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Can't achieve any meets. What are we missing?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We've been on and off the site for a few years now and had our recent profile for 8 months. We're really struggling to get any interest or meets and have wasted alot of spare play time due to either fakes or non commiters. We're finding it quite frustrating especially as we not new to these experiences and there's lots we crave and would like to do. We're wondering if we're not using the right lingo or if there's something we're missing. Any help or guidence would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From your profile you appear to be hunting unicorns. Good luck!

Now you probably know what single men feel like.

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By *ohnkezCouple over a year ago

shefiield

Try the club scene

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

I can only answer from my own pov

The photos put me off

Too much cock not enough couple/faces

The narrative makes me feel a bit like a toy

:/ Sorry

And don't forget. .. nearly everyone seems to be after the single girl...

Perhaps look at what you had on previous profiles that worked better ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok this does seem to be the default answer in the forums

Have considered meeting in clubs ?

We get very , very little free playtime and we now only ever setup meets inside clubs , that way if the other couple is a no show or for one reason or another we are not compatible at least out rare night out is wasted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try the club scene

You beat us too it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would you consider a club? I say that because I've come across a fair amount of single bi ladies that will partake in mff in the club environment. Also like me they don't tend to feel comfortable with private meets for a mmf. I'm sure there are ladies out there that will meet privately but it's like a needle in a haystack?? Good luck with your search

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We've been on and off the site for a few years now and had our recent profile for 8 months. We're really struggling to get any interest or meets and have wasted alot of spare play time due to either fakes or non commiters. We're finding it quite frustrating especially as we not new to these experiences and there's lots we crave and would like to do. We're wondering if we're not using the right lingo or if there's something we're missing. Any help or guidence would be appreciated."

You are only looking for women. Your pictures are mainly of (bits of) your male half and not likely to be of attraction to ladies. Your text is also centred firmly on what you want rather than what you offer. It is not likely to entice anyone. Do you know how hard it can be for a lady to meet with a couple? You need to show that you are sensitive, welcoming, appealing and willing to understand her needs.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

Your profile implies that if you meet a woman, the man of your couple will only engage in soft play.

There are a few women who will meet couples who would be happy with that, but most are looking to meet couples to enjoy full shared play with both.

Quite aside from the many reasons it may be difficult for you to meet a bi-fem as a couple, that will be significant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From your profile you appear to be hunting unicorns. Good luck!

Now you probably know what single men feel like.

If your only looking for unicorns

Then your not going to find them regularly

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By *veabigun37Man over a year ago

Northwich

Deffo try clubs.me and my fuck buddy have been let down to many times on here. Don't even bother asking anymore....

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

"From your profile you appear to be hunting unicorns. Good luck!

Now you probably know what single men feel like.

If your only looking for unicorns

Then your not going to find them regularly "
so true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are looking unicorns but it's soft swing only from him, maybe the females want full sex with him too. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks to us like one of you is putting up barriers to swinging, drop the soft play, looking for single girl only then contact a verified local couple and meet up and play.........

Oh and drop the cock shots, re write your profile and whilst you are chatting about your profile why not sit down and have a proper chat about if you really want to swing or not.....

Good luck xx

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

As a 'unicorn' not wanting full sex with the guy, I'm confused by the cock pics that appear first and therefore I haven't looked past them.

Your profile talks more about you as a couple rather than the bi female, so I'm not sure of your expectations.

I do hope you find what you're like looking for OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel safer meeting/playing in clubs, maybe that's where you need to go.

If I like a couples company socially, I'm much more likely to visit them at their place of convenience after

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think I agree with what everyone else has said. Take note - it appears sound advice to me.

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

Single bi females are the smallest demographic on here and that is why they are referred to as unicorns.

When you want a single bi fem to only soft play with you the pool gets even smaller.

There are some ladies out there that would be happy with this but on the whole we generally want to fuck you both when we meet a couple. If we don't want penetration and just want to play with the lady we will look for another single lady to play with.

I am not a performing seal who is there to put on a floor show.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would agree with most of the above.

For me I would want to see what he looks like too, I know what a cock looks, like it's the rest of him I would want to see.

Definitely get to a club...

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would agree with most of the above.

For me I would want to see what he looks like too, I know what a cock looks, like it's the rest of him I would want to see.