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Driving head first into a club?
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Definitely phone the club and I'm sure they will explain everything.
Let us know how you get on, just be yourself and have fun meeting others x | |||
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"Yorkie cheers for the recommendation. Just checked the club out and it looks great. So many rooms, lots of variety. What is the demographic like on a Saturday? I have heard that different clubs attract different types, would it me suitable for a guy life me?" There is always a good mix of singles and couples. Last Saturday was busy, surprising as it was the new year party the week before. The people were all ages from early 20's through to 60+ and all shapes and sizes. I will be going again Saturday night, weather dependent - I'm not driving in snow! | |||
"Xstasia in West Bromwich has a Free night for Fab members. Great opportunity to try the club out. Think the next one is on 27th Jan. Details are on the forum under club meets. " Never heard of this, nor can i find anything about it on their website. Pleased tell me more. Due to distance I would only be an occasional visitor but would love to try it out. | |||
"Xstasia in West Bromwich has a Free night for Fab members. Great opportunity to try the club out. Think the next one is on 27th Jan. Details are on the forum under club meets. Never heard of this, nor can i find anything about it on their website. Pleased tell me more. Due to distance I would only be an occasional visitor but would love to try it out." All the details are on the swinging club/events section, about 3/4 of the way down on page one. Thread is called FFFF @ Xstasia. | |||
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"Thanks yorkie and swrabs. The attic does sound wonderful, I love meeting a variety of people. I guess I was more worried that I would not fit in. So what does one do, say the go in alone for the first time? Are you just shown around, dumped and put out to mingle? Where does one start mingling? I must admit I would feel better if I at least had some sort of contact." Most clubs have good social areas (not been to the attic yet so can't tell you the lay out). Just use it like a pub with lingerie. Chat, be social. If you stuggle with this you will struggle with swinging. Maybe look on local updates/meet requests who else is going and send a friendly message. Don't be pushy. To be honest it's highly unlikely someone will couple up with a newbie so just bite the bullet. The hardest part is walking though the door. | |||
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"I must say I am tempted, would definitely be a good opportunity as I am kid free this weekend. I could get a cheap hotel room near by and I already know Derby centre a little. Just not sure if I have left it too late for tonight? I could ring up when they open this afternoon. Dress nice, smell nice, bring myself, my big warm smile and my sense of humour. Throw it into this mix and see what happens eh?" Go for it, the attic is great 
If you're thinking of hotels then we can recommend the hallmark inn. It's where we stay and about a ten minute walk from the club | |||
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"Oddly enough I was thinking that. I have stayed in a few hallmarks, including the Hallmark hotel across the road from the hallmark inn on my pervious visits to Derby. Apparently according to the guy behind the bar when Hallmark bought the hotel the inn across the road came as part of the package, sorry I digress. I may give the attic a ring later and see what they say. Plus I would be coming by train so it would be ideal." Dont be talking like that in the club, youll have them all asleep  | |||
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"Maybe don't drive head first into one though, that would hurt! " | |||
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"Condoms and wet wipes "Yes 100% agree And good aftershave | |||
"Condoms and wet wipes "This
Have a great night. | |||
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"Well it's time to get ready. If anyone on here is around I will be wearing a crimson shirt and a smile (plus other items of clothing of course)." Hope we have a follow on, OP, it's been quite an entertaining thread and your profile reminds me why I like working with ex-military - you just can't get that "get up and go" attitude anywhere. | |||
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"I had a brilliant night. Especially thanks to a lovely sexy someone off here, you know who you are. I think one of my highlights of the evening was trying to concentrate on having sex while listening to quite detailed hair and hair product advise from outside the room. Although somehow it was lost on me." Great that you enjoyed your night. Wish other men would realise that this site is only a very very small part of swinging. You have to get out there to have fun. | |||
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"I had a brilliant night. Especially thanks to a lovely sexy someone off here, you know who you are. I think one of my highlights of the evening was trying to concentrate on having sex while listening to quite detailed hair and hair product advise from outside the room. Although somehow it was lost on me." Can you remember the name of the shampoo to get from the pound shop please? We've forgot | |||
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"I had a brilliant night. Especially thanks to a lovely sexy someone off here, you know who you are. I think one of my highlights of the evening was trying to concentrate on having sex while listening to quite detailed hair and hair product advise from outside the room. Although somehow it was lost on me. Can you remember the name of the shampoo to get from the pound shop please? We've forgot "Trust it to be you two lol xx | |||
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"I had a brilliant night. Especially thanks to a lovely sexy someone off here, you know who you are. I think one of my highlights of the evening was trying to concentrate on having sex while listening to quite detailed hair and hair product advise from outside the room. Although somehow it was lost on me. Can you remember the name of the shampoo to get from the pound shop please? We've forgot
Trust it to be you two lol xx"It was some handy hair product tips
And john it's good to know you had a good time at the club. You definitely took the advise on board and got around and chatted to people even us lol | |||
"Go to Chameleons....it's such a fantastic club. Everyone that goes and everyone that works there are friendly and welcoming...I love it there! Flik "And they have overnight rooms you can book into if planned in advance. Not sure of the availability of last minute & i guess as a single dad it's hard to plan too far ahead... Pleased you enjoyed it Mrs _d40 | |||
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"Glad you had fun OP! This is the 3rd thread in a few days where a single guy has been building up to going to a club, followed advice and then actually gone and enjoyed it. It is so much better than the hundreds of threads asking for advice on messaging and crap profiles. You look like a 'normal' guy , not supermodel 6 pack ( no disrespect lol ) who made an effort and can be nice and chat in person and had fun as a result. That's all most people want. Well done, have even more fun in future. MrB"
This... been a pleasure to see positivity on the forums rather than moaning | |||
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"Glad you had fun OP! This is the 3rd thread in a few days where a single guy has been building up to going to a club, followed advice and then actually gone and enjoyed it. It is so much better than the hundreds of threads asking for advice on messaging and crap profiles. You look like a 'normal' guy , not supermodel 6 pack ( no disrespect lol ) who made an effort and can be nice and chat in person and had fun as a result. That's all most people want. Well done, have even more fun in future. MrB" "Normal" every day for me, a 6 pack is not a turn on for me at all..... | |||
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"Honestly that was the hardest thing for me, as you could probably tell. I had spent most of my adult life in the forces and everyone is sort of family even if they are a stranger. There is an instant connection and bond so it was easy to connect. But in the outside world there isn't that connection. I do actually find breaking the ice difficult. No shit I hear for say? For me that is toughest boundary to push, the rest is pretty much elementary. But hopefully I will get to know a few more people, relax more and just be me in future. But I did have a hoot." Milking this now mate  | |||
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"Go to Chameleons....it's such a fantastic club. Everyone that goes and everyone that works there are friendly and welcoming...I love it there! Flik
And they have overnight rooms you can book into if planned in advance. Not sure of the availability of last minute & i guess as a single dad it's hard to plan too far ahead...
Pleased you enjoyed it
Mrs _d40
"I said about the rooms but fell on deaf ears | |||
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"Hi. I am a lone parent, so my free time is vary rare and I really like to make the best of it and fill it full of filthy adventures. Work hard, play hard I guess. Anyway I have found my self at a lose end this weekend. I have always wanted to visit a club and living in the West Midlands I am spoilt for choice. I have been chatting to someone (other end of country) who told me it's perfectly ok for a single man to go to a club alone. But I don't know is it? I mean I don't want to just turn up and everyone be like who's this guy? I don't want to feel like a spare piece. I would love to meet, talk to and share the company of like minded individuals. But I am conscious that I will literally know no one. A new unknown single men welcome? Am I better finding someone to go with or at least meeting with someone who knows the crack?" I saw your post and related to it as I not long ago took the plunge and went to Xtasia. It's an investment as a single guy, it's also not necessarily what you think it it's going to be. I'd most definitely recommend you have someone to go with as you might find it hard sparking up a conversation. I'm quite confident and chatty, I don't think I'm ugly and I've an average/athletic build. I got speaking to people, like I said, I'm outgoing, but like a normally pub/club it's good to have a wingman/wing woman, regardless of your sex or sexuality. The bar is nice and cheap, staff were nice and friendly to me, including reception and security. So it's a nice place to go, for an alternative place to drink. To me, it was a quiet night, it's more a social venue for a lot of couples. Not all of us have friends we can discuss our lifestyle with. If you go with that attitude, not I'm getting laid tonight! Then you'll probably enjoy yourself and meet some really decent people. Worth the price in my eyes, if you don't have local people willing to give you a chance. I will go again, but I'd arrange to meet a couple, woman or even another single male.. In the club, so I don't feel so exposed and alone, on my own. If you go to Xtasia or Chams, try to see what events are on. If Xtasia has an event and Chams doesn't, that's probably a good night to go to Xtasia, I did the opposite by accident and was probably 30 people in the part of club open to single guys. Like I said, didn't matter much, I met nice people and went with the attitude I wasn't expecting anything. Which was fortunate, as I didn't shag that night, but had my eyes opened to a different world. | |||
"Honestly that was the hardest thing for me, as you could probably tell. I had spent most of my adult life in the forces and everyone is sort of family even if they are a stranger. There is an instant connection and bond so it was easy to connect. But in the outside world there isn't that connection. I do actually find breaking the ice difficult. No shit I hear for say? For me that is toughest boundary to push, the rest is pretty much elementary. But hopefully I will get to know a few more people, relax more and just be me in future. But I did have a hoot." Had a feeling you were forces or forces related from "Work hard, play hard" I'm ex Royal Engineers. Work hard, play harder | |||
"Hi. I am a lone parent, so my free time is vary rare and I really like to make the best of it and fill it full of filthy adventures. Work hard, play hard I guess. Anyway I have found my self at a lose end this weekend. I have always wanted to visit a club and living in the West Midlands I am spoilt for choice. I have been chatting to someone (other end of country) who told me it's perfectly ok for a single man to go to a club alone. But I don't know is it? I mean I don't want to just turn up and everyone be like who's this guy? I don't want to feel like a spare piece. I would love to meet, talk to and share the company of like minded individuals. But I am conscious that I will literally know no one. A new unknown single men welcome? Am I better finding someone to go with or at least meeting with someone who knows the crack?" I've never been to a club I posted a thread in a forum and people gave me some advice Don't expect sex just because your in there It's not a fuck factory Maybe try a social event a local club and see if it's your thing | |||
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