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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, all the action shots and pics of past meets are a total turn off. I cannot speak for all women on here but more tasteful shots of you might imrove your chances leaving the more hardcore private for those that ask? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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profile is fine, apart from the warning. You don't need that.
Your pics however....
They are all of women, with just a portion of your willy in them. There are hardly any of you! That puts me off. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
For being a single guy, your profile pics, look more like a couple.
They will be very off putting to single ladies, I personally do not like to see pictures of past conquests, I want to see only pictures of the single man I am speaking to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil"
1st thing is all the bareback photos is off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For someone who claims they practice safe sex in their interests there are a hell of a lot of bareback pics including anal. I'd bet most women are clicking their block buttons as we speak. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil
1st thing is all the bareback photos is off putting."
Especially when you have the 'safe sex' box ticked, very hypocritical |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil"
I got as far as the second paragraph and gave up. The first, by the way, was really quite good.
But moaning about no replies to your messages? Put me off entirely. Entitlement. Oh, and do please take the time to read the site's FAQ.
And I want to see you in your pictures, not a disembodied member having (unprotected) sex with a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi fairly new to this.. would like to get my first meet.. could someone tell me where I'm going wrong as I'm struggling to get a meet l.. thanks"
Probably best to start your own thread my lovely rather than hijack someone else's. Try the introductions forum. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I got as far as the second paragraph and gave up. The first, by the way, was really quite good.
But moaning about no replies to your messages? Put me off entirely. Entitlement. Oh, and do please take the time to read the site's FAQ."
Ah, I stopped reading after the first paragraph. The profile definitely goes downhill after that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil"
Your photos are awful Phil.
Do you really like your cock that much?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone. I'm just looking for some constructive advice as to how to improve my chances of meeting someone on here. When I send a message I am always very courteous and respectful. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I keep myself fit, I'm intelligent and can hold a conversation. I'd just like some friendly advice as to how I can improve my profile. Thank you all in advance. Phil
Your photos are awful Phil.
Do you really like your cock that much??"
They are better than the first selection before he edited them! Yep, still too cock heavy. |
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Pics put me off instantly. You have a single male profile, therefore I want to see you the majority of another woman and just your cock. I'm a single woman, I have no play pics on my profile they are all solely of me as it's me that people need to see
Then the text seems like a self entitled rant, which is again of putting. No one is obliged to reply to you. Unless the lady etc asks specifically to mail them then your contact could be unwanted and essentially becomes junk mail
The warning is also pointless, once you uploaded your pics you've consented to having them in the public domain, there's frig all you can do about it if someone were to take your pics, unless you can prove they'd taken them to mis use them under new revenge porn laws.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi fairly new to this.. would like to get my first meet.. could someone tell me where I'm going wrong as I'm struggling to get a meet l.. thanks"
Hijacking a profile is never good.
But as for where you are going wrong, may we suggest your profile? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you 
Not a very nice one at that "
Well there isn't much he can do about that, is there? He just needs to take some more well thought out pics. |
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
I am not a fan of cock centric profiles  "
Me neither one erect is more than sufficient, as long as it's not a birds eye view of his japs eye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
I am not a fan of cock centric profiles
Me neither one erect is more than sufficient, as long as it's not a birds eye view of his japs eye "
hope your behaving today young lady x |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
I am not a fan of cock centric profiles
Me neither one erect is more than sufficient, as long as it's not a birds eye view of his japs eye "
It's like 3D and literally getting your eyes poked out  |
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
I am not a fan of cock centric profiles
Me neither one erect is more than sufficient, as long as it's not a birds eye view of his japs eye hope your behaving today young lady x"
Me? Always 
Oh wait I forgot you know me better than that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm I did ask for constructive advice and asking me whether I'm a cock is not only very abusive but also not constructive. Thank you all the same but I won't be heeding any advice from you."
I don't see that as abusive, what they are essentially saying is, is a cock all you have to offer as most women are looking for way more. The comment about it not being a nice cock was the only comment I thought was rude and uncalled for. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you "
Hmmm I did ask for constructive advice and asking me whether I'm a cock is both abusive and not constructive. Thank you all the same but needless to say I won't be heeding any advice you offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm I did ask for constructive advice and asking me whether I'm a cock is not only very abusive but also not constructive. Thank you all the same but I won't be heeding any advice from you.
I don't see that as abusive, what they are essentially saying is, is a cock all you have to offer as most women are looking for way more. The comment about it not being a nice cock was the only comment I thought was rude and uncalled for."
OP, you have had meetings. You are clearly able to present yourself reasonably.
People have on the whole provided reasonable and constructive advice. Whether you accept it or do anything about it is entirely up to you. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
Hmmm I did ask for constructive advice and asking me whether I'm a cock is both abusive and not constructive. Thank you all the same but needless to say I won't be heeding any advice you offer. "
You might need to grow a thicker skin too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for your, on the whole, very constructive advice. I have taken it on board and modified my profile accordingly. Happy swinging to you all. Phil |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
Hmmm I did ask for constructive advice and asking me whether I'm a cock is both abusive and not constructive. Thank you all the same but needless to say I won't be heeding any advice you offer. "
Sorry, but that was not abuse, I was telling you what my first thoughts would be if you messaged me, take it or leave it is entirely up to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears..."
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your, on the whole, very constructive advice. I have taken it on board and modified my profile accordingly. Happy swinging to you all. Phil"
You really don't need that warning. Even the site FAQs state it's pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your, on the whole, very constructive advice. I have taken it on board and modified my profile accordingly. Happy swinging to you all. Phil"
Have you?
Personally, I'd hit the block button as it is now, but horses for courses and all.
Re your other comment, I also didn't see anyone abusing you in the thread, the lady is right, cock overload. I think she was trying to help but you've obviously not taken the advice of the people you're trying to attract, onboard. Waste of everyone's time if you ask me. Just carry on doing what you're doing. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your, on the whole, very constructive advice. I have taken it on board and modified my profile accordingly. Happy swinging to you all. Phil
Have you?
Personally, I'd hit the block button as it is now, but horses for courses and all.
Re your other comment, I also didn't see anyone abusing you in the thread, the lady is right, cock overload. I think she was trying to help but you've obviously not taken the advice of the people you're trying to attract, onboard. Waste of everyone's time if you ask me. Just carry on doing what you're doing. "
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"Thank you all for your, on the whole, very constructive advice. I have taken it on board and modified my profile accordingly. Phil"
Phil, are you no longer looking for advice? Do you think your modified profile will now attract the ladies?
Best of luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a cock? Because that is all I see, you must think it is your best feature that represents you
I am not a fan of cock centric profiles
Me neither one erect is more than sufficient, as long as it's not a birds eye view of his japs eye hope your behaving today young lady x
Me? Always
Oh wait I forgot you know me better than that "
oh I do lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op still cock overload the ladies all know what a cock looks like even the lesbians surely you have some torso and other parts pics and even smiling face shots and yes I know my own face pics are serious but I'm hoping to change that next meet I get |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram "
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
She was trying to say you have way too many cock pics on your profile but maybe could have put it better. You have taken it the wrong way my lovely. I don't see any trolls hijacking the thread to be honest. Good luck  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
If you look above you will know why I said that! If you had messaged me with the pics you had that is exactly what I would have thought, you wanted advice and I gave it, sorry if it hurt your feelings |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
Presumably, you wanted opinion.
Or did you just want positive opinion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
Trolls hijacking the thread?
Bit harsh |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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1st thing is all the bareback photos is off putting.
Especially when you have the 'safe sex' box ticked, very hypocritical "
and this is why i hate threads like this.....
because being so specific means they now change it.... and know the clues that they did things that for others would be red lines are gone....
you now just made it harder for people to work out who is best suited to them and who isn't.....
there are always little things that will be giveaways....
if people are going to give advice i wish they would be very general and very bland with it.....
because in a what now at least you can work out who gets it and who doesn't.... all these threads do is that people use the same buzz words |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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1st thing is all the bareback photos is off putting.
Especially when you have the 'safe sex' box ticked, very hypocritical
and this is why i hate threads like this.....
because being so specific means they now change it.... and know the clues that they did things that for others would be red lines are gone....
you now just made it harder for people to work out who is best suited to them and who isn't.....
there are always little things that will be giveaways....
if people are going to give advice i wish they would be very general and very bland with it.....
because in a what now at least you can work out who gets it and who doesn't.... all these threads do is that people use the same buzz words "
 Your right and I stopped falling into this trap for the same reason ages ago, DAMN! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
Remember, if you have a poor profile, it is constructive to point that out!!
Or is it you can't cope with criticism??
Seems that a lot of single guys who come here looking for easy sex cannot cope with criticism.
Maybe a bit of research before posting a profile would give an appearance of putting some effort in?
There-some constructive criticism!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can't help those who won't help themselves my old dad says and there lies the crux of the problem lots of people ask same things and when given sane advise choose to attack the advisors |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"These Advice Threads always end in tears...
usually because whoever is asking for the advice fails to accept it as constructive and starts throwing his toys out of the pram
So, asking if someone is a cock is constructive? Not from where I come sister. However, I did pause before I asked for advice because I knew it would end with a bunch of trolls hijacking the thread. If you've got nothing constructive to say, don't say it."
She asked if you were a cock as that's all one can see on the profile? Is that all a woman gets if she meets you?
I've only seen constructive feedback on here but you're wilfully and ignorantly ignoring it.
Good luck pal, you'll need it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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1st thing is all the bareback photos is off putting.
Especially when you have the 'safe sex' box ticked, very hypocritical
and this is why i hate threads like this.....
because being so specific means they now change it.... and know the clues that they did things that for others would be red lines are gone....
you now just made it harder for people to work out who is best suited to them and who isn't.....
there are always little things that will be giveaways....
if people are going to give advice i wish they would be very general and very bland with it.....
because in a what now at least you can work out who gets it and who doesn't.... all these threads do is that people use the same buzz words "
Nah - I think the personality with these types always comes through in the messages anyway. At some point along the communication they still ignore what the woman wants and then get 'ghosted' (see the other thread from yesterday) - only to come back with another thread about all contact being 'suddenly cut off when we were chatting'.
And so the cycle begins again! Haha. |
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