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Time is a great healer.
Dont force yourself to forget.. will be his (or her face) you may in others.
I lost a dear lover 11 months ago.. still think of her dearly and miss her like crazy. Circumstances made us stop seeing each other (no one is married)
Time has helped and socially meeting other people with nothing heavy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you mean 'a lover' as in someone you loved, or a fuckbuddy?
Can't give you any advice on the first one, it will occasionally give you nasty prangs years from now... If its just a FB, I'd say, man up. |
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"Any good advise would be welcome "
Go to the club, have a professional massage from K, get cuddles and hugs with good friends and ball your eyes out. Well that's what I did today. Not a permanent solution but I got through today with it x  |
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"Any good advise would be welcome "
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Go to the club, have a professional massage from K, get cuddles and hugs with good friends and ball your eyes out. Well that's what I did today. Not a permanent solution but I got through today with it x :-
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Thanks  xx |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc "
Was thinking the same. Must be passed away |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc "
No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc
Was thinking the same. Must be passed away "
No not passed away just wanted somebody else |
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"Time is a great healer.
Dont force yourself to forget.. will be his (or her face) you may in others.
I lost a dear lover 11 months ago.. still think of her dearly and miss her like crazy. Circumstances made us stop seeing each other (no one is married)
Time has helped and socially meeting other people with nothing heavy.
Good luck "
We both went into it with a casual thing but it turned out different and much more involved. ...he still had a thing for an old flame of 30 years I can't fight that I lost |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc
No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol"
So it sounds like he was treating you as a "rebound" person, which in itself should make you think twice about how much you meant to him.
FB & FWB relationships must always be fraught with risks of misunderstandings, and it must be hard not to let feelings move on to "love" while the other person sees it as so much less.
I agree with the "go to a club" comment above, and fuck the memory out of your mind
Good luck
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(meanwhile, how does my spellchecker get "assured" from "addition"?  |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc
No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol"
i had a man leave me for an alcoholic who wasnt nice to him.he told me that she needed him more than me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Distract yourself for a few weeks, keep busy then and then once the initial hurt is over, the rest of the grieving process will kick in. You will get through it.
Sorry you are hurting xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christ I thought somebody had died...I took my hat off and wiped my feet before i came in here and everything! ah well..glad to be wrong
in which case I have just to parrot the 'give it time' advice.
cliché as it sounds..shit gets easier |
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time "
Mmmm strange your right just at the time of year when you need somebody |
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"Distract yourself for a few weeks, keep busy then and then once the initial hurt is over, the rest of the grieving process will kick in. You will get through it.
Sorry you are hurting xx"
Thank you for your kind words I am hurting I know it will go but it will be hard x |
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time "
Saves buying Christmas presents and having the 'what are you doing Christmas Day?' conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx "
fixed it for you.
A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks  |
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time
Saves buying Christmas presents and having the 'what are you doing Christmas Day?' conversation "
I've just saved a fortune |
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx
fixed it for you.
A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks "
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though  |
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx
fixed it for you.
A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though "
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx
fixed it for you.
A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though "
don't rob me of my small intellectual victories..they're few and far between  |
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx
fixed it for you.
A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though
don't rob me of my small intellectual victories..they're few and far between "
Sorry lovely. But you know if you were doing a proper job there were also two unneeded spaces you could have cleared up  |
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club
I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly.
Enjoy will be working "
Go another day. Post a meet. |
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club
I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly.
Enjoy will be working
Yeh unfortunately working all week at another job too....with a friend and over the weekend ....might go Wednesday evening x
Go another day. Post a meet."
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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It hurts at first and you maybe didn't realise how much they meant until they left. You're right, you can't compete so take comfort in the fact that it was nothing you did and nothing you can change.
When you're ready you'll get back out and meet other people and think on the positives. |
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"It hurts at first and you maybe didn't realise how much they meant until they left. You're right, you can't compete so take comfort in the fact that it was nothing you did and nothing you can change.
When you're ready you'll get back out and meet other people and think on the positives. "
Your right there....I didn't realise how much he meant to me |
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I can't really add any more than what has been said above.
Look after yourself, be good to yourself, tell yourself that everything happens for a reason and better things will come to you when they are right.
And then use Fab to it's full extend and meet lots of nice new men |
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"I can't really add any more than what has been said above.
Look after yourself, be good to yourself, tell yourself that everything happens for a reason and better things will come to you when they are right.
And then use Fab to it's full extend and meet lots of nice new men "
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All you can do is mentally wish him well wherever his life leads him, dust yourself off and carry on with each day. Each time you think of him, smile remembering the good times, wish him well, let it go.
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and still wishing him well 10 months on. |
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"All you can do is mentally wish him well wherever his life leads him, dust yourself off and carry on with each day. Each time you think of him, smile remembering the good times, wish him well, let it go.
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and still wishing him well 10 months on."
Thank you that brought a tear to my eye......x |
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By *errysMan
over a year ago
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"I can't really add any more than what has been said above.
Look after yourself, be good to yourself, tell yourself that everything happens for a reason and better things will come to you when they are right.
And then use Fab to it's full extend and meet lots of nice new men "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I listen to sad songs and cry myself to sleep for a few days. Then I slowly realise that life goes on and you just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and put on a brace face till you no longer hurt
Try not to dwell on it and keep busy with distractions. X |
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"I listen to sad songs and cry myself to sleep for a few days. Then I slowly realise that life goes on and you just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and put on a brace face till you no longer hurt
Try not to dwell on it and keep busy with distractions. X"
Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some days you will wake up and thing why am I here. Other days you will wake up with euphoria maybe even horniness - that is the easiest part to deal with, it's all about managing the lows.....there is no right or wrong way to do this and you can listen to everybody under the sun but it is only you who can decide....... Having a few cheeky drinks (non school days of course) and talking with friends will help.
I truly wish you well and am so sorry for your loss x |
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"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone I've always found X
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No that doesn't work, trust me, six weeks ago a beautiful lady walked out of my life ( we met in fab  ) and everything I do in my head is still for her !!!
I've been slutting it up with two girls off fab, and still she won't leave my mind!! Yes in the moment and the chase you forget, distracted but ultimately on them first morning brews or the drive home from work you remember 
We'll never speak again and it hurts !! Oh god think I'm gonna have a little cry !!!
You'll be cool, it's time that's the greasy healer !! It still hurts but it's more manageable x
Take care and chin up |
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"All you can do is mentally wish him well wherever his life leads him, dust yourself off and carry on with each day. Each time you think of him, smile remembering the good times, wish him well, let it go.
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and still wishing him well 10 months on."
Nicely put and so true x |
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"There is a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken",
It really helped both myself and a close friend through a similar situation.
Thanks "
Nice, I've just ordered one in prep for dumping my FB. Already got a new squeez lined to help with rebound. Its not going to be easy, but I know he's no good for me. |
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"There is a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken",
It really helped both myself and a close friend through a similar situation.
Thanks
Nice, I've just ordered one in prep for dumping my FB. Already got a new squeez lined to help with rebound. Its not going to be easy, but I know he's no good for me. "
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OP
The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her.
What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals.
Still miss that connection even after 18 months.
I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be.
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"OP
The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her.
What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals.
Still miss that connection even after 18 months.
I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be.
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Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. .....  |
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"OP
The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her.
What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals.
Still miss that connection even after 18 months.
I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be.
Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. ..... "
I'm the same, I can't seem to move on xx |
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The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her.
What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals.
Still miss that connection even after 18 months.
I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be.
Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. .....
I'm the same, I can't seem to move on xx"
It's gonna take somebody special I feel....just going to k to keep up with friends... |
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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc
No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol"
Hmmm, a quote springs to mind :
"I would rather lose a lover than love a looser "
Hugs
Jane x |
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"Any good advise would be welcome
Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question:
by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on?
It kinda alters my advice really.
Mr ddc
No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol
Hmmm, a quote springs to mind :
"I would rather lose a lover than love a looser "
Hugs
Jane x"
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