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Swinging with non-swingers.

By *aveandkate35 OP Couple over a year ago

telford

Just wondering if any of you do this and how it works out?

For example as a couple you both play separately with full disclosure, but you play with someone who's not a swinger? - do you tell them? Do you let them think it's just a one off? Do you let them think they are having an affaire with you? Do you say you're single?-D

This is aimed at couples.

Just curious or if you would avoid someone not in the scene completely? And if it's ever created problems?

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no answer for you but would be interested to know. I have always said our golden rule is dont hide other meets or hide what we have x so guess under that id expect the other person to know ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This conundrum is exactly the reason why I'd never "pull" anybody off a pub, club etc. I prefer to vet prospective meets online. My boyfriend, who is younger and mostly appearing single meets a lot of women off dating sites; he is also very open about his situation but even the women who say they are OK with it often turn out to not be. I have had similar experiences were men find it uncomfortable when I talk about people I'm seeing (admittedly perhaps too much!).

I think the general public - at least the people who would have sex with semi-strangers - is OK with the idea of a ONS, but acceptance of alternative relationships are hit&miss. I am always open about my relationship situation and so is my boyfriend, but I can see why someone might choose not to disclose esp. when meeting for a one-off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a fantasy of picking up some random bloke or two and involving them in our antics just to blow their minds but I doubt it would work out as planned and so I'll think I'll keep it as a fantasy for now so I'm not disappointed!

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a fantasy of picking up some random bloke or two and involving them in our antics just to blow their minds but I doubt it would work out as planned and so I'll think I'll keep it as a fantasy for now so I'm not disappointed!

Ruby x"

I have spoken to so many men and often enough this exact scenario is mentioned (perhaps unsurprisingly so) as the experience that introduced them to swinging!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ruby x

I have spoken to so many men and often enough this exact scenario is mentioned (perhaps unsurprisingly so) as the experience that introduced them to swinging!"

Ha ha brilliant, it's a common fantasy then!

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ruby x

I have spoken to so many men and often enough this exact scenario is mentioned (perhaps unsurprisingly so) as the experience that introduced them to swinging!

Ha ha brilliant, it's a common fantasy then!

Ruby x"

this happened at a fab social, I was a fab couple picked a guy up who was outside smoking, took him to theres, next morning the guy was traumatised lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a regular fuck buddy who isn't a swinger we just have fun together x he knows I'm married but hubby knows about him (they work on the same estate) he used to come into my work to tease me (I work in retail) x but I get my own back x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I remember an episode a few years back...on previous profile.

I had arranged a social at the Nags Head in Malvern.....with my place available for any who wanted to come back after.

There were a group of ladies on the next table to our couple of tables/benches. One of whom I recognised, as I had met her in another pub a few weeks earlier and we had exchanged numbers. She lived a couple of hundred yards from me.

Their group eventually split up and she came to join us...she had overheard talk of a "party" so was interested in that and also a lift home as a few were driving.

In the end, two couples, two other women, myself and other woman headed back to mine. A few minutes after we arrived I was in the kitchen preparing drinks etc. When I heard a bit of a shout from the front room. I went in to find one couple playing on a sofa, the two single ladies kissing and feeling each other on the floor....and the "guest" tucked into the corner of the other sofa, knees under her chin and arms wrapped round her legs in total panic as the other couple explained we were all swingers.....

Bizarrely tho...she demanded that I took her upstairs, closed the door and "protected" her from the dirty pervs downstairs. Oddly my protection seemed to consist of fucking her brains out, her riding me like a pro etc....had to take a break after a couple of hours and go get a drink and my breath back...before another round or too. She was absolutely mad for it!

I took her home about lunchtime next day after the others had left that morning. Saw her a couple more times but fizzled out. Shame as she would have made a brilliant member of fab!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I remember an episode a few years back...on previous profile.

I had arranged a social at the Nags Head in Malvern.....with my place available for any who wanted to come back after.

Their group eventually split up and she came to join us...she had overheard talk of a "party" so was interested in that and also a lift home as a few were driving.

I took her home about lunchtime next day after the others had left that morning. Saw her a couple more times but fizzled out. Shame as she would have made a brilliant member of fab!"

Love it. Seeing the action clearly made her horny as Fuck!

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a female part of a cpl but also play alone ...

No..might would never play with a non swinger...too much hassle...they might want more

Best stick to the rulebook lol

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

Just curious or if you would avoid someone not in the scene completely? And if it's ever created problems?

We would worry that there would be too much scope for misunderstandings and drama. But that includes the small number of the swingles on here who are really seeking a dating site too, if I'm honest.

Although, tbf I've seen plenty of drama from allsorts on here

Mr ddc

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I don't class myself as a swinger for the simple fact that should I get my happy ever after there is no way I could share or invite others in.

Even when being with couples its been very much detached. Im just me. Its surreal and lovely but very easy to separate from my own ideals. That's not to say I judge them because they are the strong relationships I could only hope for and I've a massive amount of respect for them.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

We are a couple. We are also swingers, who swing with other couples. Correct us if we're wrong, but isn't that what swinging is. Xxxxx MrNsexysuzi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP asked if you would swing with folk that ain't swingers tho?

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple over a year ago

North West

Possibly but we would have to be clear with them from the very start.

Haven't been in that situation though.

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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple over a year ago

telford

Just curious or if you would avoid someone not in the scene completely? And if it's ever created problems?

We would worry that there would be too much scope for misunderstandings and drama. But that includes the small number of the swingles on here who are really seeking a dating site too, if I'm honest.

Although, tbf I've seen plenty of drama from allsorts on here

Mr ddc "

I thought k that's probably what I was thinking. A few people have messaged me too and said it has worked for them.

Still struggle to see how you'd broach it in the office canteen though!

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By *ollyGWoman over a year ago

Southampton

I met a guy in a pub is was in with some mates, started chatting, went home with him and saw him looking at Fab on his phone, a good night lol

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