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By *pples69 OP Man
over a year ago
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Hi all, we've been on this site for a while now and can't understand how few people actually want to meet.
Yes we're only looking for soft fun but we cant beleive that most people would rather sit and look at their computer all night then meet and see it for real!
Please take a look at our profile and point out anything you think is wrong with it. We'd like to hear if others have the same problem.
Let us know.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the replies you will get will be from alleged single males.
However as we all know most are far from single and are really just on here "bashing the Bishop".
They can't meet because eyebrows would be raised at home.Most of my married friends have given up going out completely and when they do they just stand around letching rather talking.
I know that sounds judgemental but it seems to be a cold hard fact.
Please don't take me for a holier than thou type I'm far from it.
Ladies we are a bunch of inadequate kids compared to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not being sarcastic here it looks like you both have very good figures so maybe some people feel a bit intimidated? "
there are many on here with good figures so the numbers still stack up... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its obvious!!! Spotted it immediatly.....
You "Won`t meet smokers". 
You should have done your market research, as a majority of "softswnigers" are smelly, smoke swallowing, social missfits.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"LOL, I guess we're all social misfits one way or another! We're not against smokers if their considerate, so good idea!"
Only teasing, because as "soft swingers" we are in a minority on these sites it does take a little longer to find what we`re looking for. Plus we find we have to be prepared to travel a little more also. Patience has its rewards we promise.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please take a look at our profile and point out anything you think is wrong with it. We'd like to hear if others have the same problem.
Let us know.."
i can't see too much wrong with your profile at all. you have put more effort into it than many on here. patience seems to be the key on sites like these. but other sites that charge you for membership etc are (in my opinion) rubbish. this site seems better for genuine people although you will obviously get the occassional waster.
i would suggest going to a swingers club in order to get to know some people and have a fondle etc with other couples. i also find that the people that regularly let you down are the younger ones (really sorry to pigeon hole, but that's my experience)....try the more experienced swingers first as they are so much more relaxed and certainly know how to have a good time 
but the one thing i would suggest, is that countless emails can sometimes be a good thing. i always prefer to talk a lot first just to see if they can actually hold a conversation and not just use the same lines on everyone. you also begin to find out if you click on an emotional level as well as physical.....in fact, i'm not sure there are any negatives to messaging lots. hope you both start to enjoy this site more soon. there will be plenty of couples wanting to meet you soon, trust me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please take a look at our profile and point out anything you think is wrong with it. We'd like to hear if others have the same problem.
Let us know..
i can't see too much wrong with your profile at all. you have put more effort into it than many on here. patience seems to be the key on sites like these. but other sites that charge you for membership etc are (in my opinion) rubbish. this site seems better for genuine people although you will obviously get the occassional waster.
i would suggest going to a swingers club in order to get to know some people and have a fondle etc with other couples. i also find that the people that regularly let you down are the younger ones (really sorry to pigeon hole, but that's my experience)....try the more experienced swingers first as they are so much more relaxed and certainly know how to have a good time
but the one thing i would suggest, is that countless emails can sometimes be a good thing. i always prefer to talk a lot first just to see if they can actually hold a conversation and not just use the same lines on everyone. you also begin to find out if you click on an emotional level as well as physical.....in fact, i'm not sure there are any negatives to messaging lots. hope you both start to enjoy this site more soon. there will be plenty of couples wanting to meet you soon, trust me "
Great points Koda, we agree with with every bit, very well put.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yep...that's my years worth of sensible advice...i'm all out now....phew, that was hard work lol "
Go and have a lie down in the chatroom now, you`ve earned it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all, we've been on this site for a while now and can't understand how few people actually want to meet.
Yes we're only looking for soft fun but we cant beleive that most people would rather sit and look at their computer all night then meet and see it for real!
Please take a look at our profile and point out anything you think is wrong with it. We'd like to hear if others have the same problem.
Let us know.."
Can't see anything wrong with your profile at all.
Nice profile write up with your preferences, good pics with body types/shapes, good youngish ages.
Were throwing a soft swing party in london in sept/oct - you look idea.. wanna come??
read our profile for more info - we've winked you so you can reply as we have certain filters up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is written to reflect you, and I have no problem with that. However, from a personal viewpoint your profile coupled with this thread would put me off as to me it gives the impression you can't believe no one wants to play with you.
After all you have good figures, people are watching porn instead of watching you and you find that incredible!
That's how your profile reads to me, and that may put others off. That's not to say your profile is "wrong", it may just take a little longer to find the right couples for you. |
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"Hi all, we've been on this site for a while now and can't understand how few people actually want to meet.
Yes we're only looking for soft fun but we cant beleive that most people would rather sit and look at their computer all night then meet and see it for real!
Please take a look at our profile and point out anything you think is wrong with it. We'd like to hear if others have the same problem.
Let us know.."
Dont think there is anything wrong with your profile. Lots of people on here who dont meet or if they do it isnt often. As you are a couple I would suggest trying some paid parties. You can mingle without pressure and meet other likeminded couples. Such a shame you dont live closer....
Mistress x |
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By *pples69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Your profile is written to reflect you, and I have no problem with that. However, from a personal viewpoint your profile coupled with this thread would put me off as to me it gives the impression you can't believe no one wants to play with you.
After all you have good figures, people are watching porn instead of watching you and you find that incredible!
That's how your profile reads to me, and that may put others off. That's not to say your profile is "wrong", it may just take a little longer to find the right couples for you."
Yes, see what you mean, thanks. Definitely not that pretencious, I think we were writing as we saw it. ie: we'd rather play in person than watch porn. Sometime you dont see these things untill another points them out.
Thanks for all your ideas, been very helpfull. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all, we've been on this site for a while now and can't understand how few people actually want to meet.
Yes we're only looking for soft fun but we cant beleive that most people would rather sit and look at their computer all night then meet and see it for real!"
It's a lot less hassle, especially if it's just to watch. I've had guys who just want a BJ. I ask what's in it for me? I even had one who just wanted to sit and look at me. Oh, let me spend 3 hours getting ready for that!
"we've often thought of joining a pay site but we've heard they arn't any better."
This is certainly the best site I've used, which numbers about four. And that includes a TG-specific site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personally i wanked at ur pics, definitely nothing at wrong with the profile...i did however blow smoke while cumming...I'd never do that in person......honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all your comments and thoughts on this. Has given us hope and made interestig and funny reading. xx"
I think you'll find many soft swaps are very skittish.
We have found exactly what you are describing - and usually have a better time meeting people at clubs/events etc.
We started off going to clubs, and then as we got to know people, got invited to other events/parties not listed in the clubs section on Fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we're only looking for soft fun ..."
I agree with Koda, a swingers club might be the ideal place for you to find couples/girls for soft fun. Fab is an excellent site, but many couples who have progressed to 'full swap' might prefer to continue to seek couples who are more compatible with them (especially if their opportunitites to swing are limited due to kids etc).
However, at a swingers club, the atmosphere tends to be very relaxed, members are very understanding of people's different boundaries, and no-one is committing to spend any lengthy period of time exclusively with one other couple. Plus, you get the chance to chat with several other couples, as well as (hopefully) the soft fun you're looking for.
Choose a night when it's couples/single girls only, if you're not looking for guys at the moment.
Have fun - I'm sure you will! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have also found this a long process and agree that there isnt many others looking for a meet. we would like to know anyones views on where we may be going wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with all of the above re swingers clubs- tho make sure you go on a couples only night! Personally, we dont want meets with soft swing couples, but will happily play with them in a club party situation. I expect a fair amount of couples on here feel the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree with above and just remember you are looking for a very small minority of people - we prefer private meets to clubsthus far but are open minded. You do have a fair few criteria and that is good that you are clear but a lot of people here probably like to go with the flow and some may even find your criteria a little frustrating but the main thing is keep an open mind and if you may not want to play with them but they could become good friends so it can be a win win situation. It really does depend on what you are looking for - we love the fact you meet such interesting people that you can be completely honest with. Good luck guys and above all have fun !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we have also found this a long process and agree that there isnt many others looking for a meet. we would like to know anyones views on where we may be going wrong "
Sorry but the fact that you have not even got a meet in person verification in 6 months on the site would lead us to think something was suspect - you could always go to a social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not as easy for us as some others. i think we are pretty ok peeps but a little slow on finding our way round the site and im certainly not that great on laptop. didnt think it would be this hard to get chatting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your opinions guys/gals, we've often thought of joining a pay site but we've heard they arn't any better."
We've met far more people from another "pay" site than from Fab.
I guess it suits some better than others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well we have met quite a lot.. more than our verifications suggest but at present are only on here to keep up with old friends and not looking for new people..
Basically just because we are busy with other things and are a bit bored with it at the moment.. Ie the whole finding new people..
Plus we have 2 very nice regular playmates that meet our requirements...
Katie, with her Masters consent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for your opinions guys/gals, we've often thought of joining a pay site but we've heard they arn't any better.
We've met far more people from another "pay" site than from Fab.
I guess it suits some better than others."
Interesting... pay sites not really done it for me, I thought more genuine people on fab. But each person's experience is different I guess. All I can echo is clubs clubs clubs! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your opinions guys/gals, we've often thought of joining a pay site but we've heard they arn't any better.
We've met far more people from another "pay" site than from Fab.
I guess it suits some better than others.
Interesting... pay sites not really done it for me, I thought more genuine people on fab. But each person's experience is different I guess. All I can echo is clubs clubs clubs!"
I've been swinging for a long time and this site is much better than the other 4 I have used. I guess it's just horses for courses. |
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Soft swingers are in a minority on all sites. Most couples like the full monty.
You may need to widen your search, and start winking/messaging couples further away, with a view to travel.
Your profile is positive, and up beat - no problems with that.
Some couples may be put off as you're fit, but there's nothing you can do about that. Wish we had no bumps and lumps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soft swingers are in a minority on all sites. Most couples like the full monty.
You may need to widen your search, and start winking/messaging couples further away, with a view to travel.
Your profile is positive, and up beat - no problems with that.
Some couples may be put off as you're fit, but there's nothing you can do about that. Wish we had no bumps and lumps "
Thats is very typical.. softies are a minority.
We live in south wales and are happy to travel - usually to london.
We are throwing our own soft friendly party in London, and it's quite surprising that no one has applied from here.. the other site were on has nearly filled the numbers with 3 months to go.
As said softies are very fickle.. because they are so particular in what they want, and are quite shy on committing. Full swaps dont have so many rules, so are easier to find a positive match for play mates. |
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it is true good figures and good looks can put people off but note you don't say what type of people your are looking for. If you dont mind usal bumps and lumps it might be nice to say so. Also what does soft swap mean to you as it does differ from couple to couple. We are a full swap couple usually but have had some of the horniest nights with soft swap couples. |
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