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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So my lady told me today that she wants rough sex. In the past I've pulled her hair and grab her tight but she wants more. Im normally a gentle guy and find it hard to be rough as I don't want to hurt her. Obviously I've discussed this with her but I was hoping to get some decent pointers here from you experienced lot! X

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

That's easy, ask her what exactly she means by 'rough' because everybody's idea is different.

Then research the techniques for how to do it properly by reading and or munches or speaking to more experienced people if needs be, set it up and start off slow.

Put a safeword in place for her, by far the easiest to use and remember is the colours of traffic lights.

Also don't just expect her to call a safe word. When the time is right, ask her 'give me a colour'.

Having talked through, green carry on, amber I'm at my limit, red stop. That will remind her they are there and keep you up to date on how she's feeling and give you pointers on what she needs.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"So my lady told me today that she wants rough sex. In the past I've pulled her hair and grab her tight but she wants more. Im normally a gentle guy and find it hard to be rough as I don't want to hurt her. Obviously I've discussed this with her but I was hoping to get some decent pointers here from you experienced lot! X"

Just slap her around till she cries.she'll either tell you to stop or she'll ask you to hit another part of her that isn't so tender..fucking someone as hard as you can, whilst knocking em about is physically very demanding mind, you will be blowing out of your arse in no time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's easy, ask her what exactly she means by 'rough' because everybody's idea is different.

Then research the techniques for how to do it properly by reading and or munches or speaking to more experienced people if needs be, set it up and start off slow.

Put a safeword in place for her, by far the easiest to use and remember is the colours of traffic lights.

Also don't just expect her to call a safe word. When the time is right, ask her 'give me a colour'.

Having talked through, green carry on, amber I'm at my limit, red stop. That will remind her they are there and keep you up to date on how she's feeling and give you pointers on what she needs."
^^^^this^^^^.

I'm learning shibari at the moment and I insist on a safe word for comfort and safety,but the traffic lights is a better way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make sure you get signed consent

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

Make sure you get signed consent

Can't believe I missed that bit!!

Definitely that too. Any form of rough sex is technically assault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's easy, ask her what exactly she means by 'rough' because everybody's idea is different.

Then research the techniques for how to do it properly by reading and or munches or speaking to more experienced people if needs be, set it up and start off slow.

Put a safeword in place for her, by far the easiest to use and remember is the colours of traffic lights.

Also don't just expect her to call a safe word. When the time is right, ask her 'give me a colour'.

Having talked through, green carry on, amber I'm at my limit, red stop. That will remind her they are there and keep you up to date on how she's feeling and give you pointers on what she needs."

That's great thank you. We've already discussed and will do more so. what it a munch?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"That's easy, ask her what exactly she means by 'rough' because everybody's idea is different.

Then research the techniques for how to do it properly by reading and or munches or speaking to more experienced people if needs be, set it up and start off slow.

Put a safeword in place for her, by far the easiest to use and remember is the colours of traffic lights.

Also don't just expect her to call a safe word. When the time is right, ask her 'give me a colour'.

Having talked through, green carry on, amber I'm at my limit, red stop. That will remind her they are there and keep you up to date on how she's feeling and give you pointers on what she needs.

That's great thank you. We've already discussed and will do more so. what it a munch? "

A munche is a social meet for people interested in bdsm or the more kinky sides of sex.

They are like anything else there is a huge range of players there. Some are idiots but some have a lot of skill and knowledge of the subject. It's down to the individual to suss out who is who as in any other walks of life.

You can find information on fetlife.

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By *ombikerbullMan over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Unless she is a super sub or a slave dont leave it to guess work.

very simplace contract I always use.

An example

Needs? (aka Must do) To be slapped, my nipples twisted

Wants? (Aka Can we have a go) spanked

Soft Limit? (aka I am nervous but will try) paddling

Hard Limit? (never going to happen) caning

Amber = ease up

Red = stop and that means right now.

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