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"I don't normally like to discuss this on here, especially as I don't know you, but here's my perspective: *get out and about - not online. *spend time with family and friends if you can. *keep a routine, especially in terms of personal care. *look at past times and hobbies, think about whats made you happy in the past. *avoid alcohol and similar substances *eat healthily and exercise That's all easier said than done, I know. " Ty xx will try ??? | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" Hey, I have suffered with depression for years. I stay firmly on the pills now. Just not worth coming off them, as my depression is clinical rather than circumstances. The things that help me the most though are getting outside in big open spaces as much as possible.(living on Salisbury Plain this is easy for me). But spending time around horses and dogs are great for depression, this has been proven. There are a lot of places now that offer equine assisted therapy, hippo therapy etc. Hope the pills kick in quickly, so you can start feeling better again. Lots of hugs xxxx | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? Hey, I have suffered with depression for years. I stay firmly on the pills now. Just not worth coming off them, as my depression is clinical rather than circumstances. The things that help me the most though are getting outside in big open spaces as much as possible.(living on Salisbury Plain this is easy for me). But spending time around horses and dogs are great for depression, this has been proven. There are a lot of places now that offer equine assisted therapy, hippo therapy etc. Hope the pills kick in quickly, so you can start feeling better again. Lots of hugs xxxx" Ty think I need to get a dog ?? | |||
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"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? Hey, I have suffered with depression for years. I stay firmly on the pills now. Just not worth coming off them, as my depression is clinical rather than circumstances. The things that help me the most though are getting outside in big open spaces as much as possible.(living on Salisbury Plain this is easy for me). But spending time around horses and dogs are great for depression, this has been proven. There are a lot of places now that offer equine assisted therapy, hippo therapy etc. Hope the pills kick in quickly, so you can start feeling better again. Lots of hugs xxxx Ty think I need to get a dog ?? " Dogs are amazing  If your are in a position to, do get yourself one! Get a lovely rescue dog, (extra feel good points ) but by getting a dog you will have to walk it, walking is another great exercise for depression. Which is why only soldiers from ww11 suffer with depression etc, before that they used to march everywhere, the left right motion if walking, horse riding etc actually helps the brain to process stuff from one side of the brain to the other.
Sorry could bore you for hours about this sort if stuff.
Get a dog they are great lol xxx | |||
"Remove toxic people from your live, I had people who I considered good friends made a big change this year and walked away from friends and only realised how toxic they were, best of luck "  | |||
" Ty think I need to get a dog ?? " I have severe chemical imbalances in my brain that have caused serious mental health issues. I will be on medication for the rest of my life. However, without my dogs there are days I would not even leave my bed. They are excellent at looking after me too. One gives cuddles and kisses when I am down and the other acts the clown until I laugh. You would be surprised at how well they begin to recognise your feelings and adjust to your mood. Don't know where I would be without them! They force you to get up and leave the house and stick to a routine when you do not want to | |||
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"As others have said, try to remove your triggers if you know them. I removed a lot of negative people from my life & I do feel a lot better for it! I wouldn't suggest getting a dog just yet as it's a lot of responsibility if you're not quite where you need to be. How about volunteering to dog walk for your local shelter? Meds will take a while to kick in & you may get highs and lows whilst your body adjusts, be gentle on yourself for the next few weeks. Make sure you get up every day at the same time, shower & dress. I find this a major factor if I'm on a low day, and if I don't do it then I end up slobbing out all day then get down that I've wasted a day! Definitely get out & walk! This time of year is beautiful for a nice walk. Good luck OP and I hope you get a good balance soon "Yes I say getting a pet isn't a good idea if you're not 'balanced', it's a big responsibility. | |||
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"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? Hey, I have suffered with depression for years. I stay firmly on the pills now. Just not worth coming off them, as my depression is clinical rather than circumstances. The things that help me the most though are getting outside in big open spaces as much as possible.(living on Salisbury Plain this is easy for me). But spending time around horses and dogs are great for depression, this has been proven. There are a lot of places now that offer equine assisted therapy, hippo therapy etc. Hope the pills kick in quickly, so you can start feeling better again. Lots of hugs xxxx Ty think I need to get a dog ?? Dogs are amazing If your are in a position to, do get yourself one! Get a lovely rescue dog, (extra feel good points ) but by getting a dog you will have to walk it, walking is another great exercise for depression. Which is why only soldiers from ww11 suffer with depression etc, before that they used to march everywhere, the left right motion if walking, horse riding etc actually helps the brain to process stuff from one side of the brain to the other.
Sorry could bore you for hours about this sort if stuff.
Get a dog they are great lol xxx"I like being bored but ty x | |||
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"Thank you everyone will try some of these out much love to u all xxxxx" Much love to you OP, try to keep your chin up. XXX | |||
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"Exercise, exercise, exercise! In any form, whether swimming, gym or a fresh air walk. Of course may not work for all, but if you are at the beginning of your diagnosis I'd strongly suggest a longer term solution than taking a tablet each day. Exercise stimulates the brains ability to make 'happy hormones' it also can regulate other imbalances over time with improved health. ...keep off the alcohol as it is a depressant, try to eat a balanced diet, (Google eatwell plate) fatty convenience foods will just make you feel sluggish. Also you may over time find your body changing in a way you like (lose weight, tone up, feel fitter) Win win! P.s (this comes from personal experience and a degree in health and medicine) "Agree wholeheartedly with this, expecially exercise. It doesn't have to be much - just a simple walk. You may feel like you can't do it, but unless there's a physical reason why, you can. Medication didn't work for me, but I accept others swear by it. I hated the side effects, which, in themselves affected my mood. I'm not saying don't take tablets, but if possible, address the underlying reasons. They just mask them. I heard my doctor talk about chemical imbalances - in my case though, I was never tested for them in any way. I've felt so much better when get some proper walking done. A day in the mountains works wonders. | |||
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"Exercise, exercise, exercise! In any form, whether swimming, gym or a fresh air walk. Of course may not work for all, but if you are at the beginning of your diagnosis I'd strongly suggest a longer term solution than taking a tablet each day. Exercise stimulates the brains ability to make 'happy hormones' it also can regulate other imbalances over time with improved health. ...keep off the alcohol as it is a depressant, try to eat a balanced diet, (Google eatwell plate) fatty convenience foods will just make you feel sluggish. Also you may over time find your body changing in a way you like (lose weight, tone up, feel fitter) Win win! P.s (this comes from personal experience and a degree in health and medicine)
Agree wholeheartedly with this, expecially exercise.
It doesn't have to be much - just a simple walk. You may feel like you can't do it, but unless there's a physical reason why, you can.
Medication didn't work for me, but I accept others swear by it. I hated the side effects, which, in themselves affected my mood.
I'm not saying don't take tablets, but if possible, address the underlying reasons. They just mask them. I heard my doctor talk about chemical imbalances - in my case though, I was never tested for them in any way.
I've felt so much better when get some proper walking done. A day in the mountains works wonders.
"Chemical imbalances are not tested by clinical measures but by symptoms. There are many types of antidepressants and the key is to find the right one and dose, however, tablets alone are not ideal. Funding for mental health is extremely poor so GPs are having to prescribe more and more and having their patients check in periodically. You may be able to help yourself by contacting the charity MIND. Talking therapies help. Even talking to someone close is helpful. | |||
"No one has mentioned sleep. Depression can affect sleep. Google sleep hygiene." Not sleeping well is a killer. And then you can't stop sleeping. | |||
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"http://www.wwl.nhs.uk/Library/All_New_PI_Docs/Audio_Leaflets/Sleep_Service/Sleep_Hygiene/FT2_sleep_hygiene.html Hopefully this link will be allowed as it's sleep hygiene compiled by the NHS" | |||
"http://www.wwl.nhs.uk/Library/All_New_PI_Docs/Audio_Leaflets/Sleep_Service/Sleep_Hygiene/FT2_sleep_hygiene.html Hopefully this link will be allowed as it's sleep hygiene compiled by the NHS" It has been ty will look at it xx | |||
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"If I were you id leave fab." You don't have to be the OP to leave. You can do so just being you!  | |||
"If I were you id leave fab." Yeah...that works, and miss out on lots of helpful advice and support  | |||
"If I were you id leave fab." Bit of a twatish thing to say | |||
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"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" So sorry to hear that! I really hope you start to feel better soon! I found that talking, meeting up with friends, exercise and just getting out helped. Basically, all the things that are really fucking hard to do, do help a lot! Even just getting out of bed and showering/dressing can help. X | |||
"If I were you id leave fab. Bit of a twatish thing to say" Have you ever been a transsexual suffering from depression? I imagine going through that with guys sending "come and suck my cock luv" messages isn't going to help at all. | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" Support for you, be it from friends/family. Seek a counsellor, it may help. Prioritising your needs so you have time to rest. Making healthy choices. Sleep, good food and exercise. Lots of self love if you can. I wish you well. | |||
"If I were you id leave fab. Yeah...that works, and miss out on lots of helpful advice and support "I'm sure there are much better places than fabswingers for people who are transitioning to a different sex to gain support and understanding. I expect they may well have gone through the exact same thoughts and feelings on their journeys to. | |||
Just to add a few things that personally help me...
Getting a decent nights sleep. I'm not sure why but this is almost the most important thing for me.
Exercise, particularly walking for me. That feeling of movement really gets my mind fired-up. If my minds fired up then I tend to be in a good place.
Having friends around, even if they are online friends. Having people you can talk to is invaluable.
Avoiding wankers, mood hoovers, c*nts or whatever you may want to call them! There's just some people in this world that you really don't need in your life. They'll do nothing but suck the life blood right out of ya.
Don't get caught up in too much "stuff". Especially other peoples "stuff". Keep everything central to you and your wellbeing, not what's going on in someone elses life or something else that's going on in the world. Just let that wash over you as much as you can. Let it go.
Try and avoid the things that you know may trigger negative feelings. For example, there was a time when Fab was making me feel like absolute crap about myself, for various reasons. As soon as I cut back on it all I instantly felt better. Now I just dabble in it. Now I control it, instead of it controlling me. You can do the same thing with other aspects of your life too.
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" Ty think I need to get a dog ?? I have severe chemical imbalances in my brain that have caused serious mental health issues. I will be on medication for the rest of my life. However, without my dogs there are days I would not even leave my bed. They are excellent at looking after me too. One gives cuddles and kisses when I am down and the other acts the clown until I laugh. You would be surprised at how well they begin to recognise your feelings and adjust to your mood. Don't know where I would be without them! They force you to get up and leave the house and stick to a routine when you do not want to" True but I struggle to walk, but my cat ad her a year an she's helped so much! 
but if u can walk get a dog. | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" You're transgender and I can't trully say I've been through that. I'd imagine it's extremely difficult. Your best bet is getting counselling and professional help. These guys will be top class. There was a time when I was suffering from bad anxiety when I was a lad, I ended up going to hospital with panic attacks and stuff. There was a nurse there who was incredible. She was trained very well. She spoke softly, she touched me in the right way, she said the right things, her demeanor was incredible. I've never felt so relaxed in my life. I was addicted to her voice! She sorted stuff out for me and I never returned. I've never met a woman like her! But it's all down to training, these guys are experts. | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? You're transgender and I can't trully say I've been through that. I'd imagine it's extremely difficult. Your best bet is getting counselling and professional help. These guys will be top class. There was a time when I was suffering from bad anxiety when I was a lad, I ended up going to hospital with panic attacks and stuff. There was a nurse there who was incredible. She was trained very well. She spoke softly, she touched me in the right way, she said the right things, her demeanor was incredible. I've never felt so relaxed in my life. I was addicted to her voice! She sorted stuff out for me and I never returned. I've never met a woman like her! But it's all down to training, these guys are experts. "Actually it's not all down to training but it does sound like she was an excellent nurse. | |||
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"Remove toxic people from your live, I had people who I considered good friends made a big change this year and walked away from friends and only realised how toxic they were, best of luck " This is important for anyone, keep negativity as low as possible. | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? You're transgender and I can't trully say I've been through that. I'd imagine it's extremely difficult. Your best bet is getting counselling and professional help. These guys will be top class. There was a time when I was suffering from bad anxiety when I was a lad, I ended up going to hospital with panic attacks and stuff. There was a nurse there who was incredible. She was trained very well. She spoke softly, she touched me in the right way, she said the right things, her demeanor was incredible. I've never felt so relaxed in my life. I was addicted to her voice! She sorted stuff out for me and I never returned. I've never met a woman like her! But it's all down to training, these guys are experts.
Actually it's not all down to training but it does sound like she was an excellent nurse."You're right, it's not all down to training, I fancied the pants off her too! | |||
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"exercise is a fantastic antidepressant " Endorphins definitely help a lot of people with their mental wellbeing. | |||
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"Im not really going to add adive theres been good advice given. But try to hold on to the though other people with depression know the livng hell. Just knowing someone understands. But if you can get out just take a gentle walk. Concentrate on the things you can do. Someone once said to me, doea it really matter if your house is a mess you got up and got dressed and that can be like climbing a mountain" Very true words ty xx | |||
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"Exercise, exercise, exercise! In any form, whether swimming, gym or a fresh air walk. Of course may not work for all, but if you are at the beginning of your diagnosis I'd strongly suggest a longer term solution than taking a tablet each day. Exercise stimulates the brains ability to make 'happy hormones' it also can regulate other imbalances over time with improved health. ...keep off the alcohol as it is a depressant, try to eat a balanced diet, (Google eatwell plate) fatty convenience foods will just make you feel sluggish. Also you may over time find your body changing in a way you like (lose weight, tone up, feel fitter) Win win! P.s (this comes from personal experience and a degree in health and medicine) " | |||
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"I found talking to an unbiased person helped. I saw a mental health councillor on and off for a year, I cried at most sessions. It was mentally wearing but christ I felt 10x better. After 3 sessions we discussed antidepressants, I went through 3 types to find the ones for me. Now 3 almost 4 years later im not on antidepressants, quit drinking, and I'm back to how I used to be before all the stress things happened in my life - all thanks to my mhc. Honestly seeing me then and now it's a massive difference. " | |||
"I went to the gym 4 years ago. Was always strong but lacked confidence and was told by family I wouldn't ever amount to much. Suffered with depression for about 15 years up to that point. Now I'm one of the strongest men in the country and confidence breeds from that. So my depression is kept at bay for the various things the gym and competing offers. No meds since 2012. You have to find something, I feel, which creates achievement and where you can set goals. " Remember though, achievement occurs in baby steps for someone severely depressed - such as getting up and getting dressed. | |||
"I went to the gym 4 years ago. Was always strong but lacked confidence and was told by family I wouldn't ever amount to much. Suffered with depression for about 15 years up to that point. Now I'm one of the strongest men in the country and confidence breeds from that. So my depression is kept at bay for the various things the gym and competing offers. No meds since 2012. You have to find something, I feel, which creates achievement and where you can set goals. Remember though, achievement occurs in baby steps for someone severely depressed - such as getting up and getting dressed. " "such as getting up and getting dressed" A perfect start. Small goal. Achieved. Set a new one. | |||
"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better? Hey, I have suffered with depression for years. I stay firmly on the pills now. Just not worth coming off them, as my depression is clinical rather than circumstances. The things that help me the most though are getting outside in big open spaces as much as possible.(living on Salisbury Plain this is easy for me). But spending time around horses and dogs are great for depression, this has been proven. There are a lot of places now that offer equine assisted therapy, hippo therapy etc. Hope the pills kick in quickly, so you can start feeling better again. Lots of hugs xxxx" I thought mine was down to hormones but having had a hysterectomy and my ovaries removed, i'm still experiencing mood swings and a very short temper. Perhaps my HRT level isn't right but i'm so tempted to go back on the antidepressants as I just don't feel like a very nice person without them. | |||
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"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" Having recently been in a similar situation myself, my advice would be: - get rid of toxic people in your life!! - set small goals - aim to fill your day with productive things, the more time you have sitting around doing nothing the worse you'll feel. I found it took me quite a few weeks to get used to the tablets but once I did i felt like a new person. I hope this helps xxx | |||
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"Hi Iv been put on tablets today for depression again I know the ultimate cause and with a few things in my life the reason it's back my question is has anyone been through it and what things made u feel better?" Try Mindfullness. . Mark Williams is one of the best. He has an audio book called Mindfullness, Finding Peace In A Frantic World. . On Amazon. | |||
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