FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > leaving verifications

leaving verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If you had a meet what didnt went well - would you still write a verification saying it was good? Of course nobody would post a bad verification about them anyway. But would you rather not leave a verification at all instead?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

I would only give a good verification - if I believed it was warranted.

Otherwise, I'd keep quiet.

In any case - no one is going to accept a bad verification...are they?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ouple1234Couple over a year ago

BELFAST UK

We wouldn't leave one if it was a bad meet, and if you left what you thought im sure the people/person wouldnt show it on there profile so its better to move on and just forget about it, well thats what we would do

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you had a meet what didnt went well - would you still write a verification saying it was good? Of course nobody would post a bad verification about them anyway. But would you rather not leave a verification at all instead?

I personally wouldn't verify them. I wouldn't want to be associated with them in any way shape or form. Bullshitting is not an option.

Sometimes you will come across a verification on a profile that clearly smacks "this person was not for me but I recommend them to you because I am under pressure to write something nice about them". What's that all about?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 14/05/11 12:38:50]

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd just send a verification confirming that they are genuine. Up to them if they display, but sat least others would know they are for real.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I'd just send a verification confirming that they are genuine. Up to them if they display, but sat least others would know they are for real."

We would do the same!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

Depends why the meet went bad. If it was because we were not compatible, then I'd verify saying they turned up, and were genuine.

If however, it was because I'd caught him inside me bare, when he insisted he'd put a condom on, for example, then no, I wouldn't verify him.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends why the meet went bad. If it was because we were not compatible, then I'd verify saying they turned up, and were genuine.

If however, it was because I'd caught him inside me bare, when he insisted he'd put a condom on, for example, then no, I wouldn't verify him. "

Has that ever happened?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends why the meet went bad. If it was because we were not compatible, then I'd verify saying they turned up, and were genuine.

If however, it was because I'd caught him inside me bare, when he insisted he'd put a condom on, for example, then no, I wouldn't verify him. "

these invisible condoms always get me in trouble...bloody hard enough to find in the first place! hehe

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

"Depends why the meet went bad. If it was because we were not compatible, then I'd verify saying they turned up, and were genuine.

If however, it was because I'd caught him inside me bare, when he insisted he'd put a condom on, for example, then no, I wouldn't verify him.

Has that ever happened?

Happened once when I first started swinging, now I always check!!!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldnt verify anyone if it was a bad meet.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm afraid I'm a bit of a meany. If the guy doesn't have any veris and wants one then I wouldn't send one as why should I verify him as genuine when he was crap? And if he already has veris then no point in verifying me again.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

It depends, if the meet didnt go well purely because we where not compatable then i would leave one saying that he had turned up and was like he said.

If it didnt go well cause they where a twat then no i wouldnt leave one

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends, if the meet didnt go well purely because we where not compatable then i would leave one saying that he had turned up and was like he said.

If it didnt go well cause they where a twat then no i wouldnt leave one"

It was great meeting u diamond...I kow it wasnnt a good meet I actually suffered frpom a severe bout of amanarseholeitis, its all cleared now...fancy a facepummelling this time?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I'm afraid I'm a bit of a meany. If the guy doesn't have any veris and wants one then I wouldn't send one as why should I verify him as genuine when he was crap? "

see... all that means to me is that you were not sexually compatible... it doesn't mean that the people wasn't the nicest before or after... or wasn't at all points genuine and they were who they said they were....

this is my biggest problem with verification as it stands at the moment.... what are we trying to actually achieve?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm afraid I'm a bit of a meany. If the guy doesn't have any veris and wants one then I wouldn't send one as why should I verify him as genuine when he was crap?

this is my biggest problem with verification as it stands at the moment.... what are we trying to actually achieve?

At no point did I impugne we'd have had sex! And please, everyone uses it the same as me. If we verified people who were actually people, we'd all have 1000s.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Im in the middle of a battle with someone about verifications at the moment,its one that im going to win

If we had a meet that did'nt set me on fire but the guy was a decent sort then yes id verify him just as being genuine,he may be someone elses perfect playmate

If it was for other reasons then no I would'nt verify

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Im in the middle of a battle with someone about verifications at the moment,its one that im going to win

If we had a meet that did'nt set me on fire but the guy was a decent sort then yes id verify him just as being genuine,he may be someone elses perfect playmate

If it was for other reasons then no I would'nt verify

So if he'd lied about his appearance (sent a pic 10 years and 200lbs out of date) you wouldn't verify?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally wouldn't verify them. I wouldn't want to be associated with them in any way shape or form. Bullshitting is not an option.

Wouldn't it depend on the definition of "bad?". Personally, the only verifications I left were for new members I'd personally met on other sites, to say I'd met them and they were fun.

Outside of that I don't give or want further notifications!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

i would report if they were clearly inaccurate on their profile and if it was just a crap meet i wouldnt verify.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

"Im in the middle of a battle with someone about verifications at the moment,its one that im going to win

If we had a meet that did'nt set me on fire but the guy was a decent sort then yes id verify him just as being genuine,he may be someone elses perfect playmate

If it was for other reasons then no I would'nt verify

So if he'd lied about his appearance (sent a pic 10 years and 200lbs out of date) you wouldn't verify?"

No I would'nt.....seriously would anyone verify someone that had done that to them? I would'nt be hanging around long enought to even mention veris

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So if he'd lied about his appearance (sent a pic 10 years and 200lbs out of date) you wouldn't verify?

No I would'nt.....seriously would anyone verify someone that had done that to them? I would'nt be hanging around long enought to even mention veris

Thanks. That was the point I was trying to make in my original reply, but some people on here seemed to think it was because he was a crap shag.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ouplefunukCouple over a year ago

North Bristol

" why should I verify him as genuine when he was crap? "

Erm.....because he was genuine!

Veris aren't there to say what a good time you had - they're there to verify the person is who they said they are and they turned up.

*Her*

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if he'd lied about his appearance (sent a pic 10 years and 200lbs out of date) you wouldn't verify?"

Not a chance in Hell! I wouldn't shag him and I certainly wouldn't verify him. What would be the point? He'd just do the same to the next lass/couple and waste everyone's time.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

At no point did I impugne we'd have had sex! And please, everyone uses it the same as me. If we verified people who were actually people, we'd all have 1000s."

ahem... no everyone uses it the same as you otherwise would we be having this conversation in the first place...

so are we now saying that we should only have verifications with those that i have only played with.... or do we include those we have met at clubs and not played with... or what about those people we have only met at socials?????

I thought verifications were only suppose to show people were who they said they were and were genuine.... nothing more... nothing less...

if thats isn't the case anymore... i am not showing any of mine... its not what i have signed up for...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a nice person and sex was just not good... I would give feed-back saying meet and nice person and real and Not say alot . If not a nice person and we did not get on at all ...... i would not give a feed-back . So far not had to do that .Thank god x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had some great verifications from people who are no longer on the site. Such a shame because the veri's disappear...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends in what way you mean bad. If you only met for coffee, then even that depends on how it went. For example I've met guys that I didn't fancy, I would still leave a verification. If the sex wasn't all that good, either don't leave one or don't put as much in your verification

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think we need work out what "bad" means...

if it means they were not who they said they were.... then like people have said... report the profile!!

but if by "bad" we mean crap shag or just no chemistry... then are they still not "genuine"..... they just happen to be just not for you!!!!

IF we are talking about the latter... which is what this conversation was about to begin with... then I absolutely agree with *her"

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the OP has already clarified that he was 10 years older and 200 pounds heavier than he'd led her to believe......

Equals no verification, in my opinion.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bloody easy ways of determining if someone looks close to their pics....use a fucking WEBCAM!!!!!-sorry if I decided to meet someone based on a pic or no decent veries to give me a clue what they might look like at the present time I'm afraid I'd feel like the idiot rather tha the guy/girl/cpl who chanced their arm at a meet and turned up.

maybe when people start doing there homework we will get less of the complainers saying the meet turned up looking 20years older than what was required.a webcam costs £5 it does not need to be used for sex either or prolonged chatter.And again...JUST in the last few days Ive helped out finding some party goers for a friend, guys were willing to come along for the party kowing it was pretty much sexually based but they hadnt eve checked the cpls profile...smacks me of idiocy!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I think the OP has already clarified that he was 10 years older and 200 pounds heavier than he'd led her to believe......

Equals no verification, in my opinion."

actually... it wasn't the OP who said that.... it was wyld who said that using an example...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"bloody easy ways of determining if someone looks close to their pics....use a fucking WEBCAM!!!!!-sorry if I decided to meet someone based on a pic or no decent veries to give me a clue what they might look like at the present time I'm afraid I'd feel like the idiot rather tha the guy/girl/cpl who chanced their arm at a meet and turned up.

That is the most sensible thing youve said to date. Spot on. I as a single woman am not about to meet someone that hasnt either got recent verifications or ive seen on webcam. So i wouldnt expect a guy to either.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i had a meet and left a verifiacation bt the person who i left one said it hasnt came up on their profile n wen they try 2 verify me it says this service is for verified users only ne1 no wot the problem is?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

"i had a meet and left a verifiacation bt the person who i left one said it hasnt came up on their profile n wen they try 2 verify me it says this service is for verified users only ne1 no wot the problem is?"

you need to be verified yourself before you can verify other people,you are only photo verfified

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

she verified me bt i have nt recieved the verification, du no y that mite b? x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"she verified me bt i have nt recieved the verification, du no y that mite b? x"

Has either of you logged on to fab from the same PC/ Internet connection at anytime? If so the verification won't be saved.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

Possibly she only speaks English.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

Possibly she only speaks English."

I speak English and was able to understand what he typed!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Imactually a single 400lbs white guy, i turn up to BBC lovers gangbangs...yet to be verified for at least turning up...think i'll leave fab! hehhe

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if we have logged in frm eachufers laptop cud we log in frm a difrent 1 n the verify or nt? and its 2011 wolf lmao

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

Possibly she only speaks English.

I speak English and was able to understand what he typed!

Yes, but I imagine, from your location, that you speak "colonial English", that's different.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if we have logged in frm eachufers laptop cud we log in frm a difrent 1 n the verify or nt? and its 2011 wolf lmao"

tyler lots dont like text speak...sorry am not really one to moan at it as i sometimes type in glaswegian, but many wont respond to txt speak. just helpin ya

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

Possibly she only speaks English.

I speak English and was able to understand what he typed!

Yes, but I imagine, from your location, that you speak "colonial English", that's different.

yawnnnnnnnn!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"if we have logged in frm eachufers laptop cud we log in frm a difrent 1 n the verify or nt? and its 2011 wolf lmao"

From the FAQ page

"Verifications we try to leave for another user aren't being saved

If you're trying to verify another account that you have created yourself or you're trying to verify someone who is using the same PC as yourself, or you're on the same internet connection, then the verification won't be recorded. We do this to stop people creating fake accounts and verifying them themselves."

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

cheers, jus we use same laptop cuz we live 2geva x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

Can one of you not use a mobile phone, the laptop isn't really the issue, its the same IP address, so assuming you are genuine, and not just verifying each other for convenience, then a mobile phone will run off a different IP

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"cheers, jus we use same laptop cuz we live 2geva x"

So you are trying to verify your partner or flatmate?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you didnt enjoy the meet i dont see why you have to leave a comment for someones profile.

maybe if you feel obliged to then a simple 'very nice to meet you, genuine person' will do.

no harm, no foul.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if i didnt enjoy the meet i wouldnt be false and leave a verification

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"cheers, jus we use same laptop cuz we live 2geva x

So you are trying to verify your partner or flatmate?

...Or his other profile!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"if i didnt enjoy the meet i wouldnt be false and leave a verification "

but then is comes down to the question that I asked at the beginning and no one with your point of view seems keen to answer...

what is the point of varification....

is it a) to prove that someone is who they said they were, that they showed up and therefore is genuine,.....

or is it b) apparently to brag that you had a meet and a good time?

the more and more I think about it, the more I think that writing them should be taken out of peoples hands! and that the site should just come up with various statements that people can just tick if they agree with them.... that would be a lot simplier

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"cheers, jus we use same laptop cuz we live 2geva x"

Then you shouldn't be trying to verify each other. That's like boyfriend and girlfriend verifying one another so ultimately your verifying yourself which is against Fab rules

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i didnt enjoy the meet i wouldnt be false and leave a verification

but then is comes down to the question that I asked at the beginning and no one with your point of view seems keen to answer...

what is the point of varification....

is it a) to prove that someone is who they said they were, that they showed up and therefore is genuine,.....

or is it b) apparently to brag that you had a meet and a good time?

Yes it is to verify that someone is genuine. But as people have already mentioned what you put in the verification will give a lot away.

For example meeting up with someone for coffee proves he's a genuine person and real but doesn't prove he's a genuine swinger! When it comes to the crunch he could bottle it. So in that instance I'd expect a veri saying We had coffee if i'm genuine ie look like my pics etc and a brief description of what I was like. Was I easy to talk to, did the person i was with have fun? That sort of thing.

If i'd been to a meet then I'd expect one mentioning that I turned up, did I look like my pics etc. That would then prove I was genuine in that instance. Anything extra is upto how much the Woman or couple enjoyed me being there. If I wasn't exactly there cup of tea then I'd be fine if they didn't put much else. If they had a really good time then it's appreciated if they put that. I don't expect people to make stuff up.

When I was part of a couple if someone turned up but was nervous and couldn't perform all we'd put was Nice guy (if he was), turned up as arranged was a bit nervous so just had a chat and he left.

It shows that he is genuine for turning up but also let's people know that he does get nervous.

If it was a shambles because the person was a tosser and we had to ask him to leave then we wouldn't have left him a veri.

I believe the veris are there to let other people make an informed decision on wheter or not a person or couple are right for them by seeing what they've been like in the past.

You shouldn't be lieing on a veri and you don't have to leave someone a shit veri or embarrasing one just because they didn't flick your switches (as long as they were genuine and polite) as already mentioned they may flick someone elses!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

maybe the last question on the generic verification form should be "would you meet them again".. with a yes/no boxes to tick....

it just seems like the way verification is at the moment, I just wonder if it is actually "verification" or it it is more "recommendation" in a lot of peoples eyes......... in which case it isn't what i signed up for...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"maybe the last question on the generic verification form should be "would you meet them again".. with a yes/no boxes to tick....

i do wonder what ppl use veris for. We have all different sorts on our profile,many from ppl we have not played with,but who it has been a pleasure to meet at socials.If others are using them as some sort of sexual scoring system then i would seriously think about hiding mine.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

Rarely verify anyway although when begged may concede if everything went well, otherwise not. Its not obligatory and who we have met is only our business. Cuts out complications we dont need. Luckily not really had any terrible meets.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"maybe the last question on the generic verification form should be "would you meet them again".. with a yes/no boxes to tick....

to many of these verification woes and slams, I just say FFS getta grip...ticking boxes if u would meet them again???? wtf u on about!???- only prob Ive had here with verifications is the people on these forums.If i get a verification Im happy IF i dont I dont...if I leave one and they dont display it, och well...I had a 3rd meet up with lovely pals on fri...I verified them not to seek one for myself, I think I can go on the fact i "may" be invited again.

verification-bashing ive almost heard it all now...Oh looks like I'm a slut by all accounts on mine..but sorta strange ive kept in contact with many of the people thru chats online,pubs,parties, socials whatever.

It is a bloody recommendation of course it is, but IT is a choice and its served me and a good few others well in the past present and future.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"maybe the last question on the generic verification form should be "would you meet them again".. with a yes/no boxes to tick....

It is a bloody recommendation of course it is, but IT is a choice and its served me and a good few others well in the past present and future."

thanks for the rant... and whoopee for you if it is working for you...

I am not the one complaining... I was asking the question if verification is really just a convienient word for "recommendation"....

I am not arsed if i get them myself either... the only ones I don't show are not the ones that are graphic because to be honest, a) its not me... and b) its no one elses business who i play with and what i get up to!

you want to be "billy big bolloxs" be my guest..... not my business....

what i was hopefully looking for was some sort of consensus at to what "varification" actually means.......

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

verifications arent read by me lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you want to be "billy big bolloxs" be my guest..... not my business....

what i was hopefully looking for was some sort of consensus at to what "varification" actually means.......

to answer in a billybigbollox manner it is exactly the same thing...

just seems a lot here and i stress HERE in forums seem to have such issues that they have to get that word in about what this is what that is. so again...verification...recommendation, essentially the same thing. if i was billybigbolloxing I apologise, as all I'm pointing out is that for the majority that play an active part on the site and off the site, we find verifications/validations/recommendations can help cut down any problems so many seem to have, and thats mainly thru poor choices of meets or indeed not researching their meets (see verifications).

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd just send a verification confirming that they are genuine. Up to them if they display, but sat least others would know they are for real."

same here unless its very bad then I wouldnt leave one

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

» Add a new message to this topic