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My Female partner wants to come out with me
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I have been going out, doing my own thing and enjoying it for about 6 months now.
Fab has opened many doors for me and I love it!
My female partner has seen this and wants to come out with me to a club/night out.
She has never been out with me as chrissy.....
Do I act differently? Do I act the same and hope she goes witg the flow?
Being honest I am pretty slutty and girly when I go out... Shes never seen this before from me....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a reality, a real part of you, and part of what makes you who you are.
If she's genuinely your partner then why would you want to keep part of yourself hidden from her? That's not right...
Let her see who you really are - if she's ok with it then you'll be stronger, if not then the partnership isn't based on truth and won't be going far anyway...
Take courage and go with it!
Best of luck, hope it goes well.
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"It's a reality, a real part of you, and part of what makes you who you are.
If she's genuinely your partner then why would you want to keep part of yourself hidden from her? That's not right...
Let her see who you really are - if she's ok with it then you'll be stronger, if not then the partnership isn't based on truth and won't be going far anyway...
Take courage and go with it!
Best of luck, hope it goes well.
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Sailors may may be a fun way to break her in actually lol
So to speak! Not literally lol
I can lead and see how it goes...
"It's a reality, a real part of you, and part of what makes you who you are.
If she's genuinely your partner then why would you want to keep part of yourself hidden from her? That's not right...
Let her see who you really are - if she's ok with it then you'll be stronger, if not then the partnership isn't based on truth and won't be going far anyway...
Take courage and go with it!
Best of luck, hope it goes well.
"
Lovely advice thankyou
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I'd say be yourself and act how you usualy would.
She's asked to join you so your halfway there. She's either going to like it or not like it. Maybe talk to her about it before you go just to give her a slight idea as to what expect?
I hope it all goes well for you. Good luck x |
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"I'd say be yourself and act how you usualy would.
She's asked to join you so your halfway there. She's either going to like it or not like it. Maybe talk to her about it before you go just to give her a slight idea as to what expect?
I hope it all goes well for you. Good luck x"
Yeah, thats good advice and I will chat more with her.
I don't wanna put her off but at the same time I have to do this as me or I won't enjoy it!
I was well happy she said she wanted to come now i'm just nervous
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OP its great that she wants to embrace the lifestyle with you.
What i would suggest is you have a good chat about what happens at the club. Explain the differences between the person she knows and obviously cares very much for and the person you are at a club when you go. If you do behave slutty she needs to know all about it before she sees it. Don't just spring it on her, it could be a hell of a shock.
Don't rush into it and communicate with each other.
Good luck |
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Op your friend asking to go along with you to a sex party already knows what's up and is into it.
I'd be surprised if she wasn't crowd surfing at the venue within the first hour
 just relax, she'll take her cues from you. Don't be a prude |
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"OP its great that she wants to embrace the lifestyle with you.
What i would suggest is you have a good chat about what happens at the club. Explain the differences between the person she knows and obviously cares very much for and the person you are at a club when you go. If you do behave slutty she needs to know all about it before she sees it. Don't just spring it on her, it could be a hell of a shock.
Don't rush into it and communicate with each other.
Good luck "
This..... |
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She has seen me as Chrissy, we've spent quite a few private nights where I have dressed up.
But never in public so thats a complete unknown.
"OP its great that she wants to embrace the lifestyle with you.
What i would suggest is you have a good chat about what happens at the club. Explain the differences between the person she knows and obviously cares very much for and the person you are at a club when you go. If you do behave slutty she needs to know all about it before she sees it. Don't just spring it on her, it could be a hell of a shock.
Don't rush into it and communicate with each other.
Good luck
This....."
Great advice I will be chatting with here and will ease her in gently.... The whole just get on with it thing will be entirely her choice....
Well I may push a bit but thats purely a confidence thing I think. |
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"She has seen me as Chrissy, we've spent quite a few private nights where I have dressed up.
But never in public so thats a complete unknown."
Well, that's one massive hurdle over. From personal experience, knowledge of the fem side and actually witnessing can be very different experiences and it can be a bigger leap than it seems so you're over that. Maybe consider just going out on a night out with you in girl mode but not to a swingers club, somewhere you may get male attention and she gets to see how you carry yourself without it going all the way to sexual interaction with these men? Again that might be a way of taking manageable steps rather than massive leaps that might be too much to take all in one go.
Good luck however it goes anyway xxx |
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"She has seen me as Chrissy, we've spent quite a few private nights where I have dressed up.
But never in public so thats a complete unknown.
Well, that's one massive hurdle over. From personal experience, knowledge of the fem side and actually witnessing can be very different experiences and it can be a bigger leap than it seems so you're over that. Maybe consider just going out on a night out with you in girl mode but not to a swingers club, somewhere you may get male attention and she gets to see how you carry yourself without it going all the way to sexual interaction with these men? Again that might be a way of taking manageable steps rather than massive leaps that might be too much to take all in one go.
Good luck however it goes anyway xxx"
Lovely advice thanks x
I will have a think about it... Problem is I have only had a real passion and hunger to be out on an evening as chrissy since I have been swinging... Don't wanna go out to normal clubs as generally I don't find them much fun.
I'm quite a deep rooted action speak louder than words kind person so I guess swinging clubs just suit me. |
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