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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots of profiles that have not been used for months but I think the site owners are not interested in deleting them as it boosts the numbers they can boast as memebers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others"
You bring up some reasonable points but
1. If you had been on before and had to renew your profile it wouldn't be that difficult to meet people you had met before and get verified.
2 There are plenty of socials and clubs and verified members who can leave feedback by meeting in person and obviously getting a cam verification is even easier although has it's own issues.
All we are saying is that the difficulties you present are not unsurmountable given a little effort in a year. Thanks for taking such time for a thoughtful response  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others"
What about people like me? I choose not to use verifications as I don't want everyone on fab to know my entire sex life, for the same reason I don't want all of Facebook to know.
Not all is what you assume it to be.
Also what about the guys who would meet you at the drop of a hat, but are never or rarely given the chance. Don't they deserve the opportunity to continue chasing their dream? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
What about people like me? I choose not to use verifications as I don't want everyone on fab to know my entire sex life, for the same reason I don't want all of Facebook to know.
Not all is what you assume it to be.
Also what about the guys who would meet you at the drop of a hat, but are never or rarely given the chance. Don't they deserve the opportunity to continue chasing their dream? "
But you are showing a summary which tells me that you received 2 verifications in 9 months |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. They may be here just to chat, use the forums or cam. I don't ever presume to tell people how to run their profiles, and nobody is a time waster until they actually waste my time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met several 'straight' guys who don't want verifications from another man. I respect their privacy and right to anonymity.
Verifications are often worthless. You can be let down by anyone. I have met non verified people and had a great time.
We all have to start somewhere and not everyone is shagging morning, noon and night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met several 'straight' guys who don't want verifications from another man. I respect their privacy and right to anonymity.
Verifications are often worthless. You can be let down by anyone. I have met non verified people and had a great time.
We all have to start somewhere and not everyone is shagging morning, noon and night. "
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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago
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I was here over a year and was meeting but never got verified that may be the case for other profiles Its not easy when your not verified nobody will meet but most of the time you need to be verified before any body will meet catch 22 . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. They may be here just to chat, use the forums or cam. I don't ever presume to tell people how to run their profiles, and nobody is a time waster until they actually waste my time! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How does a non-verified member waste your time? I'm guessing you don't meet or try to meet them. So no time is wasted.
You are also, perhaps, part of the reason why they have no verifications....?
The site has rules. It has lots of different ways that people can use it. They may not be your rules....but then, you don't run the site.
The one point I would bring up is if a member hasn't been on the site at all for a period (perhaps 12 months?) then the profile could be considered "dead" and could be removed.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does a non-verified member waste your time? I'm guessing you don't meet or try to meet them. So no time is wasted.
You are also, perhaps, part of the reason why they have no verifications....?
The site has rules. It has lots of different ways that people can use it. They may not be your rules....but then, you don't run the site.
The one point I would bring up is if a member hasn't been on the site at all for a period (perhaps 12 months?) then the profile could be considered "dead" and could be removed.....?"
Unless they're taking a break? Maybe the site admins could message them asking if they still want the profile on here. |
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No, not really OP. How hard is it to look at the verifications, summary (or lack thereof) and decide "not for us".
No one is wasting your time by you looking at their profile uninvited.
Now if you'd said that profiles not logged into for more than 6 months or so should be somehow parked until active again, then I may have agreed. But a deletion for not meeting under your criteria, no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
I'm genuinly confused OP.
How does a profile with no verifications after 12 months make the site hard to navigate and how do they waste anyone's time?
Please explain so that I can evaluate your ideas against my current position. You never know, I might change my mind from my current stance.
Which is;
"my profile is my business. Other people's profiles are their business".
Anyone (other than the site owners) telling me how I should or shouldn't run my profile can fuck off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. They may be here just to chat, use the forums or cam. I don't ever presume to tell people how to run their profiles, and nobody is a time waster until they actually waste my time! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. They may be here just to chat, use the forums or cam. I don't ever presume to tell people how to run their profiles, and nobody is a time waster until they actually waste my time! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?
I'm genuinly confused OP.
How does a profile with no verifications after 12 months make the site hard to navigate and how do they waste anyone's time?
Please explain so that I can evaluate your ideas against my current position. You never know, I might change my mind from my current stance.
Which is;
"my profile is my business. Other people's profiles are their business".
Anyone (other than the site owners) telling me how I should or shouldn't run my profile can fuck off.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I haven't had a veri in over 12 months, I basically use the forums. So my account should be deleted?  "
Same here, I have only met one guy this year but he deleted his profile, therefore I no longer have his verifications, so I don't have any recent ones to show if someone asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
You know when you use the Browse function? Just tick that box that states that you only want to see people who have been verified.
That should sort your problem.
Then we can all be happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what happens if you don't want to look like the site bike and stop asking for verifications?
I stopped ages ago but they still keep flooding in  "
There's a reason for that, yah tart.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven't had a veri in over 12 months, I basically use the forums. So my account should be deleted?
Burned at the stake more like  "
Off with her head! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, they should not be deleted.
Everyone uses this site differently; not everyone treats this as a central part of their life. Not everyone wants to attend socials, clubs, etc.
Some of us just use it occasionally, to spice up, or supplement our 'normal' lifestyle and sexual appetite. Some of us are also more selective than others...
None of that makes us a timewaster. I will always reply to any message I receive. If I arrange, or agree to meet, I will be there (especially if I haven't met in over 12 months, lol). My personal integrity is not related to the number of verifications I receive, or to the amount of time since my last verification.
Learn to use the site; if someone hasn't been on here in the last week, or so, it probably isn't worth wasting your time contacting them. Maybe add them to your hotlist and see if they re-appear? Over 30 days since last on this site? Forget it and move on... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
What about people like me? I choose not to use verifications as I don't want everyone on fab to know my entire sex life, for the same reason I don't want all of Facebook to know.
Not all is what you assume it to be.
Also what about the guys who would meet you at the drop of a hat, but are never or rarely given the chance. Don't they deserve the opportunity to continue chasing their dream?
But you are showing a summary which tells me that you received 2 verifications in 9 months"
But it's untrue. The number is greater, of those.. One is still online, but under another profile and the other is off for good, so she says (has a bloke lol). My point being...
If I'm a reasonably honest, genuine person, all the rest of it true. My verifications don't tell my entire story.
They are guides that we choose how to display. Some people create fake accounts specifically to verify the real one.
So yes, inactive accounts are a concern, but it's not always black and white. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
What about people like me? I choose not to use verifications as I don't want everyone on fab to know my entire sex life, for the same reason I don't want all of Facebook to know.
Not all is what you assume it to be.
Also what about the guys who would meet you at the drop of a hat, but are never or rarely given the chance. Don't they deserve the opportunity to continue chasing their dream?
But you are showing a summary which tells me that you received 2 verifications in 9 months
But it's untrue. The number is greater, of those.. One is still online, but under another profile and the other is off for good, so she says (has a bloke lol). My point being...
If I'm a reasonably honest, genuine person, all the rest of it true. My verifications don't tell my entire story.
They are guides that we choose how to display. Some people create fake accounts specifically to verify the real one.
So yes, inactive accounts are a concern, but it's not always black and white. "
I met a man in Xtasia, his mate made him show me his verifications.. He had 158 single women! I was gobsmacked! But he chose to display 11 verifications. As he admits most of the women who do sleep with him, wouldn't.. If they knew beforehand.
I want his super power though! |
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Personally, I use the site how I want. How others choose to is off no business to me. All the "live" files are not compatible with me so I'd still have to trawl.
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
What about people like me? I choose not to use verifications as I don't want everyone on fab to know my entire sex life, for the same reason I don't want all of Facebook to know.
Not all is what you assume it to be.
Also what about the guys who would meet you at the drop of a hat, but are never or rarely given the chance. Don't they deserve the opportunity to continue chasing their dream?
But you are showing a summary which tells me that you received 2 verifications in 9 months
But it's untrue. The number is greater, of those.. One is still online, but under another profile and the other is off for good, so she says (has a bloke lol). My point being...
If I'm a reasonably honest, genuine person, all the rest of it true. My verifications don't tell my entire story.
They are guides that we choose how to display. Some people create fake accounts specifically to verify the real one.
So yes, inactive accounts are a concern, but it's not always black and white. "
The number does not reduce in the summary even if the member has left the site
I choose to show some verifications and so does everyone else. We should all manage our profiles as we see fit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what happens if you don't want to look like the site bike and stop asking for verifications?
I stopped ages ago but they still keep flooding in
There's a reason for that, yah tart..... "
Do you mind? I resemble that remark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what happens if you don't want to look like the site bike and stop asking for verifications?
I stopped ages ago but they still keep flooding in
There's a reason for that, yah tart.....
Do you mind? I resemble that remark "
The likeness is uncanny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Just tick the "verified" box when searching? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven't had a veri in over 12 months, I basically use the forums. So my account should be deleted?
Burned at the stake more like
Seems a little harsh  "
Sorry I was joking, doesn't always transfer well on here, I know. |
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"I haven't had a veri in over 12 months, I basically use the forums. So my account should be deleted?
Burned at the stake more like
Seems a little harsh
Sorry I was joking, doesn't always transfer well on here, I know. "
I got it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
You bring up some reasonable points but
1. If you had been on before and had to renew your profile it wouldn't be that difficult to meet people you had met before and get verified.
2 There are plenty of socials and clubs and verified members who can leave feedback by meeting in person and obviously getting a cam verification is even easier although has it's own issues.
All we are saying is that the difficulties you present are not unsurmountable given a little effort in a year. Thanks for taking such time for a thoughtful response "
not everyone verifies wether you meet them at a social or a club some people who go to clubs dont even use online sites so your point there is mute. also cam veries dont actually mean anything as cams can be faked so again mute point |
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Some people don't want verifications, for various reasons. The "straight" guy reason is one. And some people just don't like them.
Some people might choose to dip their toes into swinging very slowly.
Some people don't meet but chat, use the forums etc.
If it's not doing any harm, why delete the profiles? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others
You bring up some reasonable points but
1. If you had been on before and had to renew your profile it wouldn't be that difficult to meet people you had met before and get verified.
2 There are plenty of socials and clubs and verified members who can leave feedback by meeting in person and obviously getting a cam verification is even easier although has it's own issues.
All we are saying is that the difficulties you present are not unsurmountable given a little effort in a year. Thanks for taking such time for a thoughtful response
not everyone verifies wether you meet them at a social or a club some people who go to clubs dont even use online sites so your point there is mute. also cam veries dont actually mean anything as cams can be faked so again mute point"
I've only got one, social, veri on this profile. I've met 4 men and a couple, I just don't really do verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what happens if you don't want to look like the site bike and stop asking for verifications?
I stopped ages ago but they still keep flooding in
There's a reason for that, yah tart.....
Do you mind? I resemble that remark "
hehee so naughty Rachael |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, according to my profile I haven't been verified in over a year, but I have been meeting a friend I made from here on and off over that period, neither of us verified each other as being friends we didn't feel the need.
Some people just don't worry about verifications, if they are important to you then use the relevant filters and leave others to run their profile as they see fit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for replying everyone - A fair few valid points made - I suppose we just get a little irritated (probably our own fault as we would rather be polite) of replying to couples who in our experience we won't ever meet. It is a small price to pay for an excellent site x |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
I spend no time thinking about it...
Well apart from these few seconds.
I shall immediately go back to not caring what people do with their profiles.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Logically, people who haven't yet had a verification, haven't had an opportunity to waste anyone's time.
QED
People frequently post new threads, to moan about this same subject. Most of their suggestions are either stupid, unworkable or unhelpful. Is this not timewasting?
Don't be so concerned about other people's verifs (or lack thereof) and try to evolve a more intelligent, selective filtering process. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
But if they have no verification after 12 months then you can just ignore them rather like we do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think they should be deleted for not having a verification for a set period of time as everyone uses the site differently but do think that there should maybe be a requirement to be photo verified after a period of time and maybe have some restrictions on access until it's done. But as said before it's not in the intest of the site to have these profiles removed for various reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Out of interest OP, do you meet unverified members?
Because if no one meets them they'll never get verified.
I presume you were unverified once upon a time?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?
Out of interest OP, do you meet unverified members?
Because if no one meets them they'll never get verified.
We have met quite a few unverified members who we have chatted to on the phone or met at parties, invariably with couples though we still see the same ones that we have exchanged mails with 4 years ago unverified putting up swing dates and tend to think that they would have met by now.
I presume you were unverified once upon a time?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Ridiculous proposal. |
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I get to meet quite a few people on here.I don't want or need verifications.I've said it before.they don't prove anything.I had an awful blackmailer on here pursue me demanding money.he had verifications .I don't believe everything I read on here much like the newspaper press.a ban on someone who doesn't have verifications would be wrong. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
nope... they are not hear wasting anyones time...
if you want to use that as your own filter... thats a "you" thing...
if you want to chase people who "appear" not to have had a veri in the last 12 months... again that is a "you" thing
the only persons time you are wasting is your own.... you made those decisions.... again... a "you" thing....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?
nope... they are not hear wasting anyones time...
if you want to use that as your own filter... thats a "you" thing...
if you want to chase people who "appear" not to have had a veri in the last 12 months... again that is a "you" thing
the only persons time you are wasting is your own.... you made those decisions.... again... a "you" thing....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd have to make a new profile in that case as I've been here over a year and not had a meet but I'm not here to waste people's time but I am 49 a smoker and have a partner but looking to play alone all of which makes it difficult to get a meet with those alone when you do the maths that most won't meet someone without a verification it makes it harder some of us are real and looking unfortunately without success |
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This post is a great definition of time wasting.
What is time wasting?
the act of causing someone to spend time doing something that is unnecessary (to some) or does not produce any benefit (to others)
Have any of those verification absent people ever caused you to waste your time OP? |
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
I'm with you on this 1 |
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By *armersWoman
over a year ago
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"How does a non-verified member waste your time? I'm guessing you don't meet or try to meet them. So no time is wasted.
You are also, perhaps, part of the reason why they have no verifications....?
The site has rules. It has lots of different ways that people can use it. They may not be your rules....but then, you don't run the site.
The one point I would bring up is if a member hasn't been on the site at all for a period (perhaps 12 months?) then the profile could be considered "dead" and could be removed.....?"
Then maybe people need to be encouraged more to deactivate their profile until ready to come back on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why not take it a stage further and delete profiles that do not post at least 1 new verification per month?"
I assume you are joking - cos you'd definitely be gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I already opened a thread on this ...check it out "
That you have.
And the responses on your thread are exactly the same as the responses on this thread.
Yet still you delude yourself that you are right.
Don't forget we're still waiting for your count. |
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over a year ago
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" I already opened a thread on this ...check it out "
You seem unwilling to answer my question so to save you the effort I've had a look for you.
On your own thread it's 3 for and 27 against. (1 of the 3 is you)
On this thread it's 2 for and 34 against. (1 of the 2 is you)
Doesn't really concur with your view that "everyone wants this" does it.
No need to thank me.
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By *armersWoman
over a year ago
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" I already opened a thread on this ...check it out
You seem unwilling to answer my question so to save you the effort I've had a look for you.
On your own thread it's 3 for and 27 against. (1 of the 3 is you)
On this thread it's 2 for and 34 against. (1 of the 2 is you)
Doesn't really concur with your view that "everyone wants this" does it.
No need to thank me.
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Ha ha ha lol love it xxx just wants the attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I already opened a thread on this ...check it out
You seem unwilling to answer my question so to save you the effort I've had a look for you.
On your own thread it's 3 for and 27 against. (1 of the 3 is you)
On this thread it's 2 for and 34 against. (1 of the 2 is you)
Doesn't really concur with your view that "everyone wants this" does it.
No need to thank me.
Ha ha ha lol love it xxx just wants the attention "
According to his other thread, I'm the attention seeker.
Notwithstanding that he started the thread.
I'm off to find a few more of these threads. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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" I already opened a thread on this ...check it out
That you have.
And the responses on your thread are exactly the same as the responses on this thread.
Yet still you delude yourself that you are right.
Don't forget we're still waiting for your count."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what about if the person is verified but has been taking a break for 12 months due to family troubles etc would you still say that they need their profiles deleting because you deem them to be time wasters or is it solely just newbies who havent been able to get a meet yet as it can tke a while to get a meet. also how do you know they havent met people who dont verify people after they meet in that 12 month period as not everybody verifies others"
Well said. I met up with someone this week who has chosen not to verify me but has verified a next meet. So I remain unverified by a meet  |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Major generalisation of you. If only the world could conform.... |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? I'm with you on this 1 "
My suggestion is still if verifications are older than 3 months profile should be deleted, you never gave me your thoughts on the suggestion |
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over a year ago
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This site already takes your selfcentered demands into accout-
1- there is a filter to search only verified profiles.
2- the longer the profile hasnt been accessed, the further down the search reaults it is. And it shows how long ago the profile was last active before having to access it. |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? I'm with you on this 1
My suggestion is still if verifications are older than 3 months profile should be deleted, you never gave me your thoughts on the suggestion "
They only went and got themselves a December verification and spoilt it. |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? I'm with you on this 1
My suggestion is still if verifications are older than 3 months profile should be deleted, you never gave me your thoughts on the suggestion
They only went and got themselves a December verification and spoilt it. "
The persons who's post I actually replied to has one 3 months ago |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? I'm with you on this 1
My suggestion is still if verifications are older than 3 months profile should be deleted, you never gave me your thoughts on the suggestion
They only went and got themselves a December verification and spoilt it.
The persons who's post I actually replied to has one 3 months ago"
*Goes back for another look..... |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?
I'm genuinly confused OP.
How does a profile with no verifications after 12 months make the site hard to navigate and how do they waste anyone's time?
Please explain so that I can evaluate your ideas against my current position. You never know, I might change my mind from my current stance.
Which is;
"my profile is my business. Other people's profiles are their business".
Anyone (other than the site owners) telling me how I should or shouldn't run my profile can fuck off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It already is easy to navigate. You can search for people who are meet verified and you can block non verified people from messaging you in your filters. |
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over a year ago
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"It already is easy to navigate. You can search for people who are meet verified and you can block non verified people from messaging you in your filters."
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over a year ago
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"It already is easy to navigate. You can search for people who are meet verified and you can block non verified people from messaging you in your filters.
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I think people who keep moaning about things they can easily avoid with a bit of gumption should have their profiles deleted to be honest.
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"It already is easy to navigate. You can search for people who are meet verified and you can block non verified people from messaging you in your filters.
I think people who keep moaning about things they can easily avoid with a bit of gumption should have their profiles deleted to be honest.
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Gumption,good word |
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"It already is easy to navigate. You can search for people who are meet verified and you can block non verified people from messaging you in your filters.
I think people who keep moaning about things they can easily avoid with a bit of gumption should have their profiles deleted to be honest.
Gumption, good word "
Thesaurus toilet paper for Christmas.
I had to open it early as I didn't have a copy of the Daily Star handy..... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ] |
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"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]"
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea. |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
How do you know what they're 'clearly' here to do?
I personally don't collect veris from people I have sex with, neither am I wasting anyone's time other than my own.
No, they shouldn't. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea. "
Is that a proposal? |
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over a year ago
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"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea.
Is that a proposal? "
No it's a decree |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea.
Is that a proposal?
No it's a decree "
Oh, this sounds good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea.
Is that a proposal?
No it's a decree "
Yes but will it result in a veri though, because if it does not you might be accused of not swinging and wasting other peeps time. |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
OP this is not the first time this proposal has been raised.
Have you ever had your time wasted by someone who is not verified?
Do you equate a lack of a veri to being a time waster. If you do its a wrong assumption. you can have your time wasted by someone who has a verification.
If you want to navigate more easily just set your search for those with veris only and you find all your swinging non-time wasters.
Also set your message filter to exclude those with no veris and you will not get messages from the same.
There sorted - simples!
The site does not force members to have veris for good reasons, many covered in the other posts on this and other threads. If you do not like it well its tough the site has given you the tools - use them! |
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OP you are entitled to your views however the site provides YOU the control of searching yourself and selecting those who have been verified.
Do though consider..
I've personally taken long stretches off - not logged in - not met through personal choice
I've lost verifications because others have left the site
I've met a few select people multiple times and don't require a verification for each meet!
I'm unclear why you think you should decide that under your rules my profile should be deleted... who made you God!
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"The OP was a proposal; not a decree!
Lighten up, folk; it is almost Christmas
[ this too is a proposal; not a decree; anyone who thinks it is, can, in the true spirit of Christmas, get f**ked ]
If a proposal isn't challenged, it's likely to become a decree.
But yeah, getting fucked sounds like an idea.
Is that a proposal?
No it's a decree
Oh, this sounds good "
Think I've bitten of more than I can chew. |
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Guys, we all have different standards of what we want and what we like.
That does not mean those who have standards different to ours have no right to be here.
Live and let live.
If this site is not a bastion of tolerance and understanding of others, what is it? |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
Yes! |
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"why not take it a stage further and delete profiles that do not post at least 1 new verification per month?
I assume you are joking - cos you'd definitely be gone."
Of course I was joking it's a ridiculous topic fron the outset x |
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters? I'm with you on this 1 "
Perhaps profiles with no visible veris could be the first to go? after all why waste time with peeps whose veris may be from themselves off a second account? |
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over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
What i have found to be a bit of a time wasting thing is that quiet a lot of old profiles haven't been even been logged into for over twelve months.I find this not in the searches,as thats in recent log in order, but from looking across someones verifications,and see that the verifer hasn't logged in for over 12 months
Think a way of deleting these with 'inactive' profiles would give the place out a bit of a spring clean ? |
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But again I took a long break where I didn't log in because of personal issues. However I came back why should I be penalised and lose everything just because real life had to take priority.
My profile did no harm to anyone in that time.
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By *armersWoman
over a year ago
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?
What i have found to be a bit of a time wasting thing is that quiet a lot of old profiles haven't been even been logged into for over twelve months.I find this not in the searches,as thats in recent log in order, but from looking across someones verifications,and see that the verifer hasn't logged in for over 12 months
Think a way of deleting these with 'inactive' profiles would give the place out a bit of a spring clean ?"
Maybe there should be something in the filters that could be clicked that only shows people recently on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In all honesty we may have misrepresented our idea. We have had several messages from "couples" who have no verifications and are constantly online. They have not only not been verified in over a year but some have messaged us 6 years ago with the intent of meeting. They also have regular swing dates on.
If you don't want to publish your verifications they still show with a date. We are also not complaining about inactive profiles. Just profiles that are asking to meet and messaging us that have been on here for over 5 years and have no meets. We understand hostility but are just making a proposal that would save people lots of time.
For those that are smokers, worried about the other half finding out etc - surely in 6 years you could manage to go to a social or club to meet someone. We did expect a bit of a bad reaction as there are so many profiles like this on here - |
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over a year ago
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they should have something where one half of a couple that splits can somehow ensure the site knows. I've been on and off the scene for some years and aware of a few cpls who are no longer but the male half of the cpl is still here pretending the cpl still exist.
The absence of veri's for months if not years versus the profiles 24-7 meet tonight's usually gives a sign. |
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"In all honesty we may have misrepresented our idea. We have had several messages from "couples" who have no verifications and are constantly online. They have not only not been verified in over a year but some have messaged us 6 years ago with the intent of meeting. They also have regular swing dates on.
If you don't want to publish your verifications they still show with a date. We are also not complaining about inactive profiles. Just profiles that are asking to meet and messaging us that have been on here for over 5 years and have no meets. We understand hostility but are just making a proposal that would save people lots of time.
For those that are smokers, worried about the other half finding out etc - surely in 6 years you could manage to go to a social or club to meet someone. We did expect a bit of a bad reaction as there are so many profiles like this on here - "
OP you have not misrepresented your idea you are just making assumptions about people.
If you are getting messaged by couples with no veris just set your message filter to block them, as I said in my previous post.
You have also assumed a veri means a meet. You can be veried by cam. Is that a "meet"? Does a veri by a meet in person even if it is just a social mean that you are not a time waster! Because as many on here can vouch having a veri does not guarantee a show. I have met couples who play only at clubs and they do not give veris or receive them - are they time wasters?
Are you really talking about false profiles - single men pretending to be a couple - rather than time wasters? |
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"dont want to meet or chat to unverified then dont meet or chat to them it's THAT simple "
We have had 4 messages tonight from profiles on well over a year without any - it is great to ignore but it does spoil it for genuine couples who actually want to meet. We have met some unverified couples who had only been on a week or two and had great times so we wouldn't want to block newbies as we have had some great experiences. |
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"dont want to meet or chat to unverified then dont meet or chat to them it's THAT simple
We have had 4 messages tonight from profiles on well over a year without any - it is great to ignore but it does spoil it for genuine couples who actually want to meet. We have met some unverified couples who had only been on a week or two and had great times so we wouldn't want to block newbies as we have had some great experiences."
Why not block messages from unverified profiles then check new profiles daily, weekly or whenever suits and contact the ones that appeal? It isn't what you've suggested but it's a way of achieving the same end result.
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"they should have something where one half of a couple that splits can somehow ensure the site knows. I've been on and off the scene for some years and aware of a few cpls who are no longer but the male half of the cpl is still here pretending the cpl still exist.
The absence of veri's for months if not years versus the profiles 24-7 meet tonight's usually gives a sign."
They actually can change their profile to single. All they have to do is send a msg to admin explain it and admin will change their profile to a single one. It happen to me. Someone was very unhappy that I had a singles profile and only meeting with my (now ) BF, they reported me and fab admin changed my profile to a couples one. Obviously, I have a different couples profile... Anyway , fab admin will change the profile if requested... Or reported
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I like and agree woth everything youve said, none of the first three people i met resulted in a vei, despite one if them asking me tk make sure i gave them a verification. Back then i was in profession which was becoming , subject to vetting of individuals web ise habits, and could be reported to governing body, and subject of a "fit and proper person test", and be removed from national register .effectively taking your career away. Now im no longer nationally registered , so not subject to this bollocks. People have reported me on here because ive refused to meet them, id rather audit my profile after six months , and refresh what is no longer relevant , veris from a year ago arent really relevant so i id try to ensure some current remarks .as i do with my photos. |
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"dont want to meet or chat to unverified then dont meet or chat to them it's THAT simple "
It really is but sadly, the busy bodies of the site feel it best to lecture everyone else how it should be used. |
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"When there is no verification after 12 months, it would make it an awful lot easier navigate and stop wasting people's time. They are clearly not here to swing and sites for voyeurs already exist. Just a proposal as there seem to be more and more time wasters?"
No - live and let live - is not difficult just contact the more active members! m x |
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