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I definitely need some help
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey Swingers,
I'm new to swinging but not to sex, I am looking to meet people, messaging them (no pushy, no copy paste stuff), winking them, fabing their pics but no luck!!
Is it because people don't like my type/race or am i doing something wrong seriously?
Please look at my profile and suggest me any thing to make it happen.
I really wanna clear my fantasy list and die...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Read up on cock pic avatars and that will give you a clue.
Plus your profile starts off negative, which is off putting."
Thanks Kinky-Minx, really appreciate your comment. I have removed those negative lines and I will look at 'cock pic avatars' and try to get some decent pics.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Different user name and body pics for sure!"
Thanks _ickeyandmouse for your suggestion, many suggested to add body pics, will do that and user name, I will change that too.
Happy swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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User name is very off putting - add to that a lack of photos & we would hit the delete button straight away. If you don't want to share photos, we aren't interested.
Secondly, not sure what messages you are sending but we are looking for ones that stand out as we get a lot of single men messaging.us - one liners or just asking how we are doing will get deleted without reply. You need to start a conversation.
Final point - saying you want to die happy in your profile makes it sound like you have a terminal illness!! Also referring to 'romantic dates' and 'your woman' makes it sound like you're using it as a dating site. If we meet with a single guy, I don't want romance - I have G for that and I'm must definitely HIS woman. What we want is someone we connect with on a social level & can have a laugh with and can treat us both with respect.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could have the best profile write up in the world but with your current photo, it would put the majority off reading it. Try some more tasteful body/torso/bum pics. Show people what your body type is like, after all, everyone is different but all men (generally!) have a cock. What makes you more than just a cock? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, your avatar is a definite no. It would be an instant block. What made you think it would be enticing?
Your claim to be educated followed by the phrase "Wanna know" does not add up.
It is not a bad profile but by no means a good one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op you have 1 cock pic with the background phased out which doesnt look good.You say discretion is a must and you cannot host which screams attached or married.Maybe state in your profile text so folks on here can make their own judgement.If we are wrong then sorry but take the advice on the other posts. |
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"You could have the best profile write up in the world but with your current photo, it would put the majority off reading it. Try some more tasteful body/torso/bum pics. Show people what your body type is like, after all, everyone is different but all men (generally!) have a cock. What makes you more than just a cock? "
It's not even his cock. |
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"You could have the best profile write up in the world but with your current photo, it would put the majority off reading it. Try some more tasteful body/torso/bum pics. Show people what your body type is like, after all, everyone is different but all men (generally!) have a cock. What makes you more than just a cock?
It's not even his cock."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You could have the best profile write up in the world but with your current photo, it would put the majority off reading it. Try some more tasteful body/torso/bum pics. Show people what your body type is like, after all, everyone is different but all men (generally!) have a cock. What makes you more than just a cock?
It's not even his cock."
Why would I post someone else cock on my profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! "
Thanks, am not expecting any fights to invite me to their houses, thanks for the NEVER statement, it's just 2 weeks am just finding my way to be clear, BUT...thanks for your honest comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is tough at the start I was on here before for about 3-4 months without a meet but I came back to this hoping for a better result and socially it's been better but believe it or not still haven't got a meet although I'm verified through Webcam chats. I don't even know how to check how long I'm a member  |
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! "
calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ?  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? ."
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It's time to make sure your profile is top notch with no spelling mistakes and daft grammatical errors, paragraphs and interesting about you as a person, make sure photos are good, make sure your messages are well targeted and well written, go to a social, go to a club, go in the chatrooms, get yourself in th forum more.....there's loads you can do to help yourself and one day you'll find yourself helping yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing to do is stay active in the forums. You views will skyrocket as long as you're a decent bloke with a bit of banter. Doing so will probably gain a bit of notice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? ."
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved "
I feel like I'm back at school |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved
I feel like I'm back at school "
Strangely enough , we dressed as schoolgirls last night , so must still be in the zone ! Sir is still snoring , think we killed him ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved
I feel like I'm back at school
Strangely enough , we dressed as schoolgirls last night , so must still be in the zone ! Sir is still snoring , think we killed him ! "
I hope not
But if you did he died a happy man  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved
I feel like I'm back at school
Strangely enough , we dressed as schoolgirls last night , so must still be in the zone ! Sir is still snoring , think we killed him !
I hope not
But if you did he died a happy man "
If he doesn't wake up for toast and PG tips shortly it's confirmed ! X |
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved "
wow your a strange one lol.and na you were still being a dick wheather male or female.how can telling someone its never going to happen be constructive criticism.anyway i dont really care its not like i know the guy so peace out . |
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved wow your a strange one lol.and na you were still being a dick wheather male or female.how can telling someone its never going to happen be constructive criticism.anyway i dont really care its not like i know the guy so peace out ."
We' re not strange , we're peculiar , or eccentric ! |
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved wow your a strange one lol.and na you were still being a dick wheather male or female.how can telling someone its never going to happen be constructive criticism.anyway i dont really care its not like i know the guy so peace out .
We' re not strange , we're peculiar , or eccentric ! "
they all mean the same thing . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved wow your a strange one lol.and na you were still being a dick wheather male or female.how can telling someone its never going to happen be constructive criticism.anyway i dont really care its not like i know the guy so peace out .
We' re not strange , we're peculiar , or eccentric ! they all mean the same thing ."
Na, I'm not dead or the other, have to live real life too. Learned a lot from those comments
Its hard to understand some people here, they write up something and they do or suggest something else, some claim that pics are not mine! ( judging me just like they've met me zillion times)
BUT I won't give up
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"So , here 2 weeks and mystified as to why that horde of couples , women and female couples are not fighting each other to invite you to their houses to leap all over your cock ?
We're not surprised , and to save you much angst , it's NEVER going to happen, no matter how long you stay here !
FAB is not a free for all clinger fest dear boy and never will be ! calm down u have one pic of the wife and i guarantee u that at 50 im guessing u would have a harder time here on your own than the op would.the op is taking it on the chin and is listening to feedback and is being polite enough.why not cut him some slack and offer something constructive ? .
Ah but it IS constructive ! From what we've seen and the zillions of messages we have had , it's clear that a large number of single men join FABtbinking it's going to be Instashag and are sadly disappointed at the lack of progress for the effort they put in .
It's better , and kinder , to realise this fact straight away as the OP has discovered .
One of the main reasons for wasted effort and angst is the lack of profile reading and the failure to write to the right , suited to you, people on FAB.
Your message here illustrates that perfectly :
You've clearly looked at our profile and assumed the male wrote our reply . It was in fact ONE of the females .
There is no " wife " , there are in fact TWO women on this profile involved in a full time relationship with our saga insured , geriatric 50 year old . It's all on our profile in black and white !
A perfect example of profile reading fail ! Only write to the people you think would be interested in you after research ! One targeted message is worth 1000 shotgun blasts and far less angst involved wow your a strange one lol.and na you were still being a dick wheather male or female.how can telling someone its never going to happen be constructive criticism.anyway i dont really care its not like i know the guy so peace out .
We' re not strange , we're peculiar , or eccentric ! they all mean the same thing .
Na, I'm not dead or the other, have to live real life too. Learned a lot from those comments
Its hard to understand some people here, they write up something and they do or suggest something else, some claim that pics are not mine! ( judging me just like they've met me zillion times)
BUT I won't give up
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Go for it! Best of luck |
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"Hey Swingers,
I'm new to swinging but not to sex, I am looking to meet people, messaging them (no pushy, no copy paste stuff), winking them, fabing their pics but no luck!!
Is it because people don't like my type/race or am i doing something wrong seriously?
Please look at my profile and suggest me any thing to make it happen.
I really wanna clear my fantasy list and die...
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It has ONLY been two weeks!! |
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Ok So you're at the 2 weeks Mark. Have clearly changed parts of your profile based on some response to the post.
Consider though that all the photos are friends only.
I can't see anything other than text and avatar :/
Narrative : nothing that makes you stand out
Avatar : least it's not a cock!
I don't know what your messages are like.
Learn patience and the meantime go to a social.
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Should I wait for a while??
