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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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not meaning to sound controversial, but has anyone had a feeling that quite a lot of people on here are all talk? it may go for men though, but I've obviously only experienced it from women.
Example - lady who i've been chatting to, who added me as a friend, has a status, "who wants to meet for a drink? G&T guaranteed to end in a hot mess!" I say I'm in town and available, she says "but it's freezing outside, not going now."
Another example - status says "moved into a new flat, what to do, mmmmmmmmmmmm xx". I message her saying I'd love to pop round, she says "I'm not having any meets here until I'm settled in." Had very similar encounters on my old account last year, was wondering if other's have encountered similar. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Maybe don't be so direct in your messages OP, sometimes taking it a little easier in an open ended way could get things moving? Simply because people put up status's doesn't mean they want to fuck the world immediately.
Take "moved into a new flat, what to do, mmmmmmmmmmmm xx" for example.
To the horny guy it reads:
I have a new, empty home, with nothing to do. It needs breaking in xxxxxxx.
To the OP it means:
I have a new flat, where is everything, thank fuck I've sat down. |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"Maybe don't be so direct in your messages OP, sometimes taking it a little easier in an open ended way could get things moving? Simply because people put up status's doesn't mean they want to fuck the world immediately.
Take "moved into a new flat, what to do, mmmmmmmmmmmm xx" for example.
To the horny guy it reads:
I have a new, empty home, with nothing to do. It needs breaking in xxxxxxx.
To the OP it means:
I have a new flat, where is everything, thank fuck I've sat down."
Exactly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe don't be so direct in your messages OP, sometimes taking it a little easier in an open ended way could get things moving? Simply because people put up status's doesn't mean they want to fuck the world immediately.
Take "moved into a new flat, what to do, mmmmmmmmmmmm xx" for example.
To the horny guy it reads:
I have a new, empty home, with nothing to do. It needs breaking in xxxxxxx.
To the OP it means:
I have a new flat, where is everything, thank fuck I've sat down."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not meaning to sound controversial, but has anyone had a feeling that quite a lot of people on here are all talk? it may go for men though, but I've obviously only experienced it from women.
Example - lady who i've been chatting to, who added me as a friend, has a status, "who wants to meet for a drink? G&T guaranteed to end in a hot mess!" I say I'm in town and available, she says "but it's freezing outside, not going now."
Another example - status says "moved into a new flat, what to do, mmmmmmmmmmmm xx". I message her saying I'd love to pop round, she says "I'm not having any meets here until I'm settled in." Had very similar encounters on my old account last year, was wondering if other's have encountered similar."
its nothing to do with them being all talk...
id say it was more to do with you reading too much into it...
best thing to do is back off OP
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"But we'd be chatting and she added me as a friend and was talking about meeting up some time down the line "
 friendzone
lol
It could simply be they are putting a status up to gain some attention. If they are new to meeting having someone come on strong could be off putting. There is a difference between having a friendly chat and sexual chemistry. If you have some banter with women you are more likely to get their heels around your head than women that randomly accept your friend requests. |
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She probably couldnt meet u at that time .
.we all have lives away from fab....
Suggest a social ...perhaps during the day at a pub ...
And yes it is cold at night now
If you are too pushy she will block you , tread carefully ..good luck OP
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Personally, I'm rather tired of being told I'm "all talk," a tease, or worse when I don't feel like meeting even for a drink. (er--if you'd please just read my profile, it clearly states that's all I'm up for right now anyway!).
Yes, some women are only here to get their kicks by leading men on, I'm sure. So are some men. Not all!
I for one have met quite a bit, socially and otherwise, and just have to point out that we all have the choice of when we feel up to meeting for whatever. |
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A lot of statuses are tongue in cheek.
If one of my friends had a status along the lines of "new flat, what to do?" I might reply "can I come round for a cup of tea?" Or offered to help shift furniture.
No need to be so direct, be friendly, cheeky even.
Also beae in mind a status could be up to three days old and being your Fab friend doed not oblige them to have sex with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of statuses are tongue in cheek.
If one of my friends had a status along the lines of "new flat, what to do?" I might reply "can I come round for a cup of tea?" Or offered to help shift furniture.
No need to be so direct, be friendly, cheeky even.
Also beae in mind a status could be up to three days old and being your Fab friend doed not oblige them to have sex with you."
 agree.
look at all of the status, not just the bit where you think sex is being offered. |
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we have been on FAB as both singles and as a couple. Getting a meet can sometimes be like a needle in a haystack...
Most people we have met have not been from fab but from clubs or organised socials then we have used FAB to reconnect with people we have always met.
Some people find it easier than others guess it really depends what you are looking for . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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the status wasn't old, it was just written. and my message wasn't blunt or direct, but the implication admittedly was clear. and we have been talking about meeting up, not as if this was out of the blue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She's had a few, so I suppose that's not really the issue.
I'm not particularly aggrieved (some may say the posting of this forum says different). Was just wondering if people experienced similar |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"She's had a few, so I suppose that's not really the issue.
I'm not particularly aggrieved (some may say the posting of this forum says different). Was just wondering if people experienced similar "
Yep. And I love the one word replies too after a thoughtfully writ message. Hence given up messaging . |
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