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We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
There are lots of misconceptions about clubs.
You should do your research and go visit one.
Amusing comment though.
You think old wrinklies are unattractive? |
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Just go for it. You'll enjoy seeing what actually happens.
The massive gang-bang is a funny misconception, that we also had fears of before going.
You actually have to make an effort to get involved, you'll never be sucked into something (poor choice of words lol )
Everybody we've ever seen is hyper-conscious of not wanting to include people who don't want to be included.
Just go, watch and you can involve yourself as much as you are comfy with, or play alongside and just enjoy being part of it. |
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Yes theres a sex element to it, if you want there to be.
A lot of people just go for the social side of things to be with like minded people without fear of having to watch what they say.
Don't go with any expectations, just think of it as going to the pub. There will be people there you may or may not know, but your generally relaxed and enjoy yourself.
If you then feel the need to progress further, great. If not, there's no pressure to
Just go and form your own opinion x |
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There are big differences between a sex club and a swingers club.
I know of one sex club (the private club in Birmingham) who has paid hostesses. The girls are not obligated to play with people but that's what they are there for, they are still allowed to refuse. It stops a little way short of actually being a brothel but from what i've heard the clientele do expect to play.
Swingers clubs do not have girls paid to be there. All people in them are guests who have paid to get in and not the other way round. Therefore most people have a less "entitled" attitude. They go with no expectations of playing and if they do, then great.
Obviously I am generalizing here 
For me personally I would never visit a sex club. I don't want to be in a pushy environment where people think I am definitely going to play just because I'm there. In a swingers club I feel relaxed and at ease. If I feel like playing, great. If I don't I still have a good night out. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
The ones we have been to have people of all ages.
Some sit in the bar/lounge area and just socialise, others play with their own partner in private rooms, some take a third person or another couple into a private room to play and others like to play in an open room.
Even in the open rooms some couple just play by themselves but like others to watch whilst some like to play with various partners.
It is totally up to you whether you play with others or not. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
get to a social, plenty go on in clubs, that way sure to be other new people about, to chat to..
see inside one..have a nose about and see if its for you..many different clubs all of them different, hosting a range of events that you may like the sound of..hope you enjoy x |
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
I think what I find the saddest thing about your post, is your aversion to older people. Whilst it is your perogative not to play with people outside your age range, I think that to assume that older people are unattractive is unfortunate. Most people in this lifestyle try hard to be the best they can be, dress well and are clean and hygienic. They can loose weight but can't gain height (without heels) and sadly, there is little anyone can do about the march of time. To dismiss the older swingers as wrinklies and if you are concerned that you might accidentally be witness to them having a gang bang at a club, then maybe you ought to join one of the clubs that cater solely for the pretty people. Mainly in London or the south, you have to be under a certain age and are what the owners consider to be an attractive person. Up-to-date photos need to be supplied, plus age, weight, height and bmi. On the plus side, you only get to meet and play with pretty people, on the downside, you miss out on the smorgasbord of different and interesting personalities that abound. You also might not fit their ideal and have the embarrassment and hurt of being rejected as not up to the standard required. |
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance
I think what I find the saddest thing about your post, is your aversion to older people. Whilst it is your perogative not to play with people outside your age range, I think that to assume that older people are unattractive is unfortunate. Most people in this lifestyle try hard to be the best they can be, dress well and are clean and hygienic. They can loose weight but can't gain height (without heels) and sadly, there is little anyone can do about the march of time. To dismiss the older swingers as wrinklies and if you are concerned that you might accidentally be witness to them having a gang bang at a club, then maybe you ought to join one of the clubs that cater solely for the pretty people. Mainly in London or the south, you have to be under a certain age and are what the owners consider to be an attractive person. Up-to-date photos need to be supplied, plus age, weight, height and bmi. On the plus side, you only get to meet and play with pretty people, on the downside, you miss out on the smorgasbord of different and interesting personalities that abound. You also might not fit their ideal and have the embarrassment and hurt of being rejected as not up to the standard required. "
We picked up on the 'old wrinklies' comment very early on.
We have seen a lot of very attractive older people on our visits to clubs and in Cap.
What we did notice last time however, is the number of younger people who do not take care of themselves.
Unattractive people come in all ages, and sizes.....
We think the art is not to criticise others but rather encourage confidence.
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"You'd probably class us in the "old wrinkles" but we're not that wrinkled. We go to clubs but never walked into a massive gangbang. "
There is nothing old or wrinkly about you ! |
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
I think you might have many of the misconceptions lots of people have about swinging.
Most of us are just ordinary people so there's no need to be nervous about meeting people. You can always arrange a social first so the pressure is removed.
If there was a gang bang involving wrinklies would it be a problem?  |
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Sugar may be old and wrinkly, but she gets a hell of a lot of attention, perhaps because she is....amongst other things, ....classy, beautiful, caring, sassy, sexy and has the best smile I've ever seen.
I wish you luck with your search....and your club visit
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance "
How do you define old ?
We are all as old as our hair (those of us with any left) and a bit older than our teeth . We all have wrinkles somewhere so if you are expecting to find the so called beautiful people don't bother as you'll be looking a long time and anyway we are all on here warts and all, Just choose your words more wisely .  |
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance
How do you define old ?
We are all as old as our hair (those of us with any left) and a bit older than our teeth . We all have wrinkles somewhere so if you are expecting to find the so called beautiful people don't bother as you'll be looking a long time and anyway we are all on here warts and all, Just choose your words more wisely . "
We have seen many unattractive younger people.
Age certainly does not define how attractive someone is. |
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"We are a happily married couple in our 30's want to live out our fantasies.
Any tips to over come the nerves of meeting new people or what to expect from a sex club, Iv always imagined a massive gang bang full of old wrinklies.
Thanks in advance
I think what I find the saddest thing about your post, is your aversion to older people. Whilst it is your perogative not to play with people outside your age range, I think that to assume that older people are unattractive is unfortunate. Most people in this lifestyle try hard to be the best they can be, dress well and are clean and hygienic. They can loose weight but can't gain height (without heels) and sadly, there is little anyone can do about the march of time. To dismiss the older swingers as wrinklies and if you are concerned that you might accidentally be witness to them having a gang bang at a club, then maybe you ought to join one of the clubs that cater solely for the pretty people. Mainly in London or the south, you have to be under a certain age and are what the owners consider to be an attractive person. Up-to-date photos need to be supplied, plus age, weight, height and bmi. On the plus side, you only get to meet and play with pretty people, on the downside, you miss out on the smorgasbord of different and interesting personalities that abound. You also might not fit their ideal and have the embarrassment and hurt of being rejected as not up to the standard required.
We picked up on the 'old wrinklies' comment very early on.
We have seen a lot of very attractive older people on our visits to clubs and in Cap.
What we did notice last time however, is the number of younger people who do not take care of themselves.
Unattractive people come in all ages, and sizes.....
We think the art is not to criticise others but rather encourage confidence.
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"You'd probably class us in the "old wrinkles" but we're not that wrinkled. We go to clubs but never walked into a massive gangbang. "
if you're wrinklies then we must belong in the ice lol |
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