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Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason... |
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Perhaps he's ugly and they know they'll never get a meet if they show his pic.
Some couples are old fashioned and think swinging is about using the woman as 'bait'.
Some just meet men so a pic of the guy isn't really necessary.
Many reasons.
I think it's a great filter- if they think the woman they plan to meet doesn't need to see what he looks like they may well be disrespectful in other ways too. Best just avoided.  |
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I find this strange too, i've yet to meet a couple but if and when I do for me the guy is as important as the female if not more so.
I guess for most guys thats really not the case though hence the female eye candy is the focus.
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Yeah,
I get that too, I want to see both of whom I'm playing with.
Once made the mistake of not asking for his pics and it was terrible. She was hot......he was not, fair play he was punching waaay above his weight. Problem was he turned me off
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it. |
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We are a couple so have pics of both of us on our profile its only fair to show pics of both so the other couple knows what there going to be playing with and always show face pics of both when asked , so come on couples the women aren't bait put pics of both on |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it."
Yes but you have some of hubby (you both have hot bodies btw) some don't and you don't know what you're getting.
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We dont have any public face pics (except the avatar I suppose) but more than happy to share pics of us both if asked using the auto delete when read facility.
We wouldn't meet any couple if they have no pics of the guy, (I'm not 'taking one for the team' no matter how gorgeous the girlie is!).
All our face pics are for friends and you only get a friend invite if we think there is a potential meet opportunity, So, anyone who is the other side of the country, or has a bi/curious fella, or a straight fem, sorry but you don't get to see us!
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it."
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. |
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We have private pics of the pair of us, which are shared with potential meets. as we value our privacy fiercely, we don't make these viewable by all, fair paly if you chose to do so, we chose not to |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it.
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. "
im pretty sure i didn't say anything about changing anyone's profile to suit us...i was merely trying to see who out there in fab land felt the same...sorry that you felt we were demanding everyone to show us their men...honestly we came to the conclusion years ago that if we had to badger people to find out what he looked like usually it wasn't worth the effort...but hey ho...we each make and take what we want from this...yes its a moan but a light hearted one...nothing sinister or horrible... |
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Op it's probably for similar reasons that you guys have got 52 public pics on your profile but only 10 of them are of mr. He may enjoy taking your photos, may be slightly camera shy, you both may like showing off how attractive mrs is, showing lots of pics of a lady gets you more attention. It could be any of these or of a number of reasons.
We like to have pics of us together on our profile, it's what works for us.
Run your profile to please yourself and if you don't like what you see on other profiles then move onto the next one |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it.
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. im pretty sure i didn't say anything about changing anyone's profile to suit us...i was merely trying to see who out there in fab land felt the same...sorry that you felt we were demanding everyone to show us their men...honestly we came to the conclusion years ago that if we had to badger people to find out what he looked like usually it wasn't worth the effort...but hey ho...we each make and take what we want from this...yes its a moan but a light hearted one...nothing sinister or horrible..."
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Thankyou to all of you who have been kind enough to leave your comments.yes I admit there are alot more of my Mrs on the public profile but at least there's enough of me to give anyone a fair chance of deciding if they find us BOTH attractive enough for them to pursue things further..i did not intend to imply that everyone should do this or be this way....or to imply that its a necessity to post face pics in public..no we understand equally that some people need to be private and we always respect that.as well as we know that not everyone fancies the same kind of body...because at the end of the day yes the personality matters...there needs to be that mental spark...but we all have our different tastes as to what we find attractive....hence the moan at the beginning about couples who look for other couples for a foursome with nothing of the guy,only a close up of his cock ( assuming we all know what a nob looks like) or partial pics during play BUT are obviously of different men ( ok so should we guess who your partner is???) and the funniest bit about this moan is that THEY contacted US.... |
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"I suspect a lot of women look better than their guys so he's hidden away. I also suspect the photography is more of a male thing to do"
Except they're mostly trying to attract women who might be bisexual but most likely prefer men.
Logically there should be more pictures of the guy - because most bisexual women seem to find men more sexually attractive. |
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"I suspect a lot of women look better than their guys so he's hidden away. I also suspect the photography is more of a male thing to do
Except they're mostly trying to attract women who might be bisexual but most likely prefer men.
Logically there should be more pictures of the guy - because most bisexual women seem to find men more sexually attractive."
That's interesting...we didn't know that...mind you she does like her cock...lol |
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We have more face pictures of Goldilocks on our public view. She is stunning, and the better half! There are a few pictures of me but face are in 'friends only' due to my job!
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"Perhaps he's ugly and they know they'll never get a meet if they show his pic.
Some couples are old fashioned and think swinging is about using the woman as 'bait'.
Some just meet men so a pic of the guy isn't really necessary.
Many reasons.
I think it's a great filter- if they think the woman they plan to meet doesn't need to see what he looks like they may well be disrespectful in other ways too. Best just avoided. "
We have pics of me (Mr) and your bang on correct I'm fucking ugly so we don't get any meets!!! Should we remove them as to hide this fact and lure unsuspecting couples to a social with Shrek?? Or should we keep our mirror cracking images there and give people a little foresight into what they could eventually be faced with??  |
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We have two of miss, I have very unique body art so none of me public, but friends invited see pics of us both.
Miss definitely isn't bait but she is one fine piece of femininity so we put a couple up.
I'm proud of her, so showing a pic or two is no great shakes |
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"We have two of miss, I have very unique body art so none of me public, but friends invited see pics of us both.
Miss definitely isn't bait but she is one fine piece of femininity so we put a couple up.
I'm proud of her, so showing a pic or two is no great shakes "
Forgot to add, I'm a seriously hot piece of ass too |
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"I suspect a lot of women look better than their guys so he's hidden away. I also suspect the photography is more of a male thing to do
Except they're mostly trying to attract women who might be bisexual but most likely prefer men.
Logically there should be more pictures of the guy - because most bisexual women seem to find men more sexually attractive.
That's interesting...we didn't know that...mind you she does like her cock...lol"
It's not exactly rocket science. If there were more women who preferred women to men, there would be far more f/f couples in day to day life. I know very few in f/f relationships rather than m/f relationships and I would guess that most of my female friends are bisexual. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it.
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. im pretty sure i didn't say anything about changing anyone's profile to suit us...i was merely trying to see who out there in fab land felt the same...sorry that you felt we were demanding everyone to show us their men...honestly we came to the conclusion years ago that if we had to badger people to find out what he looked like usually it wasn't worth the effort...but hey ho...we each make and take what we want from this...yes its a moan but a light hearted one...nothing sinister or horrible...
You're allowed to ask anything you like within forum rules. If people get huffy they usually have a guilty conscience about something. "
Really? What gave you that particular insight? The point is that people design a profile that works for them. If someone doesn't like the way they have set it up they can move along to another - there are plenty to choose from. Where does huffiness or a guilty conscience come into the equation? |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it.
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. im pretty sure i didn't say anything about changing anyone's profile to suit us...i was merely trying to see who out there in fab land felt the same...sorry that you felt we were demanding everyone to show us their men...honestly we came to the conclusion years ago that if we had to badger people to find out what he looked like usually it wasn't worth the effort...but hey ho...we each make and take what we want from this...yes its a moan but a light hearted one...nothing sinister or horrible...
You're allowed to ask anything you like within forum rules. If people get huffy they usually have a guilty conscience about something.
Really? What gave you that particular insight? The point is that people design a profile that works for them. If someone doesn't like the way they have set it up they can move along to another - there are plenty to choose from. Where does huffiness or a guilty conscience come into the equation?"
When people get all uptight about a simple question.
No-one is telling people how to run their profiles. They are just airing opinions. |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it.
We do have pics of us both on our profile but we know plenty of couples who don't.
What people put on there profile is up to them and nobody else. im pretty sure i didn't say anything about changing anyone's profile to suit us...i was merely trying to see who out there in fab land felt the same...sorry that you felt we were demanding everyone to show us their men...honestly we came to the conclusion years ago that if we had to badger people to find out what he looked like usually it wasn't worth the effort...but hey ho...we each make and take what we want from this...yes its a moan but a light hearted one...nothing sinister or horrible...
You're allowed to ask anything you like within forum rules. If people get huffy they usually have a guilty conscience about something.
Really? What gave you that particular insight? The point is that people design a profile that works for them. If someone doesn't like the way they have set it up they can move along to another - there are plenty to choose from. Where does huffiness or a guilty conscience come into the equation?
When people get all uptight about a simple question.
No-one is telling people how to run their profiles. They are just airing opinions. "
I think it's true, some people do get uptight about things that hit home very quickly |
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When we are only looking for single guys we have more pics of me and when we are looking for couples we make sure there are plenty of both of us x
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it."
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"Must admit we're guilty of this and for no other reason than I love to have my photo taken and he doesn't. Always d supply a face pic when requested to do so. "
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"We have only pics of me because hubby doesn't swing  "
You have that on your profile too. Understandable that you wouldn't have pics of your hubby up then |
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We have 7 pictures in our public gallery that feature my husband, although 1 is a blurred shot with me and there's not much to be seen. There is another of his cock covered by underpants, so that shows he is a decent size. Then there are five clothed body pics, so people can see he scrubs up well. We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile. We have a few full clear face pics of both of us in our 'friends' gallery, and we are always forthcoming with face pics. All the other public pics are of me either on my own or taken with other men. Although we do both play at parties, a large part of what we do is focused on hotwifing so we reflect that in our photos. There is probably an unnecessary about of pictures of me, but we both get a lot of enjoyment out of doing it. Fundamentally I think people by and large prefer looking at pictures of women. But I agree there should be some pictures of the man if he plays, but for us when looking at couples profiles it doesn't to be lots. Having said that we don't meet couples privately anyway, so not so relevant for us anyway.
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"Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason..."
Yeah that!! but it is a choice, but it helps to be upfront if your both doing this.
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"Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason..."
Guilty, but at the moment for us it's all about her, I love sharing her and although I've dabbled at parties I really enjoy helping/watching her pleasure. As we continue that may change, and if it does we'll take more pics of us. But for now I like sharing what I've been blessed enough to experience, I guess our pics are a reflection of that. |
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I also find lack of male pictures very annoying! It makes me feel as though any potential meet would be all about the other lady and maybe her man is just really only interested in watching her and not playing with me.
I then already feel quite anti towards the couple before we have even begun!
How can I search out potential meets if there is nothing on their profile for me to go on? |
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Judging from some of the couples that we've seen at clubs it's simply because the guys don't make an effort and hope the pictures of the lady will be enough to get the couples into bed
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Well put a pic of the wife up over 50 fabs within the hour put a pic of me up 4 fabs in a week and 2 of them from bi guys , I'm sure this is the case for all couples . Maybe that's why know one bothers cus 9 X out of 10 it's the male half looking on fab |
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile. "
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'? |
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All our public pictures are of Jewel but if we message or anyone shows interest we send pics of us both and have pictures of us together in friends only. we find more interest is shown if we upload pics of Jewel in public than in my ugly mug |
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We are as our profile says - a couple playing together as a soft swing couple.
We request and share face pics before arranging a social meet - preferably relaxed and sharing a meal in a halfway restaurant.
So many profiles give too little information - we're all real people with lives away from this playing.
Not into endless e-mails checking each other out - profile and pics appeal so move it on eh ? Not pushy but fed up of time wasters.
We're all on here to have fun with like minded people surely ?
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?"
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
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I get really frustrated with this,if couples want to meet us we need to see both of them.
I immediately write off so many profiles due to it,i need to see mr too.
If they are just looking for men then fair enough.
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
Mrs"
I guess it depends on the individual. Generally I find men much more sexy than women - the accessories don't make a difference to me. |
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"All our public pictures are of Jewel but if we message or anyone shows interest we send pics of us both and have pictures of us together in friends only. we find more interest is shown if we upload pics of Jewel in public than in my ugly mug "
But if you're ugly they're going to find out anyway. Why not stop wasting peoples time and show your ugly mug on your profile so that people know straight away if they're interested? |
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Wow some passionate responses...lets all just chill...dont make me put you on the naughty step...lol...in all seriousness tho all I was trying to say was if your a couple looking to play as a couple with another couple you really should behave like a couple and be prepared to show what he looks like so that everyone has an equal opportunity to decide if they find you attractive...or you can carry on hiding him away and get passed by...at least from what I have read so far that seems to be the popular way of dealing with it... |
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
Mrs"
Bloody nora, I didn't know women had to do all that .... so that's where I have been going wrong, as I don't do any of these ... and as a woman I can definitely say I do not enjoy looking at anything like this! In fact, there is a thread about what to wear at a ladies only event which seems to endorse this view. |
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
Mrs
Bloody nora, I didn't know women had to do all that .... so that's where I have been going wrong, as I don't do any of these ... and as a woman I can definitely say I do not enjoy looking at anything like this! In fact, there is a thread about what to wear at a ladies only event which seems to endorse this view. "
We're all different. I enjoy looking at women in sexy clothes etc. |
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
Mrs
Bloody nora, I didn't know women had to do all that .... so that's where I have been going wrong, as I don't do any of these ... and as a woman I can definitely say I do not enjoy looking at anything like this! In fact, there is a thread about what to wear at a ladies only event which seems to endorse this view. "
I think we women tend view each other in a different way. Men seem to like heels, stockings etc whereas most women are less influenced by that sort of thing.
We've tried to do a variety of photos to show what we both look like, as this us what we look for ourselves.
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
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Bloody nora, I didn't know women had to do all that .... so that's where I have been going wrong, as I don't do any of these ... and as a woman I can definitely say I do not enjoy looking at anything like this! In fact, there is a thread about what to wear at a ladies only event which seems to endorse this view.
I think we women tend view each other in a different way. Men seem to like heels, stockings etc whereas most women are less influenced by that sort of thing.
We've tried to do a variety of photos to show what we both look like, as this us what we look for ourselves.
Nita"
In all honesty I have absalutely no idea what other women like to look at in other women. I've no idea if women like other women naked, clothed, partially clothed, in ordinary clothes club clothes, lingerie etc etc. I know what I like on other women, and I know what many men like because I've been told. |
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"We don't show naked body pictures of him because although there is nothing wrong with him, he is a middle aged man, and we assume people aren't raring to see a 'dad's bod'. Well I wouldn't expect that from a male or couples profile.
So, I have to wonder. Why do you think people will want to see a middle aged 'mums bod' more than a middle aged 'dads bod'?
I think the reason is because it is easier for middle aged women to make themselves look sexy than it is for middle aged men. Corsets, lingerie, 4 inch heels, make-up, hair dye etc etc all contribute to women being able to make a more mature body and face look fabulous, and something that men and women enjoy looking at.
Mrs
I guess it depends on the individual. Generally I find men much more sexy than women - the accessories don't make a difference to me."
I'd rather have sex with men, but I prefer looking at women, especially if they are wearing sexy underwear or something. The only except is if the man has a gym fit body, or is wearing clothes that I like. I'm not particularly interested in looking at naked men otherwise. If we got the impression that lots of women wanted to see my husband undressed and appreciated what they saw, then of course we would oblige. Maybe we've misunderstood the majority of women.
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"I thought I was unusual in not being interested in dressed up trusted up women, but it seems from another thread that I am not alone."
Wouldn't worry about it. Doesn't matter if your tastes are similar to other women or completely different. I'm pretty sure I have lots of taste that are unusual and personal to me, and lots of tastes that go hand in hand with others. We're all different. I take it back though, I was wrong when I thought women had similar tastes than men. But given the choice I would rather please men. And given the large quantity of photos on Fab of women trussed up, I'm guessing this is partly because men like it. Though, like me, I'm sure they enjoy it to! |
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"Why is there such an overwhelming desire to tell other people how to run their profiles? If you don't like a profile move on - it's that simple.
There are far more photographs of me than my partner on our profile - it's the way we want it and it works very, very well for us. I cannot see why that is a problem, nor why the OP and others need to question it."
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"All our public pictures are of Jewel but if we message or anyone shows interest we send pics of us both and have pictures of us together in friends only. we find more interest is shown if we upload pics of Jewel in public than in my ugly mug
But if you're ugly they're going to find out anyway. Why not stop wasting peoples time and show your ugly mug on your profile so that people know straight away if they're interested?"
I guess some men hope that people will get chatting and when they do finally get a pic of the man they won't dare say they aren't interested any more. Sympathy fuck or taking one for the team.  |
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"I also find lack of male pictures very annoying! It makes me feel as though any potential meet would be all about the other lady and maybe her man is just really only interested in watching her and not playing with me.
I then already feel quite anti towards the couple before we have even begun!
How can I search out potential meets if there is nothing on their profile for me to go on?"
Totally agree. Got to be an attraction all round!
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We have pics of me in private.
I work in a very public environment and the last thing i need is to be clocked out working. It wouldn't do me or my employer any favours if im approached.
However we will send them in a message so not shy. On a site where so many profiles are "faceless" makes it a safe option |
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"I've no idea if women like other women naked, clothed, partially clothed, in ordinary clothes club clothes, lingerie etc etc. I know what I like on other women, and I know what many men like because I've been told. "
I don't think you can generalise about women or men. Everyone will like different things.
I like men and women naked. No adornment. I hate jewellery and high heels. A tightlaced corset on both men and women is nice, but that's about it for finery. Two of my partners prefer people totally naked, one of them prefers women in underwear. Everyone is different. |
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Totally agree with why people keep face pics in private...never had an issue with that...its more about the body...look I've met some extremely pretty girls that from the neck up could have been models...flawless skin,beautiful eyes,very pretty face...they just happened to be way too large for my personal taste at 20 stones... So I personally feel its important for us as a couple to show both of us as best we can to give anyone who is tempted to take things further a fair chance to make up their minds before acting on those thoughts...is it really too much to ask to be treated with the same respect for my Mrs to be given the same chance to make up our own minds? If you don't want to show us what your offering then in all honesty your not actually offering us anything...cant really say it any plainer than that |
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"Totally agree with why people keep face pics in private...never had an issue with that...its more about the body...look I've met some extremely pretty girls that from the neck up could have been models...flawless skin,beautiful eyes,very pretty face...they just happened to be way too large for my personal taste at 20 stones... So I personally feel its important for us as a couple to show both of us as best we can to give anyone who is tempted to take things further a fair chance to make up their minds before acting on those thoughts...is it really too much to ask to be treated with the same respect for my Mrs to be given the same chance to make up our own minds? If you don't want to show us what your offering then in all honesty your not actually offering us anything...cant really say it any plainer than that"
Just out of interest face pics and a clothed full body pic sufficient for either male or female, or do you need to see a certain level of undress before decided whether someone is for you?
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Just out of interest face pics and a clothed full body pic sufficient for either male or female, or do you need to see a certain level of undress before decided whether someone is for you?
Mrs"
well that one is slightly more a complicated answer in that the Mrs dislikes' hairy chests...so ideally a shirtless shot but if the pic we are sent is of him clothed we just ask the simple question...does he have a hairy chest??? If the answer is yes then we explain her aversion to a hairy chest and sometimes we get a cool response and sometimes we get a not so cool response...but at the end of the day we never ask anyone to shave or wax just to make her happy...we feel that's just not fair to change who you are to suit us...as long as we can get an idea of both of your figures we are happy to have a social at the very least |
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Just out of interest face pics and a clothed full body pic sufficient for either male or female, or do you need to see a certain level of undress before decided whether someone is for you?
Mrswell that one is slightly more a complicated answer in that the Mrs dislikes' hairy chests...so ideally a shirtless shot but if the pic we are sent is of him clothed we just ask the simple question...does he have a hairy chest??? If the answer is yes then we explain her aversion to a hairy chest and sometimes we get a cool response and sometimes we get a not so cool response...but at the end of the day we never ask anyone to shave or wax just to make her happy...we feel that's just not fair to change who you are to suit us...as long as we can get an idea of both of your figures we are happy to have a social at the very least"
Yes I guess that is a good reason,but one I hadn't considered before, even though my husband is a bit of a bear! We had taken the view that the semi dressed pics of myself were a bonus, but unless someone was particular about a toned body(which neither of us have) a clothed body pic would be enough to give an idea of body shape. |
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Just out of interest face pics and a clothed full body pic sufficient for either male or female, or do you need to see a certain level of undress before decided whether someone is for you?
Mrswell that one is slightly more a complicated answer in that the Mrs dislikes' hairy chests...so ideally a shirtless shot but if the pic we are sent is of him clothed we just ask the simple question...does he have a hairy chest??? If the answer is yes then we explain her aversion to a hairy chest and sometimes we get a cool response and sometimes we get a not so cool response...but at the end of the day we never ask anyone to shave or wax just to make her happy...we feel that's just not fair to change who you are to suit us...as long as we can get an idea of both of your figures we are happy to have a social at the very least
Yes I guess that is a good reason,but one I hadn't considered before, even though my husband is a bit of a bear! We had taken the view that the semi dressed pics of myself were a bonus, but unless someone was particular about a toned body(which neither of us have) a clothed body pic would be enough to give an idea of body shape."
yeah we aren't exactly gym fit but we aren't couch potatoes either...each to their own and all that...its not the boat rocking the ocean...its the motion of the ocean that rocks the boat...right peeps im off for a bit of the other...enjoy and play nice...or play naughty and get dirty... |
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Or couples that lie about their ages - there's one on here where the guy is at least 10 years older than advertised.
May not be a big issue but surely people should know who they're playing with are honest! |
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We like to always see both of the couple
Have been caught out a few times chatting to the better half before seeing the one who's pics were not on show ... makes it a very awkward situation all round  |
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Don't have many pictures of me simply because i don't like having my photo taken and having my soul stolen by the magic picture box.
Plus, when we're doing stuff, you know, the beast with two backs, it's me that thinks "hmm i like to get a picture of this" and grabs my phone. |
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"We have an equal number of photos of us on here , but it is rare to see men on couples Profiles unless it's their cock. "
We must be one of the rare ones then as nearly half of our public pics are of male half dressed think there's only one pic of his cock and you can only see half of it as its of us being naughty |
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A couples profile with only pics of the wife leads me to suspect she actually has no idea she is on here and the husband put her photo on because he has found single males don't get much luck. |
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Some interesting comments, may as well add our thoughts….
Attraction is important to both, neither will take one for the team.
Attraction is a personal thing on many levels…
Firstly for us the potential playmate needs to have a reasonably trim body, not gym fit, but not excessively overweight….
Secondly, once we get past that, they need to be attractive facially, so we swap face pics privately…
Finally, we meet for a social and see if we connect mentally…
That’s how we work, so to us seeing at least one recent ‘body’ shot of the guy is important for her.
There have been many occasions when chatting to couples we eventually get to see the male and she has been disappointed.
It is for this reason we have a body shot of me. We cold have more, but generally I’m the one behind the camera, plus a lot of those on show publically are selfies she takes to tease me when we’re apart!
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" We cold have more, but generally I’m the one behind the camera,
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On my couples profile (with a male partner of mine) we are often accused of being fake because we can supply lots more pictures of him and none really of me.
However, I'm usually the one behind the camera... and most guys just won't believe that. |
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"And there lies the problem there is a high percentage of peeps who are looking for body beautiful supermodels we have always placed just as much importance on personality "
And there lies what problem??? I have just checked all the responses up to yours and not one of them has said anything about looking for perfection,or supermodels...im sure I speak for the majority that says we agree with you...a mental connection is as important if not more important in a private meet...so where's the problem? |
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"And there lies the problem there is a high percentage of peeps who are looking for body beautiful supermodels we have always placed just as much importance on personality "
Couldn't agree more being able to have a good chat and laugh with someone is the most important not having to worry if your a couple of lb over weight or if your face fits. It's meant to be for sexual fun not date night. You see so many profiles don't like this don't want that. We like to see a clear face pic of both and exchange a few messages then hopefully arrange a social. We ask for a face pic as it normally filter outs the fake second so we know who look out for if meet. |
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"And there lies the problem there is a high percentage of peeps who are looking for body beautiful supermodels we have always placed just as much importance on personality
Couldn't agree more being able to have a good chat and laugh with someone is the most important not having to worry if your a couple of lb over weight or if your face fits. It's meant to be for sexual fun not date night. You see so many profiles don't like this don't want that. We like to see a clear face pic of both and exchange a few messages then hopefully arrange a social. We ask for a face pic as it normally filter outs the fake second so we know who look out for if meet. "
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"And there lies the problem there is a high percentage of peeps who are looking for body beautiful supermodels we have always placed just as much importance on personality "
We do the same thing !
We do have male pictures for friends and even some ( one ) on profile but we can tell by the fabs who ppl are more interested in ? |
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