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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do single guys meet couples on here?
I have been trying without success for about 2 years.
I read profiles carefully, address them as a couple (not just the lady), and im very polite.
On a couple of occasions i did get a reply from the man........then as soon as i ask a sensible valid question they stop talking.......one blocked me!!
As a man who is looking for his first meet with a couple, it knocks my confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In reply, have just looked at your profile. Sorry to say, it's a bit off-putting that you start with a moan about the site and the people on here. Most Couples tend to want to meet people with a bit of warmth and humour and I think you'd find a happy smiling face pic would help. Of course that's just my personal opinion - only trying to help!
Plus a lot of couples will be like us - only wanting to meet couples which narrows down your possibilities further.
Good luck - stay upbeat & positive and maybe one day you'll live out that fantasy!
Her.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the moaning doesnt help at all..comes across as your on here so its expected that cpls should meet you.for us thats a no go and as your struggling it would appear others think the same.
maybe you could say how inviting you to play would seem a good idea to cpls as it may attract the attention of said cpls.
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah bin the whinge. Also, what did you ask? For example I can't stand being asked how many people I've met off the site but suppose I can see how it would seem like a reasonable question to others. |
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"How do single guys meet couples on here?
I have been trying without success for about 2 years.
I read profiles carefully, address them as a couple (not just the lady), and im very polite.
On a couple of occasions i did get a reply from the man........then as soon as i ask a sensible valid question they stop talking.......one blocked me!!
As a man who is looking for his first meet with a couple, it knocks my confidence."
my i ask why are asking questions let them take the lead and ask you and have an open mind and never be pushy or you will get the door slammed in your face all the time for cpls you need to have something to offer  |
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"In reply, have just looked at your profile. Sorry to say, it's a bit off-putting that you start with a moan about the site and the people on here. Most Couples tend to want to meet people with a bit of warmth and humour and I think you'd find a happy smiling face pic would help. Of course that's just my personal opinion - only trying to help!
Plus a lot of couples will be like us - only wanting to meet couples which narrows down your possibilities further.
Good luck - stay upbeat & positive and maybe one day you'll live out that fantasy!
Her...."
True there about the moan get rid of it ,it will do you know favors and put cpls off you need to ad a bit of spice you have to then your luck may change i know what im talking about 100 plus meets with cpls  |
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You sound like you arent doing anything wrong. Maybe you havent read the profiles well enough and are just not what they are looking for? I appreciate that not all profiles are very clear about what they are looking for but do your best. Look at other guys they have met.... are they similar in many ways and physically the same time as you? Once you get talking to them tell them politely what you are interested in and have to offer. Guys can be as polite and pleasant as they want but if we dont find them attractive it isnt going to happen. Shame you havent yet found a match.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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well thanks for all the advice, which appeared to be very similar.
the 'moaning bit' i only put on a few days ago, so it had no bearing on my lack of success to date.......however i have now removed it, as it was doing me no favours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials are a great way of putting names to faces and making connections with people. Plus get your name down for Madchicks Beach party at chams 28th Aug |
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For us, like most couples we're only really interested in meeting other couples... However, that doesnt mean that at some point we may fancy the attention of a single male. The thing is, when wf do, I'm 99.9% sure it won't be from a contact on a website - it will be from someone we've met up the bar in a club or social.
I reallt think that's the key - meet people in person in a safe environment ie a club as it not only gives everyone and easy way out but it also gives you lots of people in the same place that can actually SEE your a nice/funny/hung/ripped/toned (whatever your USP is!) guy.
I'd suggest the odds of you being picked out from the croud in a club are substantially better than getting responded to out of the xxxx's of males on here.
Like someone said before.... The harder you work - the luckier you get...;-)
In short - go to a club/social.
D&K |
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"For us, like most couples we're only really interested in meeting other couples... However, that doesnt mean that at some point we may fancy the attention of a single male. The thing is, when wf do, I'm 99.9% sure it won't be from a contact on a website - it will be from someone we've met up the bar in a club or social.
I reallt think that's the key - meet people in person in a safe environment ie a club as it not only gives everyone and easy way out but it also gives you lots of people in the same place that can actually SEE your a nice/funny/hung/ripped/toned (whatever your USP is!) guy.
I'd suggest the odds of you being picked out from the croud in a club are substantially better than getting responded to out of the xxxx's of males on here.
Like someone said before.... The harder you work - the luckier you get...;-)
In short - go to a club/social.
D&K"
Does not always work in the clubs or socials had plenty of fun at the clubs but for me had 0 meets have come from the clubs/socials but its a good place to start good luck |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"sounds like club is the way forward then......i have a lady friend who goes to chams
.....and nope i wont give up!"
clubs and socials and get yourself known.
also post more in the forums, join in with the banter.
good luck.
sometimes the guys who have found it easier, forget it is tough for others. Sometimes, pride before a fall tho. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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like i said in my first message, i have no problem meeting women......last month i met and had sex with 3 women.....2 of which i met 2 or 3 more times....and 1 is now a good friend
its just on here i have problems.......and i get a feeling that 1 or 2 on here think maybe im a looser!!......far from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would suggest a club also, we go to Tease 2 on a Friday for the single men (note men not boyz).
Having said that we only go to Tease 2 for our fun, not ever been to a private meet with any strangers, although we have been known to kidnap people for a week...they did not protest..some don't ever want to leave!!
So I would say you would have 100% success at a club, plus the benefit of the social side. Imagine a really good party minus the idiot men that want to get d*unk and fight. You will make some really good friends!!
Good luck in your quest. |
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"then as soon as i ask a sensible valid question they stop talking.......one blocked me!!"
Out of interest, what was the sensible, valid question? What's sensible and valid to some, isn't always to others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol I dont think your a loser, I was messing about saying give up, 2 years is a bloody long time! surprised you have not been to socials already? I have not been to any clubs yet, but have had a few couples asking me to meet them there, so think thats your best bet, also I would work on your profile a bit
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i didnt assume you thought i was a looser, but im sure some people who read my messages may do.
to be honest with you i have not had the confidence to go to a club up til now.....but i may have to bite the bullet and go......guess it will be an eyeopener if nothing else!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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their profile had no mention of what days they were available to meet.........so after exchanging a couple of messages they said they would like to meet me sometime very soon.
i asked if they were available evenings in the week, as they lived locally.......i got a message back saying 'read the bloody profile'!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i didnt assume you thought i was a looser, but im sure some people who read my messages may do.
to be honest with you i have not had the confidence to go to a club up til now.....but i may have to bite the bullet and go......guess it will be an eyeopener if nothing else!!"
You got nothing to lose mate, so just do it! Iv been to a mf party with a girl before, I was nervous about going, but glad I did, as I had a ffm 3some and loved it!.......point is fuck your nervs! just do it and you will more than likely get what you want and more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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only thing i can say is when messaging a couple address them both.
you may want to meet the female part but he must also be considered.
to get to her you must go through him if you understand me correctly.
show the man some respect, he is making his wife/partner/girlfriend available and you may be the lucky one.
good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be prepared to put yourself out for social meets before expecting to jump straight into bed with a couple. It is really good to suggest meeting up for a coffee to see how you all get on. As a single guy it is important to stand out from all the other single guys, most of whom end up been complete time wasters or pic collectors, which is very off-putting for people looking to genuinely meet.
It's worked for me just meeting up with couples / fems in my lunch hour - nothing else is expected other than a friendly chat and some banter.
Good luck!
Anyone fancy a coffee sometime soon...?
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Just us as well, but having a blank shadowy profile picture puts us off. Sure there are lots that will disagree, but always make us think perhaps this person has something to hide, and after all, it's all about first impressions..
Change it for something interesting at least.. |
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