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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a personal thing and down to the individual.
I for one don't give it out to just anyone. But I do like abit of picture and video exchange on whatsapp.
So I'll have a chat get to know um and if u trust them enough just do it. U can always block there number from calling u. X |
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We don't exchange numbers at all
I did with the first couple of meets but both ended up texting everyday sometimes several times a day & started getting a bit aggressive when we wasn't always responding
As a couple we don't even txt one another that much
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"Nothing can happen by giving someone your phone number.... other than them being VERY annoying.
But if they turn into an idiot... block"
They can ring / text non-stop / whenever they like, and if you have your number on facebook, find you on that.
I'd advice not giving your number to anyone unless you trust them completely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as anyone starts insisting anything walk away."
definitely this. if he won't compromise on a phone number then he probably likes getting his own way with everything, including sex. i'd be very wary.
i don't even go off site with most guys, only the ones who can chat about anything other than sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had a lucky escape there!
if that had been me and you wanted skype or kik would have been cool with that.
the worrying bit is he wanted your number but refused to give you his... surely that should be a reciprocal question |
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Not Fab Contacts related but on my Android phone I have an app called Clever Dialler. It shows you the number dialling and then gives you the option to block. Great for nuisance calls as it also shows how may others have blocked and reasons why. You could then use it to block anyone who got stalkerish
In my long gone single days I (fem) would only give out my number until I wanted to. If the guy insisted it was a block |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the response...I would rather keen my privacy. I have a numbers of ways to contact people without giving out my phone number. If people aren't happy with that then they can fuck off.
I should have blocked him the minute he accused me of being a fake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the response...I would rather keen my privacy. I have a numbers of ways to contact people without giving out my phone number. If people aren't happy with that then they can fuck off.
I should have blocked him the minute he accused me of being a fake "
yeah.
you don't need to justify or explain yourself to anyone on here. they're only after NSA sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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scotsfem, you could always use another sim if needed...even giving out a personal number can identify things like a facebook account x
there is no real need to exchange numbers these days anyway, with things like kik messenger.
I do sometimes prefer a phone call when it comes to couples(normally unverified,ages old verified etc) if they are asking to meet- namely to make sure I'm not talking with a male half who's just 'setting' things up.
anyway...the guy sounded impatient, never a good sign.
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
We would have blocked the first time he insisted. If someone insisted in real life I'd walk away too, it's a warning sign if someone is pushy from the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing can happen by giving someone your phone number.... other than them being VERY annoying.
But if they turn into an idiot... block"
Yep ..simples.com. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's where Kik is handy cos no number to give out etc And go from there how you feel about the situation ..but a lot of people moan about Kik on here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing can happen by giving someone your phone number.... other than them being VERY annoying.
But if they turn into an idiot... block
They can ring / text non-stop / whenever they like, and if you have your number on facebook, find you on that.
I'd advice not giving your number to anyone unless you trust them completely."
You can block there number from ure phone?? You don't have to be abused or prayed. Just block um. |
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Your phone number is very much a part of your personal life. So it's up to your how you feel about giving out your number before you get to know and trust someone. Especially if it is likely to be a short lived causal arrangement. That's why I think KIK is a great idea. Plus you said you are verified (meet verified I asume). If you don't want to give your number they can like it or lump it. |
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We also use kik,when i had my single profile I gave my number out once,he pestered me and aent meaaages at all hours ,so I never gave it out again.
If you are not comfortable,don't be pressurised into giving it out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What happens when you block a number on your phone?
Does the caller get told they are blocked? Do they hear the number not available sound?
Are their texts blocked too? - and what happens when they try to send one? |
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My preference is WhatsApp as found using Kik more fakes tend to go with that option
I like to get them to send me a pic holding some random object if my choice ... toothbrush , fork anything really
If they become weird then block their number on WhatsApp and phone xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
It's never acceptable in my opinion. If you do feel it's necessary then get a cheap pay as you go that's not linked to any accounts such as Facebook etc. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
Told him to f**k-off and blocked him |
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Give your number when you feel comfortable, I do insist when the final arrangement of a meet is made, quick phone chat I feel is needed at that point, plus it's better if you have swapped numbers in case you end up running late.
You can chat on here or kik etc until 100% you are both happy to meet
But as everything on here there are no hard fast rules, do want ever you feel ok with xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
I'd have told him to go fuck himself. |
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
Same as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You never have to give your number out, if you choose not to. I would have blocked him as soon as he became a little demanding. You only ever do what you feel comfortable doing. If someone tries to pressure you to do something that compromises that, they are not worth chatting to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't and won't give my number. "
so if u arrange a meet and something crops up and there's no internet for some reason or your not online how do they get hold of you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
I only give my number to people I'm considering meeting. I would never meet anyone without a valid number a chat on what's app or text and then a phone call |
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
Same as you, though I'd probably have blocked sooner  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My preference is WhatsApp as found using Kik more fakes tend to go with that option
I like to get them to send me a pic holding some random object if my choice ... toothbrush , fork anything really
If they become weird then block
their number on WhatsApp and phone xx "
Thats Exactly The Same As Me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont and wont meet unless numbers are exchanged. but then again i dont demand it straight away. like to chat and feel comfortable 1st. and its always reassuring to hear there voice on the other end before you meet. as im sure the feeling is mutual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My preference is WhatsApp as found using Kik more fakes tend to go with that option
I like to get them to send me a pic holding some random object if my choice ... toothbrush , fork anything really
If they become weird then block
their number on WhatsApp and phone xx
Thats Exactly The Same As Me xx"
I understand that sentiment. The only flaw is, that they can get in touch via other means as they now have your number. They just can't use their own phone to contact you. I had this problem a few years back  . Now my number is not given out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
I just don't give out my number.
If they don't like it tough. Find someone else. Men are ten a penny  |
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Well if I'm meeting a lady I would like her phone number cos I had fakes say they would meet but never show up if they give u their number at least you know there real. But that guy sounded a bit of an ahole . |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
the same as you..tell him to jog on ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only one of my fab meets as my number I'm not a fan of giving it out, of people don't wish to meet me because I won't that's their decision and I respect it
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yes babe and i appreciate your trust x |
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"My preference is WhatsApp as found using Kik more fakes tend to go with that option
I like to get them to send me a pic holding some random object if my choice ... toothbrush , fork anything really
If they become weird then block their number on WhatsApp and phone xx "
Best way. Live video or pic. Sorts the wheat from the chaff |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't and won't give my number. so if u arrange a meet and something crops up and there's no internet for some reason or your not online how do they get hold of you"
If I had their number then I would call and withhold my number. If they didn't want to share their number, no problem, that's their choice.
You only have to spend a day on here to see how it can change from fine to weird in one message so I wouldn't want that in my life away from Fab. |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
thank fuck our males name not tom dick or harry.op you gave plenty of contact options,and did the right thing .we have a fab only phone number that is the one we give out to chat or contact when on way to meet .its a cheap through away pay as you go .but keeps your real phone number private |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a fab phone just for meets, then you have a number ,if it goes tits up you can call a fab mate to come get you or make the "gotta go family emergency " x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to send my phone number and ask the person to call after 3 messages ..... I need to hear your voice before making plans .
The time wasters usually run a mile and don't get a chance to ask for pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as anyone starts insisting anything walk away.
Consider a 'fab phone' to keep things separate and avoid stalkers i.e £20 Asda thing."
This...
I don't do phone numbers for sites like this, keep meaning to get a throw away phone to use but I'd probably forget about it and find it flat 9 months later  |
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I only swop numbers just before an arranged meet .I do it purely as it suits me as then can text day before or on day of meet and confirm all still ok and if I don't hear back I'll take it they have changed their mind . Saves wasting time and effort . Also handy if either party running late so not left thinking they are a non show .
Numbers are only swoped when it suits me and my comfort level never on a demand from anyone . If they have an issue with thst then not a person I'd want to meet anyway .
You stick to your guns op and keep doing what you are comfortable with .The decent people will respect your decisions x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
I would have done the same. Buy a second mobile phone. Just buy a really cheap one. Get a pay as you go SIM and use the second phone for your swinging activities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
Exactly like you did I don't swap numbers only if it turns into a series of meets
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You should only give your number out if you want to. If someone insists on it then do as you did - block and move on!
Kik is fine and cam/skype should be do-able if you co-ordinate a time. If they don't work for someone then cheerio!!!
As someone said - plenty of other men out there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would almost never give out my mobile. Email, Kik etc but I've had my mobile number I'm not gonna risk having to change it if someone turns out to be a psycho "
You don't need to change numbers anymore.... all smartphones have a block feature now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's why when we played a lot we had a play phone, that was the only No they got out of us until we had met a few times and built up a realationship between us, and then when everyone was happy we would exchange Nos |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If theres travel involved i wont meet without a phone number.
Simply too much hassle if theres no internet reception etc.
So i probbaly take the oposite view if somone insists on meeting me before they give me thier number ill assume they
"probably likes getting her own way with everything, including sex. i'd be very wary."
Also whatsapp is just so much better than kik |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would almost never give out my mobile. Email, Kik etc but I've had my mobile number I'm not gonna risk having to change it if someone turns out to be a psycho "
Callsettingsadd to reject list.
For texts you can even choose an automated reply.
Personally i like "for the last time i don't want a threesome with you and you're mum now leave me alone"
Just for the possibility anyone sees it pop up over thier shoulder etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is it acceptable to exchange numbers?
I just had a guy insisting that give him my number before I even met him. When I refused he called me a fake, despite my verifications.
I offered to Skype or kik with him.That wasn't good enough. I asked for his number to call him. He refused.
In the end I wished him good luck and blocked him.
I do exchange numbers with people once I get to know them but don't give my personal number out to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
How would you have handled this? "
I have had this happen to me...we reached a stalemate and I blocked him and moved on. Yes, he may have a wife/family/career to protect but then so might you. No one should respond to the blackmail attempt of being called a 'fake' if you won't do x, y or z to command. I have had problems after passing my mobile number to a guy I subsequently decided not to meet, but it was a 'spare' phone, so despite his threats to publish my number 'everywhere' in revenge, I just got a new sim.
Do what feels right for you, go with your gut feeling. Let's be honest, as a woman on here you can fill his position in a short enough space of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would almost never give out my mobile. Email, Kik etc but I've had my mobile number I'm not gonna risk having to change it if someone turns out to be a psycho
You don't need to change numbers anymore.... all smartphones have a block feature now"
However, if the other person gets hold if other phones or passes your number round, you have to have them call you again before you can block. I prefer the new sim.option. |
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