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why do women on fab ignore me but but are all over me at swingers

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

On fab i get like 2replies a week on fab sometimes nothing however when in at a swingers as a single male they eye me out and are full onto me, i take like a lady a night. Do women go for looks only? What am i doing wrong on fab?

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Reality and internet are totally different matey. I can go out in 1 month and pull probaly once or twice.. on fab.. am lucky if I get a meet in 5 months.

But it is true what you say... and its not always about the profile.. just the numbers game

Good luck

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Stratford

Try responding to messages that folk send you

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"On fab i get like 2replies a week on fab sometimes nothing however when in at a swingers as a single male they eye me out and are full onto me, i take like a lady a night. Do women go for looks only? What am i doing wrong on fab?"

Do you talk to the ladies at swingers clubs and parties?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Well not 3 days ago your were advised to expand your profile from just one sentence. It's still one sentence long

Do that might be a good place to start

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple over a year ago

Stockport

Your profile needs a lot of work...

It's a bit vapid.

IMHO

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you walked into a bar...and there are 50:1 ratio of men to women....do you stay or go?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because there is a big difference between online and in the world.

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Your totally right mate, i haven't even pulled of fab yet. And at a club i get women in there 40s too but on fab i they block me due to my age. I think i need to go out more often. Might be going to the attick club in derby they got a big party going on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there's nothing on your profile...what do expect women to respond to?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your totally right mate, i haven't even pulled of fab yet. And at a club i get women in there 40s too but on fab i they block me due to my age. I think i need to go out more often. Might be going to the attick club in derby they got a big party going on"

got your own answer there really. your age.

no-one can tell how old you are in a club.

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Il go. But most men at swingers are 40+ and average looking at best. IM young and would say good looking, i go gym 5times a week and jog every morning at 7am with my German Siberian husky so i might stay if the ratio was like 50:10

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"there's nothing on your profile...what do expect women to respond to?"

*what do you expect..

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Online most people are just chatting while on lunch break, or maybe while the adverts are on the tv.

At a club they've probably had a few drinks for Dutch courage and are feeling frisky and naughty!

Just speaking from personal experience!

The amount of messages I get in a day are crazy, and I look at someone's profile before I read the message!

If it's a short, uninteresting profile then I don't even read the message, just delete!

If guys can't be arsed to make a half decent profile then I can't be arsed to read their messages! A xx

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Its not that Hun. IM doing something wrong on fab

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I'd also like to add, that bi-curious/bi-sexual guys aren't everyone's cup of tea!

And your only meet verification is with a guy, which again will put a lot of people off who are online, where as in a club nobody knows you like sex with men!

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"Its not that Hun. IM doing something wrong on fab"

Look at your profile!!!

You've put no effort in what so ever.

Yes you have a nice cock, but you don't give any clues to who you are, what you want, likes/dislikes....nothing!!!

Most women won't meet a guy just because he has a nice cock!!!

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

I'm exactly the same mate, Fab for me is really just about keeping in touch with people I meet in clubs and mucking about on the forums. I've tried to make a bit of effort with my profile but it's not made a lot of difference. Just be grateful somethings working for you cos I see plenty of guys in clubs getting nowhere and I can't believe there the guys who are fighting them off with a stick here, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its not that Hun. IM doing something wrong on fab"

yes, you have no profile...can't make that any clearer...as has been said, if i get a message, i check the profile, if its virtually empty,there's nothing to respond to.there would be no point whatsoever even opening the message

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By *ureTemptationWoman over a year ago

Off the grid

"Its not that Hun. IM doing something wrong on fab"

Get more pretty pictures. Let me know when you've uploaded them and I can check they are ok.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd also like to add, that bi-curious/bi-sexual guys aren't everyone's cup of tea!

And your only meet verification is with a guy, which again will put a lot of people off who are online, where as in a club nobody knows you like sex with men!"

Conversely, of course, the ladies that live having sex with a bi guy will love you being bi!!

Either stick to clubs or improve your profile is what people are saying. Don't hide being bisexual - it's nothing to be ashamed of and I for one am bi and proud.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i know two women a week might not sound like much but are you even failing to continue conversations with these women?

something to think about.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Il go. But most men at swingers are 40+ and average looking at best. IM young and would say good looking, i go gym 5times a week and jog every morning at 7am with my German Siberian husky so i might stay if the ratio was like 50:10"
maybe you dont say things like this to people, when you are face to face with them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Il go. But most men at swingers are 40+ and average looking at best. IM young and would say good looking, i go gym 5times a week and jog every morning at 7am with my German Siberian husky so i might stay if the ratio was like 50:10maybe you dont say things like this to people, when you are face to face with them

That's what we were thinking too!

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By *ollyGWoman over a year ago

Southampton

Your profile does not really give much information? That might be one of the reasons? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dunno m8.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I personally like a profile that shows personality and what someone is into. I never speak with guys who have and send cock pics with the message similar to "young stud vwe want some fun". Not saying you do.

Also at a club party you get to talk face to face and make a judgement on people.

Ps this 40+ plumpster probably wouldnt be interested in a pretty boy. Character is more of a turn on

Lmp

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Some people don't get represented that well by photos and others on Fab by their profiles. When online, people have the enormous volumes of guys to view but at a club, it's just who is there at that point - so it's a smaller group to pick from.

Do your pics reflect you at your best or as well as a range of pics could?

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

You are right Hun i wouldn't say it face to face

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

That's what you think Hun, i get more attention from the 40+ ladies than the younger ones

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Its not you there looking at fella think male barby doll

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think the nail's been hit well and truly on the head and beaten to death with a sledgehammer as to why you don't get meets off of fab - your profile. Until you accept that and change it from the paltry one liner you have you'll continue to fail to get meets.

I'm a 51 year old over the hill bloke who's been to the gym 5 times in 35 years, and would only have a Siberian Hamster to run with if I was so inclined (and had one in the first place!!) and yet I probably stand more chance of getting a meet than you because I've put some effort into my profile.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple over a year ago

Manchester Area

You say 40+ as if they are over the hill and yet you say you will meet a 99 year old?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Could be that online you come across as very arrogant to most doesn't matter how good looking you are thats not a desirable quality in a person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You say 40+ as if they are over the hill and yet you say you will meet a 99 year old?"

I'm over 40. It's all down hill from here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try responding to messages that folk send you

Ouch sounds like someone got ignored

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By *orthseatiger69Man over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

"Il go. But most men at swingers are 40+ and average looking at best. IM young and would say good looking, i go gym 5times a week and jog every morning at 7am with my German Siberian husky so i might stay if the ratio was like 50:10maybe you dont say things like this to people, when you are face to face with them

Not a very gracious statement to make . Says a lot about the personality of the OP

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple over a year ago

Manchester Area

"You say 40+ as if they are over the hill and yet you say you will meet a 99 year old?

I'm over 40. It's all down hill from here

Oh trust me, sex just gets better, well with the right guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Il go. But most men at swingers are 40+ and average looking at best. IM young and would say good looking, i go gym 5times a week and jog every morning at 7am with my German Siberian husky so i might stay if the ratio was like 50:10maybe you dont say things like this to people, when you are face to face with them

That's what we were thinking too!"
And me !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because your profile isn't good. You've been given advice on how to better it, but still do another thread. I would rather help someone who genuinely seeks it, rather than someone who asks,but does nothing to change it, sorry.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

You sound a bit full of yourself OP

... perhaps thats why your not getting much interest from the people you are hoping to attract ....

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Stratford

"Try responding to messages that folk send you

Ouch sounds like someone got ignored

Not at all ouchy- the OP asked for advice on another thread about going to a club as a single guy. I responded privately rather than in public and he chose not to respond. Up to him - until he posted this thread when I suddenly had a eureka moment...

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Because your profile needs a serious re-work, if you messaged me, I would totally ignore it, I have far more choice on here than a 1 liner profile and 2 badly taken pics.

It appears you have asked before, yet chose to ignore, so I feel I am wasting my time even just writing this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oohhhh noooo well over the hill here then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try responding to messages that folk send you

Ouch sounds like someone got ignored

I was just being cheeky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just out if interest OP which club do you go to that you are beating the ladies off with a stick? And why have none of them verified you? Your only veri is from a man.

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"Just out if interest OP which club do you go to that you are beating the ladies off with a stick? And why have none of them verified you? Your only veri is from a man. "

I think he means regular nightclubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile is almost empty, if your not gonna put much effort into it then I wouldn't expect you to put effort into anything else, maybe that's judgemental but this is the internet and a site where women get top pickings, I don't need to spend the time trying to drag answers out of you to see if you're a match when I can easily look at the next profile and get all the info I need in seconds instead, it saves me time this way because as a woman on here I can't trawl through every profile that comes my way simply because there are not enough hours in the day

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"there's nothing on your profile...what do expect women to respond to?"

I agree but the OP seems to not notice these posts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the nail's been hit well and truly on the head and beaten to death with a sledgehammer as to why you don't get meets off of fab - your profile. Until you accept that and change it from the paltry one liner you have you'll continue to fail to get meets.

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Xtasia in west brom. I went for the first time and had a variety of females to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hhhmmm, well I think enough people have given you the right advice, yet the profile still remains very limp and unenthusiastic!!

I visit clubs regularly, and to be fair, if the club has a majority of 'unfanciable' men, I wouldn't pick you just because you the prettiest, I would more than likely rather go without. Not a dig at you personally, but that could well be the case, is that you are the prettiest of a rough bunch so the women choose you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Count yourself lucky

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By *smithyukMan over a year ago

Staffs

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By *smithyukMan over a year ago

Staffs

was thinking the same thing earlier my friend. some people could think your being big headed saying you could get a women a night but maybe(lol) its the truth. like people have said in a club\pub is totally different to on here. again in a pub with a really shit women\men ratio id still fancy my chances with a women in there because hopefully shes had a drink lol and your talking in person, on here the womans got sift through 300 messages off blokes she wouldnt even entertain in a club

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By *smithyukMan over a year ago

Staffs

"Hhhmmm, well I think enough people have given you the right advice, yet the profile still remains very limp and unenthusiastic!!

this true aswell. i hate it when i go a club with a woman and we talk to a couple and i think god id love fuck her but the woman im with doesnt like the unfanciable man. too many times

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple over a year ago

Brizzle

If single males come on here complaining, then get offered profile advice which they don't respond to, what else can we do. If the Op's having fun in a club where there's a smaller ratio & no profile issues to overcome, then why bother with FAB. Just quit & enjoy the clubs. Most of our meets have come from clubs, not from here & think we have a reasonable profile, we don't complain we just make the best of whichever avenue the gun comes from.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

They are different mediums for meeting people.

If you walked up to someone in a club and spoke the sentence that is your profile and possibly flashed your knob uninvited,would you do as well?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very good question to be fair. yes, this is a standard I've noticed. Even male half's of couples chat on line but females are not interested till they see you in the flesh. I will be looking for feed back on this read hopefully

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By *elshTartsCouple over a year ago

M4/M5 corridor Swansea to Chams Darlston

Not all women go for looks

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

I was abit tipsy earlier

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Dave you know what i mean mate. I think i should just go to xtasia everytime my sexual cravings reach boiling point. I went their for the first time and the ladies loved me. While on fab i waste hours and hours weeks for a reply let alone a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hhhmmm, well I think enough people have given you the right advice, yet the profile still remains very limp and unenthusiastic!!

this true aswell. i hate it when i go a club with a woman and we talk to a couple and i think god id love fuck her but the woman im with doesnt like the unfanciable man. too many times

It is difficult, I cannot just open the legs for the sake of it or to take one for the team so to speak. Personally, if I don't fancy anyone or the women are fighting for the pretty boy, I'm quite happy going home dry...

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

"They are different mediums for meeting people.

If you walked up to someone in a club and spoke the sentence that is your profile and possibly flashed your knob uninvited,would you do as well?"

I'd love to watch that.

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"That's what you think Hun, i get more attention from the 40+ ladies than the younger ones"

for the love of God use the reply+quote button!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dave you know what i mean mate. I think i should just go to xtasia everytime my sexual cravings reach boiling point. I went their for the first time and the ladies loved me. While on fab i waste hours and hours weeks for a reply let alone a meet. "

yes,exactly..you are wasting hours and hours. you have asked for advice,been given it, yet completely ignore it and repeat the same moan over and over. there is no big mystery. you have no profile. it is that simple.

so yes, you be far far better off in clubs.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple over a year ago

Brizzle

so yes, you be far far better off in clubs."

Jeeps just checked the green tick, how many similar posts, smacks of desperation don't we think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As the gerbil thread killer I pronounce this thread dead !

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"As the gerbil thread killer I pronounce this thread dead !"

It may as well be for all the good it's doing....

OP seeks attention not advice

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"I will be going down alone as in quit discreet and new to all this. Please tell me what to expect, what to wear, what to do etc. Will there be other single guys and what's the ratio single/couples. I don't want to play atm"

How do you know you are successful at a swingers club, you posted 3 days ago you had never been and you didn't want to play and you've been verified by 1 man.

Even if you did play on that first night, it hardly can be used to prove the hypothesis. More data is required.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you know you are successful at a swingers club, you posted 3 days ago you had never been and you didn't want to play and you've been verified by 1 man.

Even if you did play on that first night, it hardly can be used to prove the hypothesis. More data is required. "

I asked a similar question. He ignored it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you are shit at messaging and women just want your body?

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By *aptain VMan over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

I get the same also mate

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By *rinking-in-laCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Simply; your profile makes me think "boring twat".

Such is the way of the Internet. If you don't get it right you look bad.

Your profile blurb is basically incoherent and you come across as if no matter how much we liked you, it would not be as much as you like yourself.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Green arrow, 3 days ago, you said you'd never been in a club. I'm confused...

MrB

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"Green arrow, 3 days ago, you said you'd never been in a club. I'm confused...

MrB"

Also, your 1 veri by 1 man will put people off. All these ladies you play with at clubs, get one of them to verify you, that will help you.

MrB

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple over a year ago

Stockport

Methinks you are an attention troll as basically you have ignored everyone saying your profile is crap.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

bedford

It's better to meet guys face to face wife prefers it that way . Guys with good personality get further with her than guys who love themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are different mediums for meeting people.

If you walked up to someone in a club and spoke the sentence that is your profile and possibly flashed your knob uninvited,would you do as well?"

Pahahahaha!! Best response yet - and totally true!

Your profile is awful kiddo & it's not going to attract anyone. Clearly you're presenting a better side of yourself in clubs & if that's working for you, maybe stick with it!

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

"Its not that Hun. IM doing something wrong on fab"

OK so you've adjusted the narrative on your profile and now you sound up your own arse!

As a single female I'd walk right on by.

And if you are talking about clubs say clubs

As for age... it's about connection so in person in a club people can see that on your profile ...well

Oh and don't be disrespectful to older guys. There's some seriously fit looking /fit physically on fab and in clubs.

As for the last line of your profile. . No I'm not missing out

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its amazing how people who won't give you the time of day on here will chat to you at clubs. That's because they can see YOU at clubs, not your rather self-centred profile and two blurry pics. You obviously come across a lot nicer in real life (or maybe you're attracting the type of women that don't need to talk to you to find you attractive) so I would forget Fab and stick with the clubs if I were you.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

PS It's 'losing', not 'loosing'. Just a personal bugbear.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"Its amazing how people who won't give you the time of day on here will chat to you at clubs. That's because they can see YOU at clubs, not your rather self-centred profile and two blurry pics. You obviously come across a lot nicer in real life (or maybe you're attracting the type of women that don't need to talk to you to find you attractive) so I would forget Fab and stick with the clubs if I were you."

Green arrow , has he actually been in a club????

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Green arrow , has he actually been in a club????"

He says so, and I have no reason to disbelieve him. However he may find out that not every club night is successful. Maybe we'll see a post soon about why he's being ignored at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, you could do worse than taking this advice - his profile is really good, detailed, sexy photos & ive got a good sense of the kind of guy he is without having any contact with him. Your 2 photos are quite posy & your profile is just you whining about how much trouble it all is. Massive turn off. No one cares about how often you go to the gym or how far you run. If I'm going to meet someone for some fun, I want to know we are going to get on & be able to have a laugh. Which is why the 'unfanciable' blokes are out performing you by a country mile!

Oh - @GeminiMan - if you weren't down south, I most definitely would

M xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't give you a second look after reading your profile I'm afraid. It comes across quite cocky and self entitled. The bit about "we go to a club as a social" would to me suggest we go to a club on a couples night and you go off to find your own fun !! And to say "your missing out" even if In jest does sound a bit cocky.

Secondly even if I did get past your profile your post about being better than most men on here who are " average at best " and old is a instant turn off, the way to get meets is to stand out not try to discredit everyone Else.

There are literally thousands of men on here looking for the same thing you are and to be honest your profile is below average at best and first impressions are everything so your not even going to get a look in compared to most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I'd say stick with the text on your profile. It sounds like it truely reflects who you are and therefore will attract what you deserve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing between the ears !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had your dog been a welsh Cornish shih tzu I would have let you fuck me sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP I'd say stick with the text on your profile. It sounds like it truely reflects who you are and therefore will attract what you deserve."

yes! exactly this!

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"OP I'd say stick with the text on your profile. It sounds like it truely reflects who you are and therefore will attract what you deserve.

yes! exactly this!"

Good advice.....though I seriously wonder whether the OP's intention ever was to improve the profile (which is SUCH hard work!)..or just to tell us how attractive he is at clubs...

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"OP I'd say stick with the text on your profile. It sounds like it truely reflects who you are and therefore will attract what you deserve.

yes! exactly this!

Good advice.....though I seriously wonder whether the OP's intention ever was to improve the profile (which is SUCH hard work!)..or just to tell us how attractive he is at clubs..."

That he's never actually been to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You doing better than me op I don't even get replies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP I'd say stick with the text on your profile. It sounds like it truely reflects who you are and therefore will attract what you deserve.

yes! exactly this!

Good advice.....though I seriously wonder whether the OP's intention ever was to improve the profile (which is SUCH hard work!)..or just to tell us how attractive he is at clubs...

That he's never actually been to."

And he doesn't want to play at anyway (according to his previous thread!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found that by being my self and talking to everyone ( guys also ) at a club people get to know you and then they will play. I understand it's a sex site but surely women have to be attracted to you to open their legs??? No favours for your self if you come across arrogant l. So at clubs tell people "I'm this guy on fab " then people will verify that you are ok and maybe you'll get on better ijs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had your dog been a welsh Cornish shih tzu I would have let you fuck me sorry

It wasn't just me who was wondering why the breed of dog got mentioned then !

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By *otrockloverMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"..your post about being better than most men on here who are " average at best " and old is a instant turn off, the way to get meets is to stand out not try to discredit everyone Else. "

I think modesty is a noun that is lost on the youth of today

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

You see that tells me all I need to know to make the decision that I dont want to meet you. Not even as a disposable cock at a club. Give me a forty plus (or thirty five plus) every time ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You see that tells me all I need to know to make the decision that I dont want to meet you. Not even as a disposable cock at a club. Give me a forty plus (or thirty five plus) every time .... "

Totally agree with what you mean about disposable cock. The OP wouldn't cut it for me and I often get to the stage when I'm playing with my GF in a club that I need a cock....now!!That's always someone who I've chatted to during the night and who has the right social and attitude to make me want to play. He sooooo gets it lol.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

Why have t the women you met at the club verified you?

You have high opinion of yourself - maybe that's why you find it hard to meet fab women!

Just saying...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What you are doing wrong on Fab seems like a moot point really. Just keep going to the swingers clubs and sack this site off. Problem solved.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"..your post about being better than most men on here who are " average at best " and old is a instant turn off, the way to get meets is to stand out not try to discredit everyone Else.

I think modesty is a noun that is lost on the youth of today "

You cannot write off all youth because of one or a group of people.

Mind you, it wouldn't be an Internet forum without half baked generalisations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'All over me'

'Loved me'

'Could choose from'

M8,your hardly doing single guys a favour by using those choice of words !

Personally I think your living in fantasy land

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By *omenlover OP Man over a year ago

Birmingham

I think your right mate. It must be the 300 messages.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

"I think your right mate. It must be the 300 messages."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you don't put yourself across well online. Maybe there are more d*unk women in clubs. Could be loads of reasons.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

"..your post about being better than most men on here who are " average at best " and old is a instant turn off, the way to get meets is to stand out not try to discredit everyone Else.

I think modesty is a noun that is lost on the youth of today "

Hey, I'm older than you and I still consider myself part of the youth of today! Stop making me feel old.

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By *londie bearWoman over a year ago

Bexley-ish

I would totally go for you rather than the OP lol x

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"Maybe you don't put yourself across well online. Maybe there are more d*unk women in clubs. Could be loads of reasons."

Oh my goodness you are so right about that one, too many d*unk women so we avoid most clubs

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Think its pretty safe to say that the reason you don't do well on fab is pretty much everything you've said in this thread, and your profile.

And the reason you might get some action in clubs (although we only have your word for that) is because the women there can't see your profile and what you've said in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The bi-curious thing probably doesn't help either. Most women aren't into bi blokes, and the ones that are prefer you to be fully bisexual, especially by the time you hit your mid 20s. In a club I doubt you go around with sign on you that says 'bi-curious', so no-one would know until you said or did otherwise.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

if things ain't working, change something.. when you find that out

Stick with what works for you ..

If you're having fun in clubs why worry what happens on here..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Terrible thing to say on this forum. Comes across as so extremely arrogant. I'm not saying that is who you are but that post was just bad ^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Terrible thing to say on this forum. Comes across as so extremely arrogant. I'm not saying that is who you are but that post was just bad ^"

It is, but give me a 40+ guy, who goes to the gym 3 times a week, has a pet dashhound, can have a laugh and hold a conversation any day over all that twaddle.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

Terrible thing to say on this forum. Comes across as so extremely arrogant. I'm not saying that is who you are but that post was just bad ^

It is, but give me a 40+ guy, who goes to the gym 3 times a week, has a pet dashhound, can have a laugh and hold a conversation any day over all that twaddle. "

Is that where I'm going wrong on here? Do I need to get a cute dog?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Terrible thing to say on this forum. Comes across as so extremely arrogant. I'm not saying that is who you are but that post was just bad ^

It is, but give me a 40+ guy, who goes to the gym 3 times a week, has a pet dashhound, can have a laugh and hold a conversation any day over all that twaddle.

Is that where I'm going wrong on here? Do I need to get a cute dog?"

Extra Brownie points for a Yorkie Terrier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The bi-curious thing probably doesn't help either. Most women aren't into bi blokes, and the ones that are prefer you to be fully bisexual, especially by the time you hit your mid 20s. In a club I doubt you go around with sign on you that says 'bi-curious', so no-one would know until you said or did otherwise."

Like people grow up to become "fully bisexual"?

If you're meeting people at clubs ask to keep in touch with them via here or other sites and build your network that way. I doubt any advice on how to run your profile will make fuck all difference.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

Terrible thing to say on this forum. Comes across as so extremely arrogant. I'm not saying that is who you are but that post was just bad ^

It is, but give me a 40+ guy, who goes to the gym 3 times a week, has a pet dashhound, can have a laugh and hold a conversation any day over all that twaddle.

Is that where I'm going wrong on here? Do I need to get a cute dog?

Extra Brownie points for a Yorkie Terrier.

I would like to get a dog actually but I'm living alone in a flat and work long shifts.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple over a year ago

Surrey

I love this - so witty! (Siberian hamster in particular!) XX

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

I love this - so witty! (Siberian hamster in particular!) XX "

Well, as I can't get a dog, maybe a Siberian Hamster might be the next best thing.

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Perhaps you come across differently in person?

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I love this - so witty! (Siberian hamster in particular!) XX

Well, as I can't get a dog, maybe a Siberian Hamster might be the next best thing. "

They're all the rage down Torquay way...or were back in the 70s!!

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By *stwo80Couple over a year ago

yorkshire

Nothing on the profile to tempt me but in a club if I clocked that chunky cock I would certainly fancy playing !

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If he comes across as immature and arrogant in person as online, I would have no interest whatsoever.

Nita

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

The people I have been verified by are people I've met at clubs parties by not always directly through Fab, you get cyber wanna be swingers & swingers who really meet people.

Profile's can be misleading & it comes down to your own confidence how good your profile is & how it attracts others.

At a party or club I never fail to pull but here on Fab I'm profiled as a 55yr old granddad lol, yes you should always be truthful on your profile but sometimes it doesn't always pay off as looks or ages can be be like sell by dates to other swingers shopping for fun.

My main advice is be yourself & don't just rely on Fab for meets try clubs & parties too.

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By *nlyfun3Woman over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

This post is the epitomy of all the look at me posts as none of it rings true. OP I truly hope u do get all the attention from said over the hill 40+ ladies at the clubs so maybe they can teach you a bit about modest confidence rather than unfounded arrogance. And when you do actually meet these said ladies I'm sure you will have plenty of verifications to substantiate this. Show your true self on your profile rather what you perceive women want which seems way off the mark. BTW yes we have looked at your profile so your look at me tact has worked. Unfortunately not in a positive light!

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By *kyhighstilettoCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

This thread is awesome

In the words of Mortal Kombat..."Fatality"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because you're profile is so vacuous ? Because you can't accommodate and they don't want you in their house . We dont feel like we losing out not meeting you in the slightest !

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

Your lack of anything interesting on your profile and bad spelling would put me off tbh. Your reply about going to the gym and your pets...sorry just makes me snore,like all those profiles that insist they're personal trainers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In a club people are non judgemental and also find you have a chance to have a bit of a chat face to face with them,where as on an internet site single females and couples must be bombarded with messages all the time.i find clubs better for meets and then become friends with them on here.single guys will always out number women on here so you probably do need to stand out to get there attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just stay here as a point of contact really. still some enjoyment from the site weather its meeting or not really. I'm not as direct anymore. just fun chats really. clubs are better as you say pal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well your profile is all negative and all about you. Learn to write!

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman over a year ago

essex just looking around

i have exact same..

35 messages in 6 days couldnt get a meet when i used to try yet at events opposite.

rather be real in flesh than a photogenic cyber bunny..

dobt worry reallife all that counts xx

ps friends that get most fabs and attention on here often get least attention at clubs!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going pennant hall today and I know I will likely get some fun,where if I tried looking on here I'd probably be wasting a whole day and get nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile is awful, I'd not go near you, you sound big headed and so full of yourself, arrogant, it's not an attractive thing. Maybe the people you pull while you out are into you phyically but I can fully understand why you've had to come into the forum to get attention with your profile. Gemma

Not written to offend, pure honesty. I hope all the advice/constructive criticism you get on here helps and doesn't get your back up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yip I'm the same.. Out around town I can seem to pull and be chatted to plenty, but on here absolutely nothing at all, really a complete waste of time especially for single guys. I actually think it's far more to do with the women on here tbh.

I've rewritten my.profile several.times on previous Profiles too taking all different approaches and tones in the text, makes no difference. The only time I got some replies and viewer numbers went up was when I made some cock pics public!!!!! In complete contradiction to what most women post on their Profiles lol.. There are far more TV TS CD stuff on here now aswell, despite making it clear I'm not interested in the status line I still get more views from them..

Back to tinder and pof lads!!!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Yip I'm the same.. Out around town I can seem to pull and be chatted to plenty, but on here absolutely nothing at all, really a complete waste of time especially for single guys. I actually think it's far more to do with the women on here tbh.

Back to tinder and pof lads!!! "

Difference being out in the real world people get to see you face to face so can instantly gauge their attraction to you, unless of course you walk round with a paper bag on your head and only remove it once chatting to someone

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Back to tinder and pof lads!!! "

Yeah, it's all the women on here that are the problem

And what's with all the TV/TS looking at your freely available profile. How dare they? You'll be catching the ghey next.

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

It works many ways

I agree with the reality vs fab life

I have had more fun off fab than everyday life...guys jst see me as the mate chick who is more like another one of the lads in everyday life

But off fab the guys that have met me or asked me to meet me..and actually want me its been very overwhelming and excitable for me....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Re write you profile mate. No one needs to know those things. Concentrate on the positive, what you like and can bring to the party.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Back to tinder and pof lads!!! "

POF is full of nutters. I do far better here than either of those places.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Back to tinder and pof lads!!! "

Why does it matter to you who looks at your profile? You can block men or TVs/TSs from messaging so what's the problem if they look.

I looked and I'm not your type either. Is that a problem?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people look better in their pics then thy do in person and sometimes it's the other way round. Some people try to be one thing on fab and in person they are not how they come across and other times people have their own perceptions about what someone is like just from their pics.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Since you asked .........

- absolutely shitty write up. Seems like I'm reading a "new and improved" version because now it's 4 lines instead of one but still shitty. Tells nothing about you

- to add to the above, the line implying women are "losing out" is arrogant

- lovely cock picture but nothing else. There are too many of those

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since you asked .........

- absolutely shitty write up. Seems like I'm reading a "new and improved" version because now it's 4 lines instead of one but still shitty. Tells nothing about you

- to add to the above, the line implying women are "losing out" is arrogant

- lovely cock picture but nothing else. There are too many of those

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By *ebedee2009Man over a year ago

South Croydon

Keep it as it is...that way despite allegedly being over the hill, I'll potentially have some decent opportunities!

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

Green arrow folks!

On another thread the OP is asking for advice on his first visit to a club - yet on this one he claims to get plenty of attention at clubs

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The OPs been notable by his absence pretty much since the start of the thread and was obviously seeking attention rather than advice, or being prepared to listen to advice at least.

*wanders off in search of a Siberian Hamster to run with*

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple over a year ago

Brizzle

"Green arrow folks!

On another thread the OP is asking for advice on his first visit to a club - yet on this one he claims to get plenty of attention at clubs

Has been mentioned before on this & numerous other threads, OP obviously doesn't understand the green arrow & how he keeps tripping himself up. For the sake of everyone's sanity shall we stop giving him any more time? After all he's just a lying attention seeker!!

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Lol op I know my profile isn't great

But bloody hell if you think that will get the ladies wanting to meet you - I would start again

Not enough photos

Not enough text

Text is obnoxious

Don't say what you like

You have no veri

I could go on but I won't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have the same thing too! Been completely ignored on here and i get to a club and they cant keep there hands off lol...so i then say no thanks ha ha !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have the same thing too! Been completely ignored on here and i get to a club and they cant keep there hands off lol...so i then say no thanks ha ha !"

So you try and fail to attract women on here and then "say no" to those that do show an interest, leaving you with nobody?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Point I was making is that theres more activity from the tvtscd folks than straight women.. And yes even although I put up in my status I'm not interested they choose to ignore it.. Yes it's annoying! Lol

Pof tinder are more chatty and flirty chat too than on here so it's more than just fab verses non online dating in the real world.. Just my observations.

Maybe I should photoshop some male model six pack pics onto my profile.. Haha!!! Or just ruffle some feathers

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By *rinking-in-laCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Could there be a difference on here that couples and some singles are looking for people who share the swinging ethos as opposed to people who just want a lot of sex and will pretend to be a part of whatever it takes to get them that sex?

I wonder that this site is more revealing of a person's true motive because we are all guilty of keyboard candour whereby we are sometimes a little more base in our proclamations due to the insulating effect of a keyboard/screen and not having to face the initial reaction to our inane/insane utterings?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You also come across on here as very arrogant I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Back to tinder and pof lads!!! "

It definately does make a difference. I am on dating sites and after many rewrites I now get a lot more serious messages. Same with CV's it took me about 12 attempts to get mine just right then I got three job offers on one week after getting no interviews for a couple of years. You are just impatient and self centred like most men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You get out of this site what you put in, clearly your profile lacks effort, but you're getting replies so your messages must be engaging, you're doing better than me at the moment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your other thread says you have never been to a club before.. so which is it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Back to tinder and pof lads!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Could there be a difference on here that couples and some singles are looking for people who share the swinging ethos as opposed to people who just want a lot of sex and will pretend to be a part of whatever it takes to get them that sex?

This is very true and will always the downside of the Internet, however my Profiles on dating sites have always been honest no point at all in bullshit..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also have to smile at all the guys on here sooking up to the women's point of view and agreeing, hoping they get a ride.. Pmsl..

Yes I'm cynical.. ?????? Its just all very obvious, predictable and cliquey..

IMHO ??

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By *UNKIEMan over a year ago

south east

I smell sh*te

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Green arrows are so useful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You also come across on here as very arrogant I'm afraid. "

Check his latest thread if you want to see arrogance and ignorance.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Green arrow folks!

On another thread the OP is asking for advice on his first visit to a club - yet on this one he claims to get plenty of attention at clubs

True. But we can still have a bit of fun with him on a wet Wednesday morning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"there's nothing on your profile...what do expect women to respond to?"

Yep second this theres nothing on your profile that shows anything about you

You need to say a bit about yourself and a pic or 2 would help

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Does it have a dual passport?

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By *otrockloverMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"You also come across on here as very arrogant I'm afraid.

Check his latest thread if you want to see arrogance and ignorance.

I posted earlier in the thread about the 'arrogance of youth today'. However when I've tried to look at his latest thread, it would appear he's blocked me. OP invites discussion and then blocks when your response isn't what he wants to hear.

Hmmm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You get out of this site what you put in, clearly your profile lacks effort, but you're getting replies so your messages must be engaging, you're doing better than me at the moment

"
a lot of effort for little rewards thats when its a bad day lol

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple over a year ago

Brizzle

"You also come across on here as very arrogant I'm afraid.

Check his latest thread if you want to see arrogance and ignorance.

I posted earlier in the thread about the 'arrogance of youth today'. However when I've tried to look at his latest thread, it would appear he's blocked me. OP invites discussion and then

blocks when your response isn't what he wants to hear.

I think you'll find it's not you, the op has been suspended we believe. Another pointless thread was started & his profile made reference to drugs!! Doubtless he will reappear using a new profile only time will tell.

Hmmm."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going to miss him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not

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