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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Me and Mrs have great sex, no issues with frequency or how long we are at it for, but I have never been able to cum every time or even most times. It can be weeks apart, but to be honest it doesn't bother me. It has bothered Mrs though, she thought it was her fault, she was doing something wrong, she wasn't attractive to me anymore,and she got very insecure about it all.
For example, I have never cum from being wanked or from a blow job. She loves to do botany couldn't understand why I couldn't cum.
I don't understand it and I've never mentioned it to anyone else before.
Is this a common problem or am I on my own??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me and Mrs have great sex, no issues with frequency or how long we are at it for, but I have never been able to cum every time or even most times. It can be weeks apart, but to be honest it doesn't bother me. It has bothered Mrs though, she thought it was her fault, she was doing something wrong, she wasn't attractive to me anymore,and she got very insecure about it all.
For example, I have never cum from being wanked or from a blow job. She loves to do botany couldn't understand why I couldn't cum.
I don't understand it and I've never mentioned it to anyone else before.
Is this a common problem or am I on my own??
Mr"
Both... Not botany.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had been married for ten years before I ever came from a hand job. I couldn't even cum from masturbation, only ever managed it solo from dry humping until well into my thirties.
I only came from a BJ twice, from what I've been told it's not uncommon not to cum from a BJ. I seem to get almost there, then stop. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
I had a fling around 8 or 9 years ago who couldn't cum, even masturbating took him forever. I always felt somehow lacking too...a huge part of my enjoyment comes from my partner's pleasure so I never felt satisfied either. I knew it wasn't his fault either, but it does play on your psyche.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as you ar both happy playing then I can't see a problem! I sometimes enjoy a nice wank and stop just short of cumming.
As for blowjobs I never have any problems cunning from getting one as long as the person giving it enjoys doing it, not so keep on receiving if they don't.
I would not worry too much OP just enjoy the playing  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I only came from a BJ twice, from what I've been told it's not uncommon not to cum from a BJ. I seem to get almost there, then stop."
That's how it is for me.
Now, my concern is what if I do cum when a different woman is sucking me in a club for instance?? |
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
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I only came from a BJ twice, from what I've been told it's not uncommon not to cum from a BJ. I seem to get almost there, then stop.
That's how it is for me.
Now, my concern is what if I do cum when a different woman is sucking me in a club for instance??"
Just enjoy it |
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By *horltzMan
over a year ago
heysham |
I can have long sessions without cumming , my advice would be to forget about cumming , just relax and enjoy doing what you do , it's all in the mind , it works for me , the beauty is I can now have a quickie or a long session , the same with blow Job's , just enjoy the blow job and don't think it's just a means to an end , it may take some practice but you will be happy with the results if you get your mind set right |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
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I only came from a BJ twice, from what I've been told it's not uncommon not to cum from a BJ. I seem to get almost there, then stop.
That's how it is for me.
Now, my concern is what if I do cum when a different woman is sucking me in a club for instance??"
That is tricky. I've had something similar recently. I don't squirt. I mean, I did, once, a decade ago. Like a firehose. I had no clue what the hell was going on, but that partner seemed to be more than happy with it so I went with the flow (as it were!).
My other half has been dying for me to squirt for years, tried on numerous occasions, dry as a desert. Went for a meet at a guy's house from here. Firehose. Even worse, went back for round two and it happened again.
My other half is now convinced that it is just him, and I don't know how to explain it.
Talk to her first. Explain your fears. Reassure her she's the apple of your eye. Otherwise you'll never relax enough in a club just to enjoy yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My other half is now convinced that it is just him, and I don't know how to explain it.
Talk to her first. Explain your fears. Reassure her she's the apple of your eye. Otherwise you'll never relax enough in a club just to enjoy yourself."
We have talked about it. She suggested I have a wank before we go to make sure lol |
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By *100Man
over a year ago
Essex |
Ah mate don't worry my wife asked me to cum in her mouth once it got me so excited I couldn't just like that it took over an hour she was bored by then.
I wank every day and can enjoy a wank for a couple of hours before cumming but don't cum with penetrative sex very often cause my wife likes a quick one and she's a lazy fuck which doesn't help.
We probably need to relax more and forget the pressure we get to squirt spunk everywhere.
And our ladies shouldn't worry if we don't cum it's not the end of the world and I still love having sex. |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
Nothing wrong with you at all. I have times like that, sometimes I can't raise one at all.
I very very rarely cum off blow jobs and hand jobs. I can count on one hand the number of times it has happened and it's been more hand than mouth, and the lady in question had to go at it for ages.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only recently my wife got the coil
Fitted and o can now cum
Inside her,I was using the bucket system for a long time and this has helped me to last way longer with women,I can go for hours without coming,
Bucket system btw is when you see the eyes buldging "kick the bucket" lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex fb could never cum through blow jobs or hand jobs. ..has it only recently become an issue?"
I've never had a woman make me cum from a blow job yet. They tend to focus too much on mechanical movement and rarely feeling or sensing body changes.
I'm not always looking to cum...for me giving the woman the pleasure gives me greater pleasure. ..big turn on watching the woman loose herself in the moment and letting go completely be for she orgasms...and I'm neverssatisfy with that...she can enjoy that multiple times before I cum and then it'll usually be together to finish off. I've found a few at first were disappointed that they didn't make me cum but after explain that I never cum before the lady and can and will hold back to allow her to cum first they understood that it wasn't about them not pleasing me. |
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When I was younger I suffered from premature ejaculation but now it's the complete opposite. I never cum from bjs or hand jobs and hardly ever from penetrative sex but I still greatly enjoy it just because it means I last a long time and my partner will always cum which is a huge turn on.
However I can normally cum from wanking myself but it takes a long time and what gets me off is if I squash my balls while I'm wanking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi since my radio therapy can't cum anymore something called renograde where sperm goes back into bladder no cure it is a problem but slowly getting over it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as you both had fun l don't see it as an issue.
Women don't always cum and men don't either. l even had a mate that faked orgasms."
This has annoyed me in the past
I can't always Cum for one reason or another . But if the lady doesn't it's OK but if the guy doesn't it's not so accepted and has caused all kind of aggravation |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Me and Mrs have great sex, no issues with frequency or how long we are at it for, but I have never been able to cum every time or even most times. It can be weeks apart, but to be honest it doesn't bother me. It has bothered Mrs though, she thought it was her fault, she was doing something wrong, she wasn't attractive to me anymore,and she got very insecure about it all.
For example, I have never cum from being wanked or from a blow job. She loves to do botany couldn't understand why I couldn't cum.
I don't understand it and I've never mentioned it to anyone else before.
Is this a common problem or am I on my own??
Mr"
Op I have a similar problem have had ut all my life from my very first sexual experience with me its a power thing mixed up with trust and intimacy. I'm naturally dominate and surrendering my orgasm to another is something I struggle to do .its a hard thing to explain to a new partner that you will not cone on a play date and it has freaked out some of my play partners and really messed with there head space . I have learned to use my orgasm as a weapon to demand more from play partners who want my orgasm. I use the idea that I nay come to drive them to give me more and more  
When I feel the time is right I.e true intimacy has been achieved from me towards them then and only then will I allow a play partner to have that final bit of true power I process.
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is my own orgasm . I'm a control freak my orgasm I control to not only my play partners pleasure but my own to its not unheard for me to D someone fully dressed give them orgasm after orgasm and not once indulge my desires on that play date . Its part if who I am as a man I once hated the fact I'm so different .now I embrace that fact and use it mercilessly to drive my dynamic's with my play partners to push them further into giving me more and more during play with my own orgasm being there's and my reward for truly giving me all I desire freely and consensually |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
" Its part if who I am as a man I once hated the fact I'm so different .now I embrace that fact and use it mercilessly to drive my dynamic's with my play partners to push them further into giving me more and more during play with my own orgasm being there's and my reward for truly giving me all I desire freely and consensually "
I rather love this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me and Mrs have great sex, no issues with frequency or how long we are at it for, but I have never been able to cum every time or even most times. It can be weeks apart, but to be honest it doesn't bother me. It has bothered Mrs though, she thought it was her fault, she was doing something wrong, she wasn't attractive to me anymore,and she got very insecure about it all.
For example, I have never cum from being wanked or from a blow job. She loves to do botany couldn't understand why I couldn't cum.
I don't understand it and I've never mentioned it to anyone else before.
Is this a common problem or am I on my own??
Mr
Op I have a similar problem have had ut all my life from my very first sexual experience with me its a power thing mixed up with trust and intimacy. I'm naturally dominate and surrendering my orgasm to another is something I struggle to do .its a hard thing to explain to a new partner that you will not cone on a play date and it has freaked out some of my play partners and really messed with there head space . I have learned to use my orgasm as a weapon to demand more from play partners who want my orgasm. I use the idea that I nay come to drive them to give me more and more
When I feel the time is right I.e true intimacy has been achieved from me towards them then and only then will I allow a play partner to have that final bit of true power I process.
Which
is my own orgasm . I'm a control freak my orgasm I control to not only my play partners pleasure but my own to its not unheard for me to D someone fully dressed give them orgasm after orgasm and not once indulge my desires on that play date . Its part if who I am as a man I once hated the fact I'm so different .now I embrace that fact and use it mercilessly to drive my dynamic's with my play partners to push them further into giving me more and more during play with my own orgasm being there's and my reward for truly giving me all I desire freely and consensually "
Impressive.
And it makes perfect.sense
Thankyou. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
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I only came from a BJ twice, from what I've been told it's not uncommon not to cum from a BJ. I seem to get almost there, then stop.
That's how it is for me.
Now, my concern is what if I do cum when a different woman is sucking me in a club for instance??"
We have had this disussion as I can take forever to cum, very rare I do from bj's so obviously the discussion was along the lines of "what if I do?" H's response? "We'll we are all different, as long as you get hard again I don't give a shit, might watch her technique though, it will probably happen anyway due to it being someone new & I may well be the same when they play with me".
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have had this disussion as I can take forever to cum, very rare I do from bj's so obviously the discussion was along the lines of "what if I do?" H's response? "We'll we are all different, as long as you get hard again I don't give a shit, might watch her technique though, it will probably happen anyway due to it being someone new & I may well be the same when they play with me".
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Yeah, we.kind of had the same discussion.
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Your definitely not alone i have never cum from a bj or a handjob.
I think if i just forget about it and relax it will happen but it never has so far.
When I've had a few to drink sometimes I can't cum even during a really good bb fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For years I could never cum during sex or foreplay. So I stopped wanking ????? now I cum every time x"
Yes indeed - over masturbation will cause Anorgasmia - also it will hinder the mental connection required for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi since my radio therapy can't cum anymore something called renograde where sperm goes back into bladder no cure it is a problem but slowly getting over it "
Retrograde ejaculation - do you not feel an orgasm at all ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So far I've only cum with my wife and I've only cum with another lady through me wanking I prefer to plensure the lady if I cum in cum if I don't it's not the end of the world. |
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Miss does get a bit worried about my lack of being able to cum from a blow job. Its happened once, when I was 18 and the same for hand jobs. With hand jobs its tricky cos as a guy you know exactly what feels good and gets you off and its hard to explain to a partner how to hold it, when to go faster etc.
She doesnt cum through penetration. Its all about the clit play which is fine by me. We have a great sex life, you just have to find out what works best for the both of you. Jack. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had that same problem...well not really a problem as no one complained about it. Now I can cum from a good handjob but still have problems cumming from a bj. |
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By *UNG309Man
over a year ago
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My last long term gf could not give me good bj so took too long and hand job never worked caused big issues but had 2 playmates since and both have got me going both ways but they both liked to be played with too so the comments about making your partner happy 1st works for me
I think its just find out what's best for you both but talk to your partner about that
Did you say you where going a club and what if it happens with someone else not partner it maybe the excitement of someone new etc
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