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Is trust a big thing when you're not verified by others?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Hmm
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Getting verified will certainly help, but in the meantime make sure your pics and profile text are as appealing as possible. Your ability to accommodate will help.
In the words of our forum oracle, patience is the key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Hmm
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Not really. I prefer to meet unverified people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Getting verified will certainly help, but in the meantime make sure your pics and profile text are as appealing as possible. Your ability to accommodate will help.
In the words of our forum oracle, patience is the key."
Would you suggest more public photos?
Yes, I'm happy to be patient. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Hmm
Not really. I prefer to meet unverified people."
That's interesting, thank you. May I ask why? x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Getting verified will certainly help, but in the meantime make sure your pics and profile text are as appealing as possible. Your ability to accommodate will help.
In the words of our forum oracle, patience is the key.
Would you suggest more public photos?
Yes, I'm happy to be patient."
It wouldn't hurt to have a few more but don't go crazy. One or two tasteful body pics beat 87 cock pics any day. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Oh and I meet and have met unverified people before. They're so grateful when they get their green tick. 
As stated above, trust is huge on here, and the fact that the men who stood me up were all verified several times means that verifications don't really impinge on who I meet. I check out pics and profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" It wouldn't hurt to have a few more but don't go crazy. One or two tasteful body pics beat 87 cock pics any day."
Ha I definitely didn't want to go crazy. I will have to get my best birthday suit on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh and I meet and have met unverified people before. They're so grateful when they get their green tick.
As stated above, trust is huge on here, and the fact that the men who stood me up were all verified several times means that verifications don't really impinge on who I meet. I check out pics and profile."
It will be like Christmas all over again x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh and I meet and have met unverified people before. They're so grateful when they get their green tick.
As stated above, trust is huge on here, and the fact that the men who stood me up were all verified several times means that verifications don't really impinge on who I meet. I check out pics and profile.
It will be like Christmas all over again x"
If only you were closer  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh and I meet and have met unverified people before. They're so grateful when they get their green tick.
As stated above, trust is huge on here, and the fact that the men who stood me up were all verified several times means that verifications don't really impinge on who I meet. I check out pics and profile.
It will be like Christmas all over again x
If only you were closer "
I certainly can be closer. I love an adventure x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Hmm
Not really. I prefer to meet unverified people.
That's interesting, thank you. May I ask why? x"
I like the idea that I've got there first. Too many veris (more than a couple) is a turn off for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Hmm
Not really. I prefer to meet unverified people.
That's interesting, thank you. May I ask why? x
I like the idea that I've got there first. Too many veris (more than a couple) is a turn off for me. "
you're certainly getting my interest... It's nice to know there are ladies like you open to meeting. x |
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Trust is important whether you are already verified or not.
OP you have one of the biggest swinging clubs in the country right on your doorstep, the attic.
Just pop along one evening, get chatting to people and ask them to verify you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single woman who only meets single men, I have never relied on verifications in my choice of partners. Some people set great store by them and some don't.
I prefer to base my choices on personal interaction with guys thro messaging via fab.
When it comes to trusting somebody I still do not think that verifications are the be all and end all, I prefer to trust in my own judgement. |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've been let down by both but unverified people are harder to judge as there is no history (veries) to check...
Verified people have history (veries) to check but that doesn't necessarily mean they'll turn up! |
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Veri's help in as much as they confirm you are genuine. That's more important for couples, as lots of single guys set up fake couple profiles.
The most important thing is to be friendly and talkative, which you already seem to be doing. A club is a good way to get verified. You don't have to play; just chat to people and they will let the world know that you're a decent chap! You're not far from the Attic, so go along and give it a go. We're planning a visit in the near future - if we see you there, we'll verify you!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't have veris yet because I was looking for something very niche in the begining and I have turned down a number of people. Sometimes I wish I'd have just met them to get a veri. Lol.
I'm sure it helps but l just have my verification photo if they doubt I'm real (which has happened) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any tips/advice for a young newbie?
I'm guessing my zero verifications (I'm working on it), puts some doubt in people's minds and it makes me less appealing/trusting to say someone who has many meets? (I'd feel the same way I guess, now I'm writing this).
Don't even look at verifications, everyone has to start somewhere
Hmm
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It's very easy t get verified at a social. Most of our meets aren't play meets. We are also niche so won't readily find what we are looking for on here. That comes out after conversing face to face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will take a chance on an unverified guy but only after a lot of testing.
What is a worse scenario for me are the 2 year plus people who have no veris showing and say "I never show them, personal choice. I don't want others knowing my business"
Yeah, right! Get lost buster!!
So if you get one show it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Veri's help in as much as they confirm you are genuine. That's more important for couples, as lots of single guys set up fake couple profiles.
The most important thing is to be friendly and talkative, which you already seem to be doing. A club is a good way to get verified. You don't have to play; just chat to people and they will let the world know that you're a decent chap! You're not far from the Attic, so go along and give it a go. We're planning a visit in the near future - if we see you there, we'll verify you! "
It seems the common consensus is to go the the social as you mentioned.
That's very kind of you. I will have to check it out then....... sweaty palms probable! |
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