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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been seeing a guy of late, sex and swinging partner rather than a relationship although that probably isn't relevant.
We were talking over the last few days and he's told me he would love to take me out into Newcastle on a night and see me pull a guy.
Trouble is, it currently works as a fantasy but we both aren't sure how to make it happen, as there is no way if I am out with a male that guys are going to come up and chat me up is there? Also, its going to look weird if I go chatting blokes up and I'm already out with one.
It is something that has got me really thinking, and id love to do it for him but I'm stuck. We also said if we do it, it has to happen naturally and not be set up at all..
Arghhhh, help! 
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Sounds like you haven't been out much have you  Often people out drinking and dancing are in a hedonistic mood and don't care much whom you are with, whether you were snogging someone else ten minutes ago or whatever. Sure you will not get men approaching you like you would if you were alone, you'll have to actively signal interest or even approach people yourself/selves. He can be your wingman it is not clear what the ultimate goal is, I'd say getting someone to join the both of you could be tricky, but getting someone for a one-on-one alone is pretty easy! |
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"Sounds like you haven't been out much have you Often people out drinking and dancing are in a hedonistic mood and don't care much whom you are with, whether you were snogging someone else ten minutes ago or whatever. Sure you will not get men approaching you like you would if you were alone, you'll have to actively signal interest or even approach people yourself/selves. He can be your wingman it is not clear what the ultimate goal is, I'd say getting someone to join the both of you could be tricky, but getting someone for a one-on-one alone is pretty easy!"
Yes he is more than happy for me to go off with a guy on my own if I found one and I would be more than happy to do so.. haha x |
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"Sounds like you haven't been out much have you Often people out drinking and dancing are in a hedonistic mood and don't care much whom you are with, whether you were snogging someone else ten minutes ago or whatever. Sure you will not get men approaching you like you would if you were alone, you'll have to actively signal interest or even approach people yourself/selves. He can be your wingman it is not clear what the ultimate goal is, I'd say getting someone to join the both of you could be tricky, but getting someone for a one-on-one alone is pretty easy!
Yes he is more than happy for me to go off with a guy on my own if I found one and I would be more than happy to do so.. haha x"
Just go to a swingers club, nobody would think it was odd then.
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Hi Mandy, haven't spoken in a while.
I did this with an old girlfriend of mine (you know who she is lol)and had the same problem, but I found another female for her to go out with which made it easier.
I you and him want to go out together you will need to be super confident and just chat to guys as much as you can.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a shame that other men always assume you must be fucking if you spend time socially with a bloke."
Yeah, it certainly doesn't help people like me. But in fairness, I do understand why that assumption is usually made. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Get yourself one of those queen of spades temporary tattoos , or t shirt , or jewelry and get yourself to anyplace that plays reggae music... You will be beating the men away with a stick  |
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Well we have thought of doing that in the past. The trouble is this :-
And in the end we decided it was a non starter. The danger is the guy that you pick might be just out on night out and looking to pull.You cannot tell if he is a swinger or not and imagine the horror on his face when he sees that hubby wants to tag along too. It might get very heated, embarassing and if alcohol has flowed a bit nasty.
Talk about potential for getting wrong end of stick. Of course it could work beautifully but there is a 85% chance it wont because statistically the majority of people are not swingers at all and have a rather narrow mind to it.
My advice would be to pick a guy off here and agree to meet up in a vanilla environment such as a club and play the fantasy out knowing that you have someone receptive to the game. Otherwise hubby could end up with a bunch of fives in his face LOL. |
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A couple of times when Frisky has been out with the girls, I have put on our status updates roughly where she is.
I pick a couple of guys that have shown an interest and guide them to the pub she is in and tell them what she is wearing...
We are considering do it as a couple for a social meet...
You could try something like that... |
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"A couple of times when Frisky has been out with the girls, I have put on our status updates roughly where she is.
I pick a couple of guys that have shown an interest and guide them to the pub she is in and tell them what she is wearing...
This sounds perfect
We are considering do it as a couple for a social meet...
You could try something like that... "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the input people, im seeing him again Friday night and no doubt getting chatting about it again.
Ill put some of your suggestions his way and see where we go from here.
If anyone else has any suggestions though im always willing to take advice.
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