Ok, so ive arranged a meet with a lady in a couple of weeks time.
We're meeting in a hotel, in case that makes a difference.
I'm not sure what to do for best on our actual first seeing each other. Meet at bar, then go to hotel? Meet at hotel then go to bar?
We've got all night, so I don't need to rush things. |
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"Ask her what she's comfortable doing "
She's said "what do you want to do?"
We're both new to this, and a bit nervous about being pushy, I think.
I think we should meet at hotel, so she can drop her bag off before we go out.
But thats me being practical |
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over a year ago
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Are you paying for the hotel OP? Personally I think it's v brave to stump up the cash when you haven't met someone, at least socially first. Have you discussed what you will do if you don't fancy each other/no chemistry? |
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"Ask her what she's comfortable doing
She's said "what do you want to do?"
We're both new to this, and a bit nervous about being pushy, I think.
I think we should meet at hotel, so she can drop her bag off before we go out.
But thats me being practical"
What are the plans for the evening? It seems you're going out somewhere. I don't mean this rudely but if you can't communicate about simple logistics it might be an idea to meet in the hotel bar to just get to know each other socially and get comfortable discussing how you want things to progress. |
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Like you said OP, you both are new to swinging. I'd suggest meeting in a social setting initially to break the ice as it were, less pressure on you both I'd say. Then if all is well, have a drink or two and progress from there. Hope you both have fun!! |
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"Ask her what she's comfortable doing
She's said "what do you want to do?"
We're both new to this, and a bit nervous about being pushy, I think.
I think we should meet at hotel, so she can drop her bag off before we go out.
But thats me being practical"
Then you've got the awkward situation of her having to go to the room to get her stuff if you don't click(unless you've got separate rooms)
I'd ask her as it's the ladies prerogative to choose what she feels safe and comfy with |
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"Are you paying for the hotel OP? Personally I think it's v brave to stump up the cash when you haven't met someone, at least socially first. Have you discussed what you will do if you don't fancy each other/no chemistry?"
This.
If you can't communicate about the basics of where to meet this has massive potential to get very wrong. |
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Bearing in mind where you arranged this meet, a swingers site and not a dating site, then it safe to assume she wants a fuck too. You are not looking for relationship compatibility so just keep it simple, meet at hotel bar to give you both a chance to exit gracefully, have a drink and a chat as an introduction.
All you really need to do is have some attraction and reassurance you are both real then its game on. If she doesnt run after the first drink then give her a chance to drop her stuff in the room and take it from there.
This is not PoF so in my opinion the quicker you get on with the fucking the better, and who knows you may want to go out afterwards or just stay in the room!
Remember where you are, this is swinging not dating. |
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over a year ago
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If it was me (and I don't play it like that) I would want to meet in the hotels bar to see how we got on with absolutely no expectations. If I didn't 'feel it' I'd leave but if we both felt the same I'd want to go up to the room asap with a quick taster in the lift on the way up  |
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Not going to quote everyone,but to answer some questions...
Yes, we've spoken on the phone a few times (well, Skype actually) so I'm sure shes a she.
This also means we know we have a basic level of attraction, so I'm confident that as long as I don't make a total arse of it. We'll end up in bed.
If we meet and really don't hit it off, then I guess I sleep on the floor or in the car ???? |
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Nice one. At least now you have a better idea of what works in this scenario. Glad you had a good time. Things are more refined with practice.
I think a drink in the bar is a good plave to start. Then once chatting and the chemistry is there suggest when time for the next drink getting a bottle of wine to take up stairs. |
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I would be very careful about booking hotel before hand Ww made that mistake , we talked to guy on cam and on phone booked hotel only for him not to turn up . Go for a social drink first see if any swinging socials in your area or be brave and visit a club , |
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