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Young Guy getting going - Difficult
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!
There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.
Thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest you have a read of some of the countless other threads on this subject.
You'll find mostly the same advice.
1. You've only been here 4 weeks. That's nothing. Most single guys wait around 6 months to get their first meet. Give it time. Instashag this is not.
2. Most, if not all, will look at your profile before going anywhere near any message you may have sent, so you need to ask yourself if your profile really is the best that it can be. Single guys outnumber women and couples by around 100 to 1 here, so you really do need to stand out.
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"Hi all
Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!
There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.
Thoughts?"
Hey man, visit a club. I'm from Southampton too, it's a little hard down here for clubs as you know, so I visited Eurekas Naturist club in Longfield (Kent).
The travel was expensive but I found it to be worth it. I'm currently on the lookout for people in Southampton or around who can drive who wouldn't mind some company to eurekas as there's no way I'll be able to pay for that travel again lol. Obviously I'd contribute to the petrol.
But yeah, go to a club one day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....
OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified  "
Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....
OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified
Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online! "
I don't think single guys can get verified by cams anymore.
Op have you gone to any socials? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....
OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified
Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online!
I don't think single guys can get verified by cams anymore.
Op have you gone to any socials? "
Nothing yet - feel free to invite!  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming 
It is really hard for anyone on here.
Of course self-help is the key.
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I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be selective about who you message, make sure you are compatible, barn door approach does not work
Use the forums to speak to people first
Get to clubs and make the effort to travel and be prepared to spend time just chatting and enjoying the view |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be selective about who you message, make sure you are compatible, barn door approach does not work
Use the forums to speak to people first
Get to clubs and make the effort to travel and be prepared to spend time just chatting and enjoying the view "
Let's start with the basics.
A quality mature profile. Age doesn't matter so much as long as you present yourself as mature in your behaviour.
And quality photos. You only have one cock, so only one cock photo is all that is normally needed.
Remember, first impressions always last, so try to get it right from there onwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A quality mature profile. Age doesn't matter so much as long as you present yourself as mature in your behaviour.
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Age does matter. People can't accept that someone 20 years younger than them will have what they want. This is evident with most profiles specifying specific ages. We are a classic example |
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well OP if theres no clubs near you im sure there are some members that are from your neck of the woods. Why not set a social up at a pub or something lunch for members meet new friends maybe find a club buddy male or female? Really isnt that hard might take a few days organising but you will reap the wards of meeting members and having a laugh  |
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"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming
It is really hard for anyone on here.
Of course self-help is the key.
I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes? "
You need a trail of haribo.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming
It is really hard for anyone on here.
Of course self-help is the key.
I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes?
You need a trail of haribo.."
cola ones proffered I believe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!
There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.
Thoughts?"
I'm in Manchester, I'd meet you in a club xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming
Travel to a club! Go on cam and get verifications. "
Townhouse is close enough to Chester....go give that a go! And don't have a pop at people giving you advice.....that road leads to oblivion and the kingdom of UNLOS, |
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"Why should anyone meet you?
You didn't answer  "
Because if you had, then you'd have a good basis on which to write a useful and informative profile that will lead to people messaging and hopefully letting you put bits of yourself inside them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!
There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.
Thoughts?"
It seems that the commentw about local clubs were made without bothering to look.
We were surprised as we know there are locl clubs to both towns.
Be careful,everyone likes to see effort being put in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks Naked - I know there's clubs in Chester but I don't have the opportunity when here unfortunately. Southampton still not sure, I've looked around. Been pointed in the right direction by a few nice commenters above though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it's very hard for the younger guys to get established on the swing scene, but if you go to a club and act mature people probably won't know how old you are. That's happened to us before. However you will have to travel if it's a club you want. Lots round the M25. Best bet is to search out clubs on Fab via area. You can read the reviews too.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?"
The person who asked why asked why anyone should meet you is helping..... because it is there to make you think......
Why do you stand out from a n other
What do you have should make people think wow I have to meet that person
A lot of people don't actually think about what they have written... they just use buzz words or phrases that they think sounds good.... but doesn't actually mean anything.....
It's all bland |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?
The person who asked why asked why anyone should meet you is helping..... because it is there to make you think......
Why do you stand out from a n other
What do you have should make people think wow I have to meet that person
A lot of people don't actually think about what they have written... they just use buzz words or phrases that they think sounds good.... but doesn't actually mean anything.....
It's all bland "
That is so true.
Quite often now you will find that profiles are padded out with a lot of sentences which don't say an awful lot.
Sadly, it seems among a certain sex group of a certain age. It may be because that group tend to post on here a lot.
It all seems the same old same old stuff.
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