, but I would suggest, given how snappy you were to a perfectly valid response to your initial post
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So being told to grow up and get a life is a perfectly natural response to a question? I think it is rude and obviously they did too |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
secret town |
"Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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I do that sometimes to humour myself |
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"Hi guys
Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.
We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol
Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us
I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol
But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?
Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx
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So you are time wasters then |
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